ecouragement

What I’ve learned about love:

Grow with each other. Learn from one another, change with one another, and embrace all of life’s crazy uncertainties by each others side.

Love is messy. It’s full of tears, doubts, late nights arguing over nothing, anger, and a tad more fighting. Don’t worry though, it’s okay.

Stop worrying so much. I’m guilty of this one a lot. whoops. Don’t think about where you’ll be in five years, or what he meant when he said “It’s fine”, or if you’re doing everything right, because odds are you’re wasting time with most beautifully, wonderful person in front of you, by worrying.

Be thankful. Just remind yourself in the little moments of waiting in line together, or when he kisses your cheek, or sends you a funny picture that you are thankful to have him in your life. It’s the simplest thing, but it’s a daily reminder that helps put things into perspective.

Communicate. Talk through your problems, insecurities, fears, doubts, etc, instead of sitting in silence expecting him to suddenly figure out why you’re upset. He is not a mind reader, and you’re only going to get more upset and ruin your night. Get into the routine of discussing things, rather than always arguingabout it. If you discuss the issue, then it feels less intimidating.

Don’t compare your relationship. It’s so easy for us to sit on our phones, see a cute couple picture with some poetically worded caption, and think that their relationship is perfect and ours isn’t. When in reality, behind every perfectly posed Instagram photo is a messy love, just like everyone else’s.

Do the little things. Remind him how much you love him randomly. Leave him a note in his car with a silly message. Bring him his favorite food when he’s had a long day. Go through his hair/rub his back, (they like it just as much as us girls).  

Be selfless. Think of him and his needs and how you can continually strive to meet them, because you love him. It is more than just you now. Love is a compromise at times.

Learn how they feel loved. We all feel love differently. Some of us feel it through words of encouragement, some of us through gifts/gestures, others through physical touch, and so on. But once you learn how your partner feels loved you can greatly improve how you interact with each other. This will help get rid of those little fights over nothing that you end up regretting the next day.

Be patient. Be patient through the long nights full of mini meltdowns that happen to all of us. Remember that you too will have a bad night, and will need him by your side.

Encourage each other. We all have dreams and aspirations in life and one of the most wonderful feelings is when you know your partner supports you 110%. When they’re having moments of doubt, remind them how great they are and how capable they are of reaching their goals. Be their biggest fan.

Remember that love is precious. Think back to when you first met. Now think about all the butterflies he gave you till you wanted to puke. How you would talk for hours till you fell asleep on the phone. The first time you kissed. Remember that feeling you had when you left his house, like life couldn’t possibly get better than this..but then somehow it did? Please, don’t get caught up in life’s routine to wind up forgetting that feeling.

Love is worth it. He is worth it.

Fandom manipulation

This is what my Industry Anon submitted about fandom manipulation as promised and as a lot of people asked. It’s all under the cut, I ecourage you to read it, because as there are things we know, you need to read it to actually realize they are there. It’s, again, brilliantly explained and will help you understand what’s going on. Be careful, though, I’ve been asked to think about what I am going to post so that’s why it is nder the cut, as people can be affected by this. Be careful. To me, it’s definitely worth the read, though. You can read other asks from this anon here, where is almost slightly explained where they have the info from etc. (again I can’t confirm who this person is, and they mention to take everything with grain of salt as well, but it goes with what I know, definitely.)

Keep reading

Little Christian meme encouragement for your sabbath day. Btw, I’ve been hearing this on KLOVE and by the way their emphasizing it i swear it’s a reference. Anyone else notice this?

Invisible
  • Invisible
  • Hunter Hayes
Play

So many people on Tumblr NEED to hear this. Here are the amazing lyrics:

Crowded hallways are the loneliest places for outcasts and rebels
Or anyone who just dares to be different
And you’ve been trying for so long to find out where your place is
But in their narrow minds, there’s no room for anyone who dares to do something different
Oh, but listen for a minute

Trust the one who’s been where you are wishing all it was was sticks and stones
Those words cut deep but they don’t mean you’re all alone
You’re not invisible
Hear me out, there’s so much more to life than what you’re feeling now
Someday you’ll look back on all these days and all this pain is gonna be
Invisible
Oh, invisible

So your confidence is quiet
To them quiet looks like weakness but you don’t have to fight it
Cause you’re strong enough to win without the war
Every heart has a rhythm, let yours beat out so loudly
That everyone can hear it, yeah, promise you don’t need to hide it anymore
Oh, and never be afraid of doing something different
Dare to be something more

