Women are amazing

Women are strong as hell. 

When I worked with domestic violence survivors I was AMAZED at how strong the women were. They had been through hell and back and were still amazing women. They stood up for themselves and their kiddos. They did everything in their power to keep those children safe and cared for. They escaped horrible situations, sometimes putting themselves in more danger, to start a new life. They made sacrifices, sometimes meaning they lost their children, because they knew it was the safer option. They knew having a mama who was alive meant more than having a dead mama, even if that mama didn’t get to see her kids all the time. They testified even when they knew he would get off. They left even though it put them at risk of deportation. 

When I escort at the abortion clinic I see women get out of their cars even when they are swarmed by anti-choicers. I see women cry as they walk in, but they still hold their heads up high and ignore the men trying to bagger them. Women thank ME, even though they are the ones getting abortion despite every single card stacked against them. 

I know women who have been groped or harassed at work and continue to show up every day anyways. I know women who have reported men in positions of authority even though they know nothing will happen to him and they might be retaliated against. They report anyways, with the hope it will scare him away from doing it to another women. 

I’ve seen women walk women they don’t know home from the bar. I’ve seen women pull drunk women away from men who are trying to take them home. 

I know women who have been raped, and haven’t dropped out of school, haven’t stopped working, haven’t stopped being a mama, haven’t stopped living. 

I’ve seen women put themselves between big scary men and other women. Women who put themselves between men of color and police officers. I have seen women pushed to the ground by police, assaulted by police, and continue filming. 

I know women fighting addictions in a system that is meant to treat only men. Women set up their own programs, their own treatment plans. 

I was hospitalized with women who went years without treatment for their mental illnesses because they were brushed off as “moody” or “dramatic”. They push on anyways. 

Women live in a world where EVERYTHING is stacked against us. We have been living in this world for centuries, and we survive it every single day. We survive it. 

Women are strong as hell. Women are amazing. 


married bbies 。゚◟ (*; ▽  ;)◞。゚ 。

Hot Chocolate Magic ☕

with hot chocolate season on the way, there are a lot of subtle ways to work a little magic into your mug! a compiled list of easy recipes to have some magic in your day

for all recipes, melt chocolate in the microwave, and mix in heated milk.

Caramel 🍬

½ cup milk, 5 oz. chopped milk chocolate, 3 tsps caramel, ¼ cup heavy cream.  for love, kindness, domestic works

Cinnamon Spice 🍃

1 cup milk,  5 oz. chopped dark chocolate, ¼ tsp cinnamon, a pinch cayenne pepper. divination, fortune, healing, power, prosperity, protection, psychic abilities, spirituality, wealth, and wisdom.

Orange  🍊

1 cup milk,  2 oz. chopped dark chocolate, ½ tbsp sugar, ½ tbsp grated orange peel. for beauty, divination, fortune, love, purification, and wealth.

White Lavender 🌾

1 cup whole milk, ½ chopped white chocolate, ¼ tsp lavender flowers. for chastity, happiness, love, peace, protection, and purification.

Peppermint 🍬

1 cup whole milk, ½ cup chopped milk chocolate, 1 peppermint candy.  for healing, love, psychic abilities, and purification.

Pumpkin Spice 🎃 

1 cup whole milk,  1 tsp. chocolate powder, ½ tsp pumpkin spice, 1 tsp. maple syrup.  for banishment, divination, healing, prosperity, and protection

Hazelnut 🌰

1 cup whole milk, a pinch salt, 1 tsp cocoa, 2 tbsp nutella or ¼ tsp hazelnut extract.  for fertility, protection against evil, creativity, intuition, and psychic abilities

Vanilla 🌾

½ cup milk, 5 oz. chopped milk chocolate, 1 tsp vanilla extract. for happiness, love, and lust.

Peanut Butter 🌰

1 cup skim milk,  2 oz. chopped dark chocolate, ¼ cup peanut butter, add cream to taste. for wealth, love, and fortune.

“That hand looks very heavy, do you want me to hold it for you?”

Dean almost chokes on a cough when Cas delivers the line in a tone that is two hundred percent dead serious, tilting his head and nodding at Dean’s left hand, blue eyes hopeful. They’re at the grocery store, and Cas’ remark has resulted in Dean nearly dropping the six pack of beer that he’d been about to put in their shopping cart.

“Dude, really?” Dean huffs a snort once he’s recovered. “Where did you even get that? Did Claire give you one of her magazines again?”

