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Star: *To Marco* Youuu get to be my general.

Marco: Thanks…

Me: Wait a minute… General? MY general? MY GENERAL?! SHE CALLED HIM HER GENERAL! NOT ‘THE’ GENERAL. 'MY’ GENERAL!

Now notice the fact there is no king mentioned in the book or seen in the reenactment. This may mean the first king of Mewni was the queen’s general before they took over the land!

AND WHAT DID STAR CALL MARCO?! HER GENERAL!

Also notice the way Star calls Marco her general. I rest my case.

(This theory makes almost no sense)

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Magical Muslim-Monsters, Romani, Black Women and Latina Stereotypes

Anonymous asked: 

Okay so i am working on several stories with POC characters. I feel like a few of them may be tropes but i’ve checked and they don’t seem to match any? 

Magical Muslim and Monster Tropes

in one story there’s a trio of magical girls. one of them is a Muslim girl who was cursed into a spider creature. she is ashamed of this and views it negatively. would this relate to any monster Muslim stereotypes? she doesn’t drink blood. she rarely uses her magic, only if she absolutely has to.

Sassy Black Stereotypes in Children

in the second story there’s a trio of sisters. they are all Black and the daughters of the personification of heaven. the first sister is very young, only 7 or 8. she is very loud and sort of bold, i don’t want her to come across as a “sassy Black girl” stereotype, because later on she reveals she is only that way because her oldest sister doesn’t care for her as much as she should. the middle sister is a teenager, like 16, and spends a lot of time on her phone. she cares very much for her little sister. she doesn’t get along too well with the oldest sister either because she didn’t take care of their younger sister. she kind of fits the white girl starbucks stereotype but is shown to be caring and gentle on a regular basis. their oldest sister is disconnected and not really sure how to be a good sister after their mother left, but she tries her hardest. i think the second 2 characters are okay but im not sure about the first one.

Greedy Latina Stereotypes

in the last story (its fantasy) the entire main cast are POC. first off theres the main heroine. she is indigenous Guatemalan of Mayan descent. she lives in a village in England. She wears English style clothes and armor and speaks English, even though Spanish is her first language. she wants to fit in so people with see her as a hero, because being a hero is her goal in life. throughout the story she slowly starts reconnecting with her Guatemalan roots, like speaking Spanish more and wearing her mother’s huipils on occasions. at the very end of the story she has learned to preserve her parent’s culture while living in England. i don’t want her to come across a negative latina stereotype of liking money and being sort of greedy. (she is strong and kinda punk as well)

Romani Elf 

one of her friends is an elf and Romani with albinism. she isn’t an elf because shes albino or albino because she’s an elf, she’s just an albino elf. she can’t use magic as well as her brother can so i think that avoids “magical albino” but is there any issue with her being Romani? i couldnt find much in your tags on Romani in fantasy. what could i do to show her living a traditional Romani life without using stereotypes? (i know it may not make much sense for an elf to be Romani, but she is because of the way elves work in this world. i wont go into detail but basically elves are sort of seen as higher beings and since her parents chose to live with a group of Romani people, their children were born Romani.)

Saudi Arabian Djinn

2 of the side characters are a Tahitian mermaid (cookiecutter shark) who mostly acts a guide. at one point she tricks the first girl mentioned by leading her off and taking her valuables. im pretty sure that’s not a stereotype however. the other side character is a Saudi Arabian djinn who is not Muslim. she’s a traditional djinn, is there something wrong with her being Saudi and not Muslim? 

Motherly Black Queen and Angry Black Woman

And finally the 2 characters that i think are sort of problematic but i cant pinpoint why. The queen is a Black woman, she is very motherly towards her subjects but this is because she is the queen and she’s sort of the sad about it, like the subjects dont know how much empathy she has for them. she is very mysterious and magical. her counterpart is the villain, another Black woman who is connected to fire. she is the sun, basically, and shown to be abusive to the elf’s brother who had the stone her spirit was trapped in for a long time. she uses a lot of big, fancy words. she is so angry because she was trapped in the stone for so long, i dont want to play her as an angry Black woman stereotype though.

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Although this was written a while ago, I feel this makes some really great points (and, perhaps some dated ones)!

TL;DR: No matter if you’re in an egalitarian or hierarchical style relationship, it’s important to treat everyone in the polycule with respect and validation :)