how do you stop worrying about something that might not even happen?
Take a deep breath, breathe in and out, focus on a different thought, or at least try to. Worry clouds judgement and makes it hard to be calm, therefore, you mustn’t let it get to you. Know that whether or not it happens, you’ll be okay and everything will be fine.
How can I convince my mom to let me get my hair cut short? I've tried before but she said "I don't think you'd like it. The grow out phase is awful." I'm nonbinary and I just can't handle having my long "girly hair anymore. It's both too hard to handle and it's making me hate myself (well, more than I already do). My mom doesn't know I'm nonbinary and I don't feel like it's safe for me to come out to her. I really don't know what to do.
Sirius: I’ll give you the badass advice and Remus will give you the more “good kid” one! Get your best friend and go to the hair salon. It’s your body and you decide how you want to see it!
Remus: i would tell you to tell your mom that you really want this haircut and that it’ll make you feel way more like yourself. You don’t even have to tell her about being nonbinary if you don’t feel safe to do so. Just tell her that it’s not you and you would feel more confident with shorter hair. It’s your image and you get to decide. Anyway, I hope everything works out for you!
Teddy: we’re all behind you and we support you love!
My mum knows I'm probably nonbinary, but I have anxiety so it makes it hard to be certain. I told my dad earlier today, and he didn't really seem to care? He said that he didn't understand it, because biologically I have a gender, but he didn't really seem to want to know more, and I can't tell if I'm being paranoid and he was just busy, or if he's going to have issues accepting me. Should I bring it up again at a later date? What do I do?
You should bring it up again and explain how you even though you have a sex, your gender is different from it. If it’s too hard for you to say it in person you can write a letter and leave it in a place where you know it will be seen by him. Remember to be clear and direct about what you want to say. Good luck, and you can always message me if you need support!
I love how friendly you are! I feel like you welcomed me with open arms and now we're cyber friend! lol You always help me with my problems or you push me to try something new and I just appreciate everything you do! You're such an amazing story-teller and a very hard worker (in Sims and in real life) and I think that really shows!<3 Thanks for being perfect just the way you are!<333 Love you Shy<3
Oh Toni… I am so blessed to have you! You always make me smile and i love that about you! you go out of your way to make me happy and you don’t even know it - i literally don’t know how to express my gratitude to you for being such a great follower and friend! especially when i don’t deserve it! I don’t know about amazing but i’m glad you think so! I love you so much and don’t ever change!! <3
GEMINI: It’s really easy for people to criticize the choices you’ve been forced to make when they’ve never worn shoes as tattered as yours. The ground never seems rocky to anyone until they’ve personally experienced its brutality, and you’ve been braving the blood and the bruises for years without complaint. It’s okay to feel proud of yourself, for that. It’s okay to acknowledge the things that have made you who you are, even if those things haven’t always been beautiful or easy to talk about. Everything’s easier to appraise once it’s been given a voice.
CANCER: Stop convincing yourself that you don’t deserve the treasure chests that keep arriving on your doorstep. You’ve spent so long attempting to find the reason in your misfortune that you’ve incorrectly deduced that the only commonality between every pitfall is yourself. But you haven’t been factoring in how cruel the universe is, how angry it gets whenever something with a warm heart tries to touch what’s frozen. You’re finding all of this gold and compassion because it’s finally time for you to get what you’ve been giving to others. Take it.
LEO: You know, more so than anybody else, that it’s time to let go of the things that have hurt you, but there’s no easy way to say that you don’t know how to get rid of people that you’ve held so close to your chest. And maybe this says something about how much you try to give to others, all of the parts of yourself you’ve sacrificed for the comfort of soon-to-be-strangers. But the thing about leeches is that they drain you more often than they rid you of disease, especially in this season. And maybe this isn’t a leech yet, but it could become one, with time. Don’t let it.
VIRGO: It’s easy for you to ignore how much people truly care for you when you don’t feel as though you deserve it. The difficulty with this arises whenever you need help, as you’ve never learned how to ask for anything. So you let yourself feel distant from open palms and words of encouragement because you know you can do this yourself. While that’s true, you’re more than strong enough to conquer what’s been eating at you, it’s also true that the love that keeps getting shoved under your door is yours for the taking. It’s okay to pick it up. It’s okay to save it.
LIBRA: You’ve been peering out the window, comparing your reflection to everybody that passes by, and you seem to be forgetting that there’s a mirror right behind you. The only person that you need to measure yourself against is the person you were yesterday. I know it’s frustrating that progress too often moves like honey, and it’s impossible to see growth when you’re always with the thing that’s growing, but slow-motion is still motion. You may not be the person you want to be right now, but you will be. So turn around. Say hello to them.
