does-not-get-better

anonymous asked:

her 'sending you love' comment on Miley's photo.... which isn't THAT iconic but it resonated in me and I still continue to use it everyday.

wasn’t that iconic? it does not get better than this every time i think about it i can taste the saltiness of this comment in my mouth

inbox me with taylor swift’s most iconic moments

I don’t have time to put this in a proper shitpost format like a chat post but trust me when I say that someone could fall victim to a cognitohazard that blanks their brain and has an anomalous effect on their memories and forces them to relive the most painful moment of their life on repeat or some shit you know some classic noncorporeal SCP horror and some neurotypical would still come up and try to talk to the affected through all the internal screaming in their head and all the containment personnel around their bed and just still fucking run their mouth and be like “I’m sorry to hear that. Have you considered seeking help?” and when they just kept screaming the neurotypical person would just be like “such a shame, I hope you feel better, life really does get better just look on the bright side!!” while their brain dies

anonymous asked:

I understand how difficult it is to be dealing with the stresses and concerns of OCD and anxiety (I've been diagnosed with both) but I just wanted to pass on the most important thing anyone told me. My brother said to me "If you can fix it, fix it. If you cajr, let it go." Now it's not going to be night and day but I just wanted to let you know that after 4 years of coping and struggling it does get better and you do learn to accept things with time. Much love and I hope this helps!!!

Thank you, honey ♥

I try to remind myself that there are things that are just out of my control and it’s not worth it to panic over them, but my brain doesn’t always comply, you know?

saurons-optometrist  asked:

Oh my god your post about being trans in band is giving me so much hope. I'm a tiny FTM bassoonist stuck in Ohio who can't go a day without listening to people who love Trump. Thank you so much, this gives me hope that I'll be able to come out someday!!!

!!!!!!!
i can’t really give advice lmao but i hope you have the ability to come out someday, b/c when you can you’ll learn for yourself that it really does get better

dandelionmira  asked:

I love the story about your parrot! a question: did he pick up on saying "I get a peanut" from the people around him saying "you get a peanut?" or from their saying "I get a peanut?" I'm trying to figure out if he got that whole pronoun and sense of self, because wow! what a bird!

He is actually pretty bad at pronouns. He often says “you want–?” when he means “I want!!” because he’s used to us asking “you want this thing?” when offering him food.

He has a lot of ways to ask for a peanut, though, and because he asks for those SO OFTEN, I made an effort to correct him and say “no, you should say, I get a peanut.” This does sometimes work, and he’s getting better at pronouns, but he still only gets them right about 50% of the time.

He always says “I poop,” though. That one he gets.

EDIT: Oh, he’s also really good at ordering us to do things by saying “you.” He’s picked that up because if he says “I turn on TV,” everyone just goes “oh, really? Good luck with that” but if he says “YOU turn on TV” someone gets up and turns on the TV for him.

Things I wish I knew before

Mental health:

  • Depression isn’t just about feeling sad, and it won’t go away overnight
  • Don’t sit alone when you are feeling down (especially at night)
  • A lot of people suffer from mental illnesses
  • Going to therapy doesn’t make you weak
  • Asking for help doesn’t make you weak
  • You can feel anxious without actively worrying about a certain thing
  • Self-care is not a waste of time, and even something as simple as brushing your hair or teeth can make a huge difference 

Bereavement:

  • It does get better with time
  • It is okay to miss that person, and it is okay to be angry
  • Sometimes other people won’t understand
  • That person would want you to be happy, but that does not mean you can’t grieve
  • Talking to your family or friends can help you see that others are in the same boat
  • You are not alone
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It’s terribly simple. The good guys are always stalwart and true. The bad guys are easily distinguished by their pointy horns or black hats, and, uh, we always defeat them and save the day. No one ever dies and… everybody lives happily ever after. x

I know you’re in pain. It hurts in ways you can’t even begin to describe and even if you could, no one seems to want to listen. Sure, people care and try to help… for a time… but when you don’t seem to be getting any better, after a while, they get tired of listening… Eventually it becomes easier to keep it all inside.
I know you feel like it will never get better and you’ll never be okay again. It’s been like this for so long now that you think if things were ever going to change they would have by now so this is how it’s always going to be… but it’s not. I promise it’s not. You learn cope, it just takes time and I know it feels like you’ve given it enough time already but not everyone heals at the same pace.
Tell yourself it’s okay to feel the way that you do. Nobody else on this earth has lived through your life to be in any kind of position to understand your battles. Nobody else but you has walked in your shoes to be any kind of comparison on how you should be feeling right now or whether or not you should be ‘better’. I won’t lie to you – what you’re going through will always leave its mark upon you as any trauma does – and that’s normal too. Nobody looks back on a traumatic life experience and giggles about it… But it’s this all-consuming depressive state… these overwhelming feelings you can’t control… the way those feelings isolate you and make you feel vulnerable and alone – THAT is what won’t last forever.
It DOES get better… you DO find acceptance. Not all at once – its gradual… like a stormy day or a long dark night… you don’t just blink and suddenly it’s a blue sky. Storm clouds part slowly, allowing brief flashes of sunlight at first… then eventually disappear… Dark nights end slowly as a new day begins to dawn… Acceptance is the same… and I know you have the courage to wait for it…

anonymous asked:

I'm super ashamed and embarrassed of being/identifying as bisexual because of all the biphobia I've witnessed. It's really fucking with my mental health and idk what to do. It's to the point where I just want to identify as straight, but I know that giving into biphobia and heteronormativity aren't the answer. I'm just lost. Our sexuality is always trivialized and I can't complain about it without being mocked. How do you guys deal with this?

I feel this. Biphobia is the largest cause of creating what is known as The Silent Majority - Bisexuals being the largest percentage of queer people and yet the most misrepresented.

I deal with it by surrounding myself with people who accept Bisexuals, people who cheerlead Bisexuals, and people who love me for me and for my Bisexuality. Aside from it being a good way to maintaining a positive self-image in regards to your own personal Bisexuality, it’s a good rule to live by in general. I also deal with it by educating and stepping in when I see Biphobia.

Spreading information to those otherwise unaware to Bi stigma helps! That’s why it’s always important, for those who aren’t Bi and care, to be a good Bi ally and educate people on the effects of Biphobia, including studies showing, for example, Bisexuals suffering from more mental health issues like depression and anxiety than their Gay/Lesbian counterparts. When we see biphobia existing in general cishet society (where we’re facing homophobia on top of biphobia) we turn to our safe spaces, our queer spaces, but in our safe spaces as well we’re not as safe as we should be. We desperately need these spaces especially since studies show Bisexuals face more sexual violence than their Gay/Lesbian and Straight peers. So when this support system we should have gets taken away for who we are - that’s Biphobia. And it does real actual harm towards Bisexuals. 

“No one is hanging you for being Bi, Biphobia isn’t a thing!” well that’s the interesting part! In addition to dealing with Biphobia, which has its own ugliness as briefly mentioned, Bisexuals also deal with homophobia! (internally and externally, as previously mentioned). So in these moments, when we retreat to our safe spaces to recoup, and we’re forced to behave differently or be not what we truly are, or constantly questioned in regards to the validity of who we are, it does damage! It’s a cycle of violence and further reinforces this notion that, in LGBTQ+ spaces - despite being a very present letter in the acronym, queerness is conditional instead of something inherent. Bisexuality is inherently queer, has its own unique queer experiences, is a marginalized identity through and through, deserves better treatment, and deserves equal support. 

This being said, cause these things need to be said, understanding that these concepts are present and being able to live a happy life are possible. What helped me out of my internalized biphobic/homophobic rut was coming to terms with the fact I wanted to be happy. My bisexuality wasn’t going to change, so I knew the only thing to do at that point was to accept it and learn to love it. There are also SO many Bisexual allies out there! The real world isn’t Tumblr discourse 24/7 I promise you and I can’t tell you how many times my gay and lesbian friends stop me whenever I start thinking biphobicly and step in to reinforce I’m queer and worthy. Bisexuality is beautiful. Your bisexuality is beautiful. It may be hard right now but I promise you it does get better.

Ok but picture this: Percy Jackson as a social worker for kids.

-Like he typically helps troubled kids, especially those that are suspected of living in an abusive environment.

-He is able to relate to them and tells them that it does indeed get better, and that everything will work out in the end.

-He works with them to help them rise above it and not let their home life define them.

-He is also able to look past looks, knowing that they can be deceiving and even some of the meanest looking kids can be extremely nice.

-He helps them to rise above and not let their home life define them and helps them to instead rise above.

-To help some of the kids cope, he tells them the story of a certain troubled 12 year old boy with ADHD who came from an abusive family but in the end still got a happy ending with a girl that he loves to this very day.

9 Books to Read If You’re Obsessed With Musical Theater

Looking for someone to relate to when you’re geeking out to musical theater? Some of the books below were inspired by broadway plays, some star musical geniuses of their own, and some were written by the stars themselves. Does it get any better?!

Alex and Eliza: A Love Story by Melissa de la Cruz

One word: Hamilton. Need we say more? Yes? Ok, ok. Alex and Eliza is the reimagined love story of Alexander Hamilton and Elizabeth Schuyler. Author Melissa de la Cruz was inspired to write this after she and her daughter saw the musical and her daughter wanted to know more about Eliza. “Hamilton should be called Eliza, Mom; we wouldn’t know his story if she didn’t tell it!”

You in Five Acts by Una LaMarche

If you like Fame, then this is the book for you. This beautiful novel is told by five friends chasing their dreams at a performing arts school. Each of the characters, Joy, Diego, Ethan, Liv, and Dave, will change you in their owns ways as they look back at an unexpected event that upended everything.

