elena bond

rant time.

Stefan didn’t deserve that ending.

I never doubted for a minute that they’d give Stefan a heroic ending, but to kill him off to favor someone who didn’t deserve it is what’s making me angry.

This show started with Stefan wanting a better life for himself, he wanted to get to know the girl who’d captivated him because yes she looked like Katherine but he also sensed she was different. He got to know her, they fell in love and what a beautiful love story it was. Stefan and Elena had the kind of love that you search for, that you ACTUALLY sacrifice yourself for. 

Then comes S4 when they just HAVE to have Damon and Elena get together and this time the love isn’t so epic. He’s abusive, doesn’t respect Elena’s choices, and only loves her when it benefits HIM. Stefan actually told Elena to her face that Damon was the ‘better man’, it hurts me that he said that because Stefan was just too selfless for his own good.

HE was the better man.(as queen katherine pointed out)

HE was Elena’s best choice.

HE was the selfless one.

HE should’ve been the one to live out his human life with Elena.

Damon has NEVER valued Stefan the way he should’ve. He chose TONIGHT to start being a “big brother” but he was too damn late. He told Stefan when he was turned into a vampire that he’d cause him an eternity of misery and that’s exactly what he did. Damon used that as a crutch to be an asshole, to not care, to do the things he did because he didn’t give a fuck but he always got rewarded.

Stefan has worked to become a good man, he’s shown time and time again that he actually cares about his friends and Damon when some of them didn’t deserve it. I wanted him to get his happy ending because that was suppose to be his reward for being the man he was but no he died for a man who at one point took his soulmate with no remorse, who killed his best friend, who raped Caroline, who has hurt Bonnie, who killed Jeremy several times, who killed a pregnant woman, who put Elena under a sire bond and didn’t care. THAT’S WHO STEFAN SACRIFICED HIMSELF FOR.

The only saving grace is that he got to be with Lexi again, at least he got some peace. That’s what i wanted him to have, just not in that way.

Good riddance TVD. Don’t ever come back again.

anonymous asked:

For God sake Elena didn't lose anything with Damon . She was happy with Damon . Damon helped her in every way even Stefan said so . Elena never really loved Stefan she didn't even knew him properly she fell madly in love with Damon . You wanna ship se do but don't say Elena was puppet in de relationship . Stefan was just the chapter in her life the same way Elena was the chapter in Stefan life .

And if you want to ship DE then go ahead but stop being so willfully ignorant about your ship, anon.

I have multiple posts about the inflation of DE:

http://zalrb.tumblr.com/post/149414909030/it-was-stefans-love-who-healed-her-broken-heart

http://zalrb.tumblr.com/post/149396624855/love-isnt-a-choice-if-it-were-elena-would-have

http://zalrb.tumblr.com/post/154739617890/it-really-bugs-me-when-people-complain-about

http://zalrb.tumblr.com/post/139498020585/what-about-stelena-makes-them-superior-to-delena

http://zalrb.tumblr.com/post/156101914470/delena-is-about-acceptance-learning-and-growing

But you guys seem adamant on making me repeat myself.

“Elena never really loved Stefan”

Where is the proof of this? I mean next to the fact that she consistently declares her love for Stefan

These declarations of love are earned by how ride or die Elena was for Stefan.

Like you don’t face werewolves and go into vervain/snake-filled wells and run into a house full of tomb vampires and risk coming face to face with the supernatural monster trying to kill you if you don’t “really” love someone. This type of devotion is not bred from obligation, anon.

she didn’t even knew him properly

Elena knew Stefan so implicitly that she knew he was on the other line when he didn’t even say anything:

Elena’s emotional and spiritual knowledge of Stefan (which I speak about here: http://zalrb.tumblr.com/post/158674534265/can-you-show-examples-of-stelena-knowing-each) is unparalleled and that knowledge and that connection actually, and not DE-actually, but actually actually made Stefan a better person: 

We started this season with Stefan drinking Elena’s blood. Is that going to come back to haunt him or haunt them as he drinks more human blood?
Julie Plec: Not at the moment. I think that in its own way, it was a smart choice. He’s come to terms with all his demons from last year and all the guilt that lead him down that road and Stefan’s issues with blood were psychological and emotional. And drinking small tiny amounts every day with the trust and the commitment of your one true love to build up the strength so that you never have to worry about becoming that guy, I think we want to see if we can deliver on that. (source)

