11 Things Everyone Dealing With BDD Should Say (But Can’t).

1. “I’m sorry that I’m constantly focused on my appearance; I don’t mean to irritate anybody. But I can’t stop.”

2. “When I rant about how shitty I look, it’s not to get sympathy, and it’s definitely not to make anybody else feel worse about themselves. It’s actually just how I see myself, every day - And sometimes I just get sick of it.”

3. “Please don’t tell me it’s all in my head. It doesn’t help.”

4. “Don’t tell me I’m being ‘superficial’, ‘trivial’, or ‘obsessive’. I’m already fully fucking aware - trust me.”

5. “I’m sorry I can’t stop fixating on diets, or surgery, or whatever fucking fix I think I need. Again, I’m fully aware that I’m as obsessive as hell.”

6. “I don’t mean to give off the impression that looks are all that matter. They’re not. I know they’re not, but it feels like they are.”

7. “The only person I’m judging by these insane standards is myself.”

8. “Every time I’m in public, I can tell people are staring at me. I know they might not be, I know they probably couldn’t care less about a random passer-by like me, but I can tell they’re staring at me.”

9. “I hate myself every time I look in the mirror - and not knowing if what I’m seeing is ‘real’, an ‘exaggeration’, or ‘not as bad as I think it is’, only makes me feel worse.”

10. “I’m sorry if you’re feeling fed up with me. I’m pretty damn fed up with me too.”

11. “I don’t want to be perfect. I just want to be more than this.”

hi i wanted to write a post about BDD (body dysmorphic disorder) because ive never ever seen it discussed and i would like more people to be aware of it and maybe, some other people will realize they have it and not feel so messed up like i did for a long time

BDD is a disorder that makes you hyperfocus on your appearance, a lot of times its a specific part of your appearance. you obsess over a perceived ugliness and it preoccupies a lot of your time & makes daily functioning/social interaction very hard. its linked with other anxiety disorders (specifically OCD which i also have) and sometimes is thought of as being a subset of OCD

heres some symptoms in no particular order:

  • hiding/masking yourself (needing to put on a lot of makeup, always wearing sunglasses or baggy clothes, in my case i have to wear band-aids on my face and sometimes have to wear a literal face mask)
  • intense anxiety/suicidal feelings if “mask” isnt available
  • need for reassurance about appearance, but then immediately disqualifying any compliments you receive (”theyre just saying that to appease me, its because this picture was in a certain lighting/edited, i was wearing makeup” etc)
  • self-worth largely tied to appearance and thus feeling worthless very often. as a consequence it becomes really hard to talk about symptoms because preoccupation w/ appearance is seen as “vain”
  • withdrawal/fear in close or intimate relationships for fear of being seen as ugly
  • avoiding social situations for fear of being seen as ugly
  • looking in the mirror a lot (or avoiding mirrors), analyzing appearance daily, picking at skin/face/etc
  • comparing your appearance to other peoples (excessively and constantly: “people think this person is pretty and i look nothing like them so im ugly. people have called this trait ugly and i have it so im ugly” etc)
  • missing school, work, other events bc you feel like everyone will be staring at you and judging your appearance. this contributed to me dropping out of school
  • obsession with changing appearance or “fixing” perceived defects (personally i was obsessed with skincare for a long time and was always trying to find the perfect skincare routine and spent so much money on products trying to make my acne go away)

theres probably more but yea, this is getting really long! i would really really appreciate if people reblogged this so other people can know about it, also if you have any questions or just want to talk about your experiences feel free to shoot me an ask!

Life would be so much more fun if I were pretty. I would actually enjoy getting dressed up, putting on makeup, and going out. I could focus on so many other things instead of fixating on being ugly. Imagine the friends I’d have! Imagine what its like to be pretty and do your makeup!! Imagine taking selfies with your friends!! Posting selfies on instagram and getting comments from your friends building you up and telling you how gorgeous you are! Imagine going on dates! Imagine getting free drinks and stuff from men!Imagine what shopping and trying on clothes is like being pretty! The simple, seemingly basic things that I dont get to enjoy sound so amazing. And pretty women take it all for granted.

