education discussion

Representation Matters

Here are just a few LGBTQ+ Tumblrs promoting advocacy and representation within the community. 

Originally posted by mattahan

Bklyn Boihood (@bklynboihood​)

Bklyn Boihood is where “black, brown queer and trans bois*” can follow, cultivate, or show off all kinds of creative work. Their offline events are mainly held in Brooklyn, but their online presence is here for anyone who could benefit from their expressive, welcoming atmosphere.

Originally posted by mykidsgay

My Kid is Gay (@mykidsgay​)

If you’re a kid who just came out to your parents (or you want to soon), think about sending them to this nice informational hub. It was created by the same people behind fan-favorite Everyone is Gay (@everyoneisgay​). We hope your parents support you no matter what and love you unconditionally always. If you can, let them know educating themselves can go a long way, too—especially if they’ve never been exposed to conversation around queer culture.

Originally posted by theadvocatemag

The Advocate (@theadvocatemag​)

The Advocate was founded in 1967. They’re celebrating 50 years of continuous publication, 50 years of fighting for what is right, 50 years of making sure you stay in the know. Give this downright historic publication a follow to interject a little news on your dashboard.

Queer Kid Stuff (@queerkidstuff​)

The subject of LGBTQ+ culture and education is still rarely discussed in media aimed at children. This web series is a lovely, engaging way to educate kids on LGBTQ+ topics. Lindsay and Teddy make videos, offer coloring sheets, and even have a section “4” grown ups.

My dear lgbt+ kids,

I decided to cut FAQ Friday short this week and closed the inbox earlier than originally planned, and I want to share my thoughts about that decision with you - not because my little FAQ thingy is so important but because I believe it serves as a reminder to take care of ourselves.

As many of you know, I open the inbox each Friday and answer as many questions as I can until the next Friday. The overwhelming majority of people who send me a message ask for advice - but, of course, occasionally there are people who use that opportunity to tell me how awful I am, how much they hate my blog.

That’s fair. Nobody is required to enjoy my content or think of me as a sympathetic person. Even people who enjoy lgbt+ content do not necessarily enjoy the rather cutesy “vibe” of my blog. 

Just as they are not required to like my letters, I’m not required to publish or answer messages along the lines of “I hate you and your ugly”. My usual course of action is to simply delete them. I know that there will a couple of these each time I open the inbox and I can handle that without it getting to me too much. 

This week, it got to me. 

Maybe it was because the insults were more, let’s say, “creative” than usual. Maybe it was because there were more of them than usual. Maybe it was simply because I had a pretty rough week in my private life. Regardless of why, I felt hurt. They made me feel sad. 

And that’s okay. I’m a human being. 

The fact that I am lgbt+ and openly talk about it does not mean I have to be immune to hate. It does not mean I have to patiently educate people why it’s not very nice to call me a freak or have to find some scientific source that proves that it is indeed not cool to tell me to go kill myself. 

Educating, spreading awareness, discussing, all that is important. But sometimes, you have to step back and say “Okay, this hurts. I’ll need a break to make this stop hurting.” 

And that’s okay. We are human beings. 

With all my love, 

Your Tumblr Mom 

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An excerpt from a book I annotated for my Writing Studies course. It was pretty interesting, and brought up a really enlightening discussion about education styles in my class.
Also, I’ve been really into my studygram lately (it’s also @/smallhandwriting). You should check it out, I follow back most other studygrams.

dysphoria is a disorder. being trans is not.

when it comes to dysphoria, i feel like a lot of people are afraid to really talk about it in any sort of analytical way. i think it’s something that’s incredibly important to talk about, especially with kids, because of all the ways it crops up, but we only really hear about it when we talk about being trans, and if we do, we don’t talk about it for very long and try to ignore it, or shove it under the rug. it’s ‘oh, i have dysphoria’ but never questioning why or trying to understand our very specific and unique, personal brand of dysphoria on a deeper level. it’s hard to face, it absolutely is. i’ve barely gotten there.

body dysphoria can come from a lot of things. for me: parental abuse, bullying, sexual assault, my other disorders, a side effect of my PTSD, a side effect of harsh roles pressured onto me without my consent, such as gender roles. 

i tried everything. medication and talk therapy, to self-harm and drug addiction. nothing helped and nothing took away my pain. i was never happy, i wasn’t able to look myself in the mirror, no matter how much i tried to love myself. i spent years fantasizing about suicide. the only times i felt happy were when i was able to ‘pretend’ to be someone else, live off in a different world. i had no control over my body or my self-expression.

when i escaped the worst of my abuse, i was finally able to really analyze myself and discover things about myself safely. after coming to terms with why i felt this way, understanding myself and how i could benefit and be harmed by my choices, i decided transitioning medically was the last thing i could do to try and help the dysphoria i had to such a massive scale. so i started hormone therapy.

