dont want any one to feel uncomfortable

hey guys

maybe this is too much to ask but

if i ever say something rude or make you uncomfortable with one of my text posts, can you tell me?

i dont want any of you to feel that im unreachable and that i cant be reasoning with. i want everyone to feel as much as safe as i can provide.

i know sometimes it takes me a while to warm around people (trust issues and my overall anxiety that in any moment im going to fucked up) but im just a goofus that likes to ramble about cartoons and shows and movies.

anonymous asked:

you're into platonic kidge, right? got any hcs lying around?

i got some hanging about. a lot of my hcs are found with art that i post on my art blog too, so you can find them there too

  • like many fans, cryptid conspirators keith and pidge, but for me i think pidge’s interest in cryptids stems from love for science/aliens whereas keith’s interest in cryptids stems from love for mythology.
    • keith and pidge take turns info dumping on each other about their special interests, so pidge gets to learn a lot about mythology, which as first growing up was never interested in but keith makes it sound super cool and keith’s just happy he finally gets to talk to someone about it without fear of the person telling him to shut up.
  • pidge and keith train together sometimes, and it’s a toss-up of who “wins” the sparring
  • keith knows a few things about mechanical engineering stuff (like im p sure he made his hover bike) but not a genius or anything. he does what he can to help pidge out with making things. helps him clear his mind of whatever.
  • pidge likes to tell stories of shenanigans she and lance and hunk had gotten into back at the garrison
  • pidge holds keith’s hand sometimes when he’s having nightmares.
  • they play hand games together sporadically, like speed or concentration.
  • keith is convinced pidge is a star child from that one alien documentary show
  • keith knows how to braid hair and of all kinds (bc i also hc him trans so he had lots of hair before) but pidge doesn’t know how to braid hair, but despite that they still braid each other’s hair
  • the two often like to swap glasses for jacket
  • keith gives pidge all his old clothing and pidge loves them all
  • keith let pidge try his boba tea one time before explaining what boba is and pidge just doesn’t like it
  • keith also knows how to long board, so someday when all this voltron business is over he tries teaching pidge
  • when the team gets their well deserved beach episode to relax and take a break, lance and hunk go to the water, coran works the grill, shiro and allura nap on beach chairs, and keith invites pidge to make a sand castle. the two try to make it the biggest, most detailed castle.
    • using pidge’s knack for design and keith’s perfectionist personality, they even manage to carve in the bricks and vines crawling up the princess’s tower. pidge isnt usually one for nature or outdoors, but this helped her enjoy it a little more and keith feels accomplished for that.
  • alcohol mention// lance, hunk, and keith on occasion have taken nunville to their room to drink, each time taking turns as the “DBS” or “Designated Baby Sitter” and sometimes pidge comes in drinking normal space juice. keith is a lightweight but even in his drunken state he’s always like “dont feel like you have to be here pidge. if you’re uncomfortable being around drunk people, dont be afraid to leave any time. you can trust us, but dont feel obligated to stay.” like the boys don’t do anything wrong, but keith just doesn’t want pidge to think she has to stay, and she appreciates that.
  • in an au i thought up long ago, where matt and shiro meet through a one night stand, that’s a whole deal i’ll maybe mention another time, but in the au pidge gets matt to go to the movies with shiro bc shiro mentioned he also has a younger (bro? cousin? nephew? idk but it’s family relation) with keith so the four decide to see the movie but keith plans it so that matt and shiro end up separated from him and pidge. so keith and pidge watch the movie together and spying on their older siblings feeling accomplished for what they’ve done.
  • one time pidge accidentally called keith “matt.” they both realize it right away but keith plays it off like it’s no big deal, and that helps pidge recover from the embarrassment quickly.
  • there was this one post i remember reading about keith helping pidge with finding the boogieman under her bed because that’s what matt used to do as a joke with pidge and keith helped cheer her up and it was the sweetest thing i gain 5 years whenever it comes to mind
  • keith is the only one allowed to use pidge as an armrest when standing.
  • pidge one time asked what exactly was in keith’s fanny packs. some snacks, his phone, his keys, and glasses.
    • pidge looks through keith’s phone and finds his photos. he never imported them into his computer so he has a bunch of photos from like middle school when he first got the thing. before and after photos of transitioning too. only like 1 other person appears in the photos and keith says it’s like the one friend he managed to make on his own and they’re super tight.
    • the keys are from his old car and house.
      • “glasses??? you wear glasses???”
      • “im suppose to, but i don’t. itch the bridge of my nose”
      • “is that why’re you’re always scowling?? are you really just squinting??”
      • “yeah.”
  • they both love reading, and love having discussions about movie adaptations of them, both the good and bad ones. sometimes they have conflicted opinions and the discussion becomes very heated.
    • same goes with superhero movies. that’s where lance joins in on the talks, and the three could go on for days if hunk weren’t there to tell them to go to bed.
  • keith realizes one day he never really apologized for yelling at pidge when pidge wanted to leave the team to find her family. he’s also just bad at apologizing and doesn’t know how to do it so he leaves a sticky note on Green’s nose for pidge to see it. pidge leaves a sticky note of Red’s nose saying he’s forgiven.
    • this ends up becoming a habit of them leaving sticky notes for each other to find if they’re in a nonverbal mood but needs the other to know something. they’d leave it on the fridge door tho, so the other team members end up joining in on the sticky note fun.
  • keith didnt play many video games growing up, so when hunk constructs a way for lance and pidge to play their new console and game, keith sits on the couch to watch. of course he roots for pidge in every game.
    • “why are you always cheering for pidge, this isn’t even a game we can fight each other!”
    • “pidge, is there a way you can program this to have friendly fire?”
    • “probably. i’ll get it started tomorrow.”

