don't be afraid of being different

Deep Ass Starters.
  • Sometimes it's hard to get in depth with your muse and their backstory, because you can't figure out how to bring those things up with others. Here are a couple of starters intended to make things a little more personal!
  • "What's holding you back?"
  • "I'm not comfortable with this conversation."
  • "Will you /ever/ be comfortable with this conversation?"
  • "Let me in sometime!"
  • "It's not that easy, you know."
  • "Help me understand."
  • "It's hard to connect with someone when all they do is push you away."
  • "Why are you always so cold?"
  • "Why are you always so happy?"
  • "Are you really happy now?"
  • "Who hurt you this badly to make you this way?!"
  • "What, did your ex mess you up that badly?!"
  • "Why do you keep fighting it any time you feel?"
  • "It's a problem, I get it."
  • "This is all kinds of messed up."
  • "That's not exactly a good coping method."
  • "So what happened, with your parents, really?"
  • "What was your childhood like?"
  • "Everyone has at lest a little bit of mommy/daddy issues. It's nothing to be ashamed of."
  • "My parents aren't exactly perfect models, either."
  • "You were bullied? What for?"
  • "Was it hard? Coming out, I mean."
  • "You can't just run away all the time."
  • "You can't just hide all the time."
  • "Are you still thinking about them?"
  • "I'm not the enemy here. But this makes me wonder who the real one is for you."
  • "Is the reason you're so cold and defensive because you feel threatened?"
  • "How long has it been since you last spoke to them?"
  • "You never talk about it, why?"
  • "How come you're so different around them?"
  • "It's like you don't have a care or worry in the world."
  • "You seem so perfect. I don't get it."
  • "What was your ex like?"
  • "I don't think I was ever good enough for them."
  • "Are you not comfortable being intimate?"
  • "Why don't you feel comfortable being intimate?"
  • "Letting someone see you that vulnerable, it's a scary thing."
  • "Are you scared of being hurt?"
  • "Have you ever been taken advantage of?"
  • "Why are you afraid of saying I love you?"
  • "I never understood how someone could say those words so easily."
  • "You're hurting others the way you've been hurt in the past, don't you think that's ironic?"
  • "You use people to make yourself feel better."
  • "I'm scared of being used again..."
  • "Losing someone isn't easy, but you're making it harder than it needs to be."
  • "How long has it been since you lost them?"
  • "You're too attached."
  • "I'm not attached, I'm just comfortable with what I'm familiar to."
  • "Maybe the real reason you're so controlling is because, deep down you'd rather have them in your grasp than lose them."
  • "Why did you ever break up?" / "Why did we ever break up?"
Why the MBTI types don't do prank calls
  • INTJ: they got too frustrated when their recipients were so gullible.
  • INTP: they are forcibly prevented from doing so since the last incident.
  • ENTJ: they're too busy at business meetings.
  • ENTP: no one knows the difference between their normal calls and prank calls. they seem to always be pranking.
  • INFJ: they have no idea how to hide their caller id.
  • INFP: they don't currently have a phone.
  • ENFJ: they came up with something too obscure and inoffensive that no one would even let them do it.
  • ENFP: they just burst into random maniacal laughter halfway through, giving themselves away.
  • ISTJ: they're afraid of being caught.
  • ISFJ: they're afraid of hurting someone's feelings.
  • ESTJ: so that they can tell others not to do so and seem like the better person.
  • ESFJ: they're always on the receiving end because they're so gullible.
  • ISTP: their phone isn't currently functioning because they pulled it just apart so they could put it back together again.
  • ISFP: a teacher confiscated their mobile three years ago and they never got it back.
  • ESTP: they haven't payed their phone bill yet.
  • ESFP: everyone knows it's them.

cat-in-a-hoodie  asked:

I want to write about a black character but I'm afraid I'll describe it wrongly and maybe a little racist. Do I'm asking a good way to show it without being too upfront. There is a part on my story where they all go to the beach and one of the POC character's friend is jealous they don't get scorched by the sun and the character says something like "It's one of the good things about being black". Is it okay? Or should I say something different? I just really don't wish to offend anyone. Thanks

Self-deprecating Jokes about Blackness (written by outsiders)

I find this to be a very off-putting thing to say, and feels racist written by a non-Black person who isn’t going to bring the much needed nuance to such a phrase. The way this statement is worded implies there’s few good things about being Black. It’s one thing for a Black person to vent or sarcastically say something like this, written by a Black person. But if you are not Black, i’d stay away from such a loaded statement.

