don't know whether this was posted before or not... but this is telling so much; lol

anonymous asked:

Hello!The reason I'm asking u this is because I love your answers, and u don't up down other characters to lift another, and the evidence you put with your answer. (Love your page) I read some post a while ago stating that Dean is a controlling doughbag. But I've always seen it as Dean trying 2 lead his loved one 2 do the right thing (Because you know how that ends up at the end lol) Ex: Sam tells dean don't let him go darkside,but gets mad when Dean tries everything 2 stop him. Thank you ^^

Hey there, and thank you very much. Sam and Dean have a very complicated relationship and I think the only reason someone would call Dean controlling is because they don’t understand (or are ignoring) the dynamics that were set up in childhood. We finally have canon confirmation that Dean had to be a parent to Sam, which helps for this discussion, but the fact is: we’ve always known this. Dean was tasked to take care of his little brother for weeks at a time (4.13):

cooking for him (10.12):

Making sure he had his books on the first day of school (4.13):

Procuring Christmas for Sam (3.08):


This is not a normal sibling job description. And it makes for a tricky dynamic because he had to act as a parent in so many aspects of their day to day lives. When Sam gets upset that Dean is telling him what to do, we’re hearing the complaints of a child trying to gain independence from a parent, and that’s made even trickier by the fact that neither one of them are kids anymore and Sam’s used to doing things his own way after breaking away from the family business and going to college.  And then he comes back and it’s right back to the old patterns, except that obviously Sam is used to making his own way. 

And the whole thing is muddied up because Dean is NOT Sam’s parent and he never should have had to be. They’re also brothers with normal grievances and times when they are shits to each other like any pair of brothers are (1.17 and 2.15):

Not to mention the fact that they take on very specific roles when they are hunting too, with Dean as the leader (3.03):

and really, no matter what’s going on with them (their huge fight during 9.16), that never changes because it’s a pattern set up from childhood

So basically you’ve got a sibling dynamic merged with a pseudo parent/child dynamic (throw in Dean as the de facto leader) and of course it’s gonna be all kinds of fucked up. 

Just take a look at these gifs (from 3.05), when Sam and Dean are arguing about whether or not to use the Colt to kill the demon who made the deal with Dean to bring Sam back? This is how the conversation ends: 

This is not a normal conversation between two brothers right now. This is the result of Dean having to be a pseudo parent to Sam for all those years. 

Right before this, Sam even comes out with this: 

Which reminds me of this (5.18):

And what’s Bobby to Dean? A pseudo parental type person. It’s not the same of course, because Bobby’s was an actual adult when he took on that role for Dean, but it tells us something nonetheless. 

And if we want to go deeper into how messed up everything is, we also have the times where Dean still fills the role of parent while John is around. 

This whole scene (from 1.21), where John clearly expects Dean to have told him about Sam’s visions is an indication of this. It’s Dean’s job to have filled John in, not Sam’s job. John relies on Dean to take care of Sam and fill him in on what he’s missed. Which is usually the role of a spouse in a family unit. 

Another example is the way Dean has to physically intervene when John and Sam almost come to blows (from 1.20). 

Not only does he tell Sam to cool it, he tells John to back off too. Like he’s protecting his child from the other parent in the family unit. 

This isn’t new, John expected Dean to protect Sam from anything that might hurt him when they were children. In 1.18, John tells Dean to watch out for Sammy and then asks, “And if someone tries to bust in?” 

Dean’s entire identity is wrapped up in keeping Sam safe, had to be both a mother and a father to him and people still ask why their dynamic is the way it is? Of course Dean is going to expect to be able to tell Sam what to do; he’s been doing it his whole life. He’s been put in charge of Sam’s well being since he was a young child. Of course Dean thinks he knows what’s best for Sam. And of course Sam would chafe against that sometimes; especially in the beginning. But you know what? Sam spends most of season five trying to make up for his mistakes in s4 and after that we don’t see much more of him insisting Dean is trying to control him after he says this in 5.05:

Because that’s what most of s5 is about, until we get here: 

While Dean also talks about why he defaults at treating Sam like a kid. 

It’s the whole reason Dean stops objecting to Sam taking on Lucifer. He lets him make his own decisions. Dean does default back, of course (because this wasn’t the end of the show and real life echoes this back and forth too). It’s an ongoing theme and one that’s addressed again in 12.22, with the Dean ‘sending Sam off to war’ plot. 

He was urging Sam to take his place in the world. It’s a complicated relationship, and it’s the reason I love them so much. These two men with their fucked up childhoods doing the best they can for each other with what they know even if it’s not entirely healthy on either side. And if someone has somehow missed the entirety of this particular dynamic, it’s not surprising that they’ll say Dean is controlling or Sam is belligerent.

kittyichooseyou  asked:

I have a klk question, and I apologize if you've answered it before, but, do you find any significance in Ryuko taking a big bite out of an unpeeled lemon in her introduction? Like, was it just meant to make her seem hard? Or like, does it have some subtext I don't understand? Is she ever seen eating lemon/drinking lemonade as a background thing? I've always wondered about this. Thanks.

I gotta be honest with you: I’m atrocious at talking about symbolism. There’s a reason that my hundreds of essays hardly ever mention it. 

So… I haven’t especially covered this before, but I can provide some Thoughts.

First and foremost, the lemon scene has been largely understood as a homage to FLCL, a coming-of-age anime worked on by Gainax—the studio that Hiroyuki Imaishi and Masahiko Otsuka left to found Studio Trigger, which is the team behind Kill la Kill

In the first episode of FLCL, Naota, the protagonist, refuses to drink the rest of the sour, “Lemon Squash” pop that his friend Mamimi didn’t finish. He claims that he “[doesn’t] like sour drinks” and proceeds to toss the can aside.

However, at the end of the episode, Mamimi offers Naota the sour pop again, and his reaction changes. While he repeats his sentiment—“I told you, I don’t like sour stuff”—Naota doesn’t toss the can aside this time, instead guzzling the drink down.

So, when Ryuko, the protagonist of Kill la Kill, begins the first episode of her show not just forcing herself to consume something sour, but does so purposefully, without flinching… there’s probably something there. Kill la Kill’s director Imaishi did work extensively on FLCL, after all.

But what exactly is meant to be conveyed in either series is entirely dependent on how the “sour” symbol is understood.

On the one hand, the “sourness” could be a symbol of “first love.” For Naota to accept the drink in FLCL would be to accept an “indirect kiss” from Mamimi, who had been drinking from the can previously. The “first love” idea seems supported in Kill la Kill, with Ryuko noting, after Mataro steals her lemon (at least in the original Japanese script), “You’re that eager to learn what first love tastes like?”

Mataro: Bitch, don’t try to be all witty! I’ve had my first kiss!

And with the idea of “first love” comes the idea of childishness. Though it may have some… Unfortunate Implications, in both FLCL and Kill la Kill, it could be said that getting into a first romantic relationship is a sign of growing up. The fact that Naota initially refuses to taste “first love” represents his initial refusal to come of age—and the fact that Mataro in Kill la Kill insists that he has had his first kiss (or “get[s] way more action than [Ryuko]!” in the dub) represents his desire to seem “grown-up” and experienced.