but anyways, they’re the best of friends and love and adore each other and i can’t wait until season 3 gives us that good good kidge episode where they talk about how they miss shiro and promise each other they’ll find him and matt

anonymous asked:

Any abusive langst hc's? It could be parents, siblings, friends, past lovers, etc. and any kind of abuse, verbal, emotional, physical, sexual, etc (feel free to ignore and delete if it makes you uncomfortable or if you simply dont want to)

This doesn’t make me uncomfortable, because I’ve actually had one of these hc’s for a while, but if it makes you uncomfortable, PLEASE don’t read below the cut! Mentions of abusive relationships. I’ll put the nice gentle stuff above the cut, though, so everyone can see it <3

I headcanon Lance’s mom as a superwoman who is awesome, and he has sort of a non-nuclear family with a lot of extended family living with him–which is pretty traditional in Cuba. I headcanon that something happened with his dad when he was young–either death or divorce, and he doesn’t live with them anymore, and with so many children, he has an abuelo and an abuelita that live with him, and a few tias y tios. So I don’t headcanon any trouble at home.

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anonymous asked:

Any abusive langst hc's? It could be parents, siblings, friends, past lovers, etc. and any kind of abuse, verbal, emotional, physical, sexual, etc (feel free to ignore and delete if it makes you uncomfortable or if you simply dont want to)

Hey, so uh, while I was trying to find an idea for this (which let me make it clear I had a vague one, about him having an abusive girlfriend) it brought back…… really painful memories. I’m so so so so so sorry, but I don’t think I can write this. I’m sorry.

i feel… ehh about this.

might mike dawson be missing the point that art spiegelman chose rats to represent jews because of specific antisemitic ideologies and caricatures? sure…

is it plagiarism to be inspired by and openly give credit to art that came before you? no, literally every artist does it. it’s homage. is it appropriative and antisemitic to draw historical and cultural parallels between the shoah and what’s happening now? well, i used to think so, before the election, when people were calling trump “hitler” in what seemed to be an inflammatory fashion and not much else. i felt disregarded.

now i think that was me prioritizing hurt feelings over recognizing how alike these political environments are. imagery like this intends to connect these historical periods in a sincere fashion to emphasize the weight of the situation. there is an overwhelming trend, in art and otherwise, of using “nazi” to mean “person i dislike” with little regard for antisemitism. i saw someone call rebecca sugar a nazi (lol). in my opinion, explicitly homaging a jewish creator you mention by name doesn’t erase jewish presence in any way; it extends it.

anyway, that’s not to say no one can be uncomfortable with it or that anyone who does feel erased by it is wrong. but i dont think its fair to call antisemitism on a well-intentioned artist inspired by a jewish artist to take a stand on a pressing social issue. imo this level of cultural exchange is what we should be encouraging. i am just one person though! not an authority or a representative of a people. but i wanted to give my 2 cents on this as a jewish artist.

