dutyfreecritic asked:

My cuz & I watched an old movie. In one scene a chubby boy said something silly and my cousin said 'He's pretty chubby.' Later, an overweight person had trouble getting out of a telephone booth and my cousin laughed.. "he can't even get out" Then I was annoyed "so you're just hating on fat people." "no i'm not" "what about the chubby kid then?" He said "but it's funny" I was pissed. My cousin used to be a chubby kid growing up until he was about 15/16. Why does he act like this?

Our culture is very powerful at fat shaming. Despite your cousin’s personal experiences, society is constantly messaging him, and all of us, that fat people deserve to be laughed at and shamed. He may have internalized a lot of that messaging. And since he’s no longer fat, he may disassociate who he is today from who he was then as a totally different person- one who society says it’s still okay to make fun of.


Trench Coach

Portrait Trenchcoat from Lord & Taylor (similar here and here and here) // H&M Moto Jacket (similar here) // Alfani Lazor Sleeveless Lazor Cut Out Tank Top (similar here) // Minnie Pant in Medallion Print (similar here and here) // Colin Stuart Velvet Peep Toe Pumps (similar here) // Coach Crossbody Leather Bag in Violet // Carlo Giuliano La Marinera Necklace

You like the name? Clever right? Trenchcoat and a Coach bag so ‘Trench Coach.’ I thought it was hilarious, but I’ll stop now.

I basically lost the feeling in my fingers and I’m not really sure if that’s good or bad. I had to jump in and out of my car just to take these pictures without wanting to curl into a ball and cry, so big ups to me for pulling this off.

You have got to see the first and second set of photos I took. I am a literal blur. But it’s this below freezing temperature that is responsible for my crazy antics. This weather has been all over the place lately. What with us having a cool fall breeze on Christmas Day and then it dropping 5 degrees everyday thereafter, it’s really no surprise I put off taking these photos for a few days.

By the time I took these pictures, wearing peep toe heels seemed border-line insane, but when it comes to my attempts at learning how to use my Nikon, insanity seems to be the key factor. However, it’s not as hilarious as me wearing a gold necklace in hopes that it would shine brightly against a white shirt. In theory, it seemed like a great idea, but in actuality, not so much.

I also got to thank my girl Rese of Lovealwaysrese.tumblr.com for helping me decide on the final photos for this outfit post.

Photos taken by: Duty Free Critic

Shot on: Nikon Coolpix P7700

American Express paired up with St. Vincent to perform during NYFW.

Every year the American Express ‘Unstaged Series’ pairs up with different artists to perform during select Fashion Week shows. In this case, guitarist, bassist, keyboardist, and vocalist, St. Vincent, was asked to perform during the debut of Diane Von Furstenberg’s Spring 2014 collection. She has this classy, but aesthetically jarring taste in fashion that I can’t stop staring at. Her music is something else. She dabbles in this mix of pop, art rock, and classical music, which is the perfect fit for a fashion show.

News Source: Pitchfork.com

She may sing “Please Don’t Stop The Music,” but the music at the Balmain show had well and truly stopped when seven-time Grammy Award-winner Rihanna sneaked in the back door, after everyone had …

Rihanna continues her fashion collaboration with Balmain and this time with a surprise visit to Paris. For those who haven’t already seen her editorial spread, they can check that out here.

What a perfect time for her to pay a visit? The start of Paris Fashion Week is a time where all eyes will be on the fashion influencers, Rihanna included. You can take a closer look at a live feed of Rihanna and head designer at Balmain, Olivier Rousteing, on her Instagram.

News Source: Yahoo

Pharrell Williams is giving Arby’s the opportunity to get their hat back. The 40-year-old singer left the social media world abuzz when he stepped out at this year’s Grammy Awards rocking a Vivienne Westwood mountain style hat and now the prized possession is up for auction.

What if this whole charade was a marketing ploy from the jump? If so, Pharrell.. you is very smaht.

News Source: NY Daily News

Stop using Gandhi to silence Baltimore. He is not our hero.

We are all familiar with people using MLK Jr. as a way to police #BlackLIvesMatter. Now, people have recently begun to use Mohandas Gandhi as a way to police Baltimore, because clearly making a trope out of one human being is just not enough. Doing so vehemently erases the work Black protestors are doing, while simultaneously preaching that respectability politics is always the best approach to take if you want to seek justice. The only problem is 1) Gandhi was assassinated and 2) Gandhi supported racial segregation, was homophobic, a misogynist, anti-Black, and just an all around abhorrent human being, and so any validity to your claims that his methods are the way to go are null and void. 

People do not know Mohandas Gandhi. They don’t. We are taught three things about him in school: his “be the change you wish to see in the world” quote, his non-violent protesting ways and his fasting, which paints this picture that if you react to pain and suffering with the utmost decorum, then people will find validity to your claims. Only problem is, he was for racial segregation, and as long as Indians were placed above Black people, it was all good. Shoving Gandhi in our faces in order to tone-police the movement is nothing short of passive-aggressive anti-Blackness.

