east asian men

anonymous asked:

Um the "slaves" u talk about in the middle east are not tricked into anything, they willingly come and sign up for a job cuz either they can't get one at home, or other reasons. And these "pennies" you speak of are enough for them to build a mansion.

(Here) you can learn about how the migrant workers you claim are being treated well and are being paid enough to build mansions themselves protested against their lack of pay and abuse–and how their employers, instead of listening to their demands, insisted that they go home. 

(Here) you can hear from not one but tens of thousands of south/east asian and african men and women that attest to being tricked into coming to Dubai, they will tell you about how their passports were taken from them upon landing, and how they were they told that their first six months of work would be pay-less. They will tell you about how they were told that their living conditions would be spotless and comfortable, and their shock at discovering the reality of the actual living conditions. 

(Here) you can hear about how a sixteen year old Nepalese boy died of cardiac arrest while working under conditions that no human should ever be forced to work in. You can also hear about how Nepalese men make up the largest proportion of migrant workers but are the least paid. In this documentary you can hear from men that were promised a salary of 800 dollars, but were told they would be paid less than $300 when they landed. You can again hear about how their passports were withheld from them. 

(Here) you can learn about the number of migrant workers in Qatar that are going to die working under inhumane conditions before the first match for the Qatar World Cup even kicks off. 

1-2 Nepalese migrant workers have died every single day since construction has begun–and that’s just one demographic of the hundreds of thousands of migrant workers. 

(Here) you can learn about how migrant workers are forced to work for 12 hours a day under life threatening conditions, all day every day and sometimes for no pay at all. 

(Here) you can learn about how migrant workers were refused water until they worked a certain amount of hours, how their passports were taken from them so they would not leave, how they had to escape their camps and go to their embassies to escape the brutality of their employers. 

Let’s talk about the nepalese boy again–he left his family in Nepal to go to Qatar so he could pull them out from their state of poverty. It was only weeks later that he returned to the same family in a coffin. Do you know what it takes to induce cardiac arrest in a 16 year old, healthy boy? Do you know what kind of physical peril a 16 year old child has to go through to die of cardiac arrest? 

There are 1.3 million migrant workers in Qatar right now that bear the brunt of mistreatment and that have built Qatar from nothing. And what are they given in return? Shallow graves? close to nothing for pay? 12 hour work days in up to 50 C degree weather? What mansions are you deluding yourself with? The Gulf States do not and have not ever cared about migrant workers, they treat them like they are subhuman, the failure to pay them is documented and well known. The fact that these men are tricked into thinking that they will be paid larger amounts, live in better conditions is documented and well known. The face that these men are forced into working under perilous conditions every day is documented and well known. The migrant workers that you claim are being treated well have themselves protested their abuse. What are you getting by making it seem as if these workers are treated better than they are? Why are you so uncomfortable when faced with the reality that these people are treated like machinery? (1, 2, 3

monstergirlsclub  asked:

Hi! I have a question about avoiding stereotypes. I have an east asian male character who has anxiety and has a more timid and gentle personality. Is this too stereotypical if it's just his natural personality? He also stands up for himself and his loved ones and isn't just shy all the time. Part of his character arch is about him overcoming anxieties the effects of emotional abuse. Should I change his personality or is there a way I can still have him be like that but not be too stereotypical?

Timid Gentle East Asian Male Character 

I think this is fine the way it is. Sadly, emotional abuse CAN be a thing in Asian families, and some of the cultural mores have actually contributed to how I react to certain situations.

I feel like this question also falls into the trap of “you can’t write an Asian being an Asian archetype because that’d be a stereotype” (ex: casting in Iron Fist). 

Timid, gentle East Asian people do exist. The issue is whether or not you can write them as a realized human being instead of just relying on those characteristics because those are supposedly “Asian” things. Think of how else you can round out the character, and it’ll be fine.