Ryuko’s utterly blase eating of the lemon would then also imply that she has had romantic relationship(s) in the past and is not afraid of them.

However, with all of this, the “sourness” could simply be a larger metaphor: a metaphor of adulthood, maturity, that kind of stuff. Naota deciding to take in the sourness at the end of the first opening episode signifies that his show is going to feature his coming of age—something he initially didn’t want anything to do with, but that the story is going to push him to experience regardless. Ryuko immediately biting into a lemon could then signify that she’s already come of age, but—and more likely, considering Kill la Kill’s ending—it could also signify that she’s not afraid of the hardships, challenges, and “sourness” that comes with coming of age.

In this way, I also see the “sourness” as a bit of a metaphor for moving forward rather than running away. The lemon pop in FLCL is first featured when Naota struggles to tell Mamimi that his brother is seeing someone else—a hard, difficult, “adult” situation that’s not fun and not comfortable. Naota throws the can away, perhaps representative of how he wants to run away from this problem. At the end of the episode, though, Naota has revealed the truth to Mamimi, and he then drinks the pop, signifying that there’s no more running away: he’s growing up, whether he likes it or not.

But disregarding the FLCL tribute, a character introduction that features the character biting into a raw, unpeeled lemon is powerful on its own. It tells audiences right away that this character is badass—whether her lemon-eating is because she’s not afraid of growing up or hardship or “first love” or because of any other reason, you shouldn’t mess with this chick.

macoal23  asked:

Hey!! I just wanted to tell you that I absolutely love all of your Drarry drabbles. Like, honestly, they are so fluffy, adorable and they make my heart melt. I don't know whether you take prompts or not atm. If you do... would you mind writing something about Draco being insecure and/or hurt and Harry being there for him? Thank you so much if you do and keep up with your awesome work!! ;)

JFC!! Thank you so so much! 💖💖💖
Soooo, I ended up writing way more than I originally planned :D
Here’s a little excerpt - you can read the rest on ao3 :)
I hope you like it, sweetie :)


“Did you bring any Treacle tart?”

“What do you think, Potter?”

Harry smiles as he closes the door and watches Draco walk into his kitchen. It still astonishes him, sometimes, how easy and light everything is between them. Hermione warned him several times not to rush into things, but it doesn’t feel that way to Harry. Being with Draco just feels… natural. It’s only been a few months, but they’ve known each other for ten years, now. And things have been going so smoothly thus far.

Harry leans against the wall and lets out a sigh. That’s not true. Telling himself over and over again that everything is alright doesn’t make it real. He smiles sadly as Draco pokes his head out of the kitchen and tells him dinner is ready.

Is it really that important? Harry asks himself. Come on, it’s not really a problem is it? You can live with it, right? You can-

“Stop lying to yourself,” Harry mutters through gritted teeth. He really can’t live with it. It makes Harry feel insecure and question whether Draco is really invested in this. He almost feels childish for making a big deal out of it, but he can’t help it. It hurts. Because as easy and light everything is when they are together, there is one thing Draco never does; he never spends the night.

Whenever Harry turns around to face him, still panting, still feeling the delicious tingle all over his body, he finds Draco has already climbed out of bed, reaching for his clothes. Harry tries not to show how hurt he is when Draco smiles awkwardly at him and gives him a quick peck before he leaves.

That’s why Harry never spends the night at Draco’s either. Draco clearly doesn’t want that, so Harry always apparates back to his flat, feeling cold and empty inside. He knows he can’t go on like this. He’s miserable. But he likes the stupid git so much and Draco seems to like him, too, so what is his problem?

That night, Harry makes sure Draco is pinned under him when he screams Harry’s name and his whole body shudders. He wraps his arms around Draco’s neck and rests his head on his chest. He deliberately presses Draco into the mattress with his whole body weight. He can’t help but smile when Draco’s fingers carefully begin to caress his back. They stay like that for a few moments before Draco starts squirming.

“I think I should go,” Draco mutters. A pang runs through his chest and Harry tightens his grip around Draco’s neck.

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Thank you, @jet-playin, for being the most amazing beta! 💖💖💖

anonymous asked:

Hi! I hope you don't mind a throwback question to the early days of the show; but I was wondering—do you have any theories about why Sherlock excluded John from his cases for two months after ASiP? I always been puzzled by that, even before I discovered TJLC. I'd love to hear any thoughts. Thank you!

Hey Nonny!

Aw, yeah, I love throwback Thursdays LOL! Oh, gosh, I know this was explored at least in a fanfic, and I think I have seen a meta about this, but I’m gonna do my own and give you my thoughts :D I think the original meta itself stated that just because John wasn’t writing about it didn’t mean that they weren’t having cases! Which I believe completely! Could be that John didn’t know yet that he was destined to write a blog, so he maybe started drafting them and thought “what a silly idea, I like writing about this man, but he won’t care”, or didn’t start writing them until he found out Sherlock was starting to read them… as in, John DID visit Sherlock’s blog, found out that Sherlock just wasn’t going to tell him:

Because these are the idiots we are dealing with, here, people. Because as you’ll see, John can be just as petty as Sherlock, and not tell Sherlock he noticed.

The above comment immediately following the address change post, and John comments on the post right after this one, so he fucking noticed right away. John visited the blog on a regular basis (in-show, John knows exactly what was on Sherlock’s blog at any given time [the tobacco ash comment]), I think we can then assume he saw this VERY early on. In fact, probably the SAME DAY, given this comment here:

Our cupid Mike Stamford probably then immediately went to Sherlock’s blog and made the comment on the forum directing Sherlock to John’s blog, and Sherlock immediately checked it out and did his aloof schtick. Now, since Sherlock’s forum posts don’t have dates, I can’t say with certainty on what day that Sherlock commented with “I’ll wait until he’s noticed I noticed”, but I think it’s a good guess to say it was on the same day as ASiP.

Also, even before the ASiP blog post was put up, John was already directing people to Sherlock’s blog post the night after ASiP happened in the timeline (the ASiP post went up Feb 7):

So, you know DAMNED WELL John INDEED saw the “see if he notices” post because THAT POST is just below the coded message post on Sherlock’s forum.

Now, John is encouraged again since he knows that Sherlock is reading his blog, and John was just waiting for the most interesting case they had so he could embellish and romanticize Sherlock (which I genuinely think John didn’t realize he did until Sherlock brought it up in comment on ASiP) so he could impress Sherlock and indulge Sherlock in the praise I think he knew Sherlock loved

Apparently John never said anything, because Sherlock didn’t comment or allude to him knowing about the Study in Pink blog post until a month or so later, on the same day that the Blind Banker case was posted:

WHICH IS HILARIOUS BECAUSE ONLY A FEW DAYS BEFORE SHERLOCK COULDN’T CONTAIN HIMSELF ANYMORE AND WAS COMMENTING ON LITERALLY EVERY OTHER POST JOHN MADE:

SHERLOCK WAS GETTING ANNOYED THAT JOHN DIDN’T SAY ANYTHING TO HIM ABOUT WHETHER OR NOT IF HE NOTICED THAT SHERLOCK NOTICED THE ASiP POST.