Plus, you’re perpetuating a dangerous myth. Black people can be burned from the sun and need sunscreen! Even if darker-skinned has more protection than fairer skin, it isn’t like we don’t need it at all. Many people are endangered by this belief.

In fact Black Patients Have the Worst Skin-Cancer-Survival Rates. Part of this comes from late diagnosis, people not believing skin cancer affects them due to their skin tone, the fact that many dermatologists aren’t trained to identify cancer on dark skin…but that’s a whole other issue!

Please do thorough research and browse in our tags for guidance on writing Black characters, and Characters of Color in general, before pursuing your story.

~Mod Colette

  • Tumblr usually: Think for yourself, ask questions, and be a freethinker! Come to your own conclusions and don't be afraid to be different and stand out! It's your life, and you should be happy to be unique! Don't let people bully you into being a sheep! Question everything, friends!
  • Tumblr when shitting on vegans: What, you think animals have rights and we shouldn't kill or harm them unnecessarily? What kind of white supremacist, middle-class bullshit is that? Get the hippie fuckery out of here. The meat industry is the most honest industry in the world. Anyone who disagrees should kill themselves.
  • "You've seem to replace your brain with your heart"
  • "Everyone thinks that we're perfect"
  • "Smile for the picture"
  • "Go back to being plastic"
  • "Kids are still depressed when you dress them up"
  • "He doesn't think I'm that fucking dumb, does he?"
  • "You call that ass your own, we call that silicone"
  • "All the makeup in the world won't make you less insecure"
  • "It's all fun and games 'til somebody falls in love"
  • "You already bought a ticket and there's no turning back now"
  • "Mr. Houdini, you're a freakshow"
  • "You build me up like building blocks just so you can bring me down"
  • "Fuck your degree"
  • "You think you're smarter than me with all your bad poetry"
  • "Why do I always spill?"
  • "God, I wish I never spoke"
  • "I'm sick of all the games I have to play"
  • "I love when you call me fucking dumb for the stupid shit I do"
  • "It's not like I'm asking to be your wife!"
  • "It's my party and I'll cry if I want to!"
  • "I'll cry until the candles burn down this place"
  • "I'll cry until my pity party's in flames"
  • "He chased me and he wouldn't stop!"
  • "Tag, you're it!"
  • "I'm fucking crazy"
  • "Do you like my cookies? They're made just for you"
  • "A little pit of sugar and lots of poison, too!"
  • "Honey, do you want me now?"
  • "Someone told me 'stay away from things that aren't yours' but was he yours if he wanted me so bad?"
  • "Pacify her! She's getting on my nerves"
  • "You don't love her, stop lying with those words!"
  • "Loving her seems tiring"
  • "Don't be dramatic, it's only some plastic"
  • "No one will love you if you're unattractive!"
  • "Is it true that pain is beauty?"
  • "Will a pretty face make it better?"
  • "Do you swear you'll stay forever?"
  • "Baby soft skin turns into leather"
  • "We paint white roses red, each shade from a different person's head"
  • "This dream is a killer!"
  • "I really hate being safe"
  • "The normals, they make me afraid"
  • "The crazies, they make me feel sane"
  • "I'm not! Baby, I'm mad!"
  • "So what if I'm crazy? The best people are!"
  • "Tell the psychiatrist something is wrong"
  • "You like me best when I'm off my rocker"
  • "All the best people are crazy"

anonymous asked:

Please, please help. I'm worried that I'm wrong with my belief that lgbtq+ people aren't so called "sinful" as my religion likes to believe. I don't want to find out too late that I'm spreading false information but I can't see how it's wrong. I just want people to know my God doesn't see them unholy for being themselves. I'm also terribly afraid of judgement from my community and/or family. I feel so alone /:

I’ve struggled with this growing up, and sometimes still do.  It’s hard to be raised in an environment in which people you look up to say what you are is sinful, dirty, unhealthy, and wrong.  

