don't put up with bullshit

its been said before but this is a daily reminder that mental illness does not excuse toxic behavior

it can offer an explanation, but you cannot treat someone with cruelty and then just like “well sorry it’s my mental illness i can’t help it”

i don’t have a solution, because i know that mental illness by nature can be difficult or impossible to control, but do not let a friend or partner or parent or anyone be a dick to you and say that you have to put up with it because that’s just how they are

or even worse, guilt trip you about being upset with them

i am saying this as someone with a diagnosed mental illness that im on medication for:

mental illness does NOT give anyone the right to treat you badly

and if someone tries to excuse their toxic behavior by claiming it’s mental illness and they cannot help it, that’s a red fucking flag

things i’ve learned about rp

It’s okay to stop RPing with someone if:

  • they don’t reply on a consistent schedule, or
  • they pressure you to reply more quickly than you can
  • their roleplaying style doesn’t work with yours
  • the way they treat you upsets you
  • they don’t communicate with you

It might seem petty, but if you’re roleplaying to have fun, there’s no reason you need to sit around and complain about your partner all the time. You don’t need to give them another chance.

It’s okay to tell them your current RP relationship isn’t working out. If what you want from the relationship isn’t what they want or can provide, then it’s okay to break things off.

It took me way too long to learn this of people in real life, and too long to learn this for people in the RP community. I don’t expect everyone’s style to match mine, or schedule to work with mine, or reply length or speed to be what I want it to be, but I have a right to stop roleplaying with someone or refuse to roleplay with someone because I know it’s not going to work out.

god it’s almost like dating, isn’t it. jesus.

good morning world

and to the punk who compared me to donald trump because I dont want to share my reasoning for talking shit about a cartoon character before I blocked them, go fuck yourself.

you wanna know why im mad at ford that badly, huh??? I was good and ready to keep this bullshit off of tumblr so everyone could be happy but apparently that’s not good enough for you. APPARENTLY I have to explain every aspect of my life that disagrees with how you feel or else im the worst person alive.

cliffnotes version, last year was extremely tough for me. I was dealing with an emotionally abusive relationship and the trauma I still suffered afterword, self-harm, poor performance in school, constant emotional breakdowns, and a heaping helping of mental health issues.

it was also the year I got back into gravity falls! and over time dipper and mabel became like comfort objects to me, something I could hold on to through all of that. I see a lot of myself in both of them, and I’m very protective of them. they are immensely important to me. so yeah, when damvtf aired, I freaked out! I saw someone encouraging dipper to throw himself into danger and hurt himself further for the sake of knowledge, and someone brushing mabel aside, calling her “suffocating”, and I watched her fall to the ground with no promise as to whether or not she would be ok. I was beyond devastated.

and whether or not you, personally, think that’s true or that it was fords fault, has nothing to do with this. I don’t care. I’m not going to come after you like you’ve come after me. the bare fact of the matter is, for VERY PERSONAL REASONS, dipper and mabel both helped me cope with a really shitty point in my life, and I saw ford as a threat to that. hell, maybe I even know in the rational part of my brain that what I feel about him is kinda unreasonable!! but who fuckin cares!!! he’s not a real person he’s a cartoon character!!!!

and like, in the flip side of that, if you are someone who is a fan of ford, maybe even uses ford to cope the way I do with the twins, I respect that. I will not try to bring you down. the worst I’m gonna do is vagueblog about the community on twitter, which I have a right to. I’m not attacking anyone.

and I am so sick and tired of being forced to explain my personal life in order to justify a harmless opinion. I’ve had to do this so many times at this point. why do you care? why do you fucking care, so much that you put this energy into trying to make me feel bad, into forcing me to write huge posts like this? I’m so tired of it. I want to be allowed to talk frankly about how I feel without being demonized for it, especially when I’m doing it on a completely different website than this one.