SHERLOCK COULD NOT CONTAIN HIMSELF ANY LONGER, SO HE WAS THEN CASUALLY COMMENTING ON RANDOM POSTS TO TRY TO GET JOHN TO SAY SOMETHING TO HIM.

UNTIL HE FINALLY BROKE DOWN AND POSTED DAYS LATER ON THE ASiP POST

THESE TWO WERE LITERALLY PLAYING A GAME OF “Well if he’s not going to say anything, I’M not saying anything!” THEY WERE BEING IDIOTS ABOUT IT. JOHN’S BLOG POST WAS A LITERAL ELEPHANT IN THE ROOM.

Who knew Sherlock would be the first to crack??? HE COULDN’T TAKE JOHN NOT NOTICING HIM ANYMORE. It was driving him nuts.

Also, there is the Diamonds are forever post that mentions Sherlock did find a body, so I think they were still out solving cases.

So, Nonny, I personally believe that they WERE out solving cases, just he was being petty and dumb and held out as long as possible to write up the next post in full because I think he KNEW it was killing Sherlock. There’s really nothing in-canon that states they just were sitting around doing nothing for a month. I mean, sure, they were probably still trying to find the right groove of living together, but I think in the end it’s just a case of “anything could have happened”, but more likely they’re just being stupid idiots and pretending to ignore each other and pretending that they weren’t already so fucking gone on each other. Jesus.

Only 6 years later we discover Sherlock fucking ADORES John’s blog to pieces, loves the inane names that John comes up with, and reads it when he’s pining for him, FFS.

*flips a table* I FUCKING CAN’T EVEN WITH THESE TWO.

(also, as a completely unrelated aside, anyone else find it fishy that it’s only JOHN’S blog that they broke the fourth wall on and said John wouldn’t be updating anymore? Sherlock’s, Molly’s and Prince’s blog all do not have the BBC message at the top… just something to think about).

halcyon

pairing; yoongi x reader

genre; angst

word count; 5.1k

a/n; made for this request 

summary; you didn’t let him in easily, but when you did, that became your first mistake. 

halcyon (adjective)

1. denoting a period of time in the past that was idyllically happy and peaceful.


Meeting him was nothing.

You met a lot of people in your life, but when you came across him, you didn’t think much of it.

The first time you encountered him, you knew of him, but he had not known of you. He was known to be this mysterious walking oxymoron that strolled through the halls of your high school campus with chin high and eyes that followed every girl that neared him. Of course, you were never one of those girls in his eyes and never did you want to be one of his victims; you always wanted to be invisible in his eyes, and you always were.

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anonymous asked:

Hi! Your writing is, as usual, absolutely amazing and you post so much and you're absolutely amazing for it! If it's not too much to ask, could you do something where Bokuto, Nishinoya, Kenma and Tendou are reassuring their s/o who is very self conscious about their own appearance and have little confidence? It can be headcanons or scenarios I don't mind, whichever you prefer, dear~ thanks a bunch!!

I’ve come to discover through these that headcanons are, like, the best thing to do ever. Lol, but this was cute, Anon!

Hope you enjoy!

P.s. I just freaking figured out that other people add their own tags when they reblog my stuff and I literally spent about an hour and a half going through my notifications to see what those tags were. I love them. And I don’t know whether to be embarrassed by how much time I spent on it considering I have so many finals to work on! LOL.


Bokuto Koutarou

  • While this boy explodes with confidence, he does know what it’s like to fall into pits of insecurity, so he’d very much make sure to approach the situation very carefully.
  • He’d tell them the way they were feeling was valid - in the sense that society puts these insecurities on everyone - but that they should know that they’re better than anything society can produce.
    • And he’d be sure to tell them everything he loves that society perhaps wouldn’t - the birthmark on their cheek, their head to toe freckles, the beautiful dark kinks in their hair, their curvy figure that he looooves cuddling. And boy won’t stop until he names everything he loves: EVERYTHING.
  • They’ll probably laugh, tell him that they get it and that he has to say that because he’s dating them. Oh no, mistake.
  • It goes from 0 to 100 real fast, because he’s not finished.
    • Their laugh - like, the one where there is no control, where they’re crying and possibly snorting - is his favorite sound, their ability to take on the world so bravely, the way they love so fully, not holding anything back. There is so much about them that is so unique and grand and it kills him that they would even consider he didn’t mean every single word of it.
  • Cuddles, snuggles, and delicate kisses are to be expected afterward. And you better believe he’s spend HOURS just admiring every single part of their body - he’ll kiss every freckle, even the ones you didn’t know you had! - before he takes his time making love to the soul he cherishes to dearly.

Nishinoya Yuu

  • I actually think insecurity is something that might be a little hard for Noya to grasp right away. This kid has almost never been self-conscious about anything, it’s a very foreign concept to him, so catching on to the fact that something is wrong might take some time.
  • And he probably wouldn’t realize how much he’s not helping the situation when they come to him with these insecurities and he brushes them off initially with a, “you shouldn’t feel that way.”
  • That would start the trend of them just keeping things to themselves, because if he’s just gonna blow it off then what’s the point in telling him?
    • I can see it getting kinda bad. They’re fighting for no reason now and they finally snap one day saying how he can just go date someone who’s perfect then.
    • Oh. That’s when it hits him square across the face. And boy, does he feel like the worst boyfriend in the world.
  • From that moment on, this precious bean would try his best to understand what they were going through and be more aware of what they need from him when those moments come on. And he’s a quick learner, taking initiative in snuggle time and providing them with whatever will make them feel loved and wanted - words, physical contact, acts of service - they name it and he’ll do it because he never wants them for feel that way ever again.

Kozume Kenma

  • Really, just really, this kid would know that they’re insecure before they can even figure it out themselves. He had spent so much of his life trying to hide from the insecurities he faced while in middle school, there’s just no way that he wouldn’t see it as clear as day within his significant other.
  • But he wouldn’t bring it up directly, he’d wait for them to come to him when they really needed him. He’d watch them closely though, the last thing he’d want is for them to get too far deep into their own negative thoughts.
    • He’d probably be so wrapped up with making sure they were okay that he would just leave his PSP at home. Everyone is concerned for Kenma’s health - even them - but there are more important things to worry about.
  • Despite his subtle efforts to keep them from falling back into their insecurities, it’s bound to happen - sometimes you just in those moods, ya know? - and they’re breaking down in the middle of their dinner or homework or something just as random.
    • The first time in happened, Kenma panicked. He didn’t know how to handle such an outburst of intense emotion, but he figured it out slowly - and with a LITTLE help from Kuroo?
  • Now it’s just second nature, this boy will let it happen - because you can’t stop the inevitable - and gather up as many blankets he can find to wrap around the both of them where they’re stay burrowed for the rest of the night with Kenma whispered small reassurances and reasons why he loves them that are only heard by them and their surrounding covers.