And this declaration to Rebekah (and Julie’s quote about Stefan) is earned in action and not simply dialogue. It’s earned in action because pretty much whenever Elena came face to face with Stefan’s demons, his lust for blood, his voracious vampirism, her presence, her emotional knowledge of Stefan would make it subside. It begins in 1x10 because she’s actually seeing past his vampirism, embracing it and accepting it, seeing to the man:

which allows for this to happen:

and that type of connection doesn’t go away because in 5x04 it’s repeated:

And in 5x06 it’s reiterated how much Elena brings Stefan back to life:

And in 6x16, Elena is directly related, yet again, to bringing Stefan back to his humanity, narratively, she is directly related to him being the best version of himself:

she fell madly in love with Damon 

I guess we’re ignoring the fact that Elena literally had to die and then be emotionally entrapped by a bond that gives her the illusion of free will to make DE happen. I talk about that here: http://zalrb.tumblr.com/post/156287220175/i-really-liked-your-toxic-relationship-post-but but the highlights are these:

“The bottom line is that Elena as a human made a very, very, very clear choice that she would love Stefan always and forever,” she says. “But then her entire life turned upside down, and any feelings she originally had for Damon were still there, and of course magnified. There was always going to be a little bit of a confusion there for her — but not enough confusion for her to be over Stefan. It would take a lot to rip Elena away from loving Stefan. It would take years and seasons. We’d be eighty, if we followed the natural progression of that relationship.”

Damon helped her in every way even Stefan said so

H O W?

I have asked this many times and no DEr has been able to give me a legitimate answer, all you guys give me is what you think happened, it’s conjecture based on unearned dialogue. I want to know what he’s actually done that has propelled Elena’s character development because from what I recall, it’s Stefan who’s the one who always helps her:

but don’t say Elena was puppet in de relationship

Except that she is though. Because the DE relationship is inherently Damon-focused, Elena is his plot line so she actually just has to be there, it’s not about the both of them unlike SE:

Julie Plec: I can only say that it’s a show predicated on a girl coming back to life and her development of love for one brother who then, because of who she is, changes the life of the other brother and that’s our show […] (source)

Even the 6x22 goodbye scene is inherently about Damon:

“ It’s our way of the characters having sex in like a beautiful way, so it made perfect sense on the road, which is symbolic of Damon’s journey as a vampire[…]”

as opposed to the SE goodbye which is inherently about Elena and their knowledge of each other:

“That’s where she admitted she never wanted to lose her humanity, she didn’t want to be a vampire, and so he found it fitting for them to revisit that environment,” Dries said.

The sire bond … Elena isn’t given any complicated feelings about the fact that she’s emotionally enslaved to someone else, all she has to do is believe that she loves him:

I think the takeaway, ultimately, is that Elena believes it so fundamentally that in that moment, it’s enough for Damon to let himself believe too.

and it’s Damon who gets the “character” exploration of struggling with something and letting himself believe it’s real or not real, they make it inherently about how Damon feels when it’s Elena that this is happening to:

And it’s gonna continue to eat at Damon for the next few episodes […] Just letting himself allow it to be real for one small moment is enough for Damon.

At least with Stefan and Elena, she’s allowed to have complicated feelings which actually enrich their relationship because she goes through a multitude of emotions:

Plec assures that this storyline will be a big deal for the Stefan/Elena relationship, especially as Elena struggles “with her desire to help rescue this person that she loved very purely and very deeply, but also learning the lesson that you can’t necessarily let yourself be consumed in your life by saving someone else’s.”

Even their first meeting is solely for the benefit of Damon:

It was us wanting to give Damon something to fight for. Ric is unbeatable, a jillion times stronger than Damon. Damon was a dead man, and Ric was relishing beating him, and Damon had nothing left to live for, having been passed over once again. It was just that slight little thing that she said to him, when she was just trying to take the sting off: “Hey, maybe if you and I had met first.” She was just trying to soften the blow. But in reality, he had this memory that gave him the will to fight back. I love that moment, where Ric’s about to drive the stake into him, and he’s like “You know what? I’m not ready to die today.”

And with SE, it’s about how they save each other:

Julie Plec: In my mind, Elena’s parents are dead. It was a human accident, and a human tragedy, and as we know, the night that Stefan pulled her out of the water and saved her life. That was kind of the beginning of their love story. (source)

She isn’t just this symbol to be reacted to.

