does this count as being constructive

anonymous asked:

10 ugly bionicles go

These are in no particular order. 

To begin, we have the promotional sets. Bad Guy is just that- bad. His clashing colors, maskless piraka head, poorly-designed legs- there’s nothing to like other than his meme potential.

Speaking of memes, here’s Good Guy. An improvement from Bad Guy albeit not by much. His colors don’t clash nearly as much as his evil counterpart, and he has more than one point of articulation in his legs. In the case of promotional sets, good triumphs.

Of course, there isn’t only one Bad Guy. Introducing QUICK Bad Guy, perhaps the ugliest set I’ve ever seen. I understand these are promotional sets, but this… thing… is proof little effort was put into their design.

Just no…

Perhaps this is cheating, for this is a combiner build. Nevertheless, this was released as an individual set, so I believe it should count. Ultimate Dume, from your inconsistent design to your wonky proportions and chompers which give Mileena something to gnash her teeth at, you miss nearly every mark. At least you provide a plethora of good parts and a fantastic mask.  

Umbra is, in my opinion, one of the less offensive sets on this list. While his color scheme is all over the place, and his general construction is nothing to write home about, this set does possess some interesting aspects- that being his dualblade with the built-in rhotuka spinner and his wheeled feet.

Tarduk, plain and silly-looking.

Does this set need an explanation?

They really missed the mark with scorpions in G2.

Perhaps my most controversial choice. Mata Nui is a set I both love and hate. I love the torso design and how it implements pistons in a manner similar to that of the Great Spirit Robot and the toa mata; however, everything else about the set rubs me the wrong way. His arms are rather spindly given how bulky his torso and legs are. In addition, this set is dreadfully gappy. My greatest gripe is his color scheme; keetorange, yellow, pearl gold, and pearl light grey do not mix well. Nevertheless, despite this set’s faults, it’s a far-better sendoff to Bionicle G1 than Stars.

anonymous asked:

I mean, before Magnus realized Alec wasn't out, he hit on him pretty hard and obvious for everyone around. But (speaking from personal experience) being closeted, doesn't necessarily equal having no experience at all, so I'm not surprised Magnus didn't assume, Alec never had a relationship. I think a lot of us dated or were intimate with ppl in secret before coming out, it's not uncommon at all. Like Magnus said, Shadowhunters are a don't ask/don't tell culture, and even offered to date secretly

Yeah, many of us date on the down-low, etc., so I don’t see it as an odd assumption for Magnus to have made. Though the more I look at the scene, the more I do think the writers went a little out of their way to make it really clear. And I don’t know if it’s because of the amount of people up to even last week who kept looking for reasons as to why Alec should’ve had more experience in the past, and by reasons I mean they all basically amounted to “Alec doesn’t look/act like a virgin” which was frankly terrible. Like, what does one look or act like first of all, and that’s not even getting into the fact that it’s a social construct, anyway. We all have different levels of intimacy that ultimately counts as a sexual experience for us; this isn’t something other people should decide for you.

But regardless, the underlining of Alec as a man with little relationship experience combined with his being treated without the shy blushing trope or whatever was really, really needed, especially because it’s exactly this trope that caused people to accuse Magnus of being “predatory” in turn, as if Alec isn’t a perfectly grown ass adult who can take some sexual innuendo or blatant flirting. Or to write Magnus as a passive submissive boyfriend because, you know, Alec is delicate apparently or whatever. The trope is harmful all around and it really needed to be stopped and after what this episode established I hope I never encounter it again.

anonymous asked:

When did Lucifer start fall in love with Chloe nit just lust for her?

I have to warn you this is going to be a very, very, very long post and it will be divided into two parts:

Part A

The easy answer I could give you is that Lucifer does not lust over women so how can he stop lusting over Chloe? But this is why this answer is going to be a complex and lengthy one. This reply has to be divided into two sections. The first is why Lucifer does not lust over Chloe exactly and the second when Lucifer started falling in love with her.

I have mentioned some of what follows before so if certain things sound familiar bear with me.