and i was right, my quality of life is significantly higher, i am finally able to love myself, i am now finally able to respond to talk therapy and be productive and think for the future and engage with the world - 

but i think a lot of people assume that dysphoria is exclusively a trans thing. i would be surprised if i ever met someone who had never once experienced dysphoria in some way. and i think it’s important that we recognize that many of us have dysphoria, and having dysphoria doesn’t automatically mean you’re trans or that medically transitioning is the only way to be happy. 

i think what we need to do is understand that everyone has a unique experience with dysphoria. and it’s very easy to fall into the trap of seeing what worked for someone else and replicate it without really thinking about how it will effect us personally, and when it comes to things that can be permanent this is really dangerous. 

being trans is part of my therapy and part of my self-made, personalized prescription against dysphoria. we need to create thoughtful, purposeful, and educational ways to discuss dysphoria openly and give kids the tools to deal with it as best they can so they can be ready to make their own educated decisions about their own bodies and find out what makes them, PERSONALLY, happy and fulfilled and comfortable with themselves inside and out.

i see a lot of people sad that they’re not where i am because i am happy, but they equate being happy with medically transitioning without really thinking for themselves whether it’s really right for them. because for some people it isn’t all they thought it was going to be. it’s not a magic thing that will make all of your problems go away and i know some people think this, i thought that before i sat down with myself. some people tell me how lucky i am, how wonderful my life must be - and yes, there is some weight off my back, but there’s a dangerous slope of thinking that anything will make your problems suddenly vanish. there are bad things and good things. life is not a perfect upwards incline since starting T. it’s rocky, it can be frustrating, i still have bad days.

the only way to make your problems go away is to try and find the source, find the resources, find the ability and wording to explain to yourself why you need something, why you want something, how what you want can help you and how it can hurt you and what YOUR truth is. not anybody else’s. your truth will not be someone else’s truth. nobody else can tell you what your truth is and nobody can know better than you. someone else’s truth is not yours, and trying to apply it to your life without any criticism of yourself and how you really, really feel can hurt you. 

learning to love yourself and overcoming body issues is not an exclusively trans experience. body dysphoria is an incredibly powerful and terrible thing that we as humans often experience to massively different degrees, and there is no one-size-fits-all ‘cure’. you’re the only one who can make yours. be honest with yourself and write things out, explain yourself to yourself openly and at your own pace, and come to your truth. it’s going to be better than anybody else’s truth and it’s going to be tailor-made for you.

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So I’m 21. I’m a really creative person. I couldn’t afford college anymore and I got really depressed because that’s all America tells you to do.. Go get an education. I was really depressed for a few months but I was able to create to something I think might be special.

This is the cast from Being Millennial. A TV show that discusses relationships, educational, pop culture, social media and life from the viewpoint of Millennials. It airs on my YouTube April 2nd. If you’re interested in watching you can check it out on my YouTube or Twitter. I hope you guys like it!

Rainbow Talk

This page is for members of LGBTQ+ and straight allies who want a group they can relate to or be educated about the LGBT community. Many posts will include arguments, problems, support, advice, quotes, stories, and etc. Please follow and make any suggestions by messaging me.

Originally posted by sadlildarling

A Bad Day | Jeon Jungkook x Reader | Ficlet

request from impossiblekimpossible:

“Can you do a Jungkook react to when ur having a bad day? Thank you!!”

pairing: Jeon Jungkook x Reader

genre: Fluff

wordcount: 4489

synopsis: It has been an absolutely shit day for you. When you return home from work, you and Jungkook start your encounter on the wrong foot, souring your day even further - however, he quickly remedies the tension between both of you through nostalgic means.

author’s note: I hope you don’t mind, I took it upon myself to create a ficlet instead of a react, since you requested for only one member! And I hope you don’t mind the career I’d assumed for the reader. Please enjoy! :)

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We talk a lot about Enjolras interrupting his speech to praise Feuilly and I have nothing about it, but what if that weren’t the first time he does something similar? What if he loved his friends so much he just can’t help but say it whenever it comes to his mind?

Like one day he’s discussing education with Combeferre and stops in the middle of a very eloquent argument to say: “Oh, my friend, we’re so lucky that you exist! You’re so kind and wise and caring and you’ll be a great doctor, but you could also become a teacher and all the children would love you deeply!”

Or he’s explaining why monarchy sucks and when he has everyone charmed by his words he exclaims: “My dear Bossuet, you always manage to make me laugh when I’m at my worst and I really wish I could share some of my luck with you because you deserve all the good things in life!”

