This is my 94 year-old Grandmother who has had Alzheimer’s Disease for 30 years. We rarely speak about elder abuse but recently there was a man who was just convicted of sexually assaulting his wife because she had severe memory-loss and therefore was not fit to live without medical assistance, handle her finances, and let alone consent. There was also a male nurse who was caught raping nursing home patients. These are issues to be aware of & Im so glad my Grandmother lived to this day to support this cause! 🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻 #StopRapeEducate #elderabuse #elders #nursinghome #granny #womensrights #feminism #feminist #humanrights #rapeculture #peaceandlove #peaceonearth #bethechange #abuse #domesticviolence #survivor #yesallwomen #itsonus #law #society #foodforthought #memoryloss #alzheimers #dementia #overcome

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Bride’s Walk raises domestic violence awareness

More than 300 students walked, heard stories from abuse survivors.

MIAMI - Josie Ashton walked more than a 1,000 thousand miles 10 years ago to commemorate the life of Gladys Ricart who was killed by an abusive ex-boyfriend on her wedding day.

“Ten years ago I walked alone; today, I am not alone,” said Ashton. “Being a domestic violence survivor who grew up in a violent home, I want to make everyone aware of this problem. The main source of my inspiration is my two daughters.”

Ashton, 38, was a criminal justice major at Florida International University at the time of the murder in 1999.

“I received a vision from seeing that. I decided to walk from New Jersey to Miami to make people aware of domestic violence,” Ashton said. “As it happens in many cases, everyone was blaming the victim, saying she brought on the attack herself because she was still communicating with her ex-boyfriend.”

Along her walk in September 2001, Ashton stayed in 14 domestic violence shelters and visited 22 cities. 

Her walk inspired subsequent Bride’s Walks in New York, Wisconsin, Florida and Washington. 

South Florida walks have taken place in 2002, 2003, 2005 and 2008, when sufficient sponsors were involved. 

you know patriarchy is a terrible drug

when there’s a video of a man knocking his girlfriend out

and the biggest defenders of a man’s right to knock a woman out

comes from women

how jaded do you have to be

to not look at that and think

this man is dangerous

when ever i see a woman who has been abused by their partner

i feel for her

i weep for her

how empty do you have to be as a woman

to play devils advocate

for the devil themself?

On December 5, 2003, I suffered catastrophic facial injuries when my abuser shot me at point-blank range. I was not expected to live. By God’s hand I survived. I had 11 reconstructive surgeries at Methodist Hospital in Houston, Texas over a two year period. While recovering I discovered my purpose, to tell my story to all willing to listen.

Traumatic Bonding Self Test

The following are a series of statements which describe traumatic bonding in which a person bonds on the basis of betrayal. The result is what we call a “betrayal bond” aka Stockholm Syndrome, Love/relationship addiction. 


  1. obsess about people who have hurt you even though they are long gone?
  2. continue to seek contact with people whom you know will cause you further pain?
  3. go “overboard” to help people who have been destructive to you?
  4. continue to be a “team” member when obviously things are becoming destructive?
  5. continue attempts to get people to like you who are clearly using you?
  6. trust people again and again who are proven to be unreliable?

Are you unable to retreat from unhealthy relationships?

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Abuse & Being Undocumented

Dating and domestic violence occur in immigrant communities at similar rates as non-immigrant communities. However, immigrant communities are often at greater risk – due to language barriers, social isolation, lack of information, lack of financial resources, cultural beliefs, not knowing our rights and sometimes the fear of deportation. Abuse often goes unreported, and victims do not receive the services they need.

Because of these complex barriers and challenges, it often makes reporting dating abuse that much more difficult. However, it’s very important to make sure that you’re able to take steps to keep safe. Below are some tips to help:

  • Know Your Rights: Everyone –- citizen or immigrant, documented or undocumented –- enjoys basic human rights such as the right to be safe and protected by the law.
  • Seek Support From People You Trust: Always reach out to those you know and trust first. Just use your best judgment.
  • Become Informed: Often, we just don’t know where to get help and support. Start by learning the facts about dating abuse by exploring this website.

Get more details about what to do if you or someone you care about it is undocumented and experiencing abuse.    ~  loveisrespect

Another TRUTH ABUSE is his “Black & White thinking”.  

There is an assumption implied that there is only one choice B&W.  Madonna or Whore. Only one winner at a time.  This is a competition.