Even when Nina talks about SE, it’s about the individualism of Elena in relation to the love of SE:

Nina: But Elena — it’s not about that for her. She cares about Stefan. And he’s important to her and she has this connection with him, but she will put her friends and her family and the safety of her town before anything else, and she’s not going to swoon over the fact that he’s a vampire and ask her to bite him right away and all that. (source)

and you see that in their relationship. She doesn’t realize she can be with Stefan until after he saves Bonnie’s life in 1x09, she doesn’t get back with Stefan in season 2 until after he sacrifices his freedom to get with Jeremy out of the tomb, they take care of the people around them together, whether it’s saving Matt or taking care of Caroline after being tortured or helping Bonnie when it comes to Emily, where is any of that with Damon? They can’t even meet Bonnie halfway in the Prison World because they’re too busy arguing about their relationship. She doesn’t know what’s going on with Jeremy because she’s too caught up sleeping with Damon, she isn’t even paying attention to the parent-teacher interviews, she doesn’t care that he killed Aaron and kidnapped Jeremy again and the show doesn’t actually explore the psychological battle of loving someone who does these terrible things, she makes one comment about bending her morals and that’s it, that fundamentally reduces her character.

In season 8, the show very rarely (if ever) talks about Elena as an individual person or about her significance to the other characters, it’s all about how if Elena was there then Damon wouldn’t go off the rails, if Elena was there she would be able to get through to Damon, I wish Elena was here so Damon wouldn’t be the way he is, there are like four times in the season when Elena is spoken about outside the context of what she can do for Damon. When Elena wakes up, she realizes that Stefan is gone and she and Bonnie briefly share in that grief and then instead of asking about Bonnie, it’s “where is he?” 

It’s only when Damon is gone that Elena actually is the person she’s supposed to be because the show gives her other focuses like bringing Stefan back or bringing Bonnie back to life or setting Caroline up or getting everyone together to do shots so they can hang out, when Damon is back in the picture, the show just shackles her to him.

Stefan was just the chapter in her life the same way Elena was the chapter in Stefan life .

Except not? Their connection exists throughout the series and it’s proven repeatedly that they depend on each other and are tied to each other more than they’re tied to other people. Like Elena could break compulsion for Stefan but she couldn’t do the same for Damon.

In season 8, Bonnie tells Stefan to find his hope and what he does right after is write to Elena:

In the finale Elena is found sitting at the Salvatore crypt, writing about how she owes her life to Stefan:

[and I talk about how this is different than Matt here: http://zalrb.tumblr.com/post/158520624145/elena-wrote-in-her-journal-that-she-owed-her-epic]

In season 7, Caroline talks about how she’s been waiting for the day Stefan could love her the way he loved Elena

Not to mention the natural intimacy of SE and the romantic undertones of their scenes:

Like their narrative, their action, seeps through everything, DE has the dialogue, we have what actually matters.

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Tagging: @shirleyleylove

What they want: Could you please write an imagine where:1)-Elena is jealous of reader because both salvatores are in love with her 2)-reader is at cheerleading tryouts and rebekah shows off but reader is better and nails the choreo (scooby doo gang is impressed)

Warning: jealous Elena, rebekah showing off, polyamory relationship at the end.

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Elena couldn’t help but glare at the new girl, (y/n). She’s been here for over 2 months now and it seemed all the schools attention was focused on her.

Elena seemed to glare harder at (y/n) once she saw who the (h/c) haired female was talking with, and it was no other than Damon and Stefan.

Everyone knew about Elena relationship she had with both brothers and it wasn’t a surprise that she and Stefan had broken up a week before the new girl came it was as if Elena and the Salvatore brothers had an on and off again relationship but not this time.

Students passed by the the two Salvatore brothers and (y/n) in the hallways some watching them and whispering away to their friends.

It pissed Elena off that Stefan was moving off so quickly, and let’s not forget Damon. He was just as busy as Stefan but it seemed both brothers were both busy with the same thing, getting all of (y/n)’s attention.

In those few months Elena had become friends with the person most believed she wouldn’t have, Rebekah Mikaelson.

Rebekah and Elena seemed to bond over the slight hate they had toward the young (h/c) haired female. Rebekah had a fling a while back with Damon at one of the famous Mikaelson parties and she just couldn’t seem to get over him after their night which was spent together.

A laugh broke Elena out of her piercing stare and thoughts amd realized that laugh belonged to both Salvatore brothers, it seemed (y/n) had told them a funny joke which made all three of them laugh.

Her small hand was placed on both brothers chest as she laughed her heart out and that little contact seemed to piss Elena off more then she would admit.

Rebekah who was making her way over to Elena caught ber glaze on the three and tapped her shoulder bringing Elena glaze away from them, “I see little miss perfect is with the boys again.”