Will Grayson, Will Grayson by David Levithan and John Green

Tiny Cooper’s best friend Will Grayson has a transformative year, culminating in the epic production of history’s most fabulous high school musical. Great for fans of 13!

Check out the rest here! 

lazarusonfire  asked:

hi! just finished acomaf and oh Gods my heart is in ruins. could you pls give some book recommendations as I am trying to survive until May.

Oh my god, c’mere–

We have all been there, and know this - it does not get better. I mean. It does. But at the same times, it really doesn’t. Settle in and learn to love to suffer at the hands of our Liege, Sarah J Maas. Welcome into the folds, friend. 

OKAY. BOOKS. Now I am going in blind since I don’t know what you like besides SJM so I’m just gonna throw you a mixed bag: 

– Tales of The Otori: This is a trilogy of historical fantasy novels set in a world based on feudal Japan. Let me say that one more time. This fantasy world is based on feudal Japan. It is stunning and gorgeous and earth shatteringly tragic (it has it’s problematic areas, but I still love and recommend it).
– BRANDON SANDERSON: if you are in any way interested in epic fantasy and high fantasy I recommend any and all books by Sanderson. If you’re used to reading YA I would start with the Mistborn trilogy. But my absolute favourite series of his is the Stormlight Archive. He is the Master, the Sensei, the Jedi, the King of unique worldbuilding and foreshadowing and intricate plots. And the humour in his books are always so god damned on point! He has so many series and books to pick from though, go check him out and see if anything catches your eye!
– Graceling: this a lovely little YA fantasy and a very easy and quick read. Could work as a quick palette cleanser if you’re hung up on acomaf (which we all have been lbh). 
– Six of Crows: YA fantasy, gorgeous characters and AMAZING dialogue. That’s one of my favourite things with Bardugo’s writing. The rythm and pacing in her dialogues are !!!!!!!! And if you’re looking for diversity (skin colour, gender, religion, sexuality, bodies and disability) - this is your book. 
– Nevernight: I have not yet started this book, but I am SO EXCITED TO. It comes with extremely enthusiastic recommendations from my friends and the fanart I’ve seen looks incredible, and the cover art is *HEARTEYES* too. 

Good luck getting over the ACOMAF-hangover! x

As we've gotten a couple of asks from young teens (13/14) this one goes to my lgbtqipa+ kids

🌸 you’re never too young to start thinking about your gender and sexuality.

🌸 But don’t stress yourself out about it. It’s not a race. There’s no time limit.

🌸 There’s nothing wrong with you I promise. I know your family or religion may say otherwise but please trust me.

🌸 I know it’s hard but please remember you’re not alone. You’re not alone among your peers. And those of us who have gone before you are here to help you along the way.

🌸 There will be people who cannot stand you. I’m sorry. The world is changing but so very slowly.

🌸 Support one another. Spread love and acceptance. Don’t fall into the traps of division in the community. We’re stronger together.

🌸 It gets better. It does. It gets better. Please don’t give up yourself.

🌸 We love you.

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With over 9 million views in less than 2 weeks, this ad from Vicks tells the story of a transgender mother in India and the daughter she adopted with whom she has a profound, indescribably loving bond.

Ten years have elapsed since the adoption that saved little Gayatri from being trafficked into the sex industry. She recalls those years as filled with support, love, and courage – but now the daughter wonders: if her civics class says all citizens are entitled to basic rights, why is her mother denied them?

That’s why she won’t be a doctor, as her mother wishes. She will be a lawyer.

Watch the video above. Storytelling is our glimpse into the lives of each other, where we come to learn understanding, feel compassion, and drive ourselves toward doing better.

“I don’t feel special,” said Gauri. “I became a mother because of Gayatri and she is my pillar of strength. I did what every mother does.”

  • what she says: I'm fine.
  • what she means: I'm not fine. I don't understand what happens to Tye Longshadow in young justice? Does he stay in an abusive home? Does he report it? Does Blue Beetle help him? Blue knows about the abuse probably. So does he help him? Does it ever get better? Does the guy go to jail? Does Tye save his mom? Does Blue interfere? Will season 3 show us what happens? Will they touch on it? Will they finally talk openly or will they not? Does it get better? Seriously someone protect Tye and his mom plz

To all my bis that are going through a rough time trying to accept themselves:

May 2013: I first came out to someone as bisexual, I had a panic attack and cried myself to sleep. I was struggling to accept myself in general, and when I came out to my mom, she didn’t believe me.

May 2017: Last night I made a new friend and came out as bi to her in a pun. She told me she was ace and we felt that much closer for it. My mom sends me every positive article related to lgbt+ issues she finds in our facebook messages. I have never felt so comfortable in my own skin. 

I know this sounds really cheesy to say, but I just wanted to let you all know that it really does get better.