edit: drama

tag urself im harry supposedly writing a song about a girl he had a one-night stand with in jamacia/california but PLOT TWIST!! he’s had a Serious And Private Relationship with a girl named Tess for a while but WAIT there’s another plot twist!! he’s still in love with Taylor Swift because Two Ghosts is obviously about her BUT WAIT there’s ANOTHER plot twist because he said he wrote majority of the album for Kendall!!!

but anyway. The story wasn’t about just a filipino issue. Slavery happens not just in the PH, but in countries across the globe. Stop making this just about the Philippines. Stop making this about your ~*~*~culture~*~*~ that Westerners can’t understand, or that literal slavery should be taken in a “cultural” context. How dare you.

This is about her. Eudocia Tomas Pulido.

This is about how she was brought back to her family in tupperware. How she spent the majority of her life in slavery, serving a family that treated her like a passable object. 

How, even after death, people are disregarding her story in favor of humanizing her slavers.

thoughts on safe lists

Context: There is a tumblr page that started to build up a list of recs for fics that do not contain certain tropes, and a list of authors that write those tropes so that people could avoid them.

I’m not on the list of authors to avoid, nor did I participate in the construction of that list, so I’m (mostly) leaving the discussion there to others.

But I was on the list of recommended authors, and I had a little verified check mark next to my blog name indicating that I was “safe” to follow because my blog did not talk about any of the tropes. And I have feelings about that, because…you know what? Nobody showed me the list of tropes to be avoided and asked me if I was safe.

I’m a big fan of letting people hate what they hate, and letting people love what they love, within the generalized confines of modern small-l liberalism. I absolutely support people in their desire to identify things they hate and avoid them, and I support people who love that thing loving it, and things tend to work best if lovers and haters get separate rooms. (The confines of small-l liberalism end when someone loves going into someone else’s room and messing with their shit. Don’t do that.) I support tags and blacklists and blocking liberally.

I am old and salty as fuck, so trust me I understand hatred. I also understand that life’s too damned short to waste trying to convince people to hate things they love or love things they hate.

But that’s why creating a list of “safe” authors without consulting those authors is not a great choice. You’re putting me in a room without asking me if I want to be in it.

If you want to put an author on a list as having a “safe” blog to follow for X thing, there is only one way to know if the author is safe for that thing, and that’s to look at the author’s words about that thing. I don’t think I’ve used words to express my opinion about any of the things on that list either way on this blog.

As it is, I happen to love femslash Victor/Yuuri. And multiple A/B/O fics. And multiple fics with stripper AUs and sexwork. All of those things were on the list of bad things to block people for. When I saw the list, I instantly recognized authors I’ve read and loved–@dadvans @forovnix @lazulisong @sparklingwaterbabie @yuurisvictor @phoenixwaller @savour-y @astoryaboutwar at a first glance, and surely many more if I deep-dived and actually clicked on all the URLs.

By putting me on a “safe” list without consulting me, you’re putting me in a position where if I ever reblog something, or squee about a fic I like, I’m going to be making someone who felt like they were in a safe space feel attacked. I don’t want to do that. 

If you are harmed by seeing a thing, please use the ask box instead of assuming that I also don’t like the thing. Telling people I’m safe for X thing when you haven’t verified is a dick move both to the people you’re telling and to me.

TL;DR ASK PEOPLE INSTEAD OF ASSUMING THEY HATE THE SAME THINGS THAT YOU DO.

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minhyuk ♡ bongsoon

↳ fell in love (at first sight) → became friends → dated → got engaged → got married → became parents