Elena turned around and greeted Rebekah with a small smile and replied, “Yeah tell me about it, last night I went over to their house to study with them like they promised and they all were watching a movie together,” Elena huffed and crossed her arms across her chest, “It’s like they’ve forgotten about me ever since she came along.”

Rebekah nodded her head in agreement her blonde long hair bouncing as she did such actions, “Well let’s not focus on her, we got more important things to worry about.”

Elena raised an eyebrow at Rebekah in questioning, and Rebekah groaned, “Don’t tell me you forgot about cheer practice after school?”

Elena sighed and rubbed her forehead, “I totally forgot.” Rebekah giggled a bit and placed her arm around Elenas shoulder and pulled her close. “No worries, but let’s get to class before the bell rings.” And after that they walked off to their first class the bell ringing in the back ground.

°•°•°• time skip to cheer practice °•°•°•

It wasn’t long before after school cheer practice started and a couple a girls from the school was there for try outs, the girls who where already on the team sat on the benches.

Elena looked around and saw Damon and Stefan sitting on the benches a few feet away from everyone, Elena smiled and waved to them making them wave back but when she looked closely they were looking behind her, she stopped waving and looked behind and saw (y/n) in a white tank top and black short-shorts waving toward the guys.

(Y/n) jogged passed Elena and toward the benches. She climbed up onto the gates and hugging both Damon and Stefan a smile danced across both of their faces.

Elena took a look at (y/n) outfit and realised she would be trying out for the cheer team. Rebekah walked up toward Elena and pulled her away from the three gaining her attention, “Come on lets just focus on me kicking ass at this practice.”

Elena walked toward the judges table and took a seat along with two other females, “Rebekah you’re up!” , Rebekah walked past (y/n) who was now in line along with the other girls and flashed (y/n) a smug smirk before her music started.

°•°•°• time skip to Rebekah cheer being over °•°•°•

The other judges nodded at each other and wrote down notes about Rebekah’s cheer, sooner the other girls went along and did their cheers but it wasn’t as good as Rebekah since showed off all of her good moves.

“(Y/n) you’re up!”

Damon and Stefan started cheering loudly for (y/n) rooting her one, (y/n) walked past the other girls and got into her cheer position, Elena nodded and pressed the radio which played (y/n)’s song, ‘Seek Amy’ by Britney Spears.

As (y/n) danced she made sure to show off her best moves, she did flips and slits, cartwheels and handstands. She showed off her flexibly and even though Elena was jealous of her she had to admit her moves were good.

After all of the females were done, both Damon and Stefan made their way down to the field to hear the results.

“The girls who made it on the team congrats, and those who didn’t I am sorry you didn’t make it maybe next time”, all the girls looked around at each other and crossed their finger so Elena continued, “Alice, Jane, Sofia, Maria, Rebekah, Bella, Angelina, Olivia, Emma and (Y/n) you’ve made it as for you other girls I’m sorry.”

The ones who made it cheered and (y/n) ran over to both Salvatore brothers and hugged them, while they were hugging Elena and Rebekah walked over to them two fake smiles on their faces. Rebekah decided to break the silence, “So it seems you all are close.” Damon raised an eyebrow at Rebekah’s attuide which was clearly showing in her voice, Elena cleared her throat, “What Rebekah means is that you guys are such great friends some one could mistake you all for being a couple.”

Stefan peeked down at (y/n) a gentle smile on his face and kissed her forehead, “Well your not wrong there.”

A ‘huh’ left both the girls mouth, Elena who was confused spoke up. “But if you two are dating why are her and Damon all cuddly?” Now it was Damon turn to laugh.

“Beacuse we’re dating too.”

Both girls wanted to ask them questions but (y/n) beat them to it, “It’s called a polygamous relationship, basically were all in a relationship together.”

No words were said and soon it turned into a awkward silence, “Well then it was good seeing you two, but were gonna go celebrate (y/n) making it onto the team.”