By valuing broken cars over Black lives, you erase Black narratives in Baltimore and prefer to tell Black people how they “should” be reacting to Black pain. It assumes there are currently and have never been any non-violent protests in Baltimore, even though that couldn’t be further from the truth. The majority of those protesting in Baltimore right now are non-violent protestors, but people would rather hyper-focus on the “property damage,” because that is what falls in line with the story that Black people are thugs. Meme-ing MLK and Gandhi to support these misinformed narratives derails the movement; it moves the conversation from talking about necessary legislation and reform that the Baltimore community has been demanding for years, to dehumanizing the community and in particular, the looters to a bunch of criminals who are just lashing out unnecessarily. People are dying. Dying. This community has been trying to get heard, but instead they continue to be stomped on. How would you react to that? Hm. I’ll wait. 

And just so we are clear. Although MLK Jr. greatly admired Gandhi, Gandhi was extremely anti-Black. Ironic, huh? He also was a misogynist and was very abusive towards women. All of this information was widely known during his lifetime, but after-death, it was distorted so as to paint him as ‘Father of the Nation.’ People love cutting and pasting historical narratives in order to push forth an agenda, regardless of the degree to which they are making a trope out of an actual human being. Sounds a bit familiar, eh? Ya know, like how the U.S. media has been pushing forth this watered down narrative of MLK Jr. that puts him on this pedestal so high you’d be surprised to realize that he was a flawed human being. Great man.. I literally would not be living in this country without him..but flawed. 

Spare me with the Gandhi quotes. And spare me with the MLK pictures of him linking arm in arm with others in peaceful resistance, because the truth is that though both non-violently protested, both were still jailed for their “civil disobedience” and both were still assassinated. Sit on that while you try to remember why you’re reducing MLK and Gandhi to a few pictures and quotes as you patronize Black protestors in Baltimore on how to best get the country’s justice system to listen to you.

As a Desi girl.. I’m frustrated.

I watched the show iZombie the other day. You see, I was so excited because I saw a Desi guy in the commercial and I thought to myself, ‘Yes! We got representation.’ I had to check it out, so last night that’s what I did, only to be sadly heartbroken minutes later.

When the Desi guy came on, I saw that he worked in a lab. I understand that many Desi people work in the medical field, but that’s not all we do. Yet, that’s all I see. Heros, Big Bang Theory, the Mindy Project. I just wish there was wider variety of roles for us in U.S. media representation, but I’m not crying in a corner about it.  It was when he spoke, and that thick U.K. English accent came out that I really felt like crying. It’s seems like a dramatic response, but it’s not; every time there is a Desi character on an American TV Show, that person is usually in the scientific/medical field, and he almost never has an American accent. And yes, Mindy Kaling’s character on The Mindy Project is the exception to that rule.

Why doesn’t the American media want us? Why don’t they want our nuances, our differences, our more varied Desi selves? Why do they only see the South Asian-American community in stereotypes? I fought these stereotypes my whole life. And it was hard. I made mistakes. I yelled, I threw things, I screamed and I cried a lot, but I don’t regret for one moment going in a different direction than what this country and my family had assigned for me since birth. But, sometimes I just want to curl into a ball and give up. Because what’s the point? No matter how hard I try, I will always be forced to come to terms with how the United States still thinks of my fam. We are forever the foreigners, the other.

We perpetually live in this state where we are still put in ‘ESL’ classes strictly because of our skin color and ethnic features. We are beaten to death for simply living and somehow this country’s justice system finds that to be ok. We are constantly asked whether or not we celebrate Thanksgiving even though we were just talking about the latest Drake mixtape. We are asked daily ‘What are you?’ as if we’re all these aliens that landed on U.S. soil in a spaceship, even though we speak with strong American accents. We are not allowed to have a heritage, it seems. We are told ‘In this country we do…’ because the moment we show a hint of being un-American, it’s as if we just swam across the Atlantic Ocean and arrived at Plymouth Rock. And even if we did, why does that matter? This country is founded on so many immigrant narratives, but because our features and our skin color are marked as exceptionally un-American, we are forever seen as the outsider.

So many Desi kids, like myself, pushed away from our heritage, from our homeland, from our motherland, because this country cannot see its people to hold both American and non-American cultural ties, but that’s who we are. We have dual identities. This country doesn’t see that. It doesn’t want that. Or perhaps, it just doesn’t understand it. And so growing up, I tried to move away from my heritage. I thought doing so would allow me to be seen as fully American.

I grew up watching Sonic the Hedgehog, Saved by the Bell and Fresh Prince. I wore choker necklaces and neon colored shorts. I talked like my friends did. I stopped wearing bindis with American dresses. I stopped watching South Indian movies with my parents. I stopped listening to South Indian music, and for a long time I made a strong effort to not learn my mother tongue. I thought distancing myself from my culture was the best way to be accepted by my peers. I couldn’t be more assimilated and somehow it still wasn’t good enough. I could not turn off my brown skin, my melanin. I could not turn off my experiences, my upbringing. I couldn’t do so without hurting my family, my heritage.

And I think that’s the story of a lot of Desi people. We are seen for how we look and how we look is un-American, so although it broke my heart to see this British Desi character, it had me all but surprised. The American media doesn’t really see our nuances, our complexities or our intricacies. To them we will forever be foreign. Different. Other.

The real question: when will that change?