Cas’ blush is enough of an answer, and Dean rolls his eyes at the angel.

“Not to kill the mood here, Cas… But there’s no need to use pick up lines on someone when you’re already with them.” Dean dryly informs him.

A half shrug from Castiel.

“I’d still like to hold your hand right now, Dean.”

Of course he does. Because yeah, leave it to Dean-freaking-Winchester to fall in love with the biggest sap in the universe.

Dean sighs theatrically, but he knows that he’s fooling no one with his half-assed attempt at pretending to be annoyed.

“Dork.” He grumbles, but Cas merely smiles at him, not offended in the least.

Dean slips his hand into Cas’ without saying another word, not letting go until they get to the checkout. He’ll never admit it out loud, but it feels kinda amazing. 

From now on, he’ll make sure to complain to Cas about heavy hands. A lot.

Modern-day slavery: The exploitation of African migrant workers in the Middle East.

February 20, 2015 — It’s easy to draw superfluous comparisons between working a ‘9 to 5’ and slavery. And we often do when we joke about what we have to go through at work. However, for many Africans seeking employment abroad the idea of slave labour is not just a cliché but an actual reality.

Migrant domestic workers, hold banners demanding basic labor rights as Lebanese workers, during a march at Beirut’s seaside, Lebanon, Sunday, April 28, 2013. Photo: Hussein Malla/AP

Nearly everyone complains about their job. As a typically overworked and underpaid office employee – having to come in on Saturdays when you absolutely don’t want to, not to mention the meager salary and having to deal with the the boss’s ‘strongly worded’ emails – it’s easy to draw superfluous comparisons between working 9 to 5 and slavery. And we often do when we joke about what we have to go through at work. However, for many Africans seeking employment abroad the idea of slave labour is not just a cliché but an actual reality.

Many women (and a sizeable number of men) are lured to the Middle East with the promise of lucrative employment. These women often go through horrendous ordeals, as was the case with Carris Chepkirui, who was found hanging in her employer’s home only three days after she started work. Her sister had just returned from Lebanon after having endured abuse at the hands of her employers. She was only allowed to go back to Kenya after threatening suicide. There have even been reported instances of people who have had to be treated for dog bites while others have been attacked with candles after trying to negotiate for better working conditions.

Yet despite these country’s bans, the number of Africans flocking to the Middle East continues to rise. The region is still the work destination of choice for many female migrant workers. Every year the promise of higher wages and steady employment draws millions of migrants from Africa and Asia. In Saudi Arabia the once lax immigration laws allowed the country to have the largest number of foreign workers in the region. So much so that, at one point, they made up more than half of the Saudi labour force.

The problem African migrants face seems to stem from two sources: the lack of regulation of domestic work within the national labour framework and the fact that workers are not aware of their rights, coupled with an inability to speak the local language. This leads to a culture of unhealthy dependency on their employers.

Within what is known as the ‘MENA Region’ (Middle East and North Africa) almost all domestic work exists outside of the legislative national labour framework and runs on the kafala system. This system allows the ‘kafeel’ (sponsor) a great deal of power over the migrant worker including the ability to enter and exit the country. If sponsorship is withdrawn then the employee loses all ability to stay within the host country. The rug is literally pulled from under their feet.

Libyan domestic worker Hawiyah Awal. Credit: Simba Russeau/IPS

There is little or no space to negotiate and things such as days off are often a luxury rather than a standard. There have been instances of domestic workers not being allowed outside because the employer wants to ‘protect their investment’. A survey done in Lebanon showed that a staggering 70 percent of employers limited their domestic workers ability to move outside the home.

There is also the deeper underlying problem of racism. This, coupled with strong xenophobic currents, causes many locals to view migrant workers from the continent as either ‘job stealers’ or commodities. In a recent interview one man from Niger stated said that employers often felt they could do ‘whatever they want with us’, and ordinary citizens often held their noses when they walked by.

Although there are organisations such as Tamkeen in Jordan, Caritas in Lebanon and Helpers in Egypt that seek to help migrant labourers in these situations there is still a great deal more to be done. Even though we are no longer being bundled into boats for the price of a few beads we are still vulnerable to the tides of international demand and supply.

High levels of poverty and a lack of employment opportunities within our own borders is pushing our people into these dangerous positions. We seem to have jumped from the pan of one slave master into the fire of another and we need to address this on a national and continental level.