Tendou Satori

  • I think that with Tendou he might actually be a little oblivious. The kids called ‘Guess Monster’, there are some things that he’s aware of and some that he misses and I feel like this is one of them.
    • Maybe it has something to do with his own past? Like, he knows what it’s like to be self-conscious about who he is and that he holds his significant other up so high that they could never feel that way because they’re amazing, there’s no one out there like them.
  • So when it does end up coming up that their self-conscious of their appearance he is totally floored. Because how can they say that? Don’t they know and see how pretty, no beautiful, no GORGEOUS they are?
  • For a couple days he’s not exactly sure what to do. He knew suggesting besting their enemies as he did when he was younger is not the way to go when the enemy is your own brain, right? But despite not knowing exactly what to do, he never left their side, choosing to console them with his presence at the very least.
    • Tons of forehead kisses and verbalization of his love is how they spend that time. He may not know exactly how to help them gain confidence in themselves, but he can give them all his love - which ends up being one of the main contributing factors to their attitude towards themselves becoming better.
  • Omg, I can just see this tol bean spending a morning in bed with his significant other just covering their face with kisses, smile wide, and every time they try to protest against something he says he just lays another kiss on their lips. Sweet thing will stop them with all his love from thinking less of themselves!

anonymous asked:

Hi! I don't know if this's been asked before, but who do you think are the canonically gay characters in SnK?

Hi anon! :)

First of all I’d like to preface that post by saying homosexuality in Japan is more of a private matter and a taboo than anything else: it’s not the topic you can out to the wide audience. As such, you’re never going to hear Isayama declare explicitly characters to have a preference for the same gender.

What’s nice is Isayama giving us LGBT characters who aren’t drawn from offensive cliches: they feel real. On top of that, the SnK universe isn’t set to appeal to romance, so you can leave certain bounds undeveloped, because any ship who has the potential to be endgame has one of its components killed off, sometimes in the most brutal way.


Short addendum: Mangakas can’t simply put LGBT characters in their series, because the staff still holds some authority over them, leading mangas like another series from Bessatsu for a gay kiss to be cancelled in some cases. It’s already exceptional Isayama manages to put LGBT characters who don’t look like complete caricatures and is actually fond of same-gender relationships.


About your ask, there’s canonically three confirmed gay characters in SnK: Reiner, Ymir and Levi.

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anonymous asked:

Hello love, i really hope this doesn't bother you but I'm trying to understand this skam season😊 could you pretty please explain how Muslim relationships work? I've seen a few people saying yousana can't happen or that they don't want them to get married but i don't understand why? Can't Muslims date? How can you get married without dating the other person first? How do you know you want to marry them? idk if these are the correct questions but explaining how relationships work would help a lot

hehe no problem! Well as I’ve said before in a post. The rules in Islam stay the same and whether or not someone follows - that is their journey, decision and test. Muslim relationships are really tricky. ya’ll ask good questions. I myself as a teenager get flustered at the thought of marriage and all these questions on how do I choose someone for the rest of my life through a couple of meetings? how will I know? ect. But I’m going to explain it from my personal views and how I view my religion and follow it.

(To my fellow Muslims. I’m not a scholar or a fiqh scholar // and if I do say something wrong I apologize my friends)

1. In Islam we are told to lower our gazes and to not mingle with the opposite gender because, lust / temptations - Can eventually lead up to sex (lets be honest here) and, pre-martial sex and intimacy is 100% not allowed. Whether you follow that or not is not my business and I’m not one to judge but, I firmly believe in this and don’t participate in acts where I’m tempted too act upon my desires because that’s the test right? I want to remind that Islam is all about battling worldly desires and to combat that by earning as many good deeds as you can in this life. However that does not mean it’s forbidden for me to have those feelings, wants or desires.

2. How do Muslim relationships work? Well once again I’m speaking from my pov and personal experiences. I feel like in the world of Muslims most ‘oh shoot I like that guy I might be interested in him seriously it’s not just a crush anymore’ happens around the college and last year of high school time ish ( everyone is different but I’ve noticed the majority follow this path.) So you know all the secret glances happen, each of them hinting at each other until either one of you, and yes this is what many young Muslims do is to tell your parents (gasp) (Ikr I have no idea how i’ll tell my dad ..RIP the male I have a crush on ) anyway. you tell your parents that you’re interested in one another! Telling your parents is such an important thing because they’ve been through this experience know how do get in contact with his/her parents set up the meetings ect ect and most parents want whats best for you.

3. Muslim ‘dating’  starts at this stage

But… everybody’s parents are involved the guys parents and yours.. Now you start ‘ supervised dating’ ?? you still don’t touch and you have to keep it to minimal flirting. but zaynub if you dont flirt how do you find out if you want him in your life???  you ask question ya gotta get to know the guy right? what his goals in life are, how his family beliefs are, same level of spirituality, kids?, jobs? stay at home wife?, have you had a relationship before this? what do you like? ect. you ask all these questions. Usually after 5-10 meetings around this stage the girl/guys gets the idea of whether or not they can imagine their lives together in the future or not. If it doesn’t work out then it wasn’t in your qisamat (fate) and you move on.

We don’t date because we believe it saves us from many things. Same reason why we are not supposed to smoke or drink alcohol.

Another point In our religion the mosque is our central area. Just as for Christians and Jews they have churches and synagogues.  Muslims are very community based people. Aunties, uncles, and the Imam watch us grow up. We have youth groups and weekly meetings for basketball games, lectures, community meetings Sunday school, Quran class, etc etc. Through all of these they watch us from kids to teenagers then adults - as we grow people point out ‘oh hey hes single and a good man try talking to him’ They suggest because they’ve seen and know how your families are like your personality ect. (aunties are spies lol no jokes I love them haha)

I’ve been raised up by my community and trust those around me. I feel like marriages are like that in Islam and some are not! but from my perspective it is for me. It’s a very beautiful and soft thing to watch. I recently saw two amazing people get married. she was the youth groups director - always working and helping people around the community and she got married to an amazing man who also helps the comm. and loves god. In the end we love each other for the sake of Allah. and if we do that then our marriages, friendships, and life’s are taken care of.

I know that was extremely long and complicated  (there is so much more to say) but I hope I explained it the best I could!

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1. Oh, The Places You’ll Go. (RvB/Tuckington)
I wasn’t sure whether or not to put this at number one, since it isn’t necessarily my favorite, but you know what? This is the one I learned on. This is the one who gave me the writing bug. Sure, I had no idea what I was doing most of the time, and it drove me to distraction most days, but the amazing reaction from the community sits with me to this day and more than made up for the stress and fear that I was doing it wrong. Thanks to everyone who read and encouraged me and gave me such fond memories of this story. Without y’all, I wouldn’t love writing the way I do now.

2. Best Laid Plans (Rvb/Suckington)
I pretty much love writing this pairing, which allows for lots of funny dialogue while also being allowed to write really emotional pieces as well. So really I feel like I kid in a candy store whenever I write suckington, which is why I have such a fondness for this story in particular. I like the dialogue, I like the dramatic parts, and I feel like I actually took care with the characters in a way I didn’t always with some of my earlier pieces. 

3. Low-Hanging Fruit. (RvB/Flownut)
I didn’t take care with this story. I just think it’s fucking funny. And honestly, I think that’s the best part of it. Not gonna lie, I’m never happier than when I’m writing comedy. It’s all I ever want to do. As much as I like the occasional dramatic bits, comedic writing comes easier and faster than that stuff does. Being silly and ridiculous? I can do that. Being emotional? Uh….that takes precision and shit. Give me Flowers and Donut making nonstop innuendoes any day.