SCORPIO: You were born with a shovel in your hand and you’ve been spending every moment since then dredging up the past. This is another way of saying that you have a lot of corpses buried in your backyard and despite the passage of time you’re afraid that they’re going to get up and walk away. Maybe come back as ghosts and haunt you, a reminder of what you’ve had to leave behind. But just because you’ve always had the tools to create self-doubt, it doesn’t mean you have to keep them on you at all times. It’s never too late to invest in a toolshed or try out gardening.
SAGITTARIUS: Have you found what you’ve been searching for, yet? Or, maybe a better question is “do you know what you’re looking for?” Because you’ve become an expert at donating your energy to a cause, any cause at all, and I’m starting to wonder if it’s all a distraction. If you’re struggling in the deep end and aren’t comfortable saying so. If you’re calling yourself a lifeguard because every atom of you is begging to be pulled out of the water. Baby, you’re so much more than a body that tries its best to save people. You’re worth more than what you’ve dragged out of the pool.
CAPRICORN: So many people that you care about have been falling into bad luck recently and it makes you feel so powerless. It’s as though you’re a minor character in your own life and you have to just sit back and watch the protagonist fuck things up in order to learn a lesson, or something like that. And I’m not going to lie and say that you’re able to have full control over every aspect of your life, because you never will. But remember that, despite all of this, every little thing you do to combat the world’s anger is a brave sort of rebellion. You are more than enough to the people you love.
AQUARIUS: There are a lot of people that you regret letting into your life and the memory of what you thought they’d be is making it hard for you to get out of bed. It’s okay to be sad, your feelings have only ever known the taste of validity, but know that nobody has the ability to ruin you. Someday they’re all going to regret setting fire to your bark when they realize how miraculous your leaves are in the summer heat, dancing in the breeze of late-night drives with people that want to keep you safe. Repeat after me: I am not damaged. I am not damaged. I am not damaged.
PISCES: I know that it’s hard to put faith in the moments of happiness you’ve been experiencing lately when so much of your life has been spent checking the clock and turning down the music, but you are not an airport or a train station. You’re a destination. And I know that you’re still getting used to the idea of being the subject of a travel brochure and that’s okay. It takes time to become comfortable with anything, even the good. Especially the good. The June air is buzzing and this is your time to shine. Don’t waste it.
ARIES: So, some eras of your life have been ending recently and that’s a little scary. Especially since you worked so hard to get what you’re holding. But they’re just making way for better adventures and happier moments and the only thing left for you to do is embrace that. Welcome change with open arms and it’ll be kind to you. I know there’s a voice in the back of your head saying “what if it all gets bad again” but you need to ignore that voice because it isn’t you. You are the person that’s endured and withstood and kept going. You’re the one that matters, here.
TAURUS: It’s been becoming more and more clear to you that out of all the people you’ve met and interacted with, there are very few you’d consider to be a “friend.” And I know that sometimes it feels like that’s all you’re ever going to get, but it isn’t. One’s hometown is, thankfully, never representative of the world in its entirety and there’s still so much you have left to see. Still so many souls that you’ll discover in the most mundane of places. You just have to keep your eyes open. I know it’s easier to sleep through the sadness, but you’re stronger than that urge, aren’t you? You are.
Player1: Why is milk so expensive? A silver is what a peasant makes in an entire day of work! GM: Uh, well…it’s minotaur milk! Do you know how hard it is to milk a minotaur? Player2: Aren’t minotaurs an all male species?
GM:…do you know how hard it is to milk a minotaur?
What's your stance on the drama surrounding Thomas sanders?
There’s drama surrounding Thomas Sanders? If there is that’s the first I’ve heard of it. One sec….
Okay apparently people are on him because he includes ace/aro people in the LGBTQIA+ community? And that’s a sin? Okay… I read his response on that and I thought it was amazing and even eye opening. “They’re not LGBT. They’re ‘A’” What’s wrong with making a little more room at the table for people with marginalized identities? It’s not like the queer community is an exclusive club. We’re all supposed to be there for each other. Even if you disagree on this…so?? Is that really a valid reason to hate a person?
And…he reblogged nsfw artwork he didn’t know was made by a minor and apologized for it. Cool. Good on him. He’s a human and everyone makes slip-ups. I swear I can’t stand the callout culture on this site. Stop treating mistakes by well-intentioned people like irredeemable character flaws. Stop it. If you’re a bitter person you can always find a reason to hate someone. But that reflects negatively on you, not them.
