There is no definitive way to learn to love yourself. There is no plan containing steps that you meticulously follow, with self love and confidence promised after 21 days. Self love results from the most minuscule actions: acknowledging that you look good, unfollowing that girl who’s “perfection” and causes mentally exhausting comparison, or eating a salad followed by a huge cookie because it’s what you’re craving. Stop apologizing for your appearance, accept the fact that who you are, not what you look like, defines you.
You are allowed to take up space. You are allowed to have a voice. You are allowed to say that you look good and post that selfie. Do not shrink yourself for others’ insecurities. Confidence is not the same as conceitedness, and do not let people threatened by the fact that you are comfortable in your skin lace your journey to self love with cries of vanity and narcissism.
Remember that not every day will be sunshine and smiles. You will have days where you loathe every inch of you, but on those days you will tackle the world anyways because you have flaws but those flaws are what make you beautiful, even though society has told you that your imperfections are there to be fixed.
Self love is not something that you accomplish and never think about again. You have to choose every day to love yourself. It may seem like an impossible choice, and it may seem like this world is against you. But be radical, take the leap, and watch your life change, in both the biggest and smallest of ways.