I told my brother I'm considering top surgery but I'm afraid of what my family would think. He responded with "F*ck family, if this is what will make you happy Ko, then do it." This was the moment where i realized, I will loose people i love with all my heart during this transition no matter how hard I try to please them, but I will also become so much closer with those who stick around to know the real me, I will also gain a body I can look in the mirror and not cringe at, I will also gain a shot at life instead of a plot in a grave yard. Don't transition at a speed that will "keep everyone happy", nothing will keep everyone happy. Transition at a pace that makes YOU happy. Live, don't just survive.