Or he’s talking about the groups that are ready to join them for the revolution and suddenly he starts to cry and everyone is very worried and ask him if he’s okay or if he wants to rest and continue tomorrow, but he wipes away his tears and says: “No, I’m fine, it’s just that… Have you read the poem Jean Prouvaire wrote last night? It was so beautiful! A gorgeous work of art!”

On callouts, positivity, and fandom

I have spent most of the day (and night- I even slept on it) mulling over whether to post this or not- but in the end I feel like I should say something.

To those who don’t know, a fanfiction writer in our Miraculous Ladybug fandom, deleted her fic due to a callout post which caused a lot of people to swoop in and make vicious, nasty, downright rude comments- a callout post which was made before the OP even contacted the fic author to discuss her work! Luckily I saw some rational, kind arguments from both sides, so I haven’t lost all hope. But I will be addressing the negative sides of this debate.

I am not here to talk about the fic itself, I’m not here to discuss “but Midnight! It was problematic” nope. That’s not part of the discussion. I don’t give a damn because at the end of the day, all I saw was a kind person- trying their best- being bullied. One person against hundreds of people. That’s not fair. That’s not right. Imagine how you would feel if that were you? It should not be happening in our fandom. It would be different if this person was deliberately and willfully spreading vitriol and hatred, spreading problematic ideals with the kind of “eff off I do what I want, I’m right and you’re wrong” mentality I’ve seen others possess- and they had a large enough following to essentially “protect” them. That was not the case here. 

This was a case of someone with a large follower count not thinking through the consequences of their words or actions (but has realised as such now and somewhat apologised) and as a result of their callout, discourse, drama, and bullying happened.

I’m here to take a different approach- one of sympathy and compassion. You all know me, it takes a lot for me to get angry and I scarcely ever comment on things like this. Because I despise drama, discourse, or any other version of “shit stirring” as we Brits like to call it.

But this person? The fanfic writer who was vilified by certain people in fandom? Yeah. She happens to be someone I know- and I had to watch her be utterly humiliated in a public, shameful fashion. That- to me- is completely unacceptable. She is a sweet, kind, caring person new to the world of writing, who was trying really hard to improve despite the fact that English is her THIRD language. She is devastated. Ask yourself how you would feel if something like this happened to you?

And now she’s traumatised enough to feel like she never wants to try writing again, despite the fact that I knew full well she was trying to improve the story (talking to actual people who experienced the content she was trying to write) so she could handle the story in a more realistic way- before she was quite ruthlessly called out and became so upset and embarrassed that she just ended up deleting the whole thing, believing that nobody would like her work ever again and that her fanfic writing career is dead.

The sheer hypocrisy of this website astounds me sometimes. How we can so desperately want to “set a good example” for the young people who follow us, and then proceed to do something as thoughtless as starting a witch hunt against one person? How is that better? How does that improve things? How does it “set a good example” to the young people who follow us? You think something in a community is wrong so you proceed to bully someone until they run away? Great job! What ever happened to constructive criticism? That really made this a safe space didn’t it? NOT.

We, as a fandom, are better than this. We should be lifting each other up, not tearing each other down. See something problematic? Critique, discuss, educate. For the love of god we owe it to each other! The world is a shitty, scary place enough as it is without turning on someone who had good intentions but whose execution was skewed.

Lord knows I’ve been triggered by things before in the past. Horrendously triggered- back when trigger warnings weren’t a thing and there was no way to prepare myself. But I didn’t do anything like this because I was always aware that there’s someone on the other end on the screen. There’s a person there.

And that’s what some people forgot yesterday I think- that on the other side of the screen there was a human being- a human being with different experiences to you, different levels of what they find acceptable, a human being looking at the world from perhaps a different lens to yours and their writing reflected as such.

Fanfic writers, by nature, are an island to themselves. We very rarely have anyone filtering our work. It makes sense to call out films, tv shows, media meant for consumption, because those things were seen by tens, if not hundreds, of people before they went to the viewing/paying public- they had a chance to be edited/problematic points considered. Fanfiction writers don’t have that luxury- so perhaps we should be a little more forgiving no?

Fanfiction writers, just like fan artists, are a part of this community too. They are real people. And, as mentioned before, we should be DISCUSSING and critiquing problematic content like rational, mature adults, setting good examples for the generations after us.

