Bonnie. Bonnie! Can I talk to you for just a second. Couple of things, I’m happy that Abigail has bonded with your mother. Thrilled about the communal potato peeling thing but when it comes to my daughters social recreational life particularly if it concerns medications that will permanently effect her reproductive organs, will you just kick that little can of worms over to me? Do you understand? I do. And should Skye come to me ten years down the road and ask for a little lift to Planned Parenthood, I would give you that courtesy call first. Thanks.
4 Criteria for Effective Protests: It must seize space for activists to self-organize essential aspects of their lives. It must spread new ideas that inspire others to resist state power and control. It must operate independently of elite support. It must make concrete improvements to the lives of ordinary people.
“The shadow is a moral problem that challenges the whole ego-personality, for no one can become conscious of the shadow without considerable moral effort. To become conscious of it involves recognizing the dark aspects of the personality as present and real. This act is the essential condition for any kind of self-knowledge.” ~ Carl Jung
Flexible and tolerant, they take a pragmatic approach focused on immediate results. Theories and conceptual explanations bore them – they want to act energetically to solve the problem. Focus on the here-and-now, spontaneous, enjoy each moment that they can be active with others. Enjoy material comforts and style. Learn best through doing.
ESTP Shadow: ISTJ. Can become stubborn about their perception of the past and fixated on its relation to the present (Si). Can become critical, disgruntled with disorder, illogical, or inefficiency (Te). Rigidly following a belief system or what they personally think is important, with accompanying childish and/or selfish behaviour (Fi). Over-reading between the lines, often misinterpreting someone’s actions and seeing negative intentions where there are none (Ne).
Tolerant and flexible, quiet observers until a problem appears, then act quickly to find workable solutions. Analyze what makes things work and readily get through large amounts of data to isolate the core of practical problems. Interested in cause and effect, organize facts using logical principles, value efficiency.
ISTP Shadow: ESTJ Can become stubborn about organising things and insist on a systematic approach (Te). Prefer not to focus on the past but can be quite critical of past performances and overuse negative experiences to inform decisions (Si). Interpret situations in a naive way, inferring malice where none exists (Ne). Spend money and time on things that are unimportant and care little about the value of things (Fi).
Outgoing, friendly, and accepting. Exuberant lovers of life, people, and material comforts. Enjoy working with others to make things happen. Bring common sense and a realistic approach to their work, and make work fun. Flexible and spontaneous, adapt readily to new people and environments. Learn best by trying a new skill with other people.
ESFP Shadow: ISFJ Can become stubborn about their perception of the past and fixated on its relation to the present (Si). Can be quite critical and disgruntled about the expectations of the group to the point of rebellion and disengaging (Fe). May make statements or believe in ideas that are contradictory and illogical (Ti). Over-reading between the lines, often misinterpreting someone’s actions and seeing negative intentions where there are none (Ne).
Quiet, friendly, sensitive, and kind. Enjoy the present moment, what’s going on around them. Like to have their own space and to work within their own time frame. Loyal and committed to their values and to people who are important to them. Dislike disagreements and conflicts, do not force their opinions or values on others.
ISFP Shadow: ESFJ Stubborn about how others affect them and resist being pulled into being responsible for others feelings and choices (Fe). Prefer not to focus on the past but can be quite critical of past performances and overuse negative experiences to inform decisions (Si). Interpret situations in a naive way, inferring malice where none exists (Ne). Caught up in pointing out others’ inconsistencies, with a dogmatic tendency to adhere to one principle rather than seeing its distinctions (Ti).
Practical, realistic, matter-of-fact. Decisive, quickly move to implement decisions. Organize projects and people to get things done, focus on getting results in the most efficient way possible. Take care of routine details. Have a clear set of logical standards, systematically follow them and want others to also. Forceful in implementing their plans.
ESTJ Shadow: ISTP Can be stubborn about the models and principles they’ve adopted, categorising everything simplistically and robotically following the principles (Ti). Go on about “facts,” blocking others’ proposed actions, or get caught up in the moment and engage in impulsive behaviour (Se). Envision how something will play out and ignore signs that it won’t work out, foreseeing disaster or nothing at all (Ni). Convinced others don’t like, appreciate, or need them, and over-accommodate others needs (Fe)
Quiet, serious, earn success by thoroughness and dependability. Practical, matter-of-fact, realistic, and responsible. Decide logically what should be done and work toward it steadily, regardless of distractions. Take pleasure in making everything orderly and organized – their work, their home, their life. Value traditions and loyalty.