4. It takes a lot of time to live in the moment. (WtNV, Cecilos)
I haven’t kept up with this fandom in a very long time, so this was written in the early days, before they even got together. But you know what? I still like it. It was a test to see if I could write fanfic at all, and though I wasn’t sure if I was ready to try my own style, I felt more secure with attempting to mimic the show’s. So I did. And I think I did a pretty decent job, which gave me the realization that I could use that skill to help keep characters’ in…well, in character, when attempting to write fanfic again. Also, I mean. I always wanted to write a groundhog’s day loop.

5. Anodyne. (RvB, Kimkaina)
Kai makes everything fun to write, and Kimball pretty much owns my heart. Put them together and you’d get…actually, you get something unexpected. I thought I’d just enjoy writing this in a joking sort of way, but I didn’t think I’d enjoy them interacting as much as I did. I immediately wanted to write something longer about them, and even though I have a lot on my plate right now, I might just have an in depth story about them to tell one day. Could be interesting…

This is completely optional, but if you want to do it, tagging: @littlefists, @goodluckdetective, @texelations, and @pilot479

anonymous asked:

"this speech was all very nonsensical to me but i love her and would ultimately let her burn me alive so," this is exactly why i don't like dany stans. you can never take responsibilty for the bad things she does, but if you cant i will. she let her husband kill her brother, she killed her husband and her son, she ruined the economy in slavers bay, she burned a bunch of khals mercilessly, and then prattled on to jon about how /hard/ her life was w/o listening to what he had to say. she's a bitch

hm. i wouldn’t say i was a dany stan but i do love her so i’ll humor you and take this down piece by piece.

one: “she let her husband kill her brother”. viserys was warned about using weapons in vaes dothrak. he was told that they weren’t allowed but if he insisted on bringing one he could by no means unsheath it. he did it anyway. not only did he unsheath it, but he pointed it at the khal’s wife who was pregnant with the khal’s child. drogo killed him for it, and rightfully so. it was a direct threat to the life of his child. the idea that dany let drogo do anything is interesting - she’d saved viserys’ life once before when he threatened her life in the high grasses; and after years of both verbal and physical harassment from this man, i don’t think her first instinct was to raise a hand to help him after he threatened more than just her. she regrets it afterward, but what was she to do? save him again? he’d harass her to the ends of the earth, and seeing as drogo truly had no intention of crossing the narrow sea he likely would have done something much worse to her.

two: “she killed her husband and her son”. this is fucked. dany trusted mirri because she was desperate. she was a fourteen-year-old girl who felt her first chance at having a home slipping from her grasp, so she allowed a woman who said she could help her do some blood magic. she kills herself over this decision for the rest of her life, don’t be a fucking douche mate.

three: “she ruined the economy in slavers bay”. lol. dany abhors slavery so she frees the slaves. no, she doesn’t institute another proletariat, but she’s sixteen and she has no experience in politics nor ruling. she has an ex-knight and an ex-slaver on her counsel, so not much goes there for knowing how to fix it. she’s trying her best to help people who are regularly shat on and continues to try after she messes up. sorry if by freeing slaves she ruined an economy that relied on slaves in the first place.

four: “she burned a bunch of khals mercilessly”. yeah so, not my favorite thing, but she was finally beginning to understand what being a dragon meant and therefore began to grow into a more machiavellian frame of mind. the dothraki follow strength. if she killed the khals (who up until then had been debating whether to rape, kill, or keep her) the khalasar would follow her. with the khalasar under her wing, they would stop their pillaging and their raping and follow her with the promise of safety. to her it was the right thing to do, she believed herself to be the best leader for these people so she led them.

five: “prattled on to jon about how /hard/ her life was w/o listening to what he had to say”. to anyone who had never seen wights, jon’s story is just that: a story. if we forget about that, i think it is important to recognize what dany has faced. every meeting she’s had with men they’ve undermined her, disrespected her, reduced her to her age or her sex — jon calls her a child, it strikes a nerve because it’s happened before (little princess back in qarth). she’s had to harden herself, she told jorah years ago that she’d given up on trust and she meant it, so she won’t trust this man she doesn’t know especially after he exhibits the same behavior every other man had exhibited to her. she gave him the speech to tell him she’s not to be dismissed not to gain his sympathy.

daenerys is not perfect. none of the characters in got/asoiaf are and it’s kind of the point. she believes that her holding the iron throne and serving a greater good are mutually exclusive. dany is not acting in self-interest, she is acting in the interest of all the people she believes to be oppressed.

dany doesn’t trust anyone else to make the world a better place. before jon she never met a ruler/noble that was truly good (tyrion got close but his past is ambiguous). when she is ruthless or “mad” if you want to call it that, she believes that her actions are morally justified because of the result the actions promise. that’s her flaw, her most major one. she’s stubborn and fiery but it’s because she has unwavering faith in herself and her actions and really wants to help people.

a proposal

nihlus lives.

at eden prime, saren fights with sovereign in his head. kill him, he’s a liability. i can’t kill him, he’s my best friend, he’s important. when sovereign says to pull the trigger, he pistol-whips him upside the head instead. nihlus goes down and stays down. saren’s not sure if he’s dead or alive, but he didn’t shoot him, and hope he’s alive is better than certainty he’s dead. he runs off before sovereign can convince him to do anything more.

shepard finds nihlus and sends a message back to the normandy for medevac. after the beacon mess, they find him pacing, going over what he remembers. “it doesn’t add up,” he insists. saren would have talked to him, would have teamed up with him, would have, would have, would have. shepard tells him what the witnesses at the colony said. he’s only more convinced that something is wrong with saren.

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Parents and Parenting (???)
Kaji Yuki & Maeno Tomoaki
Parents and Parenting (???)

Kaji & Maenu talking about their parents… And beyond…

— long post warning —

Maeno: Well, Kaji-kun’s parents are basically super seiyuus…

Kaji: *laughs* Are you saying that I am a second-generation seiyuu? I didn’t know I had a family background like that!

Maeno: *keeps laughing as Kaji talks* No no just kidding. But that kind of scenario does exist right? Like if you admire your parents’ occupation…

Kaji: Yaaa, my father… Is an architecture person? He draws design plans and stuff.

Maeno: I see. Have you not thought of following him in his career?

Kaji: I don’t know if that has ever occurred to me… Hmm, how should I put it, I kind of saw my father as a person to surpass someday. You know, that sort of thing between guys…

Maeno: It’s like you respect him, but on the other hand… Yeah.

Kaji: So that was that. Speaking of the distance (between me and my parents), I was closer to my mother.

Maeno: Aaah.

Kaji: Occasionally my mother would have jobs outside, but overall she was a full-time mom. Also since my little sister is a lot younger than me, to some extent my mother had to stay at home.

Maeno: Yeah yeah, I see.

Kaji: How about you Maeno-kun?

Maeno: It’s pretty much the same for me. My dad was away from home for work most of the time, so I usually went to my mom to talk about the things I wanted to do. But I think my dad wanted me to be a professional baseball player.

