The older and more informed I get the more I realise the ’!!!! Clothing and makeup have no gender!!!’ Rhetoric is such a double-edged sword.
On one hand it’s important to raise up gender nonconforming individuals and encourage people to explore how they present, especially for nonbinary individuals. Boys can wear dresses. Women can wear suits. Nonbinary people don’t have to look a Certain Way. No one has to be restricted in they way they dress and carry themselves.
But I also think tumblr seems to forget that clothing IS inherently gendered by society - it shouldn’t be, but it is, and the ‘don’t assume someone’s gender based on their clothes!’ mentality can be super dangerous and upsetting for binary trans people who are trying to pass for, you know, basic survival reasons. Literally the only way I pass if ever is when I wear super masculine clothing - because people see the way I’m dressed and assume male. It’s a saving grace. This is particularly important for trans women who face so much violence.
It’s a hard line to tread and I wish I’d see more discussion around it.
When men bring up the injustices they face in comparison to women (the draft, bias in custody rulings, etc.) as if they’re the fault of women that’s just wild to me…..like I’m sorry that the patriarchy is a double edged sword but by conscious choice or not you’re still the one wielding the sword