Just a Quick PSA Regarding Damian

We understand there’s going to be a couple people who are uncomfortable with Damian being headcannoned to be aspec, saying that he wouldn’t know because he’s 13. But to be honest it’s a lot like saying a kid can’t know they’re gay. Some of us just… do. Even if they don’t 100% understand it they know. We’re a thousand percent against sexualizing minors because that is DISGUSTING and COMPLETELY unacceptable.

But being ace at 13 is a lot of things and none of them have anything even remotely to do with sex.

The fact is being ace at 13 isn’t about sex. It’s having people tease you for saying you dont want to date anyone. It’s feeling weird because despite liking your first girlfriend/boyfriend(if you have one) you feel weird about kissing and handholding. It’s thinking nobody else understands you. It’s feeling uncomfortable when anyone asks you about crushes. It’s not understanding why all your friends are so girl/boy crazy. It’s about hearing the word asexual and wondering if that applies to you. Its about wondering if you’re actually asexual or if you’re a late bloomer. It’s about deciding you must be a late bloomer and that any day you’ll wake up and you’ll be normal. It’s about hoping you aren’t broken and praying nobody asks you to the school dance. It’s about finding comfort in a word you aren’t sure if you’re allowed to claim.

Sometimes you just.. Know. Even at 13.

anonymous asked:

What's a good pixie haircut for curly hair? I've wanted to do one for awhile but I have curls (not super tight curls) so I've never known what kind of haircut to do.

Depends on the type of short hair youd want. Anybody with curly hair can pull off any sort of short haircut but youd have to specify which one (which youve already said pixie, so theres also that)

look through google images for the specific way you want it and show it to your stylist (or barber if you go shorter than that) and for the love of god please if you feel uncomfortable with one aspect of your hair dont let it slide, speak up about it in the moment.

best of luck to you

anonymous asked:

So i play basketball, and after practise and games we shower together (thats normal for us) but im gay, and i want to tell them, and i know they're okay with it bc multiple girls at the club are gay and our coach is and some of our trainers are and they're cool with it, but besides that its a bit different for me bc of what is just said. So i dont kow if theyre gonna feel uncomfortable or smth. And i wanna come out to them but idk how to, do you maybe have any idea?? :) (one girl already knows)

Maybe you just need to tell everyone when everyone will be together so everyone will hear.or you can wear a tshirt which would say smth like “I’m gay”, or some lgbt attributes. And then everyone will see it

like not to be a debbie downer but i fuckin hate therapy. i’ve been through more therapists than i can count and they were all just awful. like? i dont want to be a dick but all these pro-therapy posts just make me mega uncomfortable like i’ve only had one i ever even a little bit liked and even with her i didn’t LIKE going to therapy it was just somewhat tolerable. i literally hate it i don’t trust doctors of any kind but therapists esp get on my nerves like idk maybe my shit’s just too fucked or smth idk and like if ur considering going to therapy pls at least try it but goddamn like its not for me it never has been im 27 and i dont think it’ll change i just. i cant deal with that shit. 

guysssss yurio is 15…… that’s so fucking young that’s only like freshman/sophomore year high school in america and him dating someone like jj or otabek is like dating a high school senior / freshman in college and i know the age difference is just 3-4 but the life experiences/maturity levels are so drastic and different. plus, yurio is obvs a minor while everyone else except minami and guang-hong are adults

let him grow up before exploring any possibility of romance w/ anyone. let him cultivate friendships bc as ep 10 suggests… no one has ever asked to be his friend. i know he has a strong and assertive personality and he can get what he wants but he is still growing up he is still a 15 year old teenage boy and his brain is still developing let him mature a bit

Exo will arrive in NA in a few hours so here is a nice little reminder :)

So for any one greeting them or thinking about it, please dont lose your mind and do anything irrational, illogical, and hurtful to anyone!

Please be on your best behavior!

Please control yourself!

Please refrain from tugging, pushing, pulling, screaming bloody murder, causing a mosh pit (its a long flight its the last thing they want to have to deal with), hitting, obscene gestures, rude language, inappropriate language and/or gifts, enforcing delusional otp bullshit (im sorry but telling ur otp to “just fuck already” is so delu and ridiculous and you will probably make them feel very uncomfortable), making fun of them in any kind of way (please dont! I cannot stress enough…just dont like we get it they arent fluent in English and sehun has a lisp like let them live!), etc!