Diet and beauty culture thrive on guilt. Guilt over that delicious dessert. Guilt over that dress size. Guilt over those wrinkles. They teach you guilt and then they sell you the solution. Please, never feel guilty for existing. You are allowed to eat. You are allowed to take up space. You are allowed to age. You are allowed to exist in the body you have right now without spending all of your time, money and self worth to change it.
—  Megan Crabbe, Bodyposipanda

What body dysmorphia is like.

-my face morphs in front of my eyes when i look in the mirror sometimes. my eyes change position and float away from each other. my nose balloons out then goes back to normal occasionally. my lips shrink then enlarge to an bad proportion. i don’t look REAL, i don’t know what i look like. my face looks like a basketball then its too thin. my cheeks are too big and then too small, my chin is too fucking big and i want to cut it off. my eyes are too small, my eyelashes are too short, my eyelids are huge. -everyone talks about you. everyone. everyone looks at you and thinks you’re ugly, if they compliment you they’re probably lying.
-people on tv talk about u and how ugly u are. even people u don’t know are thinking about how ugly u are.
-u spend hours and hours thinking about how you can fix your appearance.
-you hate yourself for being so vain.
-you compare yourself to every single person you see. you wish you were anyone else but you.
-you measure your face to make sure it didn’t grow or shrink and it has to fit the exact ratio of 1.6 or else you need plastic surgery
-no makeup means panic attack -every bad thing that has happened in your life happened because of how you look. didn’t make the team? cuz you’re ugly. don’t have friends? you’re ugly. failed your quiz? you’re ugly.
-whenever people talk about appearances, about anyone’s appearance, this is a DIRECT ATTACK TOWARDS YOU.
-pictures/videos are HELL. but you take so many. to torture yourself. -people think you’re an absolute bitch

Shoutout to Latinxs who struggle with mental illnesses...

Latinxs who suffer from generalized anxiety disorder

Latinxs who suffer from panic disorder

Latinxs who suffer from social anxiety

Latinxs who suffer from obsessive compulsive disorder

Latinxs who suffer from PTSD

Latinxs who suffer from separation anxiety disorder

Latinxs who suffer from major depression

Latinxs who suffer from manic depression

Latinxs who suffer from dysthymic disorder

Latinxs who suffer from seasonal depression

Latinxs who suffer from schizoaffective disorder

Latinxs who suffer from psychosis

Latinxs who suffer from schizophrenia

Latinxs who suffer from brief psychotic disorder

Latinxs who suffer from eating disorder not otherwise specified

Latinxs who suffer from other specified eating or feeding disorders such as purging disorder, atypical anorexia nervosa, atypical bulimia nervosa, etc

Latinxs who suffer from bulimia nervosa

Latinxs who suffer from binge eating disorder

Latinxs who suffer from anorexia nervosa

Latinxs who suffer from body dysmorphic disorder

Latinxs who suffer from pica disorder

Latinxs who suffer from rumination disorder

Latinxs who suffer from restrictive/avoidant food intake disorder

Latinxs who suffer from dependent personality disorder

Latinxs who suffer from borderline personality disorder

Latinxs who suffer from schizotypal personality disorder

Latinxs who suffer from histrionic personality disorder

Latinxs who suffer from avoidant personality disorder

Latinxs who suffer from schizoid personality disorder

Latinxs who suffer from unmentioned personality disorders

Latinxs who suffer from alcoholism

Latinxs who suffer from drug addiction

Latinxs who suffer from dissociative identity disorder

Latinxs who suffer from unspecified dissociative disorders

Latinxs who suffer from sleep/wake disorders

Latinxs who suffer from elimination disorders

Latinxs who suffer from any other mental illness I’ve failed to mention in this post

