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30 Days of Shamelessness

My lovely friend who I took this from, found this writing challenge on the Embrace Self Love blog. One of my problems is that I apologize a lot. When I accidentally bump into someone? I say sorry about a billion times. I’m slowly changing that. Now I only say it a million. I’ll start in September.

  1. declare your love for an uncool TV show.
  2. look a fool.
  3. eat. Whatever you feel like eating.
  4. waste time.
  5. declare your love for an uncool movie.
  6. act “girly” or “manly” in a way you’d normally avoid.
  7. share your efforts at something you don’t think you do well.
  8. sweat.
  9. expose something messy or dirty you’d usually hide.
  10. declare your love for an uncool band.
  11. dress to show some skin.
  12. share about a health struggle.
  13. speak up about something crap that was done to you.
  14. hold yourself accountable — not guilty — for something crappy you did to someone else.
  15. dress, walk, and act like you know you’re all that.
  16. spend money on a non-necessity or share a finacial struggle.
  17. discuss the reality of your work situation.
  18. brag.
  19. share details about a bodily function or fluid.
  20. talk about sex
  21. express a strong feeling.
  22. set a boundary.
  23. air one of your secrets.
  24. share a struggle you have yet to “just get over.”
  25. ask for help.
  26. make a mistake.
  27. express a dissenting opinion.
  28. discuss a failure.
  29. look a fool.
  30. name 3 more ways you can live shamelessly and commit to doing them…

1. Hold each other accountable.
Understand the gift she is here to give this world.

2. Call bullshit.
Reflect when she isn’t giving it.

3. Let go.
Trust in his separate journey, even when what he’s doing makes zero sense to you.

4. Remember that your job is not to make your partner happy.
It’s to allow her the space to find her own happiness—when you’re together, and when you’re apart.

5. Be honest.
One hundred percent. The permission you give yourself to be all of who you are is what creates that space.

6. Fight well.
You’re both on the same team. Your opposition is the misunderstanding—not each other.

7. Embrace attraction to others.
It’s there. Communicate, be clear (with everyone, including yourself), and enjoy your fabulous human existence.

8. Do your work.
It’s usually not about him, or her. Your partner is a flashlight illuminating where you’ve still got work to do. Those feelings of jealousy, resentment and hurt? They’re showing you all the places in you that need your own healing.

9. Remember that you’re a mirror, too.
Reflect back all the beauty that lives in him. Especially when he forgets.

10. Enjoy the ride, man!
Seriously. You’re never going to figure it all out, so you might as well just love everybody.
This list is totally incomplete. Have some of your own lessons from the road to share? Post in the comments below. We all thank you.

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30 Days of Shamelessness - Day 2: Look a fool.

30DoS - Day Three

3. Eat. Whatever you feel like eating

So what you’re saying is if I’m craving a pumpkin spice latte and red velvet cupcakes, I should go buy them? OKAY! To the store I go.. maybe.

On that note, I have never really been one to restrict myself the foods I love. At least, not since high school… but that’s a different story.

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30 Days of Shamelessness, Day 18. BRAG.

You’re flawed,” he says nonchalantly. “You’ve been so since the day you were born, and that’s what you’ll continue to be. Permanently imperfect.”

Ceaseless waves of my insecurities begin to drown and swallow me whole, and I wait for him to continue to censure me with the words people have used to bash me all my life. “So what? I don’t care what they think, to me, you’re perfect.
—  M.B. // Excerpt from a story made of thoughts with no plot #16
30DoS - Day Two

Onto day two of the 30 Days of Shamelessness meme…

2. Look a fool.

Uhm, I don’t think you know me very well. I’m the type that walks into glass doors and lightpoles, reading a book. Also, I trip up the stairs. And I have lost my balance standing still, not doing a thing. And I trip on flat surfaces.

Yeah, I always look a fool. But, I’ don’t care.

Things I have learned recently:

I do not need anyone to provide me with attention nor do I want or quite honestly feel the need to have people love me right now. I just need me to love me. That is all that matters. I am quite content alone at the moment. I am embracing the concept of self love and self care. I have my moments but there is no doubt in my mind that right now, my first priority is me. If that offends people or makes me selfish well so be it. I need to continue working on myself. These moments of reflection and the path of positivity that I have carved out for myself are important to me because it signifies growth. I am taking it day by day, but I am really enjoying watching myself get better, even if the changes are minor, they count.