–Jess

  • Me: there is something ethereal and breathtaking about men in turtlenecks that make me go aww every time I see them
  • Cousin: you like men in general so stop acting all deep and poetic

me: defaulting characters of color as only aro/ace is racist because it upholds the idea that people of color are incapable of being complex human beings as well as the idea that our love and desires are shameful, which especially harmed and still does harm black americans, for example, when black couples were not allowed to be affectionate in public under jim crow. black characters, especially black women, are mistreated by fandoms the moment they become love interests. east and southeast asian men are socially ostracized because they are constantly desexualized and when they are seen as sexual, they are fetishized. although aro/ace people of color do exist and are valid, they are not the default because people of color are not a monolith. white fans, especially content creators, need to deconstruct and examine the way they view, draw, and write characters of color.

one of you demons: um??? aerf?

anonymous asked:

u mamamoo fans are always fucking protecting them even with all the stupid shit they do. even as white girl i can see that they appropriated the bindi. u fucking whore.

i wasnt going to answer this because, as a general rule, i dont post rude anons on my blog but this really bothered me. so im going to break this down for you.

1. What Mamamoo wore was NOT a bindhi - it was an Urna. We know this because of the lyrics in Aze Gag. Now an Urna, according to Google (and my mom), is a spiral or circular dot placed on the forehead of Buddhists and is very often seen on east and south asian art work. It is not constricted to one specific culture, but the religion as a whole. So many east asian women and men who practise are seen wearing urnas:

ex 1 (this is specific to Korea, I believe):

ex 2:


Fun fact, everyone in my family are practising Buddhists. we love it when people look and recognize our culture and religion. I showed the mv to my parents because i wanted their input. my mom laughed and my dad said they looked cute.

Another fun fact, Solar is also Buddhist. If she wanted to wear the urna and let her friends wear an urna. that’s that. nothing to say. nothing to do. If you are insulted because they wore urnas and are buddhist, you have every right to be and can unstan them. its ur right.

2.  Again, what they wore was NOT a bindhi. ANOTHER FUN FACT: i am from India - born and raised who now lives in Canada! I’m not exactly sure about other South asian countries because ive never been there but in India,  the traditional meaning of the bindi is extinct (i dont even know what it means), it’s more a fashion accessory than a religious thing.

Also, most Indians LOVVVEEEE it when foreigners come and try on our kurtis/kurtas and wear bindis and come with us to temples. WE TAKE GREAT PRIDE. i effing love it when i see other people take part and understand it.

this lovely lady does a much better job at explaining this: https://twitter.com/stravaganxo/status/877490121443913729

Again, Mamamoo were not wearing bindis and even if they were it would not be a problem to Indians living in India. However, if you are South Asian and you felt uncomfortable with the fact, you have every right to be and can unstan them. 

3. GURL YOU ARE WHITE YOU HAVE ZEROOO BUSINESS IN THIS MATTER. TAKE YOUR WHITE ASS HOME. YOUR OPINION IS UNWARRANTED, UNNECERARY AND ANNOYING.

4. Was is really necessary to curse? you could have easily written your opinion in a dignified manner - even if youre angry or upset, name-calling is not the way go.

5. Like I’ve mentioned before, as an indian buddhist i was not offended by what Mamamoo did at all. But if YOU were, that is completely youre right (BUT ONLY IF YOU ARE BUDDHIST OR SOUTH ASIAN). You can unstan them but please just stop leaving hate everywhere, telling them to die, etc. it’s just horrible. If you are from a different culture, religion, etc you can ALSO unstan them - its completely your choice! just stop butting in with ur opinions when you dont know the true culture or know all the facts.

thank you. sorry for any mistakes, i wrote this when i was very upset. 

anonymous asked:

What are some Myers Briggs personality types that you'd like to see more POC written as (or not written as)?

Characters of Color: Personality Types we’d like to See

Hi,

What your question really seems to get at is what personality traits we as People of Color would like to see ourselves in. We think using the Briggs personality type as a base to create develop characters is a good idea, .though note that most people don’t fit 100% in one type and there will likely be overlap.

Resources

A great way to learn what sort of roles People of Color are wanting to see themselves in is to consume media by said PoC. Another resource would be our POC Profiles in which submitters share everything from their home lives, culture as well as the roles they’d like to see more for themselves. WWC Mods also created a Mod Wishlist of the type of characters we’d like to read about.

Read the grievances within fandoms of what writers are doing wrong (and right) in media with characters of color as well. For Black characters, for example, and across several shows you’ll find people take issue with Black women being Strong Black Women + Mammy types, not expected to be helped or show a range of emotion yet always expected to save herself and exert energy towards others.