Kaji: Oh really? Baseball!

Maeno: Yeah. He wanted to make me play at some serious matches.

Kaji: Speaking of which, we are both part of the cast of a certain baseball anime… (*cough cough*)

Maeno: And we got to participate in that baseball game…

Kaji: And we both invited our parents.

Maeno: Yeah we did. I’m glad that it made them very happy. But, hmm… How about the reversed situation? What would you do if your child told you that they wanted to be a seiyuu?

Kaji: Mm, I can’t even imagine it…

Maeno: *laughs* Neither can I.

Kaji: Well, I’d say if that’s what you want, go for it.

Maeno: Ah really!

Kaji: Who knows~

Maeno: That’s impressive.

Kaji: Well for sure as a parent, I’ll be less anxious if there’s some hesitation in that decision. (I hope this is what Kaji means?)

Maeno: I’m definitely against it. I will do my best to talk them out of it.

Kaji: Is that so?

Maeno: Yeah.

Kaji: Well, it doesn’t really matter what they want to be. Whether it’s seiyuu or something else, we won’t know until they try it out…

Maeno: Right. We don’t know what will happen.

Kaji: After all, it all depends on themselves.

Maeno: You’re right. Anyways, Episode 3 was a good story. (Maenu is saying this because this whole conversation started from a listener’s message about Episode 3 of the anime Fukigen na Mononokean… lol)

Kaji: Pfft! Why are you going back (to the listener’s message) all of a sudden?

Maeno: I thought we had to move on to the next part…

Kaji: We should be fine. Maeno-kun, when did you start thinking of becoming a seiyuu? And when did you tell your parents about it?

Maeno: Well, for me, I pretty much started thinking about it when I was in second grade.

Kaji: That’s so early!! You already knew about seiyuus at that time?

Maeno: Yeah I did. You see, I referred to Gokuu (from Dragon Ball) as Nozawa-san (Nozawa Masako, Gokuu’s seiyuu).

Kaji: You gotta stay in your dreams! It’s Gokuu! Everyone would say it’s Gokuu!

Maeno: *laughing* I know, I know, but…

Kaji: Are you serious?

Maeno: I was a kid like that.

Kaji: No way.

Maeno: Maybe I saw the reality a bit too early.

Kaji: When did you tell your parents then?

Maeno: The first time I told them… Was in high school.

Kaji: So from second grade in elementary school all the way till high school…

Maeno: But since I’ve made up my mind to study voice acting in middle school, my parents probably already noticed back then.

Kaji: So you always wanted to be a seiyuu?

Maeno: Yeah.

Kaji: Not a baseball player?

Maeno: Well…

Kaji: You played soccer though, right?

Maeno: Yes I did.

(They’re saying something here but I really can’t figure it out ><)

Maeno: I did want to be a baseball player before second grade.

Kaji: Ah I see.

Maeno: But it turned out that I made my final decision fairly early.

Kaji: Hmmmm. It’s amazing how you could do that so early.

Maeno: Yeah. Thank you very much.

~from Fukigen na Mononokean -Radio no Kai- Round 3

reluming  asked:

HAS ANYONE ASKED YOU TO TALK ABOUT WHY YOU LOVE MAX YET THOUGH BECAUSE I NEED IT <3

you are the FIRST ONE to have asked me about max, cynthia!!! and after some delay, I will finally tell you how I feel. I WILL TELL YOU.

[sighing dreamily]

[continuing to sigh dreamily]

wha-OH, you wanted me to say actual words?!? OH OKAY. I guess I can do that >:) *giggles* HERE WE GO (งツ)ว

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Here's what I don't get...

Okay, so I saw somewhere on my dash somebody was complaining about the difference between puzzleshipping and blindshipping. I wanted to say something but then again, as I’ve said before, I’m old and been part of the fandom for many many years, so I gotta let the younger guys find out this stuff on their own or it’s no fun.

But that said, there IS one thing that has me puzzled.

Okay, so I interpret puzzleshipping as the relationship between Yugi and Yami. Yami being Atem but before he regained his memory.

And I interpret Blindshipping as Yugi and PHARAOH Atem. Now this can be either Atem post or pre-puzzle. I’ve seen fics/fanart where Yugi has gone back in time and met Atem without Atem even knowing who the hell he was.

Now as far as whether or not Yami Yugi and Atem can be considered the same, I would have to say EHHHHHH maybe? It’s a very fine line that marks the difference, almost as fine as the line that keeps Atem and Yugi from being the same. And that line is made of two elements, Time and Environment. Yugi is Atem’s reincarnation, but what keeps them from being the same person is the time the were born in and the environment they grew up in. Atem was raised to lead a country. Yugi was raised in a very loving home where his only worry was fitting in. Now before I start going into all of that stuff, because that is another topic for later, I just want to get to my point. That was an example. So Atem and Yami, yes, same person, but different environment and different time, so really are they ACTUALLY the same?

We may never really know Atem’s personality before he got locked in the puzzle because in the anime we only see Yami trying to basically Roleplay himself and then he’s pretty quiet once he gets his memory. The only REAL glimpses that we have are from The Forbidden Memories video game and the guy doesn’t even talk! We have to interpret what he was like based on how everybody else reacted to him. And you could probably use that same reasoning with the final season by picking up tidbits from where the characters were talking without Atem in the vicinity and his flashbacks. From that, we gather Atem was a little trickster who fled from authority, enjoyed gambling while disguised as a commoner, was fiercely loyal to his friends, liked to hide in pots, loved his father very much, etc.

With that in mind, really how much different does that make him from Yami? Well Yami might’ve been slightly more arrogant than his old self, but I think that was out of fear and confusion but all the same his instinct told him to hide said fear with arrogance like a true politician. XD

Okay right, so that’s how I argue the two are slightly different and that’s how I tell the two shippings apart.

BUT WHAT I DON’T KNOW IS

What do you call the shipping where Yugi is dating a REVIVED Atem with both sets of memories but looks Egyptian?

Is that still blindshipping? Because he’s technically not a pharaoh anymore. If I REEEEEALLY wanted to stretch it, I could call it mobiumshipping because lol it would be like Yugi dating the two of them but in this case they two are meshed into one hot being.

But seriously, this has bugged me for years because I never know what category to sort this kind of fanart under. So I honestly made a folder I called “Modern Atem” and just threw everything in there until I could figure out what the shipping is. XD

anonymous asked:

Hi! I'm new to the fandom (lolz) and I'm on the fence on all sorts of things. I've seen proof masterposts for larry and ziam being real that had some super convincing points that can't be argued against, but I've also seen some for elounor (and sophiam but more so elounor) that I felt had irrefutable points too. Clearly they can't all be real and I don't know what to think. This fandom is either insanely smart and perceptive or downright delusional lol maybe i'm just scared of being wrong?

Hello!  It’s crazy to be jumping into the middle of things all at once I’m sure.  I didn’t start investigating Larry until I was a fan for 5+ months and then it took me several months to be sure about that.  I discovered Ziam a few months later, but by then I knew what I needed to be convinced.

There are a few things I always keep in mind.

