dubious observations on life and sundry

‘Intersectional’ feminism that doesn’t include ableism is not my intersectional feminism

The other day I was on my way to painting class in my university’s Visual Arts building, and I was walking past some displays of art made by the graduating BFA students.
I passed one student, who appeared to be putting up some shelves to display art.
One shelf was already up, and held a very industrial looking and colourful coffee pot, and a old, worn, coffee mug, with a thin film of liquid at the bottom where the coffee had partially dried onto it. Beside it, there was a single nail set into the wall, a little higher up, upon which hung a green and blue plaid jacket. The jacket was well worn, too, fraying a little at the sleeves.
I paused to look at the work, and wondered what the artist was trying to say here. It was making a statement of some kind, I could tell. Small scale domestic interiors? Identity as reflected by morning routine? Interrupted moments? Time? Material objects as markers of….
The artist turned around, and caught my gaze, followed it to his piece.
He stared for a second, then laughed. 
Oh, shit, no, that’s just my coffee and coat. Didn’t want to put them on the floor. I’m actually taking these shelves down. But, hey, it’s cool. I spent like five minutes once staring at the exit door in a gallery of modern art, trying to figure out the point of the piece.

I confessed to him I’d done the same, once, and kept walking.


I feel like there’s a lesson to be had here, some profound truth about accidental discoveries of beauty, the sublime in the banal, the artistic process, but then again….

It might just be a freaking coffee mug.

I am now 100% convinced that Good Omens Crowley is behind the posts-reblogging-as-links default function…

A. Because it’s just the sort of tiny annoyance that balloons into frustrated misanthropy that he would appreciate.

B. Because that joke I made about the Good Omens movie keeps getting reblogged from Neil Gaiman’s blog as a link, which cuts off at “

The Good Omens movie is announced. Neil Gaiman publicly states his approval with every aspect of the movie," and I keep reading the tags on the post and seeing comments like "I SAW THIS AND HOUGHT THIS WAS GOING TO BE AN ACTUAL ANNOUNCEMENT OF THE MOVIE NOOOOO”, and maybe I’m just evil but I’m getting more amusement out of it than I got out of the joke to begin with.

Random tip for language/visually-oriented people who have auditory processing difficulties:

I find often when I have to retain verbal instructions or information, I can get lost pretty easily, and writing it down as I hear it, can be helpful.


That’s not always an option, like if you’re training for a job & don’t have time, or it’s a casual conversation but you need to remember something.

But another trick I have found to be helpful is to try and visualize the words as you hear them. 

Like you’re taking notes, but inside your own head.

Imagine picturing a blank screen, or empty note page, or something like that, and as the person gives you the information, think of the words filling the page, or being written down.This can be the full sentence, or the important bits.

 Like someone saying “make sure to take out the trash and to walk the dog.’

If you aren’t as good with visualizing words, pictures can help too, especially when it’s instructions or concrete ideas.

Picture a blank piece of paper, and force yourself to see… Maybe every word, or maybe a doodle of a trash can and a dog, or just the words ‘trash’ & ‘dog’

But either way, it forces your brain to slow down a little bit and consciously translate the auditory information into another context, and I’ve found it helps to retain the information.

I have no idea if this has any particular scientific backing. It’s also not a perfect system, especially if the speaker is talking really rapidly & you can’t keep up. 

But I have found it helpful, when I remember, and so I thought I’d pass it along.

My favourite argument against bi!Dean is ‘BUT DEAN SAID HE WAS STRAIGHT’, because I just get to laugh a knowing little laugh & think to myself ‘Yeah, so did I. even believed it at the time, too

The other day in class it started hailing outside. Someone pointed it out, saying “OH HELL NO!

There was a beat of silence, and then I yelled out,



So if you had told me three years ago that I would be preparing to travel to another country, with the cousin of two of my friends from high school, in order to go to a community centre wearing a weird hat covered in fake plastic fruit and flowers, and dressed as a french maid, on the word of some dude called ‘Misha’ who was in a show on the CW network…

You know…

I’m really not sure what I would have said to that.