Stefan and (y/n) waved goodbye to both Elena and Rebekah and walked of the field into Damon’s car as he drove off, leaving both girls envious of (y/n)’s relationship with both of the Salvatores.

a concept: the alvarez women and the villanueva women meeting and hanging out and becoming best friends

  • jane and elena bonding over their love of writing
  • xo and penelope talking about their career goals and their parenting goals and just totally being there for each other
  • alba and lydia bonding over how they made a life for themselves in a new country when they were young and lydia trying to get alba to talk to her family again because she knows how important family is, especially sisters
  • alba and lydia and the church ladies
  • penelope counseling jane on how to deal with her trauma in the aftermath of michael’s shooting
  • jane defending elena against ANYONE who says ANYTHING bad to her EVER
  • all of them shopping at target together since apparently that’s where they get all their home decor?
  • just each family with their three generations of women talking about their similar but so different experiences 
  • (nobody comments on the fact that lydia looks exactly like rogelio’s mother. shhhh)

bonus: alex and schneider babysit baby mateo (who let that happen???)

anonymous asked:

I'm sorry I just don't get why you hate on Damon im a huge Damon fan and I don't see it and why did you call him a rapist like help me open my eyes lol

raped caroline, tried to kill her and fed on her without her consent
killed countless people for NO reason
killed jeremy because elena rejected him on two seperate occasions
went out of his way to ruin stefan’s live for a century
killed elena’s mother
raped andie, compelled her to be in a relationship with him for MONTHS and is the reason she died
took advantage of the sire bond - the only thing that made elena have feelings for him, so basically he raped elena too
took advantage of the sire bond with the girl his brother loved
stalked elena
stabbed stefan for ruining his shirt
tried to turn elena against stefan
tried to compel elena to kiss him while she was in a relationship with his “beloved” brother
went on a killing spree when he was broken up with
killed his uncle
left his “best friend” to die alone in a fire
willingly turned off his own humanity
celebrated the death of his ex
murdered a bunch of people including a pregnant woman because he was mad at stefan
tortured stefan for no reason
killed tyler
trapped Lexi, his brother’s best friend, who he would later kill, on a rooftop to burn to death because she was trying to help him
killed an innocent person so he could frame lexi - stefan’s best friend - and then murdered her on stefan’s birthday
turned countless people into vampires without their consent for his own entertainment
mocks people for having morals
tormented his ex on her deathbed
abuses, stalks and rapes women ALL. THE. TIME.
has NO character development at all whatsoever and is the exact same in the final episode as he was at the beginning.


Let’s start there. Let’s look behind the crystal blue eyes and sarcastic smile and witty banter and take a real hard look at the things Damon has done. 

Oh and how is he a rapist? Well, he compelled Caroline in the first season so he could feed on her, abuse her and sleep with her (he took away her free will so, that’s rape). He did this to the News Reporter Andy as well, so he also raped her. And he was sire bonded to Elena, which means she literally physically HAD to do anything he said and chose that time to have sex with her so once again, free will taken away- RAPE. 

anonymous asked:

But the sirebond happened because Elena had feelings for Damon when she was human, right? Then thats a huge fact that supports DE as canon.

I’m not really sure what the point of this comment is. I never once said that Elena didn’t have feelings for Damon. Sure, she had feelings:

But her feelings were just abstract feelings and it’s repeated: “I don’t know what I feel” “Stefan thinks I have feelings for you?” “Do you?” “I don’t know…” They weren’t enough to eclipse the love she had for Stefan and she knows she loves Stefan, it’s definitive and it’s there throughout season 3:

She was in love with Stefan and it never went away so just because she had feelings for Damon and that created the sirebond, it shouldn’t have erased all of these aforementioned moments because they had JUST happened.

In Julie Plec’s words: “The bottom line is that Elena as a human made a very, very, very clear choice that she would love Stefan always and forever,” she says. “But then her entire life turned upside down, and any feelings she originally had for Damon were still there, and of course magnified. There was always going to be a little bit of a confusion there for her — but not enough confusion for her to be over Stefan. It would take a lot to rip Elena away from loving Stefan. It would take years and seasons. We’d be eighty, if we followed the natural progression of that relationship.”

So the show manufactured a way to pull Elena away from Stefan and it shows because there are plot holes with this. If the natural progression of the relationship would’ve taken years and seasons for Elena to be over Stefan then her vampirism should’ve heightened that, it should’ve heightened the above sentiments and if anything that heightened love and her sirebonded attraction to Damon should’ve basically just driven her crazy but in the end, really, her love for Stefan would’ve/should’ve won out.

I never once said that Elena didn’t have feelings for Damon, I did say that those feelings were superficial and that DE is a relationship that is built to end because it doesn’t stand up against the foundation of Stelena or the actions of Stelena and it didn’t do its purpose in bringing out Elena’s darker aspects save for one episode and there really isn’t anything TO the *actual* relationship except sex and telling each other they’re in love for a reason I still don’t know.

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delena rewatch meme | [2/2] moments per season → S3

I want you to get everything you’re looking for. But right now, I need you to forget that this happened.