But when I feel this way, I try to remember:  

  • I don’t know what your religion is, but I don’t believe in a God who created all these creatures just so that He could contempt them.  I believe they’re beautiful and part of His design, just like I am and you are.  We’re expressions of God’s creation, and we were created to be beautiful.  He loves you.  And no one can take that away.
The Signs as I know them Pt. 2  (Virgo boy perspective)
  • Aries: I havnen't known him for too long, but he's really funny and pretty out there. Likes screamo music and wear s somewhat emo clothes, but they're not black. Light skin ,auburn brown hair and slight freckles.
  • Taurus: She's really athletic and sporty. I didn't like her when I first met her but now she's pretty cool. She isn't a good secret keeper. We have this thing where we hug a lot because she's not feeling good emotionally or something like that. Hair is always dyed, somewhat tan skin, clear expressions.
  • Gemini: So artistically talented. She draws mermaids and is amazing at watercolor painting. Really chill, and mostly introverted. We'll be talking and she'll say something so funny out of nowhere and it takes me by surprise (in a good way). Tall, really light features, serious face.
  • Cancer: One of the sweetest people I know. Gives me hugs all the time and she's so nice. Bubbly and mostly happy. People are mean to her for no reason though which kills me on the inside. Stopped caring for people altogether. Tan skin, brown thick hair. Lit up eyes.
  • Leo: She looks kind of mean from far away but super nice once you get to know her. Watch out if you get on her bad side though! Talks and laughs a lot. Smiles and talks enthusiastically. Somewhat tall but not short. Nice smile.
  • Virgo: Really booksmart and gets lovesick quite easily. We have a lot in common and appreciate those things. We give each other great advice and help each other out when we're not feeling well. Kind of bristly when you first meet her but she's pretty nice once you know her. Short, dark features.
  • Libra: She seems like she hates the rest of the world, but she really just hates school. Brutally honest about everything and everyone, but really funny. Smiles a lot and is all about gossip. Is really nice to teachers and is pretty smart. A little tall but not short, expressive eyes.
  • Scorpio: DRAMATIC. He overreacts about every little situation and it gets a little annoying. Not as bad if you actually have a conversation with him though. Does nice things for people but can be really mean for no reason.
  • Dark features, fast movements.
  • Sagittarius: New this year to our school, she's really funny and we talk a lot on the bus. Doesn't need people to survive in a social setting and is perfectly fine alone. Into memes and all that kind of stuff and has a strong sense of morals. Light skin, dark hair, somewhat short.
  • Capricorn: I think he was born responsible to be honest. Got a job at 14 and loves to work. He was really polite when he first met me and he somewhat opened up to me. Me and my friend were being really petty to him though and I felt bad about it but they're super close so I also don't. Tall, straight nose, slow walk.
  • Aquarius: Can play a few different instruments, has some social struggles. She and I both kind of hate the world and have pretty good talks. She's pretty crazy once you get to know her and it's pretty cool. Smooth skin, thin, observant eyes.
  • Pisces: We've been there for each other emotionally. (I think it's the whole opposites thing but idk). When she was afraid to do something I kept encouraging her and good things came from it. She's a really nice person and loves music. She knows two languages. Black hair, tall, athletic.

anonymous asked:

How do you make sure roosters don't fight. When I get chickens, I want multiple roosters but I'm scared of them fighting.

I’m afraid you can’t prevent them from fighting, most breeds have been bred to be aggressive as a result of cockfighters being bred into their lineage. Getting a mellow breed with feathery feets like cochins will help prevent fighting, and injury in case they do fight.

However, you shouldn’t really worry about fighting *too* much. We have roosters of all different shapes and sizes, and only one is a problem that must remain separate (Parsley). Most often, they’ll fight a few times to see who’s boss, then be done with it. Your job isn’t to prevent fighting, but just make sure that they don’t injure one another too much. A torn wattle or comb are fine, just put some flour on afterwards to stop the bleeding. Damage to the eye is more difficult but usually easy to fix with some flour too…it’s up to you to judge when they should go to vet or when you can patch them up yourself.

my sister
  • the other day my sister was talking to me and she goes " i don't understand how peolle with eating disorders don't eat" keep in my mind i have an eating disorder. first of all there are different types of eating disorders not just one. and the people with anorexia don't just not eat because they don't want to. they don't eat because they're afraid that if they do its going to ruin their plan of being skinny. its not a matter of not loving food, its a matter of looking yourself in the mirror and not liking what you see. not liking the way your body is. wishing you were skinnier or wishing you were more muscular or bustier. it takes people down when you just pretend like eating disorders are a joke and like they don't exist.