This is the last I’m going to say on the matter before I drop it once and for all. Like I said in an earlier post- this blog is a blog of positivity, of sharing love and spreading happiness to all! I believe, and will ALWAYS believe, in making the Miraculous Ladybug fandom a place where people can feel safe, where we spread joy and lift each other up, where we help each other improve in ways we could never possibly dreamed. I didn’t see that yesterday and that’s a shame. But I know we can keep getting better guys! I know we can make it so something  like this doesn’t happen again. I’ve already talked to the OP of the callout post and it was nice and friendly, and civil in the way I expect this fandom to be. OP has publicly apologised for the nature of the callout post and I’m glad for that! See? It doesn’t have to be so drama-llama-ding-dongy! It can be talky-talky-good-good! ^O^

So let’s all take a deep breath, move on, and continue to make this fandom the best one on tumblr ok? ^_^

I don't often talk about my sexuality

But every cunt trying to bring hate and negativity to Faye’s blog because of her amazing idea of creating an inclusive lgbtq tarot deck is making me want to speak up.

I’m asexual and proud of it. It’s taken a lot to become comfortable with my sexuality because of how invisible and erased it is by all the people saying it doesn’t belong in the LGBT community. We have our own struggles when it comes to being accepted, which means we are oppressed. Saying that we are oppressors is fucking bullshit. I mean sure there may be some problematic people who identify as ace and are oppressors but as a community we are just as valid yet just as erased. Seeing all the hate Faye is getting is hurting my heart. Not only because she is a kind soul who doesn’t deserve it, but also because it’s hateful towards who I am.

Please don’t spread hate. If you have an opinion either keep it to yourself or calmly and politely ask to start up a respectful conversation. You’ll find many in the community will be happy to discuss and educate if you’re polite and willing to try to understand.

ryuichicentric  asked:

I'm writing this because someone whose videos have greatly helped me now needs help. Chase Ross is a youtube vlogger that has basically told his entire transitioning story as well as helped to educate, inform and discuss subjects relevent to the transgender community, something he is passionate about. But now, he is being targeted. There is a petition out to help him be able to continue making a living educating and informing the trans community. (Part 1)

I feel that we here on tumblr can join the petition and hopefully help him out.  If the flagger is willing to target him, who knows who they will decide to target next?  Here is his video and a link to the petition.  Thank you for listening.

https://www.change.org/p/susan-wojcicki-remove-age-restriction-on-chase-ross-s-videos?recruiter=683156222&utm_campaign=signature_receipt&utm_medium=facebook&utm_source=share_petition  

Take It All Back

Part Seven

Summary: Journey starts a new school year. Jensen’s excitement over the baby clouds over Journey’s concerns.
Pairing: Jensen x OFC (Journey)
Word Count: 1780
Warnings: Pregnancy, mild drinking.

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grnblu  asked:

row, i wanted to ask your opinion on the term "white feminism" and how common feminism might exclude women of color and non cis/queer women (ex: women are stonger bc they have periods! or men dont have to think about how they dress when in public!)

Hi! This is such an important thing to be discussing. I have made a very big point at making sure my personal feminism includes everyone- and educating myself and discussing these topics have really helped.

Issues that are commonly thought of as feminist issues include sexual assault, rape, abortion, Planned Parenthood, domestic violence, equal education, and the wage gap. Feminists have also adopted marriage equality and gay/lesbian rights as their issue which is wonderful.

However, with as many issues as feminists have succeeded in adopting, many of us seem to have not accepted the fact that police brutality and race issues are our issues too.

“White feminism” forgets all about intersectional feminism. The way a black woman experiences sexism and inequality is different from the way a white woman experiences sexism and inequality. Likewise with trans-women and Hispanic women. While white women are making 78 cents to the dollar, Native American women are making 65 cents, black women are making 64 cents, and Hispanic women are making 54 cents. Kimberlé Crenshaw said it perfectly in 1989 when she said “The view that women experience oppression in varying configurations and in varying degrees of intensity. Cultural patterns of oppression are not only interrelated, but are bound together and influenced by the intersectional systems of society. Examples of this include race, gender, class, ability, and ethnicity.” This includes trans women especially, who have been robbed of their souls when they are told they are not “real women” It is SO important to protect trans women and trans youth as they are incredibly at risk when it comes to sexual assault and hate crimes. People also seem to forget that black women are victims of police violence too- from Sandra Bland to India Clarke- a trans woman who was beaten to death in Florida just a month ago.

The fact that when Amandla Stenberg wrote this beautiful and truthful piece http://instagram.com/p/5D-u1Vm1c8/ she was automatically labeled the “angry black girl” says enough. We are so quick to applaud white women for commenting on race issues/discussions like #BlackLivesMatter, and #SayHerName, but when a black girl comments on it- she is told she is overreacting or being angry.

Comments like the ones you mentioned in your question drive me insane. I have personally seen men get called gay/ f**/ pu*** for wearing anything even remotely feminine. Gay is simply not an insult. Also, let’s not forget that black men cannot wear hoods without being stereotyped as thugs.

To only acknowledge feminism from a one sided view when the literal DEFINITION is the equality of the sexes is not feminism at all. We need to be talking about this more. Discussion leads to change. Xo, Row