ISTJ Shadow: ESTP Stubborn about going on impulse and insist that they have an accurate read of the situation (Se). Prefer not to articulate operating principles and can get stuck in models and frameworks they have learned or adapted (Ti). Over-address others’ concerns and feel disappointment over a false sense of closeness (Fe). Make dire predictions with certainty and mistake deep symbolism as a guidepost for life (Ni).
Warmhearted, conscientious, and cooperative. Want harmony in their environment, work with determination to establish it. Like to work with others to complete tasks accurately and on time. Loyal, follow through even in small matters. Notice what others need in their day-by-day lives and try to provide it. Want to be appreciated for who they are and for what they contribute.
ESFJ Shadow: ISFP Be stubborn about values as they crusade for a particular cause, turning off people instead of mobilising them (Fi). Go on about “facts,” blocking others’ proposed actions, or get caught up in the moment and engage in impulsive behaviour (Se). Envision how something will play out and ignore signs that it won’t work out, foreseeing disaster or nothing at all (Ni). analyse, lash out if others criticise their logic with emotional arguments, and make subjective arguments (Te).
Quiet, friendly, responsible, and conscientious. Committed and steady in meeting their obligations. Thorough, painstaking, and accurate. Loyal, considerate, notice and remember specifics about people who are important to them, concerned with how others feel. Strive to create an orderly and harmonious environment at work and at home.
ISFJ Shadow: ESFP Stubborn about going on impulse and insist that they have an accurate read of the situation (Se). Dwell on conflicts in beliefs, being critical, and locking into their desires by bulldozing others (Fi). Spend unnecessary time establishing order, planning, and misguide themselves and others in the process (Te). Make dire predictions with certainty and mistake deep symbolism as a guidepost for life (Ni)
Frank, decisive, assume leadership readily. Quickly see illogical and inefficient procedures and policies, develop and implement comprehensive systems to solve organizational problems. Enjoy long-term planning and goal setting. Usually well informed, well read, enjoy expanding their knowledge and passing it on to others. Forceful in presenting their ideas.
ENTJ Shadow: INTP Can be stubborn about the models and principles they’ve adopted, categorising everything simplistically and robotically following the principles (Ti). Oblivious to unspoken potentials and get off track with inferences and interconnections (Ne). Cling to what they are used to; repeat themselves in ritualistic fashion (Si). Convinced others don’t like, appreciate, or need them, and over-accommodate others’ needs (Fe).
Have original minds and great drive for implementing their ideas and achieving their goals. Quickly see patterns in external events and develop long-range explanatory perspectives. When committed, organize a job and carry it through. Skeptical and independent, have high standards of competence and performance – for themselves and others.
INTJ Shadow: ENTP Be stubborn about responding to emerging information and locking on to a hidden meaning (Ne). Prefer not to articulate operating principles and can get stuck in models and frameworks they have learned or adapted (Ti). Over-address others’ concerns and feel disappointment over a false sense of closeness (Fe). Get stuck in impressions of how things were and resist change; waste time reviewing the impact of the past (Si).
Quick, ingenious, stimulating, alert, and outspoken. Resourceful in solving new and challenging problems. Adept at generating conceptual possibilities and then analyzing them strategically. Good at reading other people. Bored by routine, will seldom do the same thing the same way, apt to turn to one new interest after another.
ENTP Shadow: INTJ Be stubborn about perceptions of how the future will be, and lock onto a vision that won’t happen (Ni). Can become critical, disgruntled with disorder, illogic, or inefficiency (Te). Rigidly following a belief system or what they personally think is important, with accompanying childish and/or selfish behaviour (Fi). Excessively seek physical stimulation or following the urge to do nothing; zero in on isolated details, acting impulsively on them (Se).
Seek to develop logical explanations for everything that interests them. Theoretical and abstract, interested more in ideas than in social interaction. Quiet, contained, flexible, and adaptable. Have unusual ability to focus in depth to solve problems in their area of interest. Skeptical, sometimes critical, always analytical.
INTP Shadow: ENTJ Can become stubborn about organising things and insist on a systematic approach (Te). Indulge negative thoughts of how events will unfold (Ni). Dwell on the perceived “realities” of a situation; act highly impulsively (Se). Spend money and time on things that are unimportant and care little about the value of things (Fi).
Warm, empathetic, responsive, and responsible. Highly attuned to the emotions, needs, and motivations of others. Find potential in everyone, want to help others fulfill their potential. May act as catalysts for individual and group growth. Loyal, responsive to praise and criticism. Sociable, facilitate others in a group, and provide inspiring leadership.