Sex is part of the human nature. Morals are a social construct. Lucifer shouldn’t have the need to lust over anyone when he is apparently unable to procreate as far as we know, yet in 2x17 he mentions the Nephilim so perhaps sex is not that foreign for angels. Amenadiel when he was counting his sins he said sex with a demon, not just sex. So lust exists in the world of the celestial beings if the Big Bang was not a big hint in Season 2. But again I say that Lucifer does not lust over women and I’ll now explain you why.

What does lust serves for an individual? Having sex, getting great pleasure out of it and yes procreation is a big thing but something is amiss when it comes to Lucifer. Lucifer does not lusts for sex and carnal satisfaction, you see the Devil does lie to himself. In 2x11 we see how devoted Lucifer was over not forming any kind of connection with his lovers. Careful here lovers! The choice of the words is a peculiar one. When you define someone as your lover you position them on a higher scale than that of a night stand or a meaningless encounter. When you say lover you commit to an emotional connection and that’s the key to answer the first section.

Lucifer seeks and craves an emotional connection. Why have we never thought of why Maze came to Earth with him? For protection as he stated at the first season? To have a buddy on Earth? 

No, in 2x16 Lucifer says to Chloe that Maze basically imprints to people but in reality I believe he also talks about himself. Imagine coming from a big family and one day you are alone. No one to talk to, no one to touch you, no one to comfort you. When you are at your lowest point you need someone to comfort you and Maze was there for Lucifer. She became his protector when we know that he didn’t really need one as the Devil before Chloe showed up. In 2x17 we see Maze kicking him and making him bleed but if Lucifer wanted her dead she would have been long gone. No, in a weird way he really cares for Maze in a way a lost boy is attached to a pet at first before he makes a connection with the lunch lady but that’s it. Neither can offer to the boy the deep comfort he needs so he seeks other ways to make himself connect again.

In order to form a connection, Lucifer uses sex. The parties and the constant companionship he searches for is a way to keep at bay a very traumatic event. His Fall. Imagine Lucifer falling. He is alone, in a dark place with no one around him and probably scared. At some point, he starts exploring his desires and usually such a behaviour accompanied with substance abuse like alcohol and drugs is the result of abandonment at a young age. Sex thus gives you the opportunity to connect while at the same time in the case of Lucifer you are free to not commit.

Additionally after his Fall sex is all Lucifer knows but for him it is not motivated by love but by a craving and a need to be comforted and that is the only way he knows how. I might be going to far but sex for him is an abuse of his own self. I remember *shudders* Asthon Kutsher saying that toddlers who were sexually abused experienced eventually the act as if they were engaging in a play time because that’s all the knew. In a very twisted and sick way and not in the healthy sexual appetite, an adult male would have had, Lucifer reminds me of that. 

He was so lost on what intimacy and caring was that he delved into sex to soothe his need for physical and emotional contact but without having to express it or lose it ever again. Therefore it is my belief that for Lucifer lust was in reality the need to just be in someone’s arms and just cry the hell out while being told that it was okay. That everything was okay and somehow everything will fall into place. So imagine the caress you give someone you love when you meet them, or when you tousle a kids hair. How do they react? They savour it and attempt to get it again if it’s possible. Lucifer could not have that but he could control the sex he would have, the parties he would attend, with whom and how he would get his comfort and then Chloe came…

Now how do I explain love? How can I make sense of something humans have spent millennia exploring? I would probably start with this. Being in love does not mean you always lust someone. But that is not relevant here. No, I would then probably go with my favorite explanation on what love is. Love according to the ancient (and modern) Greeks was not just one thing. It doesn’t have just one definition, one glorious term. No, it has different categories which could be felt as strongly and even intertwine.

In season 1 Lucifer is intrigued by Chloe on what is making her tick. if I had to pick my favorite Deckerstar moment, the one I believe it started it all, it would have been in 1x04.

