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I haven’t seen one of these yet so I decided to make one!! Feel free to use! Please don’t reblog if you’re a cg/l or dd/lg blog


David Tennant’s acrobatic left eyebrow

(seems like I should tag @whatisyourlefteyebrowdoingdavid, just because)

i wonder what their last words to each other were.

after the finality of the moment had already settled, everyone felt it was over, inevitably, where they sharp? a last blow? or were they soft, a last touch of sentiment, after tearing each other apart, before the end? was anyone choking back tears, did they think they were going to miss the other? or did they breathe a sigh of relief?

and what was their last kiss like? there was no kiss goodbye, so when did it happen? and did they already feel the end coming on, two continents touching for the last time before being separated by their own slow drifting, or was it a kiss of lovers embracing before the crash? did they know its bittersweet finality?

did they ever say “i love you” in those last months? was the air colder than in summer?

how exactly did it feel when everything collapsed?

Stress makes everything harder

Autistic people are autistic all the time. Sometimes some difficulties fade into the background, then come back out again when someone is particularly stressed out. This is true across the board for sensory issues, communication issues, movement, and all kinds of other things. (This is also true for people with any other kind of disability).

The intermittent nature of some apparent difficulties can sometimes lead to them being misinterpreted as psychosomatic. They’re not. Everyone, autistic or not, has more trouble doing things that are hard for them when they’re experiencing significant stress. Some things are particularly hard for autistic people, and those things also get harder with stress.

This is how it actually works:

  • Doing the thing always takes a lot of effort
  • Putting in all that effort has become second nature
  • When you’re not exceptionally stressed, you might not notice the effort it takes consciously
  • When you *are* really stressed, you don’t have energy to do the thing in the ways you normally can
  • So you end up having more trouble than usual, and probably looking a lot more conspicuously disabled than usual

For instance, with motor issues:

  • For those of us with motor difficulties, moving smoothly and accurately takes more effort than it does for most people
  • This can become second nature, to the point that we don’t consciously notice how difficult it is
  • But it’s still there
  • And when you’re really stressed or overwhelmed, you may not have the energy to make yourself move accurately
  • So things you can normally do (eg: handwriting, not walking into walls, picking up objects, pouring water) might become awkward or impossible
  • That doesn’t mean you’re faking or somehow doing it on purpose
  • It just means that things are harder when you’re stressed

Or with sensory issues:

  • Living with sensory sensitivities means that a lot of things hurt
  • For the sake of doing things anyway, a lot of us build up a high pain tolerance
  • To the point that we may no longer consciously process things as pain even though they hurt
  • Ignoring pain takes a lot of energy
  • When we’re really stressed, we may not have the energy to ignore pain
  • And things we normally tolerate can be experienced as overloading or intolerably painful
  • That doesn’t mean we’re faking the pain to avoid something stressful, or that we’re somehow bringing it on ourselves.
  • It just means that everything is harder under stress, including tolerating pain

Or with communication:

  • Communication can be hard for a lot of us in varying ways
  • For some of us, being able to speak requires juggling a lot of things that are automatic for most people
  • Or being able to use words at all, including typing
  • For some of us, that’s true of understanding people when they talk to us
  • Or of knowing what words are at all
  • If someone can’t talk, understand or use words under stress, it doesn’t mean that they’re somehow faking it to avoid a difficult situation
  • It means that communication is hard, and stress makes everything harder

tl;dr Stress makes everything harder. For people with disabilities, that includes disability-related things, including things that we don’t normally seem to have trouble with. Sometimes we’re wrongly assumed to be doing on purpose or faking to avoid a difficult situation; it should actually be seen as an involuntary, normal, and expected physiological response to stress.

anonymous asked:

I have my first therapy appointment tomorrow and I'm highkey nervous. do you have any tips or anything that might help? thank u so much ❤❤

Hi there, congrats on starting the journey of therapy! It can be intimidating, but it’s absolutely worth it. Here are a few things to keep in mind (complete with anxiety-reducing gifs of course):

Honesty. This may seem obvious, but it can be quite difficult to be completely honest with someone you’ve just met. Be as open as you can and if you’re not ready to share something, then you’re not ready- there’s no reason you need to divulge your entire life story in a single session! Remember that your therapist is there to help you, not judge you.

Awkwardness. Maybe it’s just me, but there are loads of moments when the combination of silence/darting eye contact/hand wringing reaches a level of awkward that can only be achieved in the therapy room. It’s completely fine to tell your therapist outright ‘hey, this is really awkward’, or you can keep playing the ‘Who’s Going To Talk First’ game. Silence is a-okay and therapists are astoundingly comfortable with it!