Article by: Kagure Mugo, for This is Africa (

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In Guillaume Bonn’s remarkable photographic essay “Silent Lives,” the relationships between members of Kenya’s white, Asian, and affluent black communities and their black servants are vividly and disquietingly examined.

As Bonn writes, “For a large number of Kenyans, employment as domestic servants underline the seismic disparities in a country where over fifty percent of the population live on less than a dollar a day while others reside in stately homes and colonial estates.” Bonn knows all about such awkward social dichotomies, for he is a product of them—he is a white African, whose great-grandfather took part in the French military conquest of Madagascar in 1884-86 and then settled there. Bonn’s grandfather was born in Africa, as was his father, and so was he. Bonn grew up mostly in Kenya. 

For a long time, Bonn said, he thought about doing a project on nannies. “I often wondered, all these years, what had happened to all the ones my parents had hired to take care of me when I was a kid. I realized that I knew nothing about them, and I barely remembered their names, where they came from and what their personal stories were.

…the employers and employees in this series [exist] in uneasily close proximity to one another, intimately bound but forever distant.

Click-through for a slideshow of Guillaume’s photos, and more from Jon Lee Anderson on this social dichotomy in Kenya:

Participatory democracy begins at home. If you are planning to implement your politics, there are certain things to remember.

1. He is feeling it more than you. He’s losing some leisure and you’re gaining it. The measure of your oppression is his resistance.

2. A great many American men are not accustomed to doing monotonous, repetitive work which never issues in any lasting, let alone important, achievement. This is why they would rather repair a cabinet than wash dishes. If human endeavors are like a pyramid with man’s highest achievements at the top, then keeping oneself alive is at the bottom. Men have always had servants (us) to take care of this bottom stratum of life while they have confined their efforts to the rarefied upper regions. It is thus ironic when they ask of women-Where are your great painters, statesmen, etc.? Mme. Matisse ran a military shop so he could paint. Mrs. Martin Luther King kept his house and raised his babies.

3. It is a traumatizing experience for someone who has always thought of himself as being against any oppression or exploitation of one human being by another to realize that in his daily life he has been accepting and implementing (and benefiting from) this exploitation; that his rationalization is little different from that of the racist who says, “Black people don’ t feel pain’ (women don’t mind doing the shitwork); and that the oldest form of oppression in history has been the oppression of 50 percent of the population by the other 50 percent.

4. Arm yourself with some knowledge of the psychology of oppressed peoples everywhere, and a few facts about the animal kingdom. I admit playing top wolf or who runs the gorillas is silly but as a last resort men bring it up all the time. Talk about bees. If you feel really hostile bring up the sex life of spiders. They have sex. She bites off his head. The psychology of oppressed peoples is not silly. Jews, immigrants, black men and all women have employed the same psychological mechanisms to survive’ admiring the oppressor, glorifying the oppressor, wanting to be like the oppressor, wanting the oppressor to like them, mostly because the oppressor held all the power.

5. In a sense, all men everywhere are slightly schizoid-divorced from the reality of maintaining life. This makes it easier for them to play games with it. It is almost a cliché that women feel greater grief at sending a son off to a war or losing him to that war because they bore him, suckled him, and raised him. The men who foment those wars did none of those things and have a more superficial estimate of the worth of human life. One hour a day is a low estimate of the amount of time one has to spend "keeping” oneself. By foisting this off on others, man has seven hours a week-one working day more to play with his mind and not his human needs. Over the course of generations it is easy to see whence evolved the horrifying abstractions of modern life.

6. With the death of each form of oppression, life changes and new forms evolve. English aristocrats at the turn of the century were horrified at the idea of enfranchising working men-were sure that it signaled the death of civilization and a return to barbarism. Some working men were even deceived by this line. Similarly with the minimum wage, abolition of slavery, and female suffrage. Life changes but it goes on. Don’t fall for any line about the death of everything if men take a turn at the dishes. They will imply that you are holding back the revolution (their revolution). But you are advancing it (your revolution).

7. Keep checking up. Periodically consider who’s actually doing the jobs. These things have a way of backsliding so that a year later once again the woman is doing everything. After a year make a list of jobs the man has rarely if ever done. You will find cleaning pots, toilets, refrigerators and ovens high on the list. Use time sheets if necessary. He will accuse you of being petty. He is above that sort of thing (housework). Bear in mind what the worst jobs are, namely the ones that have to be done every day or several times a day. Also the ones that are dirty-it’s more pleasant to pick up books, newspapers, etc., than to wash dishes. Alternate the bad jobs. It’s the daily grind that gets you down. Also make sure that you don’ t have the responsibility for the housework with occasional help from him. “I’ll cook dinner for you tonight” implies it’s really your job and isn’t he a nice guy to do some of it for you.