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kj_06LOxsTc


But let’s get back to the kinds of love. The first is Philautia the love for one’s self. It is a very narcissistic love and we may say that Lucifer really loved himself but we would lie if we claimed that. No, we know that Lucifer, in reality, despises what he has become without any justifying reason according to him due to his Dad’s decision to kick I’m out. Now, this is a form of love that is not always bad as you need to love yourself if you want to be able to love others fully. That’s where Linda’s sessions are leading us I believe so if you think it the more Lucifer learns to love himself the more he actually falls for Chloe. In Season 3 where identity will be a big thing, if Lucifer manages to conquer his self-hatred and love himself we may finally see some true Deckerstar romance. Never forget that the best Deckerstar scenes or his love for her show when Chloe trusts Lucifer and tells him he is a good man. That’s when we see him shine.

Part B


The second kind of love is Agape. Agape is the actual term of love. It actually means love in Greek and is still used to say things like I love you between friends and couples.

Agape is a selfless kind of love. It’s the love you have for your friends, your family, your pet. On an extent you would do anything for them or almost anything. Lucifer has lost this even with Maze he cannot form this Agape connection but he does it with Chloe. Lucifer in episode 1x08 (Et Tu Doctor), shows signs of jealousy and when he asks Chloe if he was similar to the Doctor she replies that no she was not and for that moment in time this was correct.From episodes, 1x02-1x08 Lucifer feels love in the form of Agape. It all begins in 1x02 when Chloe tells the paparazzi that it doesn’t matter where you get but the fact that you try to change and he agrees. It is this belief that she might actually appreciate that he has tried that moves him forward onto changing. In 1x08 he experiences jealousy because he is not the main feature in her life. 

When a friend of yours is starting a committed relationship they tend to disappear and you try to be understanding but it stings a bit. That’s what  Lucifer is experiencing throughout the episode until Chloe hugs Dan and meets Lucifer’s eyes. At that moment the sting becomes something even more and yet Lucifer does not act on it.The importance of Agape is that Lucifer for the first time loves outside his family. He connects in a way he hasn’t done in millennia and that’s life-altering for him. That also affects Chloe as well. 

My original theory on Lucifer’s vulnerability is that the more deeply Chloe cares for Lucifer the more vulnerable he becomes but someone once noted that it may be going both ways. Meaning that as their feelings deepen he becomes more vulnerable and for a longer distance than before. An interesting fact is that the origin of the word comes from an original meaning of two words merged into what we call agape and it meant “to protect a lot”. Fitting huh?Third in our list is Philia. There is a saying that friendship and being in love are close and the greatest gift is to find both in the same person. Philia is valued more than any kind of other love because it’s an extension of Agape but with a twist. You will sacrifice yourself when you feel philia. The term also carries another word inside which we (Greeks) call storgi. 

Storgi means in a sense tenderness with the need to take care of someone. You will find that kind of love aka storgi in relationships between very old friends, really good friends, siblings and parents-children. Lucifer, as we can see, take cares Chloe in Pops and in an extension he almost sacrifices himself in 1x10 when he gets her out of the blazing restaurant. This is also the big turn for Lucifer. He reaches the point where he is really close to being in love.  Also, the etymology of the word is “the one who is found close by” followed by a conceptional etymology later on used as “the one who kisses” yet not in the making out kind of way.

Fourth which appears throughout the series although rarely after 2x13 is Ludus. That’s the playful affection. Lucifer flirting, his relationship with Trixie and as English speakers would know it’s basically called foreplay when you feel an attraction to the person Ludus is manifesting. It’s the teasing, the small moments and these moments slowly bring and maintain the romantic love. It’s what we know as the Deckerstar moments of small but adorable importance. Like Chloe giving Lucifer paperwork or Lucifer making improper jokes with her laughing. Even the Good Devil, Stay Lucifer was a form of Ludus.

Fifth… Eros. Eros is associated with sex but it goes beyond that. English speakers may not really realize that the verb which gives us the word means in a sense to spill… Yes, you got that it is based on not only the desire to copulate but also entails the result of the said action. Yet when in Greek you say eros you also mean something that goes beyond love. There was even the term of erotic philia or erotic love. 