Transparency. Try not to exaggerate or minimise symptoms. If you find yourself wanting to hyperbolise certain behaviours, I can promise you that you’re ‘sick enough’; If you start trying to downplay particular feelings, don’t worry about surprising or repulsing your therapist. You don’t need to be a superhero and you’re certainly not insane. You’re human.

Patience. Learning and healing take time, and it might feel as if you’re improving at a sloth’s pace - or even going backwards. Therapy is a process with a non-linear progression, so be prepared to do a bit of a recovery/relapse cha-cha. This can be discouraging, but eventually you’ll get the hang of the dance and you’ll keep progressing (:

Trust. After a few sessions, your therapist will likely have you try activities that make you uncomfortable. You can always say no, but have confidence in their ability to select challenges that you’re ready to try. You can do this!

Best wishes anon, you’re going on an adventure! Any hey, this blog is always here if you’d like to share some of the weird and wonderful moments of therapy (:

If any followers want to comment with their experience, please do!

That’s cool that folks are rebloggin the gits “I am major” post but I get this feel that lotta folks are kinda missing the main point. From here on, I’m hoping to spend far less time discussing movies or TV shows with a White writer, White director, or a predominantly White cast, so.. hopefully this is the last time I’m sharing answers to questions about diversity and POC from an East Asian perspective.

Here’s the thing: I do not care about Ghost in the Shell fans, and I don’t care if people liked the anime or not. I’ve watched both movies, checked out some of the TV, really enjoyed the TV soundtrack since I enjoy anything Yoko Kanno touches, but none of these are reasons why I speak up against Hollywood productions like the recent Ghost in the Shell. I am not concerned about if Hollywood will be able to make Ghost in the Shell faithful to the original intent. I don’t care if Ghost in the Shell fans in the US are disappointed.

The reason why I speak up against Ghost in the Shell is because it emphasizes and highlights how White Supremacy and racism operates in America. Racism is not always Nazi salutes and pointy white hats; it isn’t always White folks yelling chink or geisha girl at me, or shouting at me to go back to Asia from their cars. Racism is a society-wide system in the US where everything is designed to favor & uplift one particular race of people, that being White people and things created by White people, which is why it’s called White Supremacy.

It’s like being a left handed person in a right handed person world. Or like being a short person in a workplace with a lot of tall people. But in this case, it means that if you’re Asian in America, you will never see people who look like you celebrated in the mainstream US media. Maybe once every 5 years, we’ll get a PSY or a Constance Wu or an Aziz Ansari, but for the most part, we’re in this country working as hard (if not harder!) as our White peers, but we’re not enjoying the TV or the movies at the same intensity as they get to do.

It’s troubling to me that there are more people sympathetic to people who are fans of the animated Ghost in the Shell, than people considering the impact of how Asian Americans seldom get to enjoy stories written by Asians with other American peers. The care for the reasons why Asian Americans are speaking up against the excuses about White Supremacy “They need a bankable actress” “Robots are raceless” “Anime characters are White anyway” “The gits creator said he’s cool with a White actress” “subtitles are too hard to read” “race doesn’t matter” “She’s a strong female so any woman can play her” is sadly but unsurprisingly absent from the minds of the many Americans who are speaking up against this movie. Even issues that impact Asian Americans the greatest can’t be Asian-centered in America.

We don’t even play Asian-made movies in US cinemas, besides Pokemon and maybe Yugioh. But we’ll play Pacific Rim and White Ghost in the Shell and Kill bill and Memoirs of a Geisha. The cinemas that played Pacific Rim don’t celebrate nor show the Evangelion movies. The cinemas that show Memoirs of a Geisha don’t celebrate nor show movies made by Japanese directors, not even Sakuran which features a half-White girl. Many of you have probably never seen an Asian movie at a cinema, but you have seen many movies made by White people that were “inspired” by movies that Asians made: Movies that you’re never going to see.

It isn’t cultural exchange if one side takes and takes and takes, but they never show the same audience where they are taking from.

There is no evidence that the cinemas celebrating White Ghost in the Shell will also celebrate and show films from Asia at that same caliber.

Asian Americans work hard, but we have so little to celebrate.

As a black person I’m really not affected by the whole Nct’s hairstyles because I’m used to seeing it in kpop and also in the real world. It is what it is and it can’t be changed but the song is a bop and I’m not going to unstan a member or the group just because of a stylist’s decision to make them look more HipHop.