Conversation between Kai and Elena
  • Elena: Tell me what did Damon and Bonnie do in 1994?"
  • Kai: They spent lots and lots of time together
  • Elena: Talking about me.
  • Kai: No they actually just spent that time bonding and building up a friendship
  • Elena: Bonding talking about me and only me
  • Kai: Well they talked about you some but they also mentioned a lot of other things. Them bonding had nothing to do with you."
  • Elena: But Damon said all thay did was talk about me.
  • Kai: And you believed that? LOL they bonded because they care about each other and it had nothing to do with you.
  • Elena: But Damon said....
  • Kai: I repeat it had nothing to do with you Damon and Bonnie just show their love in that way.
  • Elena: But me and Damon...
  • Kai: Are revolting.
  • Elena: Damon can't care about Bonnie because he's suppose to be all about ME,ME,ME."
  • Kai: Don't be so self absorbed and selfish the world doesn't always have to bow down to you. Anyway can't blame Damon for being draw to Bonnie."
  • Elena: But me...
  • Kai: You know Damon must be with Bonnie somewhere right now bonding and getting close to her."
  • Elena: Nope can't let that happen I'm going to go and insert myself into their moment."
  • Kai snaps Elena's neck with magic: Bitch what did I tell you about inserting yourself into Bamon moments"
Sire VS. Sire Bond

Listen up children, because this is the last time that I am explaining the difference between a sire and the sire bond. After this no more questions on the topic will be answered. 

SIRE: One’s Sire is the Vampire that turned them. A new kind of parent for them, to teach them the new ways of the world. Can be male or female and work in the same sense as human lineage. So the Sire of your Sire, would be your Grand-Sire.

SIRE BOND: When a human loves a vampire, and is turned by that vampire’s blood, they may experience the sire bond, due to the emotions that they have felt being amplified by their transition, and do their best to please their sire. Hence, sire bonds between vampires normally aren’t platonic, and usually common between those of opposing sexes. The sire bond does not influence feelings, only actions.

anonymous asked:

Not trying to hate but I'm genuinely wondering how you love Klaroline and hate Delena? Klaroline is just as unhealthy and toxic yet you're out calling Steroline "boring"? Yikes

Steroline IS boring, sorry. It’s lackluster and flat and written poorly. I’m not saying it’s unhealthy, but it’s definitely boring. Yikes is right!


Oh and in discussing the difference between Delena and Klaroline, here it is: 

1- For one, Klaus is painted as a clear villain. Like the baddest of bad. Everyone is terrified of him. I remember watching the series for the first time and they talked about him a lot before he was actually physically on the show and I felt like he was one of the best written villains I had seen in awhile and he wasn’t even officially introduced yet! Sure, Klaus has redeeming qualities, and the good in him shows as his arc on TVD progresses, and a lot of that is thanks to Caroline, BUT- he always remains a villain. He is never painted as the “hero” of the show, the man who deserves everything he’s ever wanted, someone who should be loved and adored. You  love to hate him, and then you connect to him in his moments of vulnerability…but you never, ever forget that he’s Klaus. 

2- The dynamic between Caroline and Klaus is literally in no way similar to that of Elena and Damon. Elena is sire bonded to Damon the first time they have sex, he doesn’t allow her to make decisions for herself, he controls her every move, their entire relationship is based on physical attraction, hell, they even admit THEMSELVES how bad they are for each other and how fiercely toxic they are together but are literally addicted to one another. Damon does nothing to help Elena grow. Nada, zilch, zero. And to be honest, Elena doesn’t do a whole lot for Damon either, because she always forgives him for his terrible actions and he continues to protect her only out of selfishness. None of this is like Klaroline. 

Klaus and Caroline, even in the short span of time they shared screen, helped each other grow immensely.Klaus first breaks his walls down for Caroline, but do you remember how that relationship develops? Girl takes NONE of Klaus’ shit. She’s strong and she’s witty and she stands up for herself and she’s not afraid of him. She let’s him know when he’s a dick- and that’s pretty damn often.  Even in pursuing her, Klaus gives her choices, allows free will. The only vampire who can compel other vampires, doesn’t force her to follow him to NOLA, doesn’t force her to sleep with him,etc. Their dynamic unfolds and they grow closer and he opens up to her and she sees another side to him and then, and ONLY then, does she give in to her desires and sleep with him. And even once she DOES sleep with him, it’s on the terms that he will disappear forever. She’s smart enough to know that she can’t plan a future with the man he is now, because he is not even close to being good enough for her. Even in the final moments of the show, he’s showing her his growth as a character by donating to her school, but he still keep his distance, gives her that respect, allows her that choice, that time, to make up her own mind about him when shes ready: “I am hoping to thank you in person someday, however long it takes.”