It is a term which encompasses the following: You love with a burning and yes in many instances with a burning desire, with devotion. Eros also includes what you may have heard as unconditional love. That’s a gravitational point for a person and it can be manifest as a physical or an emotional way or if you are lucky enough (or unlucky it depends) both.Lucifer in 1x13 was aware of the danger but he did not die willingly for Chloe. That happened in 2x13. For Lucifer to ask from Dad to protect her was the first spark of real and fully embracing from him Agape with a borderline growing Eros. 

In 2x01 the writers talk about the joke I need the eggs. I have an analysis about that but let’s just say that’s the point where Eros begins for both of them. The slow burn if you like. In 2x05 Lucifer kills his brother because he is in love. He experiences all the kinds of love mentioned before and that’s the most heartbreaking part. Was he falling in love when he stated to Maze that he wasn’t going anywhere in season one? Yes, but he was still taking that trip. He reached that destination when he was willing albeit as a last resort to kill Uriel.Yet why didn’t he realize that? In a sense he did that is why he was a mess. Deep down I believe that he knew that for a foreign emotion he killed a member of his family. That would have happened only if he had passed the threshold of Agape and had his foot ready to step into Eros’.

So he is in love with Chloe in 2x05 and he realises it in 2x09. Why? Because he never had any similar experience. He is a being that was never loved that way and the little he remembers from his parents was not them being in love at lost in a way he experiences love. Selflessly with a humble and tentative touch over everything Chloe is.

So what about the sixth? The sixth kind is the mature love called pragma (object). It is basically what happens to couples usually married or in a committed relationship which are together for years and know how to maintain the essence of all the aforementioned loves in their relationship.Now isn’t it that grand? Yet love entails also so much more than that… Stenberg tried to explain that as you can see in the following graph but the thing is that has experienced at least five out of six with 

Chloe and I can see the sparks of the sixth even if we cannot really see it. Yes, we need a stable relationship for that but at the moment Lucifer is doing the best he can according to the information he has. So that’s my answer. He experienced Eros the moment he begged Dad for a favour. Acted on it when he killed Uriel in 2x05 and realized it in 2x09 and admitted it to himself and her partly in 2x11.

Inch by Inch

Anon Requested:  Omg 30 and 86 with jungkook please?? I just love jealousy scenarios thank you so much~

Honestly jealousy scenarios with Kookie are MY FAVE. Well jealousy scenarios with anybody are my favorite lmao. I hope you enjoy!


Pairing: Jungkook x Reader

Word Count: 1805

Warnings: Jealous / Angry Jungkook, Slight Cursing

“I’ll forgive you if you kiss me.”

“Stop being so jealous.”


Silence is a form of communicative power, which can be used beneficially or as a way to hurt someone else. When you choose not to respond to someone, you show that person that he or she does not have full control, and your actions are not dictated by anyone but yourself. While silence can be used to de-escalate a situation, it can also be used to manipulate others or make them feel powerless. It’s important to use silence in a constructive way that encourages later communication.

You threw yet another pillow at your boyfriend who still hasn’t spoken to you. It’s been a full three days and he has barely even given you a glance. The pillow hit him dead in the face while he was watching a new drama that was on tv, you had wondered why he would come to your apartment if all he was going to do was ignore you but you figured if he wasn’t speaking to you now then he more than likely wouldn’t even answer your question let alone listen to you.

You let your eyes roll again once seeing him simply pick up the pillow that had landed on his lap and drop it beside him on your bed. You let out a loud groan while falling back onto the floor where you had been sitting. “Honestly Jungkook I don’t even know why you’re acting like this, you’re being very immature.” You say and soon receive a scoff from Jungkook.

“Oh I’m immature.”

“Wow it speaks.” You slow clap, sitting up and for the quickest second you could’ve sworn that you saw Jungkook quickly flick his eyes over to you but it was soon covered up with a roll of his eyes. “And it shuts up once again.” You sigh, “Jungkook, what’s wrong? Three days of not speaking to me is a little excessive.”

Silence.