80s-river  asked:

I was wondering what your thoughts were on abortion. I am pro-life but I always keep this to myself as I'm afraid of people thinking I am supporting donald trump in any way. I'm not racist, homophobic or sexist at all but I still can't help but feel like people think I'm a bad person for being pro-life. I am a teenage girl so people tend to make me think that because I'm young I don't understand anything about abortion and my opinion is wrong. do you think being pro-life makes you a bad person ?

I think there’s a fundamental difference between being pro-life and being anti-choice. Lots of women choose not to have an abortion, but it’s a choice that they make for themselves. 

And I don’t say this to be condescending, or to invalidate your beliefs: being a teenager, your life experience is limited. You’re certainly entitled to your own opinions, but I hope you’ll be open to learning, growing, and having those opinions challenged and changed as you get older, even if you end up adhering to them as they are now.

Thanks for your ask. If anyone else replies to this, I hope they’ll be decent to you, as you were to me.

the lightning thief part 1
  • " I think the gods are trying to tell me they hate me. "
  • " She's sworn off gluten and she's sworn off guys. "
  • " Well, they don't pay attention to you, either. "
  • " You never listen but now, you're gonna listen. "
  • " It's time you heard our side of the story. "
  • " It mostly gets you killed in very nasty ways. "
  • " He ate them! "
  • " But is it me, or is Greek mythology not deeply weird? "
  • " Why do you have peanut butter in your hair? "
  • " One might question your parentage. "
  • " Perhaps it's for the best. This wasn't the place for you. "
  • " I can't tell you all my secrets. "
  • " Why be blah when there's aquamarine? "
  • " Everyone has issues they're dealing with. "
  • " If you're weird, you're weak. "
  • " The things that make you different are the very things that make you strong. "
  • " Don't pass out! Don't pass out! Don't pass out! "
  • " Like I said, weird. "
  • " You drool when you sleep. "
  • " I suppose that's good news for you, but it means a lot more paperwork for me. "
  • " Of course, being alive is temporary. "
  • " This is way out of my pay grade. "
  • " Does no one watch the orientation film? "
  • " Oh, great, she's crying. "
  • " It wasn't a dream? She's really gone? "
  • " I'm afraid there are some questions only the gods themselves can answer. "
  • " I know that the future looks blurry but, not to worry, just do what you can. "
  • " Have faith, keep your chin up, we'll help you adjust. "
  • " No one can blame you for holding a grudge. "
  • " Welcome to the dysfunctional family. "
  • " Prepare to be pulverized, newbie. "
  • " It's gonna be bloody murder she wrote! "
  • " We have to beat her? "
  • " It's your first day. We don't want you messing this up. "
  • " You got some issue with me, it's pretty clear. "
  • " Is the food here really that bad? "
  • " I met the guy once, and once was enough. "
  • " She's sworn off gluten and she's sworn off guys. "
  • " Remember my lecture - he ate his children. "
  • " She tries to be cool but mainly she's flighty. "
  • " If I tried to sing, it'll probably cause an avalanche. "
  • " I don't care where our parents may be, as long as you are here with me. "
2p's + Mad hatter
  • 2p America: My friends don't walk, they run, Skinny dip in rabbit holes for fun;
  • 2p China: Popping, popping balloons with guns, getting high off helium;
  • 2p Italy: We paint white roses red, Each shade from a different person's head;
  • 2p France: This dream, dream is a killer, Getting drunk with the blue caterpillar;
  • 2p Austria: I'm peeling the skin off my face, 'Cause I really hate being safe;
  • 2p Prussia: The normals, they make me afraid, The crazies, they make me feel sane;
  • 2p South Italy: I'm nuts, baby, I'm mad, The craziest friend that you've ever had;
  • 2p Japan: You think I'm psycho, you think I'm gone, Tell the psychiatrist something is wrong;
  • 2p Germany: Over the bend, entirely bonkers, You like me best when I'm off my rocker;
  • 2p England: Tell you a secret, I'm not alarmed, So what if I'm crazy? The best people are.

anonymous asked:

I'm 15 and i'm afraid to say my age online cause i feel like people would treat me differently for being so young. I want people to treat me the way they do now like i'm an older person. I hate it when people won't show something to you cause i'm too young but i really don't care. And i feel like people will judge me for my age........

Hi there, sweetheart.

I can see why you’d be nervous; revealing your age is always kind of nerve-wracking thing, but I don’t think people would treat you all that different. There are loads of people who are years younger than you on Tumblr! If it’s, say, your friends or even people you don’t talk to on a regular basis, I don’t think they’d care how old you are!