Trust the one who’s been where you are wishing all it was was sticks and stones
Those words cut deep but they don’t mean you’re all alone
You’re not invisible
Hear me out, there’s so much more to life than what you’re feeling now
Someday you’ll look back on all these days and all this pain is gonna be
Invisible
Oh, invisible

These labels that they give you just ‘cause they don’t understand
If you look past this moment, you’ll see you’ve got a friend
Waving a flag, for who you are, and all you’re gonna do
Yeah, so here’s to you and here’s to anyone who’s ever felt invisible

Yeah
You’re not invisible
Hear me out, there’s so much more to life than what you’re feeling now
Yeah, someday you’ll look back on all these days and all this pain is gonna be
Invisible
It’ll be invisible

Crowded Hallways are the loneliest places for outcasts and rebels Or anyone who just dares to be different

And you’ve been trying for so long to find out where your place is
But in their narrow minds, there’s no room for anyone who dares to do something different
Oh, but listen for a minute

Trust the one who’s been where you are wishing all it was was sticks and stones
Those words cut deep but they don’t mean you’re all alone
You’re not invisible
Hear me out, there’s so much more to life than what you’re feeling now
Someday you’ll look back on all these days and all this pain is gonna be… Invisible
Oh, invisible

So your confidence is quiet
To them quiet looks like weakness but you don’t have to fight it
Cause you’re strong enough to win without the war
Every heart has a rhythm, let yours beat out so loudly
That everyone can hear it, yeah, promise you don’t need to hide it anymore
Oh, and never be afraid of doing something different
Dare to be something more

Trust the one who’s been where you are wishing all it was was sticks and stones
Those words cut deep but they don’t mean you’re all alone
You’re not invisible
Hear me out, there’s so much more to life than what you’re feeling now
Someday you’ll look back on all these days and all this pain is gonna be… Invisible
Oh, invisible

These labels that they give you just 'cause they don’t understand
If you look past this moment, you’ll see you’ve got a friend
Waving a flag, for who you are, and all you’re gonna do
Yeah, so here’s to you and here’s to anyone who’s ever felt invisible

Yeah….
You’re not invisible
Hear me out, there’s so much more to life than what you’re feeling now
Yeah, someday you’ll look back on all these days and all this pain is gonna be… Invisible
It’ll be invisible


Source: http://www.directlyrics.com/hunter-hayes-invisible-lyrics.html

Word of encouragement:

Get deep in God’s will and he’ll blow your mind. Let the past go so you can really focus on your future. Dream those dreams again, let your actions speak louder than your words (faith needs action). Don’t take anymore negative company with you on this journey. Smile again! It’s ok to do so. Love you all and let’s get busy doing something productive.

A notice for those who feel depressed, hopeless, etc.

Hello!! I want to say that you’re awesome and loved and really cool and I hope you have a great day or night!! Don’t think that there isn’t any hope or that you’re alone, because there IS hope and there ARE people who know what you’re going through. I have been feeling down lately and I didn’t want anyone else to feel down so I made this to let you know how awesome you are!! I love you and stay strong!! We can get through this together and overcome!! Have an amazing and wonderful day or night

anonymous asked:

I want to be immobile and I feel very self-conscious about it. What do you think about it?

I’m interpreting this in two different ways, so I guess I’ll give two answers.

Feeling anxiety or discomfort over your fantasies or kinks, is a perfectly natural reaction to the world we live in. With regards to gaining or feederism, you get the sharp end of both kinkshaming and fat-antagonism. So really, it’s not surprising if you feel like something’s ‘wrong’ with you or there are things you have to hide about yourself. But there’s nothing wrong with having whatever obscure or unusual kinks you might have, we’re all people of different colors, cultures, languages, shapes, sizes, tastes, orientations, likes and dislikes and we shouldn’t be made to feel ashamed of them if they aren’t harmful to anyone else.

The other way I’m interpreting this, is that you would feel self-conscious about having a very large, immobile body. To which I would suggest, build up a network of friends and supporters who understand you. It’s your body and no one has the right to make you feel like you can’t decide what to do with it. If you want a really fat body, that’s your decision and if you decide later that you want to be a different shape or size, that’s your decision too. There may be people in your life that you have to ignore, or that you have to cut out of your social circle (I’m not suggesting that you isolate yourself, however), if they make you feel ashamed of your body, your decisions or your lifestyle.

In short, I think it’s wonderful that you want to be a beautiful deity of lard and gluttony. I say go for it. <3