You groan once again and stand up from your spot on the floor and make way for the tv, you start off by standing in front of it blocking any kind of vision Jungkook had. You would lock your eyes on him but he’d simply just stare back at you, no emotion on his face, he was cold right now and you were growing very tired of it. “Jungkook.” You cross your arms over your chest but still Jungkook just stared at you, eyes now narrowing as if he was shooting daggers at you with just his eyes. “Jungkook!” You raised your voice louder yet he still didn’t budge, he just sat up straighter on your bed but never losing eye contact with you. You heaved a sigh and turned around and clicking the power button on the side of the tv. Jungkook’s eyes now shot a glare at you and you rolled your eyes again. “You’re honestly being so childish, why can’t you just tell me what’s wrong instead of giving me the silent treatment for three whole days! You’re obviously just going to still be pissed at whatever you’re pissed at if you don’t talk about it,” You sigh again crossing your arms over your chest again. “So why don’t you just tell me what’s wrong and we can-“

“Why don’t you go ask your boyfriend what’s wrong?” His voice cut you off, it was harsh and cold and it took you by surprise to say the least.

“What?” Your eyebrows scrunched up in confusion but eyes stayed wide in shock at the harshness of his tone towards you.

“Go. Ask. Your. Boyfriend.” Jungkook enunciated each word as if what he was saying was obvious yet you couldn’t have been more confused.

“Well I am asking my boyfriend so if he could just fucking answer me that’d be great.” Your attitude left you without a second thought and Jungkook now stood up, he was angry now from your choice of words but you couldn’t care of how he was feeling as of right now just because he was being so rude to you. You both hated being talked to in any disrespectful way so you two were just riling each other up at this point, trying to push the other over the edge inch by inch and you were both close.

“No! Obviously I’m not because you wouldn’t be hanging onto other guys when I’m not around!” Jungkook yelled. “You wouldn’t be hugging other guys, you wouldn’t be talking to other guys, and you wouldn’t be laughing at what any other guy said because I’m your boyfriend (Y/N), not these other guys that you feel the need to hang over.” Jungkook’s words came straight at you, each word he said he took a step forward trying to make you feel threatened by his demeanor and tone of voice. You stayed still, feet planted firmly on the ground not moving away. Your eyes stayed locked on his angry ones and now your eyes narrowed up at him, glaring hard.

“Stop being so jealous.” You stated.

If there was a sentence that could piss your boyfriend off it was the one that just slipped out of your mouth. It wasn’t that it slipped out because you were thinking it, but it was more for you to say to yourself rather than him just because you know how Jungkook gets. When he gets angry, oh boy is he angry. It’s not that he has anger issues because he knows how to control his anger, he just has little outbursts which you’ve seen plenty of times in your almost one in a half year relationship. He’d throw things, some breakable but mostly soft items that couldn’t leave a dent in the wall, he’d also say words he didn’t mean and you would do the same. You both knew it was just anger and in the moment and once the fight would be over you both would apologize and say you didn’t mean it. You both also have been trying to work on it and not say things that would purposefully hurt the other and so far Jungkook was doing a far better job than you have in the past.

Jungkook’s hand slammed down onto the dresser your tv had been placed on, the slap of his hand on the hard word shot through your ears but you didn’t flinch, you knew he’d never hit you or lay a hand on you that would harm you in any way, he got angry when you two fought that part was true and very clear but he would never lay a hand on you, you knew that enough to never feel the need to flinch. You just blinked at him and raised an eyebrow. “You done?”

“No I’m not done!” Jungkook now screamed, his voice lowered in the raise of his voice. “You don’t even see what you did wrong!”

“Because I didn’t do anything wrong! He’s my friend Jungkook! He was my friend before he was yours and you always seem to forget that!”

“I don’t care if he’s your friend, my friend, any of the boys’ friend! You guys shouldn’t act the way you two do!” Jungkook threw his arms up letting them fall down and hit his legs, the frustration was evident in his actions as they were in yours too but this was really bugging him.