8. Most men had a rich and rewarding bachelor life during which they did not starve or become encrusted with crud or buried under the liner. There is a taboo that says women mustn’ t strain themselves in the presence of men-we haul around 50 pounds of groceries if we have to but aren’t allowed to open a jar if there is someone around to do it for us. The reverse side of the coin is that men aren’t supposed to be able to take care of themselves without a woman. Both are excuses for making women do the housework.

9. Beware of the double whammy. He won’t do the little things he always did because you’re now a “Liberated Woman,” right? Of course he won’t do anything else either….

I was just finishing this when my husband came in and asked what I was doing. Writing a paper on housework. Housework? he said. Housework? Oh my god how trivial can you get? A paper on housework.

—  The Politics of Housework, Pat Mainardi, Redstockings, 1970

What’s wrong with Women’s History Month?

Sociologist Laurel Westbrook criticizes Women’s History Month for praising women who do work deemed masculine without also praising women who do unrewarded, but socially invaluable feminine work. 

“Caring for others and teaching youth are wonderful things that everyone should be encouraged to do. Our history books should be filled with people of all genders who were exceptional in these areas. But, these traditionally feminine pursuits are not what earns one accolades during Women’s History Month, or any other time.

As a consequence, people are not taught to value such jobs or the people who do them. This one-sided celebration is unlikely to solve the very problem that Women’s History Month is ostensibly designed to combat: gender inequality.”

Read her full essay at Sociological Images.


Mapped Domesticity | Vere van Gool
Location: Salton Territory, California, USA
- AA School of Architecture Projects Review 2012 - Inter 1

- In the desert, all you need is gas, cash and a place to crash… This commentary-project is the rework of the 1950’ies design of the American Farm through a critical reading of the landscape and how land exploitation operates according to the speculated decay of the Salton Territory, proposing the American Farm as a condensed symbol of the late 2020’ies over-accelerated sense of mobility, contra intuitive consumerism and manic domestic consequences of (utopian) American Life.


This one is for @eridaniepsilon who calls the Upsilon a waffle iron! Hope you’ll like it :)

In the male - centered (or androcentric) view of the world, the productive area corresponds to men, and the reproductive, to women This implies a clear assignment of different tasks based on gender. Both areas receive different social value: recognition and prestige in the case of the production area, disrepute and underestimation in the case of  the reproductive sphere.

- The reproductive sphere or the domestic tasks related to it encompasses organization and attention to the family and its derived home care (washing, ironing, cooking, caring for children…). It has to do with non - commercial activities and therefore remains in the background as it is not rewarded with money.

 Tasks performed at home aren’t considered jobs despite covering needs and despite that those who carry them out (mostly women), need to invest many hours in them. This unpaid work has remained unseen , hidden because it is known that making it visible would generate the need to move towards a solution for the social and economic inequality that is suffered mostly by women.

- The production area covers the tasks related to the economic, political and social life .Spaces that are occupied and awarded, to date, mostly by and to men. It has to do with the productive activities of commercial nature and in which power is exercised and, therefore, has an exchange value. It is visible.

It encompasses  the activities and functions performed in return for payment. The productive work of women is often undervalued and low - paid , often regarded as secondary source of household income.

The figures speak …

In the fourth quarter of 2014, the percentage of women in the inactive population was of 58.75%, of which, 37.89% performed domestic work.
Source:   EPA. Statistics National Institute(spanish)

According to the Survey Time Use 2009-2010 National Institute of Statistics, women spend daily average four hours and 29 minutes home and family while men spend 2 hours and 32 minutes.
Source : National Statistics Institute(spanish)

Lord Glenconner left his multi-million pound estate in St. Lucia to his “manservant”, Kent Adonai, who slept at the foot of his bed for 30 years (since he was 17). Lady Ann Glenconner has asked Adonai to “do the right thing” and return the property to her family.  Notice the colonialist language of the articles and images.

image & story source: The Daily Mail

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Winry and Paninya from Fullmetal Alchemist working hard on delivering a baby: Domestic work traditionally classified as “women’s work”- like bringinglife into the world- is just as badass, if not more so, than “heroics” traditionally coded as “masculine”.

See- this entire episode/chapter.