Not wanting to be controlled isn’t even related to all those virtues he’s validating as important and moral. 

Don’t validate his B&W thinking.  

Attack him at there are hundreds of possibilities for solutions, and hundreds of possibilities where everyone wins.  Refuse the competition argument.


It took 18 months, but it happened. December 23,2013 i was violently assaulted by someone who at the time i called my boyfriend. All i did was suggest to take a break due to how controlling and jealous he was throughout the 5 or so weeks we were together. In response, this is what i received. Countless lashes to the face and body, a bite to the arm, suffocated to the point where i nearly blacked out, dragged up the stairs by my hair, and forced to run barefoot into the snow clinging for life to complete strangers. God Bless the man who saved my life and drove me to the hospital that night. I was left with three sets of stitches, two black eyes, welts and bruise all over my body, and flashbacks that don’t stop. Since then, i’ve found someone who truly cares about me, and a stronger support system then ever. I’ve been undergoing a long process with the charges and i am relieved to say it’s finally over. For those who doubted what he did this to me, your opinions don’t matter. I dont know how anyone in their rightful mind could believe i did this to myself. And to those who have supported me continuously throughout this difficult process, thank you. You are my support system. The plea of guilt, and watching him walk through those doors was such a weight off of my shoulders. I can now fully breathe, for the first in almost two years. my ex boyfriend zack is now paying the consequences of what he did that night. 5 charges and 4 months in prison after 18 months of house arrest. Let this be a lesson learned to everyone out there. You will not get away with doing this to someone. Domestic violence is a serious matter and not enough people understand how often it occurs. Too many women have lost lives because of this and ones that do survive are left with horrifying scars and memories. but we’re not just survivors, we are warriors. If you’re going through something like this, or know someone who is, please speak out. You have a right to feel safe, now i finally do.

Introducing the @stoprapeeducate Photo Challenge!! Tell us why we need to educate people to stop rape and post with the hashtag #StopRapeEducate ⭐️ We will share your picture to help spread this message as far as possible! ⭐️ I wrote this message because “no” does not mean “convince me.” 💚💕💚💕💚💕💚💕💚💕💚💕💚💕💚💕 💚 #StopRapeEducate #photochallenge #photocontest #rapeculture #education #consent #sexed #teach #educate #awareness #sexualasaault #sexualabuse #abuse #domesticviolence #overcome #strength #yesallwomen #itsonus #feminism #feminist #feminismo #feminista #womensrights #empowerment #peaceandlove #bethechange #makeadifference #awareness #peaceonearth #activism #awareness #ambertheactivist

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Open the door. Take a journey. Thank you for taking the time to care.

A Woman’s Journey from Domestic Violence Victim to Survivor
by Stacie Dubay

A door. A suitcase.

Picture a woman. She is living in fear. 

Every breath of every second of every minute of every day, she lives in fear of the person she loves. 

She is filled with hope; she is filled with despair - a seesaw of emotion that accompanies the bruises, the burns, and the scars to her body…to her heart. 

One day she finally finds the courage to walk through the door, taking with her only a suitcase filled with years of living.

I invite you to view this art exhibit with your heart, your mind, and your soul. 

As you look at the door, you will see that one side is full of positive messages, while the other side portrays the darker images of abuse and violence. In a domestic violence relationship, the line between the good times and the bad times isn’t always so clear. 

The suitcase in the middle of the door represents this. If you open the suitcase up, you can see through to the other side of the door. In the suitcase are mementos of happy times, reminders of scary, hurtful times. 

The suitcase symbolizes the life of the woman traveling from victimization to freedom from an abusive relationship. She may have finally broken free from the past, but the memories will always be with her.

It’s time to quit placing all the responsibility on the victim #domesticviolence. This applies to other forms of oppression as well. #socialwork #socialworkers #schoolsocialwork #Socialservices #MentalHealth #socialjustice #macrosw #racism #poverty #hunger #humanrights #socialgood #socialinnovation #nonprofit #criminaljustice #health #police #feminism #women #blacklivesmatter #immigration #policebrutality #alllivesmatter #globalcitizen #justice #lgbt #psychology

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PATRIARCHAL tactics 101:

always making it your responsibility to earn his trust; always being on the defensive position.  EXIT strategy: just, stop play to his games.  

Give up the exceptions that happiness is achievable through proving your value to him. 

Possessiveness 101

How to deal with manipulators?

How to Deal with a Narcissist?

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