It wasn’t a secret that you were friends with a lot of Jungkook’s, but there was one friend that you had actually introduced to Jungkook and the two had actually hit it off pretty well which you were happy about but if you knew that introducing them would lead to a fight between you and your boyfriend you might have never introduced them in the first place. You wanted to desperately give in and just apologize for you being maybe a little too close to your friend but you had known him for so long that your actions came natural to you, and it’s not even like you were attracted to your friend, he was just a friend nothing more and you just needed Jungkook to realize that.

You closed your eyes momentarily and sighed, you opened them again and looked up at him. You were ready to just give it to him straight, tell him that he needed to stop being so jealous and learn to trust you, you two have been together long enough to trust each other when with other guys or girls so you were actually really irritated with his behavior, but once your eyes hit his face you immediately had all of your prior thoughts slip out of you, Jungkook’s eyes were tinted red, he looked as if he had been holding his breath because his face was now red too, his fists were clenched onto his pant leg and what your eyes went to first, the tears. They were welled up in his eyes and you noticed he wasn’t blinking either because one blink and all the tears would soon fall out. “I’m sorry.” You simply said, the words coming out before you could even think about what to say.

Your hands found themselves grabbing onto Jungkook’s arms, your grip trying to reassure him that you really were sorry but he still didn’t budge, you were almost certain that he went back to the silent treatment and you couldn’t help but sigh for what felt like the hundredth time that day. “Please don’t give me the cold shoulder anymore, I really am sorry. I’ll try to be more careful when around him okay? He’s just a friend Jungkook I swear, just please,” You sighed again now slipping your hands in his, he instantly interlocked your fingers with his as he was just as desperate as you were for this fight to be over. “Please forgive me.” You dropped your head forward having it land on his chest and you could now feel him sigh.

“On one condition.” You raised your head and gave him a confused look. “I’ll forgive you on one condition.”

“And what’s that?”

“I’ll forgive you if you kiss me.” Jungkook said with a wide smile spread across his lips. “Only then will I-” Your lips immediately went to his, hands still interlocked and you had to go on your tiptoes to reach him but no matter what your lips found his and kissed him. He kissed you back straightaway and it had felt as if the world fell away around him. It was quick in the beginning but ended up being soft and slow, it was comforting from the blow up that had happened only minutes before. His hands resting in yours, thumb caressing the tops of your hands. You could feel his heartbeat beat against your chest and you couldn’t have felt more at ease by anything else than the closeness that you were with Jungkook.

A-Z Game!

I was tagged by the most precious @muchbetterbts…ty babes ♥

A: AGE - 17

B: BIRTHPLACE - Not Canada

C: CURRENT TIME: 11:12 PM

D: DRINK YOU HAD LAST - A cup of milk

E: EASIEST PERSON TO TALK TO - Uhhhhhh

F: FAVORITE SONG - Don’t really have one

G: GROSSEST MEMORY - My memory is terrible

H: HOGWARTS HOUSE - Hufflepuff, I think

I: IN LOVE? - Yeah, if being in love with four men who want to see me die before they reunite counts

J: JEALOUS OF PEOPLE - Not jealousy so much as envy

K: KILLED SOMEONE - I think in my dreams once, yeah

L: LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT OR SHOULD I WALK BY AGAIN - Love at first sight does not exist, it is simply a social construct designed to speak more so about LUST at first sight, which definitely does exist. Love, however, needs growth, and nurturing and is much like a vegetable garden, where without water, crops will not flourish.

M: MIDDLE NAME - Loser

N: NUMBER OF SIBLINGS - Baby brother

O: ONE WISH - To see those I love be filled with nothing but happiness

P: PERSON YOU CALLED LAST - My mom

Q: QUESTION YOU ARE ALWAYS ASKED - What year are you in? OR What courses are you taking? OR How old are you? OR When are you coming back to C*****y?

R: REASON TO SMILE - My little brother, and 1D

S: SONG YOU SANG LAST - I was singing One of These Nights a few mins ago

T: TIME YOU WOKE UP - Around 8:30ish?