ENFJ Shadow: INFP Be stubborn about values as they crusade for a particular cause, turning off people instead of mobilising them (Fi). Oblivious to unspoken potentials and get off track with inferences and interconnections (Ne). Cling to what they are used to; repeat themselves in ritualistic fashion (Si). analyse, lash out if others criticise their logic with emotional arguments, and make subjective arguments (Te).
Seek meaning and connection in ideas, relationships, and material possessions. Want to understand what motivates people and are insightful about others. Conscientious and committed to their firm values. Develop a clear vision about how best to serve the common good. Organized and decisive in implementing their vision.
INFJ Shadow: ENFP Be stubborn about responding to emerging information and locking on to a hidden meaning (Ne). Dwell on conflicts in beliefs, being critical, and locking into their desires by bulldozing others (Fi). Spend unnecessary time establishing order, planning, and misguide themselves and others in the process (Te). Get stuck in impressions of how things were and resist change; waste time reviewing the impact of the past (Si)
Warmly enthusiastic and imaginative. See life as full of possibilities. Make connections between events and information very quickly, and confidently proceed based on the patterns they see. Want a lot of affirmation from others, and readily give appreciation and support. Spontaneous and flexible, often rely on their ability to improvise and their verbal fluency.
ENFP Shadow: INFJ Be stubborn about perceptions of how the future will be, and lock onto a vision that won’t happen (Ni). Can be quite critical and disgruntled about the expectations of the group to the point of rebellion and disengaging (Fe). May make statements or believe in ideas that are contradictory and illogical (Ti). Excessively seek physical stimulation or following the urge to do nothing; zero in on isolated details, acting impulsively on them (Se)
Idealistic, loyal to their values and to people who are important to them. Want an external life that is congruent with their values. Curious, quick to see possibilities, can be catalysts for implementing ideas. Seek to understand people and to help them fulfill their potential. Adaptable, flexible, and accepting unless a value is threatened.
INFP Shadow: ENFJ Stubborn about how others affect them and resist being pulled into being responsible for others feelings and choices (Fe). Indulge negative thoughts of how events will unfold (Ni). Dwell on the perceived “realities” of a situation; act highly impulsively (Se). Caught up in pointing out others’ inconsistencies, with a dogmatic tendency to adhere to one principle rather than seeing its distinctions (Ti).
Some non-spoilery thoughts on Mass Effect: Andromeda because I’ve seen a lot of people worried about negativity surrounding the game:
the squad banter is great, and there’s a lot of it, and it’s really welcome. it brings a lot to exploration and fighting
speaking of fighting, this is the best shooting in a 3rd-person game that I’ve seen in well, ever. the jump jet is ridiculously fun to use while shooting.
and exploration? fantastic. Ryder’s scanner is super handy and gives you a lot of information about the environment. the level design is great, as are the plant and animal designs.
I’m a big fan of the new dialogue system. paragon/renegade was something heavily associated with Shepard. this new system feels a lot more like Ryder, and a new start.
the facial animations aren’t all that bad, unless you’re going to record your conversations and then go back, frame-by-frame, looking for a few ridiculous expressions. you don’t really notice all that much when you’re paying attention to the story and what’s being said.
the eyes are…flat (I’m also playing HZD atm, and the eye textures in that game are incredible, so it also could be bias on my part)
the music, so far, is good. I was really worried about it, but I find that the galaxy map theme is the best piece so far.
the galaxy map - holy fuck, it is so fun.
cc - not impressed, tbh. twins don’t always look identical anyway, and it’s pretty disappointing that you can’t customise Sara or Scott. the presets range from okay to horrible. Inquisition spoiled us.
I’m really happy with the writing so far. lots of great characters that I’m loving. the voice acting is pretty damn good too.
we’ve finally got height differences. hell, the salarians are tall. so are the turians. feels good. feels organic.
I got the sweetest email from Joni, thanking me and also mentioning how nice it was to have art for Suits, which is a relatively small fandom. It made me realise how spoiled I am in the Sherlock fandom, and I wanted to give a little something extra to my bidder & their fandom.
THIS FIC! I don’t watch Suits, I had never even heard of the show before getting this commission, so I don’t know these characters at all, BUT THIS FIC. I was browsing Joni’s fics last night and started reading Spare Parts and then somehow it was 2 am (0_o) I knew I had do a cover of this one. If you’re in the Suits fandom, I hope you check it out because it is A Lot.
