I really love the new images of Carlos that look a little more like me, but also…I’ll tell you one thing that’s pretty personal: I always grew up totally hating my hair. I hated hated hated my hair, because it didn’t do what normal hair did. And of course when you hear that it makes you ask, “Well, what is normal hair?”
Because I grew up around a lot of white people, “normal hair” was “white people hair.” And so the fact that — and this is really no small thing — the fact that Carlos is described as having “perfect hair” and then people actually see my hair, and people who have hair like mine also see it and they believe that it fits and that I do have perfect hair, well now as a community we are re-defining what good hair looks like. And good hair can look like a ton of different things and there isn’t just one standard.
So many times with this spoken and unspoken world of hair politics, there are so many racial implications tied up in it. And we still try to normalize ourselves by appearing like the norm, which is often not representative of what we are. And my hair doesn’t go down, my hair is not straight, it defies gravity and that is just what it’s gonna do, so just let it be. And I always used to want to change my hair so when people see my hair and see that it’s described as perfect hair (which I can only say thank you for), maybe that will inspire someone to not try and alter their hair but instead to let their hair be, which took me so long [to understand].
If I can shorten that time for anyone else then I have done a good job at something. So to bring the answer back to the question, my favorite fan response is, “Oh, I really do love his hair.” It’s like, “WOAH!” I don’t mean that in a vain way at all, you can think whatever you want about my hair, but the fact that you are describing my hair, this hair that’s on my head right now, as “perfect”…that means a lot, more than people know.
Dylan Marron, PopMythology.com interview 12/28/2013
full interview here