1) If there were attempts made to hide interactions between 2 members, you have to wonder why.  The whole selling point of the band is their friendship, so there’s no reason to be hiding that. It’s against their business interests and given 1D’s schedule over the last 5 years, it’s clear 1DHQ’s main interest is money.

2) Trust what you see from the boys in person.  If you don’t see and hear it coming from the boys’ mouths, then there’s really no good way to know if they said it.  If I left my computer lying around logged in, anyone could use it to post on my Twitter.  The same is true for the boys’ social media except in their case, it’s deliberate social media management.  

Media articles aren’t any better and can be manipulated quite a lot.  Don’t trust the media blindly.

3) Look for consistency.  If you notice that an article says one thing and the boys act completely differently, that’s a huge warning sign.  Someone is lying to you.  For example, why have the UK press all been trying to tell us that 1D is breaking up and the boys aren’t close when the boys’ actions and words show the complete opposite?  

You have to question who has something to gain from the particular lie being told.  On the other hand, if you know the agenda of 1DHQ and something you see on social media etc. doesn’t fit it, that may be an indicator it’s really the boys doing it.

5) Keep in mind that the point of bearding and closeting is for it to look realistic.  A few smiley or intimate pictures can easily be faked.  Watch one of those romcoms where the characters pretend to be dating and see everything they do to convince people they’re dating for real.  Then remember that 1DHQ has a whole team they can dedicate to doing the same thing if that’s their goal.

Closeting is not new.  Teams lying and doing shady things is not new.

6) To add to that, I don’t like taking gifs or heart eyes pictures for proof for Elounor or Larry for instance.  There’s far too much personal interpretation of what intimacy and emotions are with that.  There’s also missing context and possible angle and distance manipulation with pictures.  I like facts and logic because they’re not as easy to skew.

7) Remember that 1DHQ are not our friends and they’re not the boys’ friends. All you have to know is that Niall was told he needed knee surgery 1.25 years and a full tour with 123 shows before he actually was given enough time off to get it.  He performed on that painful, dislocating knee for that long just for the sake of 1DHQ getting tour profits.  

They then had him show up to the Brits only 1.5 weeks after surgery and put him back on tour after a week less than the bare minimum of time he needed to recover. 1DHQ will do what they think they need to to earn their money and they don’t care about how it hurts the boys. 

If you need to know how the boys feel about 1DHQ, some of it is here.

8) Be careful of assumptions.  A lot of things used to create a false narrative are simply hints that are meant to lead you to assumptions.  For instance, if you see a photo posted, you tend to assume it’s current unless there’s some big indicator it’s not, like an old haircut.  That’s not necessarily true, though, since people can hold on to pictures and post them whenever.  

They may post a picture that’s supposed to make you think Zayn is in LA for instance, but then you find that the picture was stolen off the internet.  Break down all the assumptions being made about evidence and think about whether the assumptions are actually solid.  

9) One is an incident, two is coincidence, three is a pattern, more is ridiculous. That’s the rule in general and with 1D.  The thing is that the same specific things happen over and over and over again in the same ways.  When there are too many coincidences, it’s just not a coincidence anymore


Hopefully those things help a little bit in terms of how to judge what’s important and what’s not.  Of course it’s up to you if you agree, but those are a lot of my guiding principles.

I’m also going to say that if you haven’t read the Harry Louis Treatise or watched the ILYSM videos, they’re amazing sources for Larry and Ziam proof respectively.  If you haven’t done those yet, definitely do.

I also have tags for analysis resources, ziam resources, and larry resources on my blog.

Like I said, it took me some time to come to terms with everything, so if it takes you time, it’s not at all weird.  There’s a huge backlog of information to go through to see the patterns that emerge and the shady things that happened over 5 years.

anonymous asked:

can you tell us a bit about your ocs? I uh don't know where to find information about them or about your comics

I DON’T KNOW IF I CAN DO A BIT, only a gratuitous ammount of information cause I love talking about my OCS…

Since the most recent stuff I’ve been posting is for 51/100, I’d be more than happy to talk about it!

I’ll still try to keep it short though. The Premise of 51/100 is that over a persons life time, they’re constantly accumulating points on a 100 point scale, depending on the good/bad things they do. Once they pass on, having a score lower than 0 gets you sent straight to hell, and over 100 sent to the pearly gates of heaven. However, the story is about the people who are in between 1 and 100, and are stuck in an inter-dimensional limbo, where they’re put to the test to gain (or lose) as many points as they can to make it into heaven (or hell…)

People who enter limbo with over 50 points are branded with a halo. while people who fall below 50 adorn horns (which I refer to as just Horns and Halos lol.) Beither either grants its benefits, but of course most people want to be where the Halos are at. However, being a horn makes it significantly more difficult to accumulate points, since you’re considered to have more to make up for. 

The story revolves around Sugar, Zip, and Tucker, three acquaintances who meet an untimely death in the prime of their youth…And all happen to be thrown into limbo!

Sugar is the main character, who falls JUST at 51/100 points (thus the title!) He lucked out in getting his halo, having JUST enough points to score his Halo, and he really wants to try hard to keep it that way. What seems to be hurting him though is his big temper and sense of pride…But he says he’s a good kid! Honest!

Zip is another kid in the group. In life he was sort of a huge…bully. He got into a lot of trouble with his big, smart, mouth, and probably got into more fights than he should have. Because of his prior f*ck-it-all attitude, he slipped a little in the points department, and despite trying to make a karmic turnaround near the end of his life, it wasn’t quite enough before he met his untimely demise. Unfortunately, now he’s stuck with horns. Since he was caught up in the same accident as Sugar and Tucker, they all entered limbo together and decide to help each other out.


Tuck is kind of…well, he’s something. With a whopping 5 points to start with, Sugar and Zip aren’t sure whether keeping him along will do them any good. But they came into this world together, and Sugar insists that numbers will keep them safer, so here he is. Tuck seems like he really doesn’t care either way; it seems like he really doesn’t care about anything! But is he really a bad guy?! How’d he score so low?! He’s the last addition to the group!


ALSO ADDITIONALLY TK, who is kind of one of my OCS I just stick in everything because I love him so much!

TK’s a hothead born to fight. He’ll challenge everything and anything; he came into limbo with a close 80 Points, but decided that instead of coasting through easily he wanted a “challenge” and sacrificed his points down to 1! Since then he’s been challenging others (mainly horns) In duels for 1 point each, and has built his way back to Halo status after a whopping 60 battles! Sugar seems to dislike him for his super obnoxious and abrasive personality, however, because, well, how would you like it if someone was yelling about wanting to fight you constantly! No one knows how he met his end, and he travels with a giant tiger lizard.


Yeah I know it doesn’t really make sense lol. 51/100 is pretty much a self gratifying comic where I just put stuff in that doesn’t make sense but I’m like, that seems cool let’s do it. I enjoy drawing for it and making up stories, so I guess that’s what counts!

Thanks for asking and sorry for long post!

Not You Dumbass...(Nate Maloley/Sammy Wilk Fluffy)

Unexpected imagine haha. It has been edited hehe.

