dropping-friends

tomyfriendsinthetritons asked:

you've been attacked by a dropbear

Luckily no, but I have been attacked by a jump wombat. 

They’re like dropbears, but they live where there’s not many trees to fall out of, so they jump out of the bush/scrub instead.

STRESS AND TOXIC FRIEND HELP/PSA??

If you ever think that dropping a friend you can’t get along with anymore isn’t nice or dropping a “toxic” friend will hurt you more than them…

  • It will feel AMAZING when you do
  • You will cry later, but that is normal as you are probably mourning the good times before the rift in your friendship
  • There will be other friends
  • Friends come and go
  • It was NOT your fault for wanting to drop them as a friend nor was it their fault, sometimes it is their fault (Like in my case a little bit) but it’s usually nobody’s fault
  • You have a support group out there who will help you, whether it is more friends, or family
  • Don’t force it a meeting, just let the meet up happen naturally
  • If you ever start to feel guilty, please don’t, it is NOT. YOUR. FAULT. for 1) snapping at them, 2) you feeling uncomfortable around them now
  • You may or may not be the first one in a friend group to drop said friend, AND THAT’S OKAY!  It may feel awkward when they are around, and if it gets to be too much, just politely excuse yourself
  • MOST IMPORTANT
  • YOUR MENTAL HEALTH COMES FIRST!  DO NOT STRESS YOURSELF OUT BY TRICKING YOURSELF INTO THINKING IT’S AN OKAY FRIENDSHIP WHEN IT ISN’T!  GET HELP! GO SEE A COUNSELOR OR SOMEONE YOU TRUST WHO ISN’T A FRIEND OR FAMILY MEMBER IF YOU CAN AND SEE IF YOU CAN GET HELP IN DE-STRESSING AND FINDING A SOLUTION!

I hope my list helps, even if it’s slightly biased or emotional :)