And while it it doesn’t directly deal with a specific personality type, it’s what I (Colette) have noticed all too much in the shows I’ve watched with Black women. All the focus is on our strengths and sacrifice, not so much on our weaknesses and the range of emotion we experience. Sometimes we want the romance, softness, and the saving too and it’s not a bad thing. 

Overall, I just want to see a wide variety of Characters of Color with all sorts of personality types in various roles, and definitely some that directly contrast with the stereotypes we’re smashed into the most.

Personalities We’d Like to See

Though a lot of our perspectives on this, again, can be found in the mod wishlist, some of us had further opinions to share.

Jewish Characters

Shira: Fictional Jewish men could stand to be “stronger” every once in a while, and when our women are depicted as strong it’s nice to see that as a positive instead of some kind of hellish negative. 

Native Characters

Lesya: I’d like to see more E types for Natives, and more rational types. Natives often get stuck in the “so emotionally sensitive” and “I love being alone with nature” boats that it gets really flat. Not all of us are feelings-people, and not all of us are loners. It just really shows how the Noble Savage still has alive roots in modern representation.

Black Characters

Najela: I would like to see more introverted Black women. There’s this stereotype that Black women are only loud and outspoken, but there’s this whole other side that gets neglected when Black women are quiet and softspoken. I would just like to see a wider range of Black women with different personality types.

Colette: I wholeheartedly agree with you, Najela. I’d like to see more Black women who are tender, gentle, and shy (and not just to be utilized in a maternal way either). I want to see the same with Black men. So often Black people are typecast as brazen and bold, natural performers and entertainers. While some of us are and it’s great, this neglects a whole other side of Black people that aren’t like that and yet we’re somehow all expected to fit the same role. People are often surprised and express how “Sweet and quiet” I am before I get to know them, and I just can’t tell what is making them so surprised by that! 

Additionally, being shy or quiet doesn’t make one a pushover or unable to speak for themselves so that part is definitely optional.

East Asian Characters

Jess: Yeah, I mean–I’d like to see less ~submissive~ East Asians, or just a more well-rounded spectrum. For women it seems to be either delicate flower or Dragon Lady, without anything in between. 

South Asian Characters

Nikhil: As far as character types, I’d like to see more Indian characters in leadership roles.  These are usually E–J types, though INTJ is often called the “Mastermind” or the “Architect.”  My biggest peeve about the portrayal of Indian/South Asian characters in media is that we’re usually “small” characters, nerds and followers, ready to kowtow to the biggest baddest thing in the room.  As someone who has a leadership role at his job, I’d love to see someone who looks like me calling the occasional shot in fiction (and not just as the group leader in a novel set in South Asia, where everyone is South Asian—that’s cheating).

I could actually get behind a well-written Indian supervillain-type character. The joke is that ENTJ is the Myers-Briggs type for a supervillain, and given that the only thing we’ve got so far in Western media is Aasif Mandvi in that atrocious The Last Airbender movie, I could totally get behind an Indian- or South Asian-coded villainous character whose background is more than a cartoon.

Related to this is my more general complaint about a dearth of Badassery in South Asian representation.  As I said above, we’re usually shown as nerds, but even then moments of even smarts-driver badassery are few and far between.  South Asian mythology and history and full of Crazy Awesome (beheading people with chariot wheels, one mostly naked guy fighting off the Pakistani Army with only grenades and a bayonet, just to give a few examples), but we never see stuff like that in fiction.  That new series Quantico looks kind of interesting.  I don’t know if it’s supposed to be any good or not, but Priyanka Chopra as a half-Indian female BAMF at least got my attention.

–WWC

Followers, please share the personality types you’d to see irt Characters of Color!

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EAST ASIAN MYTHOLOGY MEME:

[7/8] JAPANESE GODS AND GODDESSES | IZANAGI

Izanagi (recorded in the Kojiki as 伊邪那岐) is the god of the sky in Japanese Shinto mythology. Izanagi (“the male who invites”) is also a creation deity, who along with his spouse and sister Izanami (“the female who invites”), were given the task of creating the world.