Masterlist HERE

Ahem

Your POV: You arrived at the airport with the ultrasound pictures in your hand. A couple days ago you had went to the doctors because you had suspicions that you were possibly pregnant. You weren’t exactly sure how to tell the baby daddy, a.ka. your boyfriend of 3 years, Nate Maloley. So you decided to step out of the box and just show him the ultrasound pictures, allowing him to figure it out himself. And since you were picking him up from the airport today, you found that everything fell into place as it had only been a couple days since you found out the news.

Nate had been on tour with Sammy and a few of their other friends for 6 weeks and as soon as he told you, you missed him already. He told you time would fly by and that 6 weeks would be over before you knew it but you knew those were just things to say, so you wouldn’t be so sad.

Along with the sweet but not-convincing-enough things Nate told you about time flying by, you had a little fun before he left since you obviously wouldn’t be able to while he was away. You had morning sickness the next day and were able to connect the dots a few days later, leading to your doctor’s appointment.

You had arrived just in time to hear the the announcer lady, announce the name of Nate and Sammy’s flight arriving and you got an anxious feeling in your stomach. You fiddled with the ultrasound pictures in you hands as you stood there watching people walk out of the terminal and greet their loved ones waiting for them.

When Nate’s face finally showed you smiled wide and ran up to him. He instantly recognized you and hugged you back, smiling into your neck. When he set you down he gave you a gentle kiss.

“I missed you so much.” You said.

“I missed you too, baby. How are you?” Nate questioned.

“I’m doing better now that you’re here.” You replied.

“See, I told you 6 weeks would fly by.” he said.

“It felt like 400 years.” you said hiding your face in his chest.

Nate kissed the top of your head and rubbed your back.

“Hey what about me?” Sammy whined.

You let go of Nate and walked over to Sammy giving him a quick squeeze as well.

“Babygirl, what’s that?” Nate questioned pointing to the pictures in your hand.

You looked down at the pictures flipping them over to look at them one more time, making sure that you wanted to go through with telling him.

“Actually, I have something to tell you.” You said standing in front of Nate and Sammy. Your stomach doing backflips.

“What?” They said in unison.

You held up the ultrasound pictures and flipped them over so they were facing Nate and Sammy. You smiled wide at them to show them your excitement.

“IM GOING TO BE A DAD?!?” Sammy yelled. Some people in the airport turning around and staring.

“Not you dumbass, I am.” Nate said smacking Sammy’s arm, making you laugh.

“I know. I know.” Sammy said rubbing his arm.

Nate took the pictures from your hand and examined them as Sammy stood over his shoulder examining them as well.

“This is amazing. I’m gonna be a dad.” Nate said grinning widely as he stared at the pictures in astonishment.

“I’m glad you think so.” You said.

“It’s going to be a boy. I know it.” Sammy said.

“I guess we’ll see in two months.” You said shrugging.

“Well I think it’s going to be a girl.” Nate argued.

“Boy. I’m betting on a boy.” Sammy said.

“I don’t need to bet because I already know.” Nate said.

You watched as Nate and Sammy looked at the ultrasound pictures, bickering over whether it’s a boy or girl. You can already tell you’re gonna have one crazy family. But that’s okay, you love them anyways.

(A/N): So this was requested to be based off of a picture I was sent in a group chat. Sorry if it sucked before lol. I had to edit it. I rushed when I typed it. And yes yes yes I know I said i’d be posting a Matthew smut, but this was unexpectedly requested and i’m still posting it tomorrow. So just enjoy this for now loves.

these  asked:

could you explain your high context vs low context language post to me? it seems funny but I don't know what either of those really are lol

High context languages are languages where the context is very evident when you see/read/hear it. In that sense, the higher context languages are usually the European ones like the Romance languages, the Slavic languages, the Scandinavian languages…

In other words, a higher context language has very defined rules for subjects and objects. In Spanish you always know who is saying what and you can often tell whether they’re being formal or informal based on how they get addressed. Spanish has the pronouns - yo, tú, él/ella, usted, ustedes, nosotros, and vosotros, and also vos - and each pronoun has specific verb forms, and each subject is gendered in a specific way, male, female, or neuter gender.

High context languages also tend to have case systems like Latin or German so the words themselves change depending on the case giving a casual reader/listener context clues readily.

High context languages are difficult for people who are used to more lower context languages because of the use of pronouns, conjugation forms, singular/plural agreement, the case systems themselves, and sometimes coming across as rude or mixing up a gender etc.

The lower context languages are typically the Asian languages, particularly Mandarin Chinese and Japanese are the best examples. In Mandarin, verbs don’t conjugate according to subject, they’re just words. You establish context by particles so the word for “is” is also the word for “was” and “will be” with no change to the word itself, but the sentence structure might change to give you clues. For Japanese, subjects are rarely stated which leads to some ambiguity as far as who does what.

For low context languages, the context is established more in the way things are said and social interaction. There are words of politeness, yes, but higher context languages establish who is doing what and to whom and tells you pretty much everything about their social standing just from the sentence while lower context languages mean you have to deal with more ambiguity.

English is a weird case because it started off more as a higher context language and now we have a more lower context language. We don’t have subjunctive, we don’t have very much gendered words with the exception of some professions (actor/actress, king/queen, businessman/businesswoman… but some are more archaic like hunter/huntress) and social connotations (we assume that nurses will be female based on what society tells us). We also now have more gender neutral terms like police officer instead of just “policeman/policewoman” or fire fighter instead of “fireman”, and things like “chairperson”

English is also more low context with pronouns because in common speech we lack the same kind of binary that some higher context languages have. Typically higher context languages have male, female, male/female plural, female plural. Sometimes there’s neuter gender like German or Spanish.

English has “they” which could refer to a he, she, gender neutral, plural male and/or female… and our “we” is plural but doesn’t have the gender attached implicitly like say Spanish with nosotros vs nosotras

Our “you” used to be formal in older English and we had “thou” for informal the way Spanish has usted and tú, but now we only have “you” and got rid of our direct/indirect object for “you” so we no longer say “ye”. Now we have “you” and sometimes “you all / y'all”

For the most part our adjectives are completely unisex except by social connotation “beautiful” vs “handsome” but in general you could describe a person like “they’re nice, smart, and funny” and you wouldn’t know if it were a man, woman, gender neutral, or plural

To me, higher context languages mean that an eavesdropper knows exactly who is talking about whom and what the context is just by some key words. And a lower context language means that an eavesdropper who isn’t part of the conversation needs a little more to go on before they know who’s being talked about.


EDIT: Also with verb conjugations is different tenses or moods. English has an implied subjunctive mood, but it doesn’t have conjugational changes like the Romance languages. We do have an imperative mood, but we tend to use infinitive forms like “do it” or “be good”. 

English tenses are sometimes very loosely defined where we can use many conjugational forms for different tenses/moods: “we were coming home” is imperfect or past tense, but “if I were to say…” is imperfect subjunctive. We also mix them up like “If I was you” = “If I were you” and nobody bats an eye.

And sometimes our forms stay equally consistent like “paid” could be past tense or a participle; “he paid her” and “he had paid” so our conjugations are a little looser than most high context languages. But we still have irregular things like: am, is, are, was, were… or go, goes, went…. etc.