Detective Danno Danny Williams - the different shades of being a badass cop
No.1 – Solo Mission (without Steve)
His focus on the target never falters - it’s raw, precise, laser like and deadly. His
instincts as a detective are on high allert at all times. He acts fast, well
organized, and effective. He only cares to protect others, never himself. He
jumps infront of bullets, knives and fists. He is in full warrior-don’t-fucking-mess-with-this-cop mode. He gets beaten up badly - he is so damn brave. He never ducks, he never gives in and oh boy…he can take
punches, but it seems as if he doesn’t feel the pain. He never flinches, he
never caves. He only jokes, he spits and fights even harder – tantalizing his
opponent with every word so the beating gets worse and he takes it all.
Situation 1: Back in New Jersey checking out some drug dealing point, no back-up. Mission goes south, Danny gets
heavily beaten, tortured even, Grace gets shot infront of his eyes. He
fights back waiting for the first slip in the
enemies attention. It’s violance porn seeing Danny fight the way he does
in that scene.It’s an absolute beauty to realize he acts so strong
Situation 2: Prison of Columbia. Danny
knows he enters hell. He doesn’t show fear (meanwhile Steve goes apeship back
home to find a way to safe Danny.) Danny faces all the guns, the evil grins,
the punches. He knows what is waiting for him in there – rape, torture,
beating, excruciating pain every day…and he doesn’t give a fuck. He manages to get a phone call to hear Grace’s voice one last time. He gets this piece of heaven,
devours it for eternity and waits for his death afterwards laying on floor
being kicked and punched, till he passes out.
Situation 3: Hostage situation at Grace’s dance night. Danny fights with every
fibre of his body. He crawls in confinded spaces, stands
oncoming panic feelings, attacks a guy with bare hands, is ready to deal with a
whole bunch of armed perps, does whatever it takes to free Grace and all
others. Danny only deflates visibly when he finally spots Steve in the crowed
after all bad guys are shot, hurt and booked.
No. 2 – Team McDanno
constantly out because Steve only comes up with the most stupid solutions. Those operations always have the same pattern.
(not my pic, borrowed it from the google search)
DON’T WANNA GO!”
Steve: “DANNY! GO!..I LOVE YOU! NOW
HATE YOU” (he jumps)
Danny: “Can you please stop that? I
want to die in peace.”
“Nobody is going to die today, Danny.”
is no exit, this fucking explosion let the whole building crash. We are trapped.”
“Relax, I will find us a way out.”
Danny: “Leave me alone, there is no
exit. If I hadn’t met you I wouldn’t be down here now.”
Steve: “Take a break, buddy. I’ve got
you. I’ll find a way.”
Danny: Thats’ your plan? Do you know
how rediculous this is? Great, really great, Steven!
will figure it out somehow.
yeah? When exactly? When someone gets to shoot me first? I can’t believe it!
Danny, relax. I got this. We will be fine.
will kill us.”
are still alive.”
will kill us…”
Steve: “Relax Danny, there is always
a way. I’ve got you, just give me time.”
No.3 – The Most Impressive One: Mission rescue Steve
Steve is on a mission - alone. Danny
is worried sick, not showing it though and after 12 hours it is clear, Steve is
missing and Danny’s worst fears came true. Danny knows his boy is in great
danger and in that very moment Danny’s entire being switches into war mode. I
can figuratively see how Danny’s muscles swell, how his shirt gets teared apart,
his body gets pumped up with a heavy dose of adrenalin. His view changes into a tunnel vision, every
fibre of his body has one aim – to get Steve back, alive!
Danny will get back with Steve or he won’t get back at all. All
his ohana is of course with Danny. But Danny is prepared to die. He knows the possibility to never see his
Grace again is huge. He goes anyway. He has to save Steve. He fights with the
columbian army, he deals with SEALS and snatches Steve out of the Taliban’s
hand before they can behead him. Whatever it takes, Danny storms right
through any barricade to get his Steve back.
Steve is safe Danny always has to fight to keep standing on his feet. He waits
at Steve’s side until Steve opens his eyes, ready to see a familiar, a beloved
face. Danny needs to know, Steve is safe and home. Danny takes care of a hurt,
wounded Steve in the most tender way.
such a badass warrior when he has to be it. He is a secret Avenger, I am sure!
Danny is fearless. He is an
outstanding Detective, he grew up on the streets of New Jersey and had to learn
to fight his way through his every day life. He jumps right in the
middle of danger and beats everyone until his work is done.