Izanagi and Izanami produced numerous islands and deities. In the act of giving birth to the fire god Kagu-tsuchi, Izanami was fatally burned and went to Yomi-no-kuni, the underworld. Izanagi followed her there, hoping to retrieve her, but she had already eaten the food of that place, rendering her return impossible. Izanami compelled her husband not to look at her. However, he betrayed his promise and lit up a fire, only to behold in her monstrous and hellish state. To avenge her shame, she dispatched Raijin, the god of thunder, and Shikome, the “Ugly Woman of the Underworld,” to chase after him. Izanagi escaped, but the goddess promised to kill a thousand of his people everyday. Izanagi retorted that a thousand and five hundred would be born everyday.

Izanagi bathed in the sea to purify himself from contact with the dead. As he bathed, a number of deities came into being. The sun goddess Amaterasu was born from his left eye, the moon god Tsukuyomi was born from his right eye, and the storm god Susanoo was born from his nose.

Sexual/Romantic/Aesthetic preferences

Preference: I like women with tattoos

Not a preference: Asian girls are so cute and docile and small and submissive. They are just my fetish.

Preference: I like men with curly hair

Not a preference: I just can’t fuck a black man. They are so scary

Preference: I like women with long legs

Not a preference: I only like black mixed women, they aren’t dark and ugly like black women

Preference: I like men with beards

Not a preference: I just can’t see myself with a Latin man. They are just so short

Fetish: I have a fetish for glasses. I have a hard time cumming unless my partner is wearing glasses

Fetish: I have a fetish for being spanked. I can only cum while being spanked

Not a fetish: black girls, Asian girls, Latina girl, ME girls, black men, Asian men, Latino men, ME men, mixed girls, mixed men. Races are not fucking fetishes, they are identities with distinct cultures and experiences that are not here for your fucking fetish. Stop fetishizing entire races!!

anonymous asked:

Whats examples of fetishizing mlm

ugh, one of my least favorite things. basically what happens when people, usually straight (or occasionally bi) women treat their mlm ships as some sort of kink as opposed to, you know, representation of real, actual mlm.

examples of this:

•not caring about characters who are mlm outside of a sexual context (i.e. only reading mlm smut because they find the idea of two men together “hot” and not actually giving a fuck about the actual personalities or problems of gay characters)

•throwing two male characters that exist within the same universe together just because they will find ANY excuse to write about two men having sex. a lot of rarepairs start out this way. bonus points if they’re both white and neither character has ever shown any interest in men whatsoever!

•referring to mlm ships as “sin” or “the reason i’m going to hell” or whatever. no. gay love is just as wholesome, just as complete, just as complex, just as worthy of respect as any straight couple’s.

•alternatively, referring to gay men as completely nonsexual if they’re not actively engaged in sex, in which case they become completely hypersexual (uwu my precious little baby is so pure but is FILTHY in bed uwu). bonus points if the character isn’t white!

•treating female characters like trash or as obstacles to their OTP

as briefly mentioned above, there’s often a racial aspect to this as well. white men are overwhelmingly favored by fandom at the expense of characters of color, even if the characters of color are far more significant to the story than the white ones (looking at you, star wars fandom). in the rare occasions they show up, black men are either precious sin-free babies or are sex freaks (or both!). east asian men are infantilized. latinx men are hypersexual latin lovers. et cetera. et cetera. et cetera.

beyond making fandom a more uncomfortable space for both mlm and poc, this can have negative real-world applications as well. the racial and homophobic stereotypes often found in fic and fandom both come from and leak into the thoughts and attitudes of the real people who consume and create this content. there are plenty of stories told by real mlm on here about how many straight women in their lives want a gay best friend or freak out about their dating lives. it’s fucked up.

time and time again on here i’ve seen straight women and girls get called out for being homophobic but defend themselves with “but i have so many gay ships!” that’s not how it works. shipping isn’t activism. i’ve seen the same thing happen with racism in fandom from my fellow white people. “i can’t be racist,” says the white person, “i love this character of color!” and then they refuse to look beyond their base love of them to dig into the nuance of the content they create or consume, and how it may harm people of color.

this is not to say that no one on here can make mistakes. mistakes are inevitable. i’ve certainly made many myself. but the best way to remedy them is not to speak, not to defend, but to listen. listen to mlm (or people who are otherwise lgbtq) when they say you’re being homophobic or fetishizing them. listen to people of color when they tell you that something is racist. i know that i wouldn’t be nearly as aware of microaggressions as i am today without the guidance of people of color in fandom, and i know that there is still far more for me to learn. i will not get there by speaking out. i’ll get there by listening.

so listen.

anonymous asked:

My protagonist is asexual, and I would like to make them a POC, but I am am under the understanding that the combination is a harmful trope for certain races. Do you have any knowledge of which races this affects, or advice on how to avoid the character being similar to the stereotype, or am I completely misinformed? Thank you!

