educational series

Sogna in grande, dicono, mira alle stelle. E poi ci rinchiudono per 12 anni e ci dicono dove sederci, quando far pipì e cosa pensare. Poi compiamo diciotto anni e senza aver mai avuto un nostro pensiero, dobbiamo prendere la decisione più importante della nostra vita.
—  13 Reasons Why
MERRILL IS
  • not a child
  • not evil
  • isn’t stupid
  • (seriously, she is probably the most educated character in the series; she can recite the entirety of known elven history)
  • is right about eluvians
  • is unaware of human cultures bc she’s most likely never met a human before Duncan, and even him she knew for like five minutes so it’s understandable 
  • bad with people bc she was isolated as a child (it’s implied that Mahariel and Tamlen were basically her only friends)
  • according to Solas at least, she’s right about blood magic being only as evil as the purposes they’re used for
  • is very proud, that’s true. she’s arrogant at times, but it’s not like she’s the only character in the series with that trait
  • is perfectly willing to accept the consequences of her own actions, but due to low self esteem and self-worth she doesn’t understand that other people would be affected by them
  • is incredibly gifted magically; she mends a corrupted, shattered Eluvian, rebuilding it and cleansing it
  • this potentially means that Merrill will be able to apply her study of the mirror to curing the Blight
  • still isn’t a kid
What is comp het? (1/3)

This is the first post in a three post series on Compulsory Heterosexuality.

What is Comp Het?

Compulsory heterosexuality, or comp het, is a lesbian specific experience that occurs when lesbians are influenced by societal pressures into believing that they are or could be attracted to men.

Comp het is not genuine attraction and acting on comp het usually results in traumatic or extremely unpleasant experiences for questioning lesbians, as sex or relationships that lack genuine attraction can be emotionally draining and painful.

Common Signs of Comp Het

  • Your crushes on men are all famous or fictional characters that you will never realistically be able to interact with.
  • You tend to have crushes on men who are seemingly unavailable or unattainable such as teachers, married or older men and you lose all attraction or get extremely uncomfortable if there are any implications that they might like you back.
  • You don’t find guys attractive until one of your friends express their attraction of a man.
  • You mistake the desire for male approval as attraction. You don’t necessarily want a relationship with men, but you want men to want a relationship with you.
  • You have a ‘list’ of impossible criteria in your head that a man must meet for you to be attracted to him, and if you ever meet someone who matches all the criteria you just add more impossible standards.
  • You view relationships with men as a chore, burden, or just something you must deal with.

i doodled a bit so a concept: serizawa katsuya has two loving parents 

his mother went through some hard times with him during his time being all hikikomori’d up and miscalculated when she had been at her wits end, and his father couldn’t be there much due to his job and didn’t know how to connect with katsuya’s problems the rare times he was…. but after the biggest weights were lifted from their shoulders, they quickly snapped back into a close, happy family. 

here they’re all super stoked about having bought katsuya a proper suit for the first time ever, and of their son getting a job that’s not a fucking cult bent on world domination. not pictured is their dog currently chewing katsuya’s shoes. 

their names are aiko and ishi and y ea i did this mainly to think through stuff for the next chapter of shit-all. spoiler: they’re so good people they adopt reigen immediately. 

Dream big they say, shoot for the stars, then they lock us away for 12 years and tell us where to sit, when to pee and what to think. Then we turn 18 and even though we’ve never had an original thought, we have to make the most important decision of our lives and if you don’t have money and don’t really have the grades, a lot of desicions gets made for you.

-Hannah Baker
Comp Het Struggles (aka Am I Bi/Pan or a Lesbian?) (3/3)

This is the third post in a three post series on Compulsive Heterosexuality.

 Many questioning lesbians who struggle with comp het and wlw who struggle coercive heteronormativity often are confused on their identity. Because of this, it can take wlw years to actually figure out who they are.

I have gathered some questions to ask yourself about your attraction in order to clarify between genuine attraction and comp het.

Questions

  • Do I actually like this man or do I just want him to like me?
  • If this man liked me would I be uncomfortable/ stop liking him?
  • Do I only have crushes on unattainable men?
  • Do I have an impossible list of traits a man must meet in order for me to find him attractive?
  • When a man has all those traits do I still look for an excuse not to like him?
  • Do I idealize relationships with men in theory, but the reality of relationships with them make me uncomfortable?

we’ve established that julian is 110% slytherin so what about the other blackthorns?

Comp Het vs Heteronormativity (2/3)

This is the second post in a three post series on Compulsory Heterosexuality.

As mentioned before, comp het is a lesbian specific experience. Bi and pan people cannot experience comp het as they are actually attracted to men.

You cannot experience comp het if you experience genuine attraction to men.

Coercive Heteronormativity

However, there is a thing called coercive heteronormativity which all people attracted to the same gender can experience. Coercive heteronormativity is the internalized idea that m/f relationships are better, easier, or more desirable than f/f or m/m relationships.

Coercive heteronormativity is what pressures bi/pan women into choosing relationships with men over women. This is not the same thing as comp het, and bi/pan wlw who talk about experiencing comp het are referring to their experiences with coercive heteronormativity.

Why We Need Separate Terms

Many people don’t understand why we need to clarify between comp het and coercive heteronormativity. The reason is quite simple. We use these terms in order to identify our experiences in other people. A lesbian being socially pressured into faking attraction to men is a completely different experience that a bi/pan woman being pressured into prioritizing their attraction to men.

In Civil War, Peter barely knows anything about Star Wars but in Homecoming his room is covered in toys and legos and such. Only logical conclusion? Tony made part of Peter’s superhero training an education in the series. Totally sent him Blu-Rays and novels in the mail. Wookiepedia articles sent to his email address.

He totally got excited for each message thinking that it was a hint towards a new Avengers mission, but nope more Star Wars.