Latinxs who do not know what they suffer from because they cannot afford to seek treatment or have no access to treatment

Latinxs are humans and we struggle with mental illnesses and deserve to get treatment

If you’re constantly ashamed when you’re growing up, when you become an adult you’re constantly ashamed. And when you get close to people you assume they will only like you as long as they see you in your best light. There is the profound desire for closeness and the profound fear of the other person. You start getting close to someone, they do something that might not be perfect, and it triggers a terror response and you run away…
—  Moby

People normally don’t get BDD because they can’t wrap their heads around the fact that what they see when they look at someone with this disorder is different than what that person sees when they looks at themselves.
I constantly get asked questions like “so do you like see a fat girl when you look in the mirror?” or “do you see like, a different person looking back at you? Isn’t that freaky???” No. I see me. I am well aware that I am looking a myself & I know it’s confusing but I’m going to try to explain:

So this is a picture of a wolf yes? (bear with me)

he’s just nice & happy howling at a mountain nothing special rock on wolf you keep doin you

BUT if you look closer (specifically to the right of the wolf right above the water) you’ll see that, within the mountains, the rocks & shit form another howling wolf. & HEY LOOK to the left of that new wolf is yet another howling wolf. So now we see 3 distinct wolves howling together & being friends & whatnot.

But now that you’ve seen those other 2 wolves, you can’t go back to just seeing one wolf howling at a mountain can you? & even if you can it takes significant effort. Some people may look at this picture for as long as they can & not be able to see more than one wolf if they tried, (or not idk this is kind of a bad example the other 2 wolves are easy to find but just roll with this), but as soon as you’ve seen the hidden wolves, you can’t UNsee them.

This, to me, is exactly like body dysmorphia. People think, “well how is it possible for someone to look in the mirror & see something different than what’s there?” that’s because whatever we see IS there (at least to some degree) and while someone may be looking at a person with BDD, the little details that their general view may overlook are extremely prominent to that person. Once we see these flaws, it’s almost impossible for us to unsee them, even if no one else can.
Just like with this picture, multiple people may be looking at the same general image, but seeing completely different things.

What is BDD ?

People who have body dysmorphic disorder (BDD) think about their real or perceived flaws for hours each day. They don’t have the ability to control their negative thoughts and don’t believe people who tell them that they look fine. Their thoughts may cause severe emotional distress and interfere with their daily functioning. They may miss work or school, avoid social situations and isolate themselves, even from family and friends, because they fear others will notice their flaws. They may even undergo unnecessary plastic surgeries to correct perceived imperfections, never finding satisfaction with the results.

The characteristics of BDD include:

“persistent and intrusive preoccupations with an imagined or slight defect in one’s appearance.”

BDD most often develops in adolescents and teens, and research shows that it affects men and women almost equally. About one percent of the U.S. population has BDD.

The causes of BDD are unclear, but certain biological and environmental factors may contribute to its development, including genetic predisposition, neurobiological factors such as malfunctioning of serotonin in the brain, personality traits, and life experiences.

BDD sufferers may perform some type of compulsive or repetitive behavior to try to hide or improve their flaws although these behaviors usually give only temporary relief. Examples are listed below:

Symptoms of BDD can vary, including:

camouflaging (with body position, clothing, makeup, hair, hats, etc.)

comparing body part to others’ appearance

seeking surgery

checking in a mirror

avoiding mirrors

skin picking

excessive grooming

excessive exercise

changing clothes excessively

People with BDD suffer from obsessions about their appearance that can last for hours or up to an entire day. Hard to resist or control, these obsessions make it difficult for people with BDD to focus on anything but their imperfections. This can lead to low self-esteem, avoidance of social situations, and problems at work or school.

People with BDD commonly also suffer from the anxiety disorders obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) or social anxiety disorder, as well as depression and eating disorders.