Asexual Characters of Color & Tropes

I’ve seen it affect East Asian men, because in media they’re often portrayed as the ‘beta male’ who either lose out or have no interest in sex, and if they’re not comic relief, they’re usually geeky retiring types. What you have to remember is that both East Asians and asexual people are both incredibly diverse groups and not a monolith, so do research on both (and how the trope is harmful), and have people from both groups look over your work.

Having said that, East Asian asexuals do exist, and since I’m allosexual, if any of the followers fall into the above category, they are more than welcome to chime in!

—mod Jess

Even if there’s a harmful trope in combination of poc + asexual, which i’m not sure which ones those might be, though the word you might mean is “desexualized” the thing is; there are asexual people in every race. And there’s nothing negative about that.

Now, in relation to Black women, there’s a lot of desexualization of Black women in media, fandom, and life that dates backs to slavery. Think your “mammy” type. Your “Strong Black woman who don’t need no man.” The mammy is a caricature of a Black woman who’s wholly devoted to the White family she cares for, with no sexuality or appeal to tempt the husband, making her the perfect fit. “Strong independent Black women” is another trope dating back to slavery, denying Black women their femininity.

Because women are frail things; how can one submit them to the hard work of a slave? Well, if Black women are something closer/interchangable with a man…then she’s not really a woman at all, thus the justification of Black female slave’s treatment.

How I see the desexualization of Black women played out today is when it’s always a Black women who has to be the “picture of femininity” and remain “strong” and alone while White and Non-Black women are loved, cared for, given a gentle touch. Yet nope, The strong black woman can care for everyone and herself (see how the mammy bleeds into this here) with no need for anyone to think or care for her.

So perhaps a completely “independent woman” is progressive for White women, but not so much Black women and several other WoC, who are often slapped with the friends, or just “bros” roles, and denied tender care or romance in the media we see.

That’s not to say independence is bad on any woman, Black or no, nor that it’s not a reality for some. It’s just a trap to be stuffed into this role every single time. Plus the opposite of independent doesn’t need to be dependent. I think interdependence is key.

I’m not sure what race your main character is, but asexual doesn’t equal incapable of love and friendship or in return being loved and befriended. I suggest staying away from making them a completely self-efficient character who is denied companionship and people who care for them.

Also I’d suggest researching asexuality, preferably pieces written by asexual poc, to get a feel more of how relationships might work out and the representation they’d like to see, as it’ll vary.

~Mod Colette

Shout out to: FAT ASIAN MEN!!!!!!!

You are fucking beautiful. I’m talking central Asian men, East Asian men, North Asian men, Southeastern Asian men, West Asian men.

My fat Islamic brothers, my fat Hindu brothers, my fat Buddhist brothers, my fat Sikh brothers, my fat Taoist brothers.

The way western culture sees your body has no impact on your faith.

You are fucking glorious. You are so amazing and so handsome.

Male Sheith Fans

I made a post a little while ago asking male fans of Sheith (like myself) why they ship it. I noticed a few trends, so I thought I’d share them here.

Naturally, most of us were drawn to Shiro and Keith’s canonical relationship. They are close friends who seem to have a history together, so it has a lot of appeal as a friends-to-lovers ship. They seem to regard each other as equals, and they only really show their vulnerable sides around each other. User @jimhawkinsismybae even said, “their interactions scream married”.

Also, a lot of male Sheith fans are LGBT (including me). A lot of you said that you see yourselves in and/or project onto either Shiro or Keith, and that Sheith reminds you of your own relationships. (That last part is really sweet, by the way!) It’s common for relationships between East Asian men to be played for titillation (that “Hawt Yaoiz” stuff you see young girls screaming about on anime sites). A lot of us would like for this kind of relationship to be seen as healthy and normal, rather than as a fetish. User @xejoi said that he likes that Sheith doesn’t really play into typical gay stereotypes. Overall, I think Sheith would be a positive representation of a mlm relationship.

