don't treat on me

if you’re gonna shit on ginny because she was a mary sue / “overrated” at least acknowledge that we saw her from the perspective of an incredibly biased person (aka the inventor of denial), of course she’s not actually perfect but there’s a reason she goes from ~ron’s little sister that i do like but isn’t rly relevant to my life i’m sorry also i’m actively ignoring her crush on me so it’s a tiny bit awkward~ to !!! good god what an angel?? like ginny’s beautiful?? and plays quidditch!!! and she’s popular and so funny holy fuck ron would KILL me but.. worth it tbh is this.. … what some people call love??? and that reason is called harry potter who spent a good portion of the final books internally combusting whenever ginny did anything what a nerd

Things To Do For Your Boyfriend:

1. Kiss his forehead when he’s angry
2. Hold his hand out of nowhere
3. Let him lay his head on your lap
4. Ask him about his day and actually listen
5. Try to get interested in stuff he likes
6. Talk sports/video games/books etc. with him
7. Serenade him with embarrassingly cheesy love songs
8. Get along with his friends
9. Buy him a valentines gift
10. Be more excited for his birthday than he himself is
11. Be nice and love his parents like they are your own parents
12. Love him like every girl on this site wants to be loved and give him a reason to treat you like a princess

—  because boys deserve to be loved right too

I’m so baffled right now.

Someone recently bought something from me and asked how long the item gonna reach their place and if I offer express shipping. I said no and it might take 1-2 weeks to reach their place.

They were shocked and asked where the hell I live. I told them the answer and that they should’ve known that if they check my store FAQ carefully. I ended up getting lectured that my reply was ‘curt’ and that they’re a busy person and have 5 children with a husband working for Disney and I’m just ??????

Just don’t....

Please, don’t tell me you love me
when you’re gonna flirt with other people.

Don’t tell me you miss me
when you don’t actually miss me.

Don’t give me pet names
when you’re giving other people pet names too.

Don’t treat me like I’m special
when you’re making other people feel special too.

Don’t tell me you care and later on make it seem like
you don’t give a damn.

Don’t tell me you love me
when you’re not really in love.

Just don’t.

Deaf Culture PSA

Today I was in Wal-Mart, doing my thing, buying groceries, the usual, when I bump into one of my friends from high school. We’re having a grand ol’ time catching up and whatnot when this lady by the dairy section (across from us) turns and just..stares.

Like, full on, “I’m at the zoo” stare. I catch her eye, smile, wave, whatever, thinking she would move along with her shopping, but it didn’t even faze the woman.

For those of you who don’t know me very well, I was born Deaf, and while I can read lips pretty well, I rely on sign language for most of my communication. My friend went to the same Deaf School as me, and also uses ASL- however, she has a cochlear, and can make out the jist of conversations.

For those of you who are interested in learning or are currently learning sign language, please come up and say hello! We totally understand if you’re a beginner, and would love to help further your skills. That being said, we aren’t a spectacle or a show. We’re normal people, like you, who just use a little different method to communicate. Please don’t stare at us like we’re this oddity, because quite frankly, we’re not.

There are a lot of people who get this, but it amazes me sometimes in this day and age that the Deaf community is treated this way by some. Take some time and study a little about Deaf culture, learn about my community, and remember that even if I can’t hear, I can still see you staring, and I can still feel like a second-class show.

let me preface this by saying I don’t watch much television. and the other night, I saw something that reminded me why. it was a sitcom - you know the kind. the ones where the man is a clumsy, bumbling, unthoughtful doofus who can barely tie his own shoes. who manages to fuck up everything he touches and who constantly has to be pulled out of the messes he creates by his long-suffering wife.  the wife who puts up with him - though no one is quite sure why, as she is far more traditionally attractive and intelligent and capable than he is. it’s always clear she’s settling in these scenarios. lowering herself because she certainly deserves better, could easily find better, but she endures her husband’s antics with a shake of her head and an indulgent roll of her eyes because “boys will be boys.” cue laughter.

he’s not especially happy with her because GOSH she’s just no fun, always telling him to put his socks away, and she’s not especially happy with him because he’s a man-child who can’t be allowed to operate the dishwasher on his own lest he destroy the entire house.  it’s perhaps the most insidious of heteronormative tropes because it is everywhere and has been for years.  it’s unfunny and inescapable and you know where you can find plenty of it?

 kylux fandom.

