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I know I’m not the first person to say this but one of the reasons I think Ingrids video/ coming out in general is so great is because the majority of big youtubers who have come out in the past few years have been guys (and know that I’m in no way saying that their coming out was any less important than hers) but then there’s Ingrid who has always been seen as this girly-girl with her cute outfits, makeup, and her cute boyfriends, and I think it’s safe to say that it came as a pretty big shock to most of us when she came out. I wish it wasn’t this way, but there’s definitely a stereotype around lesbians, and Ingrid smashed that more “masculine” stereotype when she came out. I think that her video will genuinely help a ton of girls who are thinking things like “I’m think I might be gay but I love dresses and makeup and stuff” realize that they don’t need to fall under all the typical characteristics of their sexuality. I’m absolutely beyond proud of Ingrid and I love her to bits.

Ingrid’s coming out video is so important. Not only does it break the non-feminine lesbian stereotypes, but she also gave a glimpse of what it’s actually like to be closeted. It’s living in denial. It’s doing what you think is best for other people before doing what’s best for you. It’s confusing and scary. She was so articulate and vulnerable and her video made an enormous impact. But the best part, I think, is at the end when she yells “I’m so excited!” Because that’s what it’s like. That’s what it’s like to come out to supportive people, to be free. It’s exciting.

Why Ingrid Nilsen’s Coming Out Is So Valuable

I am so proud of Ingrid Nilsen from YouTube for coming out, and I’m so excited at the waves her story can/will make in the YouTube and pop culture world! This is so exciting and awesome because Ingrid is a well-established, extremely popular YouTube beauty guru. 

Unlike many other LGBTQ+ women on YouTube, she has been in the closet for the entirety of her YouTube career. It’s incredibly powerful for LGBTQ+ viewers to see that a) it is totally 100 percent okay to take your time to come out of the closet when you are ready and safe and b) it is never, ever too late to be the truest version of yourself.

Not to mention, Ingrid is a very feminine-presenting individual. Identifying as a lesbian woman AND wearing primarily traditionally feminine clothing/ having a career in the beauty and makeup world is SO VALUABLE because it isn’t the typical “lesbian narrative” popularized on Tumblr and YouTube of the masculine-presenting, butch-identified lesbian woman. Of course, any identity as an LGBTQ+ individual is completely 100 percent valid and should be respected. But it’s so so so powerful for young queer women and girls to see an example of a successful, lesbian woman of color who defies stereotypes of what a lesbian “should” and does look like.

We need more Ingrid Nilsens in the world. I’m so, so proud of Ingrid for opening up so personally to her fanbase and the scary abyss of the internet. I’m so, so proud of Ingrid for being true to herself and being unafraid to explore her sexuality and its implications in her life. And I’m so, so proud of Ingrid for being so brave. For being so raw. For being so real.

tl;dr: Ingrid Nilsen’s coming out story is so valuable because it defies the typical “lesbian narrative” and proves that it’s never too late to be true to yourself–and that it’s totally OK to wait until you’re ready to come out of the closet! Props to you, Ingrid!