I don’t think anyone would judge you, either. Ultimately though, it is your decision! <3

anonymous asked:

How did you figure out you were a bottom? Can I really be sure I'm a bottom if I've never had sex? And in broader terms of identity, I feel like I have a lot of my identity I've never explored, because I guess I'm afraid of embarrassing myself. Sometimes I think I'd be happier as a different gender, though at the same time I don't know if that's just normal thinking or actual dysphoria, since I'm not exactly unhappy with the way I am? Is there any way I can make more sense of this?

How did I figure out I was a bottom? I was walking out to my car with a woman who I was on a first date with, and I mentioned that I kind of like being bossed around, and she said, “Oh, you like to be topped?” and I’d never heard that expression before outside gay male relationship where the bottom is the dude who takes it, so I was was like, “What’s being topped?” and she suddenly pushed me up against a wall, leant against me with her hips, and whispered into my ear, “It’s more of this,” and I was like oh my god oh my god mgykgbakljerkgjbelaer

Honestly, though, for someone who has an ultra-responsible job like mine, for someone who’s had to manage her own household since they were in their teens, there is such peace in surrender. In not making decisions. In letting someone take over and just existing at their command. I love it. It’s almost trance-like, and it fosters such trust and intimacy in a partnership. 

Honestly? I don’t think you could really know 100% unless you’ve tried both. But that’s only my opinion - I’m sure there are virgins out there who love to imagine being topped and already know. For the rest of us, you need to experience it to know if it works for you or not XD

You don’t need to worry about being embarrassed, because you don’t really try things like this with people you don’t trust. And sex can be funny and awkward anyway, it’s nice to do it with someone who’ll laugh along with you and make it a shared experience while you experiment :)

The gender stuff is another conversation. Gender takes time to work out. You don’t need to rush it <3

bring-it-on-punk  asked:

Skrill. If I'm going to be honest I understand where your coming from. With all the pressure to be accepted and accepting yourself. And then when something bad happens or you treat someone badly, they tell at you. I understand. I know how hard it is to keep it in. Maybe make a different blog. And vent blog to post that stuff. Keep asks off so people don't yell at you for venting. Because you are a human being too And sometimes you need to let that pain out. And it's okay.

I’m afraid that people will think I’m a drama king or something if I open one

anonymous asked:

what are your thoughts on single parenting? I'm a trans guy with bpd who don't want to have a romantic relationship never ever again but really want children. I've been dreaming about it since I was a child. But I'm afraid of being too clingy to them or just fucking up. I guess with a partner I would have different opinions or a different way to see the world to teach them? What are your toughts in it?

Honestly? There is nothing wrong with single parenting. So many single parents do just as good if not better a job than couples do. There’s so much stigma and false information about single parenting that’s. Disgusting. The ‘nuclear family’ is painted as the ideal child-rearing scenario but it’s just. Not true. How many cishet couples do you hear of where the husband does shit fuck all and the mother is practically a single mother anyway? Lots. The only thing you’ll likely struggle more with is the financial aspects, since it’ll only be one person able to provide financially. Other than that? No issues.

Single parenthood is perfectly fine as an option. But as someone else with BPD I will say this, bluntly and honestly - get yourself stable before you think about it. Get therapy. Get extensive treatment. It’s taken me a good few years to get to a point where I feel I can be responsible for another human life. I had big issues with depressive episodes, lashing out and alcohol abuse that I’ve had to crawl my way out of. BPD is a nasty creature to have hold of you. Make sure you get some kind of support for it before you have children.

i think the only difference between sana getting educated about homosexuality and isak getting educated about racism is- when sana said those things about homosexuality julie knew sana was wrong, but i don’t think julie thinks isak was wrong in that scene. i feel like she thinks isak was being “woke” in that scene, that’s why i’m afraid he won’t get educated.

Johnny Depp

When you don’t see things under the same light as most, many people forget that there are going to be less people (if any at all) to show you the way forward, instead they try to change you, make you more “normal”. When you are deemed as different, people treat you like an outcast, see you as a perfect imperfection, and think of you as less of a person than themselves. Fuck THEM and thank YOU, Johnny Depp, for being different, for not becoming who the world said you should be, for being you for you and no one else. Happy Birthday Johnny Depp, you are very appreciated and greatly treasured by many.