What I’ve learned about love:
Grow with each other. Learn from one another, change with one another, and embrace all of life’s crazy uncertainties by each others side.
Love is messy. It’s full of tears, doubts, late nights arguing over nothing, anger, and a tad more fighting. Don’t worry though, it’s okay.
Stop worrying so much. I’m guilty of this one a lot. whoops. Don’t think about where you’ll be in five years, or what he meant when he said “It’s fine”, or if you’re doing everything right, because odds are you’re wasting time with most beautifully, wonderful person in front of you, by worrying.
Be thankful. Just remind yourself in the little moments of waiting in line together, or when he kisses your cheek, or sends you a funny picture that you are thankful to have him in your life. It’s the simplest thing, but it’s a daily reminder that helps put things into perspective.
Communicate. Talk through your problems, insecurities, fears, doubts, etc, instead of sitting in silence expecting him to suddenly figure out why you’re upset. He is not a mind reader, and you’re only going to get more upset and ruin your night. Get into the routine of discussing things, rather than always arguingabout it. If you discuss the issue, then it feels less intimidating.
Don’t compare your relationship. It’s so easy for us to sit on our phones, see a cute couple picture with some poetically worded caption, and think that their relationship is perfect and ours isn’t. When in reality, behind every perfectly posed Instagram photo is a messy love, just like everyone else’s.
Do the little things. Remind him how much you love him randomly. Leave him a note in his car with a silly message. Bring him his favorite food when he’s had a long day. Go through his hair/rub his back, (they like it just as much as us girls).
Be selfless. Think of him and his needs and how you can continually strive to meet them, because you love him. It is more than just you now. Love is a compromise at times.
Learn how they feel loved. We all feel love differently. Some of us feel it through words of encouragement, some of us through gifts/gestures, others through physical touch, and so on. But once you learn how your partner feels loved you can greatly improve how you interact with each other. This will help get rid of those little fights over nothing that you end up regretting the next day.
Be patient. Be patient through the long nights full of mini meltdowns that happen to all of us. Remember that you too will have a bad night, and will need him by your side.
Encourage each other. We all have dreams and aspirations in life and one of the most wonderful feelings is when you know your partner supports you 110%. When they’re having moments of doubt, remind them how great they are and how capable they are of reaching their goals. Be their biggest fan.
Remember that love is precious. Think back to when you first met. Now think about all the butterflies he gave you till you wanted to puke. How you would talk for hours till you fell asleep on the phone. The first time you kissed. Remember that feeling you had when you left his house, like life couldn’t possibly get better than this..but then somehow it did? Please, don’t get caught up in life’s routine to wind up forgetting that feeling.
Love is worth it. He is worth it.