When he is
with Steve he wants to give Steve the feeling, that he needs him. So Steve can rescue him every single
time. Ranting Danny it is actually a very clever psychological
move to make Mcgarrett be the hero. What ever happends on the scene, Danny puts his
fate in Steve’s hands and Steve always handles it with utmost care. Danny knows
his partner needs this feeling to have the control over the situation and he has Danny’s trust.
Danny loves to behave difficult to see how much Steve cares about him. Steve
really never snaps at Danny. The only thing that could happen is Danny gets
ingored by Steve, completely. Downright left out. Steve doesn’t answer Danny’s
questions, doesn’t react to his ranting. At the end? They always have each other’s back and their everlasting love. (I had to write this last sentence…:-))
Phenology- the study of cyclic and seasonal natural phenomena, especially in relation to climate and plant and animal life (from Oxford Dictionary).
Because of the climate change the patterns of many phenological activities in animals and plants are changing. Earlier spring means earlier snowmelt and earlier blossoming of flowers. While this may not seem a bad thing, it may well have some dramatic effects because not all organisms adapt to phenological changes at the same rate. For example, the snowshoe hares have white fur in winter and grey in summer to camouflage themselves against predators. With the snow melting earlier, however, the white fur makes hares particularly easy to spot in a muddy spring environment for the predators, causing a fast decline in hare population.
Do those around you seem to be defensive, insecure, disconnected and/or closed down? Rather than label and blame, maybe first hold up a mirror and ask yourself: What am I “putting out there”?
Getting to know yourself and proactively seeking to understand the trail (or wake) you create with which everyone else around you has to deal, can be one of the most life-changing things one can do.
It ultimately creates more personal power rather than being stuck in drama, strife, and turmoil.
Without knowing thy self, our insecurities get the best of us and our egos rule the day. We leak out and all over those who are trying to help, follow, support. Overtime, boast all you want about your success… but are you respected, loved and happy?
The higher you want to go in your career, the more success you want to achieve, the greater joy you want to have, the expanded respect you want to earn, the more important it is to understand yourself. Otherwise, your insecurities will ultimately control your actions, words, approach and outcomes in life.
Without a certain level of personal enlightenment in life, we stay immature and ego-driven, which translates into the need to be right, talking about others, in control, tough, and victorious at all costs, when actually what works best is being human, approachable, listening, and willing to adapt whatever approach/stance will work best.
Talk, boast, spin things and convince yourself whatever you desire. The truth is that the quality of our relationship with ourselves dictates how we inter-relate with everyone around us. Period. Those that are loudest ARE usually the most insecure, just as those who are the poorest usually talk about money most.
Confidence is from knowing oneself and trust that any situation can be “handled” despite fear. Confidence is the ability to lean in and be more compassionate (for self and others) in every situation rather than over compensating and covering up. Confidence is not being reactionary, boastful, or defensive — it is actually closer to being generous and kind.
“Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.”
#sexlaughterhonesty week was a great success this year! As of this morning, submissions are closed, but if you tagged me (or your work) earlier in the week and your piece is not included below, please get in touch with me. Tumblr was not cooperative with tags last week.
If you think about it, sex can be pretty silly. Pretty silly looking, awkward to engage in, ridiculous to coordinate. If you don’t believe me, randomly pause a porn gif/clip (this is tumblr, I trust your ability to find one. ;) ). 90% of the time you’re going to get some goofy facial expression (if there are faces on screen, lol). Even when scripted, sex is…well, it’s kinda funny.
Still, it can also be wickedly intimate. Two (or more) bodies sharing moments of connection that can mean little or much and not the same thing to every participant. Sex is messy in more ways than one and I think the truth of that gets lost in how sex is portrayed in the media.
#sexlaughterhonesty was organized on the hopes of a better dialogue.To share honestly, to laugh about things, to combat unrealistic stereotypes. To talk about the average and the outliers. To help someone feel just a little less lost. Below you’ll find a variety of multi-fandom fics (and some art, as well as a comic) all focusing on the silly, honest, realistic aspects of sex and intimacy. Many based on actual experiences.
This year we had optional daily themes, and the bulk of the contributions below are organized around them. “Let’s Talk About Sex” which focuses on honest, open communication, fictionalized personal anecdotes, Coituis interruptus (hilarius moments of interruption), and Coitus ridiculous (encounters of absolute ridiculousness).
Below a cut for length, because WOW, we had a ton of contributions this year. You want smut? We’ve got your smut.