Whelp, that’s my little analysis of guys who ship Sheith. What do you think? Do you have anything to add? I’d really like to hear more from you guys!

Angry Girl Review: Eleanor and Park

One time in college I turned in an essay and my professor underlined a sentence I’d written and told me it wasn’t the appropriate register for a university essay and I have crazy respect for her so I tailored my papers for the rest of the semester but this isn’t a university essay so I’ll start off with

WHAT

THE FUCK

WAS THAT

Let’s start with the most glaringly obvious: the racism! 

The sad thing is that half these descriptions are obviously supposed to be flattering except they’re… not… 

Wow ninjas and East Asia what a novel concept wow 

Wow because East Asian men aren’t emasculated in American media at all

THIS KIND OF SPEAKS FOR ITSELF.

by the way this is so very Memoirs of a Geisha-y because Park happens to be a half-Korean kid who LOOKS more Asian than his brother

But Park has green eyes!!!!! so magical!!!! So EXOTIC!!! Also “almond-flavored” please that’s not the most cliched description for Asian eyes in the book

Here have some more grossness around those oh-so-exotic “Asian” eyes

Please let that sink in for a moment. Like Ming the Merciless. Who, as you might know from the Flash Gordon comic, was originally introduced in 1934 and is a pretty clear stand-in for, uh… yellow peril. upon googling, looks like this:

Sooo…. yeah.

But then Park has a couple of self-hating moments where he of course implies that Asian women have it easier:

“White guys think they’re exotic”. And that is flattering why, Park? “Exotic”, really? And Eleanor isn’t exactly doing a great job of not contributing to this harmful mentality when she explicitly thinks that he’s “prettier than any girl”. Again:

But then!!! Eleanor makes it all better!!! By saying this!! In the middle of a STEAMY LOVE SCENE!!!! (which by the way neither steamy nor lovely just creeped me out a lot because of the following passage):

This Othering, this fetishization, does not stop through the entire book. Finally, we get towards the end: 

So no, Eleanor never gets over Othering her boyfriend.

Wait hold on Asian women don’t get a pass either, as Park’s mom is painted as the oppressive parent who doesn’t like “weird white girls”, but according to Eleanor…

 

“his” Dainty China person because of course Park’s mom isn’t a person, but a literal object to be moved and shifted according to the whim’s of Park’s dad, a Korean war vet. 

Here have some more bad stereotyping of Asian women as “thin pretty and petite” and Eleanor’s own self-hatred and fat-shaming:

Black women aren’t exempt from being props to uphold Eleanor either. Her two “friends” at school (I say “friends” in quotes because they don’t really comment on anything except how cute Park is and they all make fun of those OTHER nasty white girls in gym class together), oh, and Rainbow Rowell writes them like this:

“It was an honor that they’d let her into their club”…the “you’re not like THOSE white people club???" 

"I got a man”, REALLY??? 

Park’s “Asian”-ness As Other and He Could Have Been Edward Cullen, What is the Goddamn Difference

I would have felt better if Rainbow Rowell had written Park as a vampire or a werewolf or some other inhuman creature, the stuff of teen girl YA fantasy because a) vampires and werewolves don’t actually exist and therefore you can write them any way you want, albiet cliched, whatever–at least you’re not contributing to some very harmful societal stereotypes. 

Park, as you can see from the previous citations, is written out to be this “edgy” indie boy who wears eyeliner and listens to the Smiths (which wow I rolled my eyes at) and is also a loner at school in and his edginess and “magic” make him stand out in much the same way a vampire or a werewolf or otherwise nonhuman creature would. These descriptions of Park really made me think of Twilight and no, not because they are things that “normal” teen girls say or think but because we’ve seen this archetype of, for lack of better word, “magical boy” that comes barging into sad-manic-pixie-dream-girl’s-but-not-like-the-other-girls’-life and sweeps her off her feet:

How artsy, edgy, and NOT PREPPY, he wears all black.

Who else had a face “like a chiseled marble statue in its perfection”? (psst, it was Edward Cullen)

who else was described as “godlike” “angelic” and all that crap? Vampire boy Edward Cullen. Louis and Lestat and Claudia, all of our favorite too-gorgeous-to-be-real fairytale creatures.