Dont follow them!!

Dont chase them!!

Dont sit outside of their hotel/hotel room!!

Dont be a crazy fan ok! They dont need that!

Its ok to show them that you love them but please dont do anything weird or anything to make them uncomfortable!

You have to remember that they are human too! They have feelings, emotions, etc. When they get off the plane they will most likely be jet lagged like a mofo! Its a 15 hour flight! Please dont be insensitive. Screaming and yelling and pushing and pulling is the last thing they want to have to deal with! Please, dont make them uncomfortable.

Remember to set a good example!

And most importantly REMEMBER TO MAKE EXO FEEL SAFE AND COMFORTABLE FOR THEMSELVES THEIR STAFF AND THEIR FANS!

They are ppl and right now they are so far from home, just try to put them at ease! Theyve come so far to visit us and perform for us! Dont make them hate their trip and wish to go home!

If you want to give them gifts! Maybe even gifts that will aid them on their trip! (If gifts are allowed to be received ofc)
— heat packs for muscles, energy drinks or gatorade, hand warmer packets, blankets, small travel pillows, gloves/mittens, scarves, socks, (they will need warmth in chicago, toronto, and newark ok!), phone chargers (i believe our power plugs are different so if they dont have an adapter they are screwed :/) gift cards/coupons for food, snacks, city maps, all this may sound silly but its just some ideas to help ease their trip bc maybe they want to get out and explore?
— but remember that they have to continuously travel by plane which means luggage costs… If too many gifts are given then some things may be left behind thats why gifts that can be at least tucked in a corner of a bag or disposed of after use would be a great idea! :)

If you want to show your love!
— make a fan sign! Let them know that they are welcomed, loved, and appreciated! Try to keep them at a decent size to avoid causing issues for others :)

I dont know about yall but im so excited to see them! So lets try to make the stresses of their jobs a bit easier!

like even if you dont ship warren and max but still want them to be “friends” i’m going to be very real with you here.

warren is like that one guy friend that you have that never truly oversteps any physical boundaries and has never done anything mean to you but you always have to hold him at arm’s length because he makes very uncomfortable comments toward you and you feel bad telling him to fuck off because he’s “kinda sweet”. 

like im not gonna lie that he did me a solid by warding off nathan twice but the first time it was just so he could be like “YOU OWE ME” to max and the second time it felt really uncomfortable?? almost like he just wanted to be violent for the sake of being violent. so he might have been doing that for himself

so you tell me if thats really friendship bye

maddyrose-c  asked:

Yesterday one of my good friends asked me for nudes. I wasn't expecting it from him, and I'm feeling really pressured to send some. I dont know what to do and I just really need help. Please answer me. Xoxo

Do NOT send your ‘friend’ nude pictures of yourself. If you feel ANY amount of pressure then 100000% you should not be doing that!!!! Reply to him that you don’t want to and if he continues to pressure then very firmly tell him that making someone uncomfortable in this way is disgusting and that you won’t tolerate it. xxx

anonymous asked:

I read your story on itsbetterthananal and I was wondering how u got to be so positive about your belly because im going through something similar

I stopped caring, truly. I stopped weighing myself, I stopped looking at myself in the mirror every second of every day, I stopped worrying about what people would think of me.

I used to swin in a tee shirt and shorts because I didnt even want to risk people seeing any part of me. but then I switched to this ADORABLE one piece, and it made me feel so free and so happy.

and then, last summer, I wore this. I wore this to the hot tub at a popular hotel. I wore this to a crowded part of the Saco River. and I wore this to the beach on Sebago Lake. I feel so beautiful when I’m in a bikini. I dont feel uncomfortable or awkward. I feel fucking beautiful and so should every other woman in the world. I was born with broad shoulders and a structure that doesnt allow for me to weigh any less than 140-150. and I’ve accepted that. and I am hot as hell.

anonymous asked:

I missed the episode, and apparently all the fuckery. Can you give me a qucik recap?I just want to be a 100% sure that Olivia got an abortion, like theres no chance she didn't? I think i'm in denial because I don't understand what was the point of coming clean if they just ended. They could have stopped this seasons ago, seasons! I dont think I'm going to watch this ep, or any others. will you?