U: UNDERWEAR COLOR - Baby blue

V: VACATION DESTINATION - Not here.

W: WORST HABIT - Uh beating myself up over useless shit, and/or, procrastinating

X: X-RAYS - None

Y: YOUR FAVORITE FOOD - Shower me with fruits

Z: ZODIAC SIGN - Pisces

I’m gonna tag: @jikooksgf @tanktoptiger @j-gk @jihyped @jeonjeongguke @pocketofjeonbunny @hauntedhobi @ggukbun @kookminau and @lesbianblossomjimin (Only if you’re comfortable, of course!)

Polaroids

Originally posted by rapperjoon


Genre: Fluff/Angst

Pairing: Seokjin x Reader

-H

Upon the highest ledge of a bookshelf, tucked within the far corner of the apartment that you had once shared with Seokjin, pages and pages of memories lie bound between the worn covers of a scrapbook years in the making.

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anonymous asked:

In your rape culture video, you mentioned that virginity ignores sexuality for queer transgender folks. Could you explain that just a little deeper please? I don't seem to understand entirely what you meant.

Sure! So I talked about how virginity was a social construct, and originally virginity was used as a marker of a woman’s value as a wife. Fathers were “gatekeepers” for their daughters’ virginities so they would be more valuable to potential husbands. This is where the concept of virginity came from–a time when women’s bodies were property. Men would actually do “hymen checks” on girls to make sure they were virgins (which is a super flawed system because there are several different types of hymens, hymens can be broken or stretched doing non-sexual activity, and some people are born without hymens at all). 

Anyway, the idea was that any cis woman (although not that they would even recognize the existence of trans people back in the day) who had intercourse (penis in vagina–this system did not recognize any other type of sex) would have a “broken” hymen and thus would not be considered a virgin. 

This system is very flawed, however, because it invalidates any other type of sex (anal, oral, manual, etc.). And since this is still widely the way we determine whether or not someone is a virgin today, many queer people and other sexual minorities find themselves unsure if the type of sex they have “counts”. 

For example, a gay man might wonder if he is still a virgin if he has anal intercourse with another man because a vagina isn’t involved. Or a lesbian woman might wonder if sex that doesn’t involve being penetrated by a penis “counts”. 

It also can be considered transphobic because it heavily centers around genitalia. It limits people and sex to body parts. What if a trans man who opts not to have gender affirming surgery (such as sex reassignment surgery) has sex with a cis woman in a relationship they define as heterosexual? Does that mean he is a virgin because the genitalia he was born with doesn’t fit the societal expectation of “maleness”? 

Basically, the concept of virginity is an archaic social construct that confines sex to p-in-v intercourse and equates people with their genitalia based on hetero-and-cissexist (as well as misogynistic) assumptions about sexuality.

Is the U.S. criminal justice system racist? Does it target and arrest black men at higher rates than white men? Does it incarcerate black men at higher rates than white men? Does it kill black men at higher rates than white men? These are empirical questions. They have answers, and the answer is “yes” on all counts. The only thing more predictable than the racism of the criminal justice system are the shaming voices of white people responding to criticism of that system. They tell protestors they’re not being constructive, and they broadcast their disappointment in you for expressing suspicion about the not-guilty verdict or the failure to indict.
—  The Sociological Cinema

aseladraws  asked:

What advice can you give for dealing with Internet trolls. I'm an aspiring artist and have occasionally received comments which were rather mean than constructive. I know I still have a lot to learn, but words can cut deep. Thank you, Asela :)

 it’s complicated.

I’m sorry you have to deal with out while you’re trying to find your voice.  I couldn’t even imagine what that must be like

here’s the thing, there’s no rule in the world that says that the Internet is for everybody. you don’t HAVE to post work in progress and you don’t have to subject yourself to the cowardly whims of total strangers.

 the only good it does and it toughens you up for being on the big stage.

 what you need to do is find people in your life, your real human life, who you can count on for constructive criticism and honest opinion. and take it to heart.

 or you can post your material and just choose to sift through the noise.