How you see those two dynamics as the same just because Klaus is a villain I really don’t understand. 

TVD = The It Doesn’t Make SENSE Diaries {1x13 Review}

Welcome to the 13th review of season 1! As per usual, here are the guidelines: Considering that I haven’t sat down to watch a full episode of the past seasons of TVD in a few years and my memory might not be the greatest I will start with my usual disclaimer:  I write my thoughts in real time so if I make a mistake at the beginning of this post, it will be corrected by the end. There will be anti-Damon and anti-Delena senitments and I feel the need to say there may be some anti-Jenna sentiments too. I will probably bring up other shows and call attention to misogynoir, racism and anti-blackness. OK. Ready? Let’s go.

1. Opening scene of Damon helping Katherine murder two people and yeah Human Damon is a lot meeker but that doesn’t mean that this grown ass 20-something year old man was “done in” by Katherine, he knew exactly what he was doing and doesn’t actually seem to struggle with her killing two people, he just seems mildly uncomfortable and then he kisses her with their blood on her lips, the fact that he has a “Aw gee” meek demeanour doesn’t make him any less of an an accessory to murder, guys.

2. Elena and Stefan cuddling as they wake up! So cute! The way she smiles when she wakes up in his arms and how he kisses her, omg.

3. I also just realized that the door is still open when Elena brings Stefan back into bed so like not only does she not give a shit if Damon hears them fucking, she doesn’t care if he happens to pass by either. But seriously, how can anyone say they didn’t have amazing sex, she’s like um excuse me, half-naked God of a man in my bed, I’m not done.

4. Seriously, Giuseppe doesn’t realize that his two sons are sleeping with the same woman in one house? HOW?

5. Also, legit Damon would’ve been married with kids by now. Stefan wouldn’t be too far off either, it would actually be interesting if they were at least promised to two other women and then Katherine came. Like if Katherine convinced Damon to destroy his life, leave his kids, leave his wife so they can run away for an eternity together and then went oh btw, your brother is coming with us and then set the series of events in motion in which the town was at war with itself and Damon spent over a century waiting for her and feeling the guilt of having abandoned his wife and children for her but holding on to the idea that this woman he did all these things for will finally reunite with him only for her to be gone? Then that would be way more interesting and have way more emotional stakes than what we have now.

6. Yep, let’s just brush over the fact that Emily is enslaved. Pearl also would not be so easily accepted.

7. No seriously, how OLD is Anna? When did she turn?

8. And I never got why Pearl wouldn’t just leave Katherine behind. Like yo if they have vervain in elixirs and they’re trying to find vampires, I’m about to LEAVE.

9. “You were sad, Ben, you lacked purpose, you needed me.” I don’t understand this idea of vampirism = purpose because the show doesn’t expand on that. As a vampire your emotions are heightened so if Ben was sad as a human, would he not just spiral into despair as a vampire? And also his “purpose” is to help Anna for her own agenda, how would Ben not realize that? At least in True Blood when Godric turns Eric, Eric is dying and Godric likes the fire he has because Eric was a viking and he was like do you want to be a companion of death? I will be your father, brother, son and friend. In TVD it’s just … what?

10. “You know I really think that Damon believes that everything he’s done, every move he’s made, he’s done for love. It’s twisted but kind of sad.” HOW, ELENA? How was turning Vicki and leaving Stefan to clean up the mess done for love? How was abusing and raping Caroline done for love? And how can you speak so dispassionately about something when the people being affected are the people you’ve known since childhood? It doesn’t make SENSE. From the first season, Damon and in relation Delena is the biggest writing weakness.

11. Stefan: “There are other ways to get what you want, you don’t have to kill people” LIKE RIGHT THO? And Elena just tilts her head like, “Oh. True.” WHAT? This reminds me of a plot line in Friday Night Lights, where a man attacks Tyra and tries to rape her but she manages to fight him off but then he comes back again and tries to rape her so Landry kills him. After a while, the attacker’s brother asks to see all of his brother’s victims to apologize on behalf of him and Tyra is uncomfortable doing it so choose Landry to go in her stead and his brother is like, I’m sorry he never used to be like this … he was the only one who took care of me, my dad ran off and my mom was too drunk to feed us and Landry is like, you know what, pretty much every person in Dillon has the exact same story and they don’t turn out to be rapists! Same THING.