But when you use those kinds of descriptors for a character who is very visibly POC and then give them an uncommon feature like ~green eyes~, do they not become a kind of mythical creature in, the stuff of exotic fantasy? Do they then become dehumanized and not real, only the kind of boyfriend a girl can aspire to get?

The answer, of course, is yes. But dreaming about dating a vampire or a werewolf is so very different and again does not carry the same weight as being hellbent on dating a ~perfect Asian boy~. Because at this point it is not about Park. This is not Park’s story, even though he shares half the title. This is Eleanor’s story, the manic pixie “not like the other girls” girl, with her crazy red hair and her weird clothes and her desire to get away from it all. 

Eleanor’s entire story is painted on a canvas of abuse and neglect and sadness, so of course she needs some magical boy to literally swoop in and save her– at the end, Park takes her to Minnesota where her uncle lives, away from the safety of her stepfather who is out for her blood. Eleanor is the most precious person in the world to Park, so much that he doesn’t care about his family anymore and the only person he cares about is her. How the hell is that any kind of healthy way to have a relationship?

Park’s Asian-ness is only brought up in the context that it is different to what Eleanor is used to, that it is EXOTIC and MAGICAL and because of that she likes him. No, but it’s in the text, where Eleanor openly admits to fetishizing:

I didn’t end up CARING about Eleanor’s family situation at all. Her relationship with her mother was completely one-dimensional, as was the relationship with her siblings and her stepfather. It was almost as though the backstory was there to make Eleanor more sympathetic to the reader, which as a reader I didn’t end up buying because there was literally no depth to any of it.

Similarly, Park’s relationship with his parents is weird and disturbing and also one-sided. His mom speaks broken English and is demure but madly in love with his dad, who, need I remind you, “liberated” her from her oppressive country. Miss Saigon, anyone? Park’s dad is typical American machismo, a simple kinda guy, but at heart a good one. I feel like the PARENTS’ relationship was something I was more interested in than Eleanor or Park, had it not been written like a weird yellow-fever wet dream, where the white dude comes home and just makes out with the Asian woman all the time and she stays home and tends to their perfect house and their perfect family. 

Rainbow Rowell has explicitly stated in an interview that one of her inspirations for writing Eleanor and Park and for making Park Korean was that her father had been in the Korean War:

1. My father served in Korea, in the Army.

This is probably the most obvious explanation.

My parents separated when I was in the second grade, and I never knew my dad that well. I didn’t grow up with him around. But I remember being fascinated by the fact that he was in the military – and stationed in a place where there had been an actual war, even though he was there decades after the worst of it.

There was this photo of him, in uniform, hanging over my grandmother’s coffee table – an unrecognizable teenager with short hair and tiny wire-rimmed glasses.

Every once in a while, if he’d had a few drinks, my dad would talk about the Army. How he signed up at 17 to avoid getting drafted and sent to Vietnam. The Army wouldn’t send a 17-year-old to Vietnam, he said. (I have no idea if this, or much else my dad told me, is true.)

He was especially proud of having protested the Vietnam War while he was in Korea. There was a clipping from a military newspaper with photos of the protest. I was 12 or 13 when he showed me this, and I definitely didn’t get it.

Over the years, I’ve had people tell me I must be confused about my dad, that there weren’t Americans soldiers left in Korea in the ‘70s. But there are still American soldiers in South Korea. We never left.

Anyway, the other thing my dad would talk about, every once in a while, was a girl he’d known in Korea. My mom says he carried this Korean girl’s photo in his wallet for years after he came home. He’d been in love with her; my mom thought he still was.

I used to wonder about that girl. About how he met her. Whether she spoke English. Whether she was his age. Whether it was some secret love affair, or something her friends and family knew about … What if she was his soulmate?

What if fate and circumstance and the U.S. government had come together to deliver my father across the continents to his soulmate – and he just left her there.

He could have stayed, I thought. He could have brought her back. Omaha is a military town; people bring wives and husbands back from all over.

I remember being so angry with him. First for leaving the person he was meant to be with; then for leaving my mom, the person he wasn’t meant to be with; and then for leaving all my brothers and sisters and me in his wake.

So … in Eleanor & Park, Park’s dad gets sent to Korea because his brother has died in combat in Vietnam. He meets his soulmate there. And he brings her home. 

He “liberates” her. And puts her in his pocket like a China Doll, right?

