“Well, it seems to me that the best relationships —the ones that
last — are frequently the ones that are rooted in friendship. You know,
one day you look at the person and you see something more than you did
the night before. Like a switch has been flicked somewhere. And the
person who was just a friend is… suddenly the only person you can ever
imagine yourself with.” - Scully, ‘The Rain King’ [X-Files 6.8]
Elliot: J.D., I don’t want to do this! Can’t we just go home and put our PJ’s on and watch Grey’s Anatomy?
J.D.: Oh, I do love that show. It’s like they’ve been watching our lives, and then just put it on TV!
Scrubsquote Elliot Reid and John Dorian - 05x11 My Buddy’s Booty
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Sono davvero pazzo di te e voglio che tu sappia che se dovessi scegliere tra spassarmela con chiunque altro al mondo o restare a casa con te a mangiare una pizza e guardare una schifezza in tv sceglierei sempre te.
Can we take this moment to appreciate that the ‘Friend Zone’ term and concept was popularized on Scrubs, in a sequence which, apparently, fucking nobody who uses the term actually paid attention to?
In the context of the episode, JD and Elliot have been intimate, and while both (!IMPORTANT!) are interested in continuing the relationship, both are shy about showing their interest. JD estimates that he has about 48 hours in which to kiss Elliot before the 'pause’ of the relationship becomes too awkward and one of them overthinks it and freaks out.
By the episode’s end, the 48 hours are up and he doesn’t manage to kiss Elliot, who considering the pause decides she’d rather make an emotional connection as a friend than jump into an uncertain romance. JD, in one of his typical imaginary sequences, reluctantly enters the imaginary realm of the 'friend zone’ – and then decides that maybe being Elliot’s friend is actually a better idea than being her boyfriend, definitely for Elliot. He does not treat it as some crime against him.
Elliot: J.D., can we just… talk for a second?
J.D.’s Thoughts: It never fails.
Fantasy Sequence: Outside the door of a hospital room.
J.D. approaches the door, next to which is the sign: “FRIEND ZONE - S2-43” As he steps inside the room, he sees a small group of people standing around talking. Elevator-type muzak plays in the background. When they see J.D., there are murmurs of, “Oh, yeah, another one!” and “How ya doing?” and “Welcome!”
Guy #1: [extending his hand] Went to high school with her.
Guy #2: We worked at Penguin’s Yogurt.
Guy #3: [out of view] Met her on a bus.
Becky: She’ll come around.
Guy #1: [holding a bowl in front of J.D.] Pretzel?
J.D. takes one.
J.D.: Thank you.
End of sequence.
Elliot: The first few weeks here have been so hard for me, mentally, physically, emotionally. It’s like math camp all over again. Not that I’ve ever been to math camp – it’s just an expression.
J.D.: I use it all the time.
He puts his hand on her shoulder.
J.D.: Come on.
He puts his arm around her, and they walk out of the room. She begins talking, but is drowned out by…
J.D.’s Narration: I know the idea of choosing friendship over sex is the last thing any guy wants to hear. But you know what? This time, it actually made sense to me.
Cut to: Turk and J.D.’s Apartment. The guys are stretched out on the couch, their bowling-shoe-adorned feet propped on the coffee table, as they watch TV.
J.D.’s Narration: …Besides, I challenge anyone to survive as an intern without a close group of friends to lean on.
Elliot is not treated as a villain or conniving seductress. She’s treated as someone worth being friends with, not just someone to have sex with. JD doesn’t look thrilled in the fantasy sequence, when he realizes he’s lumped in with a bunch of people who seem convinced that Elliot OWES them something, or is bound to come around. And – AND – the 'friendzone’ issue comes up AFTER Elliot has shown interest in a romantic relationship, and changes her mind. Not only does JD respect her change of mind, but this is, as letdowns go, a far fucking cry from “baaaaaw this person was never interested in me in the first place HOW COULD THEY NOT BE SWAYED BY MY UTTER OBJECTIVE PERFECTION, THIS IS A PERSONAL ATTACK”.
I mean, I know Scrubs isn’t perfect when it comes to representing relationship issues, but how the fuck did this relatively sweet moral get turned into the bullshit it is now?