12. Also, I have a question about these journals … does every Founding Family have their own set of journals? And if they do, since they make up the council, shouldn’t they you know SHARE these journals with each other? Like why is it so singular?

13. OK, schools do get locked you know.

14. Paul commands such presence in his scenes, seriously when Alaric discovers he’s a vampire and Stefan just dashes him to the desks and tells him to sit? I would not want to cross him.

15. The woman who plays Pearl has so much more presence than Nina and she comes across as older – because she is – so for her to take point from Katherine is like, why? I don’t get it.

16. “I never asked for your respect.” “Good for you, Damon. Because all I have is disappointment.” Said every sane viewer ever.

17. IT MAKES NO SENSE THAT STEFAN AND DAMON WOULDN’T GROW UP LEARNNG ABOUT AND HATING VAMPIRES.

18. Also, I missed when Damon went over to Elena’s house. And him being in the kitchen cooking is like, that’s cute, Stefan did that 8 episodes before, you’re late.

19. His grin is annoying.

20. “You met Damon.” “Who do you think killed my wife.” Oh yes, ALL for love.

21.Elena feeling guilty about lying to Damon is like, remember that time he nearly killed Bonnie? Remember that time he nearly killed Caroline? Remember that time he killed Tanner? Remember that time he turned Vicki?

22. And so Jenna and Jeremy aren’t a little bit curious why a grown ass man is hanging around Elena and why he’s at their house? When Angel is in Buffy’s house, she has to lie to her mom and tell her he’s in college and that he’s her tutor and Joyce side-eyes the hell out of that so Buffy has to sneak him up to her room. If you’re making sexy eyes at the man, Jenna, then he should not be around your niece the way Damon is.

23. “Elena and I are bonded for life, I can’t imagine it any other way. She’s my sister, I mean, I’d die for her.” WHY. WHY. WHY. WHY BONNIE. Elena hasn’t done anything in these 13 episodes that would warrant such loyalty.

24. Also, Damon just told Elena that he won’t let anyone get in his way when it comes to getting Katherine back, like it was a threat, and when they find out the journal is gone and that Jeremy is the only other person who knows about it and he walks back into the house that determined and Elena is just like “Damon, leave him out of it …” I would panic especially considering that Damon had already negatively impacted Jeremy’s life by turning Vicki.

25. Yeah, this Giuseppe is stern and a hard-ass but I didn’t get the impression he was this tyrannical, abusive father. In 1x20, Stefan does say even in our death you only feel shame so like I don’t get a sense of closeness with Giuseppe and either brother but I really do feel like they turned him into a monster in season 7 as an attempt to excuse Damon’s behaviour because we all know if you’re forced to eat your pet bunny nearly two hundred years ago you have to act out and kill people.

26. Stefan, why are you giving Elena a shovel too to dig up your father’s grave, you can vamp speed that shit.

27. Seriously. Paul’s sighs when Nina is kissing his stomach and chest, like …

28. I forgot Bonnie actually kisses Ben.

29. WHY would you open the grimoire there? Vamp speed the dirt back into the grave and then go. HOME.

30. Oh shut UP, Damon, you’ve caused this town so much damage, Elena owes you nothing.

31. It’s also super gross that Damon sniffs Elena’s hair as he hands her back to Stefan after force-feeding her his blood.

32. It really bothers me that the show is substituting vampires for the enslaved without talking about the enslaved, like it takes some kind of privilege and entitlement to have  a show set in the South and flashing back to 1864 and NOT talking about it.

33. To be fair, Stefan didn’t tell Giuseppe that he was sleeping with a vampire, he was just like so maybe we shouldn’t kill all of them. I get that in the heat of the moment, Damon would blame Stefan but like 100 and some odd years later? Fam, let it go. Or if the point is that he can’t let it go and the older he gets the more stuck in time he becomes, that needs to be displayed more.

34. I love that forehead kiss and Stefan and Elena holding hands till the very last minute is their aesthetic.

35. Wow, Jenna being semi-active! “You know you’re not staying the night, right? Keep the door open.”

36. Pearl’s death is probably the most moving part of the episode.Much better than Damon’s man pain.

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It's Time to Abandon Ship: Why I moved on from Stelena & Klaroline and jumped aboard Steroline

I just wanted to put this out there in anticipation of Steroline getting together, and to help drown out all the Steroline hate that’s been thrown around lately. Besides, I know I’m not the only ex-Stelena and ex-Klaroline shipper out there who came to see the light. 

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