Basically the entire episode showed Olivia playing first lady and feeling uncomfortable and her and Fitz being super tense around each other. Then in one scene Olivia is watching TV in the residence (btw I can’t believe Fitz had the audacity to not volunteer to change rooms. I bet they didn’t change the mattress after Mellie left. As Karen would say disguting.) Anyway…on TV is ol Mellie girl doing this long ass filibuster and Olivia is looking at the TV with the same longing I get when I’m watching the microwave heat up some leftover pizza, not listening to Fitz as he goes on and on about boring stuff I didn’t listen to either (they argued about this), watching Mellie talk about - here’s the beautiful Scandal kicker/where it all ties in - planned parenthood. Mellie has been on her legs all day, and since that EW photoshoot I don’t blame here for feeling tired, and suddenly Olivia gets a brilliant plan.

Next thing we know Olivia somehow (don’t ask me the details, I have ADD) got Susan to interrupt Mellie’s fillibuster and take the floor to ask a question. Then Mellie runs like a squirrel to the restroom where Olivia is waiting when she comes out of the stall like a damn stalker (what if she had been doing more than peeing? Karen needs to take over here too). And they talk and idk what happens but Mellie wraps her filibuster and dips tf out of there.

Next scene we got Olivia sitting in a badly lit empty clinic where some lady calls her name to come back (once again Olivia is watching Mellie on TV - it’s her new hobby apparently). Sidenote: I think her watching Mellie work and being a boss bitch (or as much as she can muster) is what pushed her over the edge because during their argument later Olivia says she is not a housewife (paraphrasing here) but she’s one of the dogs.

Next we got commercials. But then we came back to Olivia in a hospital gown putting her legs up on the stirrups and then they show her face and we’re supposed to get a lot out of that.

She definitely got the abortion. I too had hope anon that she didn’t but then we see her run back into the residence like a maniac looking for Mellie’s left over alcohol so….I’m gonna go with yes. Fitz is all wtf and she’s ignoring him (again but whatever). He pushes, she pushes back (verbally not physically on both parts) and next thing you know Fitz is yelling and Olivia is monologuing about how she feels trapped and they weren’t ready and she doesn’t want this FL nonsense. And for a while I legit thought Fitz was gonna have a heart attack or a stroke cuz he just stood there breathing heavy, but then he starts yelling back about how she’s worse than Mellie cuz she hides/runs all the time and at least he knew all about Mellie’s bs. BTW this all started cuz Olivia didn’t show up to some dinner.

Then somehow it escalated to Olivia yelling about there being no Vermont (honestly I started blocking some of this out bc I too think I may have started stroking out from the shock - also I was writing some awfully heated tweets to SR/writers & company). Next thing we see they’re both seated on the end of that (say it Karen) disgusting bed drinking Mellie’s liquor talking about how we could’ve had it all rolling in the deep and basically breaking up.

Then these muthafuckas had the audacity to play Ave Maria as they show Olivia back in her apartment getting a new couch at an ungodly hour with Fitz still in his same damn suit drinking solo by the fire.

All in all this episode was

anonymous asked:

idk if this is weird, but honestly i dont like shipping any overwatch characters? its like most of the popular/big ships have like 4+ age gaps and its kinda gross (excluding mchanzo, i think they're like 2 years apart)

That’s very understandable. I guess I personally don’t mind as, for example, my sibling is in a relationship that has a… 7? year difference. In my mind, as long as they’re both safe, not abusive, consenting and happy, it’s fine. But I see why you could feel uncomfortable! (If you want to ship something, Boombox only has an one year difference, TracerxLúcio only has 2 I think)
-Knight

i honestly dont know how i feel about porn bc i believe in sexual freedom and everything but i feel like a lot of harm comes out of the porn industry and the more i read about it the more it makes me sick so im really on the fence about the whole situation like i dont know if i should support porn bc i dont want to shame porn stars like its not the act of them having sex on camera or w/e that bothers me its just like the violence and the affect it has on society

and i dont even mean to kink shame like that i think its fine when theres two participants that both actively want that but i feel like the violence in the bedroom could create a massive problem if only one of the people participating in it wanted it and the other partner either went along with it just to please the one who wanted it even though they were massively uncomfortable or if the person who wanted it didnt really care if their partner did or didnt. you know?

i really apologize if this comes off ignorant or makes any of you mad, i really try not to touch on this subject especially bc i dont know where i stand with it like theres arguments on both sides of it that i see completely valid and idk im just really confused on what to think i know i should further educate myself about it