every time hux refers to kylo as an “ox” or “oaf” we’re playing right into this trope.  every time kylo is painted as incompetent and incapable we’re saying this is what we want to see more of.  every time we write or draw kylo as this ham-handed giant who can’t be trusted to handle anything breakable because his pawing is sure to shatter it, we’re signing off on some really blatant heteronormativity.  and it only gets worse if we consider how hux is so often played in fanon as well.  organized and eloquent to kylo’s messy, booming ruckus.  efficient and intellectual to kylo’s utter lack of self-discipline.  refined and well-put together and attractive to kylo’s crudely-hewn hugeness.  the one who picks up behind kylo with a put upon sigh.  

like, maybe if these were the characters we were given, I could understand writing/drawing them this way.  but they aren’t!  instead, we are stripping away the kylo who is self-disciplined to the point of self-destruction, who has spent years living an ascetic lifestyle (which takes self-control to an extreme where it becomes dangerous) and replacing him with someone unrecognizable.  we are taking a character who, when he wasn’t melting down, was soft-spoken and quite clearly intelligent and introverted and making him into what?  a mindless jock archetype?  quite literally the opposite of the character were were presented with in tfa.

and why?  for what?  because we, apparently, somehow have not gotten enough of this trope from the movies and television it has occupied since who knows when?

that’s… not especially progressive, if you ask me.

Favorite person: sorry I kinda disappeared there for a while, I was busy

Me: haha its okay I only panicked for about twenty minutes before dissociating for the entire four hours you were gone :))

One thing I absolutely love about manga/Brotherhood Roy and Riza is that, despite them holding different ranks in the military where one is technically subordinate to the other, it’s clear that they overall respect and treat each other as equals.

i remember that one of my history teachers idolized andrew jackson. would go on and on about andrew jackson, the president for the common man, day after day. i sat in front of a native american student, and every time good ole mr. sherril would say, “president andrew jackson - ” i watched that boy’s face crumble, but he never once said a word.

imagine what it’d be like, sitting in a class, day after day, having to listen to someone sing the praises of the man who tore your ancestors off their land, killed thousands of them in doing so. who stuck your ancestors on reservations. imagine having to hear someone praise the genocide of your people.

anyone else noticed the trend here on tumblr of worshipping certain famous women for like a couple months and there being serious hype for them and then like a month later everyone’s ripping into them and talking about how much they hate them

@therapists: could u pls just aknowledge that mental illness actually exists and that I’m not being difficult just to annoy you and that it’s not a personal attack if my years long suffering isn’t cured after one session with you

like… I’m trying man and I know my behaviour isn’t always logical and that my patterns are unhealthy but I can’t just snap out of it because that’S NOT HOW BRAINS WORK

i had to go talk to one of my bosses today

Since I now have many jobs (6 and counting), I need to specify that it’s one of the bosses from the online math classes company. I make math graphs for them, from home.

Him: So we’re hiring more people since the company is getting bigger, and since you’re our best graphic designer and the one with more experience-

Me (internally): Aw shit when did that happen, I didn’t want that, there’s responsibilities that come with that..

Him: - we need you to explain your process so our new designers can work better.

Me (internally): Told ya.

Him: So, what can you tell me about your work process.

Me: I’m in my pyjamas, I get a cup of tea and I complain a lot about the math teachers?

Him (internally): You little shit. (probably, I don’t know, I’ don’t read minds.)

Him: Haha. 

Me (internally): Yeah but if you’re hiring new people, are you going to keep me or is it going to be like last time where you cut my job and I had to go back to retail and then spend two months jobless.

Me (out loud): Yeah but if you’re hiring new people, are you going to keep me or is it going to be like last time where you cut my job and I had to go back to retail and then spend two months jobless.

Him: We are keeping you. About last time, it was a company move where we had to outsource and (insert rest of excuse, anyway the move didn’t work and I spent six months uber stressed and penniless and now I don’t trust them farther than I can throw them) but yes, we ARE keeping you. As I said, you’re the best and most experienced. 

Me (screaming internally)

Me: So what do you want me to do?

Him: We need you to make videos explaining how to make the graphs.

Me: …There’s already a reference document. I made it. It’s 50 pages long and covers everything you can encounter in a math problem. 

Him: Yes, that’s the problem, it’s too long and too precise. The other designers don’t read it, they can’t find the relevant information.

Me: … There’s a table of contents. 

Him: Yes. But still. Very simple and short videos would be great.

Me: Okay, sure, I can tell them what fonts and stroke weights to use and how to make a quick graph, how to use the company colors in a table-

Him: Start simpler. Like “Open Photoshop. Click on the file.”

Me (cries internally)

Anyways misgendering someone because you dislike them / purposely using the wrong pronouns to make them mad and then spouting bullshit about “free speech” doesn’t make you cool or edgy it makes you a genuinely terrible person have fun with that lmao