These were only a few selections out of the many, many in the novel. Over and over again we’re slammed in the face with the fact that Park is Asian, he’s half-Korean, but only in the way he looks and almost always in the context of his relationship with Eleanor, never by himself. Half the book is supposedly written from Park’s perspective but he never really introspects on his identity except during that scene when he’s with Eleanor, bitter that there aren’t any “hot Asian guys.” Not even Asian AMERICAN, just “Asian”. As though the author were not aware of the hybrid culture that exists in the country–maybe because Park’s “the only Korean in Omaha?”

What first love story is there to tell? They start off hating each other and he makes her a mixtape and asks if she listens to the Smiths, and given that this book came out after Five Hundred Days of Summer… 

I’m not sure what the point of the book was. To make people want hot Asian boyfriends?

This read like bad Tamora Pierce Circle of Magic Trisana Chandler/Briar Moss AU fic.

anonymous asked:

i thought that the reason everyones all over chowder being 'sweet baby chowder' from bittys twitter like i dont think anyone called him that before bitty himself did?? he has referred to chowder as 'my son, the baby goalie' on there so i think that whole thing started from bitty and not anyone trying to be racist??

bitty did start it, yeah, but that doesn’t mean bitty (a white dude from the south!) is a perfect or infallible character. hell, it doesn’t mean ngozi’s infallible, either. i love check please, but that doesn’t mean i can’t critique it at all. it’s not a perfect comic, even if we’d all love for it to be. no matter what the intent (or lack thereof) is behind anyone’s usage of it–bitty as a character saying it, n as a creator writing it, or the fandom using it–it plays into a negative stereotype of east asian men, and it negatively affects east asian people both in real life and in this fandom. even if someone isn’t TRYING to be racist, that doesn’t mean it doesn’t have racist effects.

at this point, posts explaining why infantilizing chowder is bad are everywhere in this fandom. they’re nigh-unavoidable. it’s possible that some people are truly unaware; if so, then yeah, mistakes can happen, and people can learn from them. but at this point, you can hardly blame people for being suspicious of those who continue to infantilize him and/or refuse to analyze their own actions within this fandom to see how they may be wrong. what’s more, the poc in this fandom shouldn’t have to put up with this bullshit! they should be able to have a fandom experience just as comfortable and stressful as mine would be as a white person. and if they get angry, if they snap, if they don’t want to explain to people for the ten thousandth time why something is racist or hold white people’s hands through it, then they’ve earned that! we aren’t owed their time or explanations, especially when it’s something that they’ve discussed time and time again already.

so, if you have questions about something, i’m not saying you can’t ever ask, but you should do your own research, too. see what people have already written! if it’s already been addressed, try to educate yourself through that instead of asking for a redundant explanation. (this isn’t an attack on you for asking me, anon, i’m usually down to talk, especially given that this is probably way less mentally exhausting for me to deal with as a white person. but i do mean this as general advice, especially given that i am in no way some sort of ultimate authority on fandom racism.)

so, as always: listen first, act second.

snorkmaids  asked:

Hey, idk about the identities of any of the mods here, and i'm white myself so i'm not an ultimate judge of anything - but please be careful not to infantilize Yuuri. I've noticed you often calling him things like "boy" or "pure baby" and generally using a very cutesy tone, and seeing that he's a grown East Asian man, that can very easily contribute into racist tropes. I like this blog and i know you love Yuuri, but please be thoughtful of these issues while doing your thing

A fair point to make and thank you for such polite phrasing.

In defence of this blog, we believe that it is possible both to use this sort of exaggeratedly praising language while recognising that Yuuri is very much a fully grown man and not in any way, shape or form to be belittled or treated like a child.

We hope that it is very clear to everyone who sees our posts that the tone of this blog is not an attempt to condone racist stereotypes about any single person or character. East Asian men are men.

We think Yuuri is cute. We also know he is a highly capable athlete. We find aspects of him adorable, while understanding at the same time that he has a complex inner life that the show went to great lengths to show to us, the viewers. When we choose to praise him in this way, it is not an attempt to wash away his adulthood. However, it is true that we focus strongly on his endearing aspects, and those tend to be framed in more childish language, so we can understand the concern.

Thank you for this important ask and a good opportunity to reflect on the language we’ve used and why we have chosen to do so.