Thomas always tries his hardest to do the right thing and be as inclusive and understanding as possible. I hate how the internet tries so hard to completely demonize well-intentioned people over disagreements and/or honest slip-ups. He’s one of the kindest people I know and he does a heck of a better job than I do at being an all-around inclusive sweetheart who responds kindly to all kinds of hate and slander. I support him completely.
'#I'll never get over just how obvious his crush was... while also being something people were able to miss??#henrik just nailed it PERFECTLY' yeah i always think about because i totally get why people were skeptical and thought even was a fuckboy because he had a gf!! but also looking back he was SO into isak from the jump and it's so funny how obvious it truly was
I myself can’t really see people how people thought he fucking with Isak, because he was so clearly framed as the love interest, but I kind of like that they did? I like when people are working hard to read a story and have a lot of questions (when it pays off, lol). But I can DEF see how people were entirely taken in and thought he was cool and mysterious and “wtf is this guy’s deal!!” “wtf pt 2: he has a gf?????” alongside Isak.
It’s great that you can take just the first two episodes (I like to think about it before we even get to even’s room in mekke øl!) and nothing else and go “okay, whatever is going on with him… dude has a crush” though:
he’s legit not paying attention and scanning the room until he sees isak, wow…
he’s so nervous, how did I not notice how nervous he was??
p l e a s e, he’s so happy a chance to talk to his crush fell into his lap like this
and then this shyest, crushiest little birdface!! he was so… obvious
I just love that it’s not that specific hints were dropped but rather if you watch Even closely, you can see it from his perspective the whole time. Henrik deserves a lot of credit imho for how well he walked that line and the directing/editing for showing you just enough but not too much. Production makes a huge difference, sometimes it’s down to the lighting and post processing! Do you remember how when Passe på meg aired with “I saw you the first day of school”, there was suddenly a deluge of people lightening the first meeting at kosegruppa and ‘discovering’ Even’s face then?? I laugh now at how perfectly D A R K those shots were:
And how much that worked to obscure his expression:
Everything about Even’s perspective in those early eps was so well done and it adds so much to the show that you can go back and see through his eyes once you know him better.
Hcs about how Saeran really feels toward the RFA members + Vanderwood post game?
I’m not going to do Saeyoung for this because whew that would take like 10 hours
I tried putting it under the cut, but it doesn’t work on mobile so GAHH I’m sorry for the long post
Yoosung - teaches him to be happy:
when Saeran first meets him he thinks he’s really stupid and annoying
and he’s jealous because he’s Saeyoung’s best friend
why did he get to spend time with his brother while Saeran was just abandoned?
andwhy does Saeyoung even deserve a best friend?
basically he’s just really bitter about the whole situation
but when he starts getting to know Yoosung, he gets so frustrated because he’s genuinely a good guy
like, there’s no way around it. he’s a good person and Saeran’s excuses for being bitter are getting weaker and weaker the more they talk
Yoosung is persistent and seems pretty determined to be his friend, but never gets overwhelming which Saeran really appreciates
he seems to know exactly where the line is and he never oversteps it
he becomes the kind of friend Saeran’s comfortable relaxing around, and Yoosung makes him feel like it’s okay to smile and be happy
Yoosung doesn’t hold back whenever he complains about something bothering him
whether it be about school, his family, or even Saeyoung (that’s Saeran’s favourite topic to hear Yoosung complain about) he’ll just vent it all out because Saeran’s more of a listener than a talker, and Saeran finds he actually really likes it
he makes Saeran feel worth something
and, on top of that, he likes hearing about Yoosung’s life because it gives him an insight into what it’s like to be ‘normal’ and that makes him feel ‘normal’
Yoosung treats him like he would treat any other person, and not like something he might break
Zen - teaches him self-confidence:
Saeran’s not really sure what to think of him at first
he’s kind of intimidated, because Zen is pretty overbearing with the whole ‘being nice’ thing, and sometimes it makes Saeran uncomfortable
there’s also the problem of the fact he’s an actor, so Saeran doesn’t know whether he’s only pretending to be nice and pretending to like him
he has this fear with everyone, but with Zen it’s worse because he can’t even trust his own judgement
he feels a little weird around Zen, and probably has a small crush on him for a while
but then he realises how stupid Zen actually is and how much he messes around with Saeyoung sometimes, so that goes away pretty quickly
he likes the idea of him more than the actual reality of it
but he still likes hanging out with him sometimes, even if only in small doses
he actually really likes watching Zen’s musicals, because they calm him down and are usually pretty light to watch
it’s just the DVDs at first, and as much as he wants to see one live he’s just too anxious to go
he likes all the songs, and when he’s a fair way into his recovery he starts humming them to himself sometimes (Saeyoung’s so happy about that, because it’s proof of Saeran’s progress)
Zen also helps Saeran realise it’s ok to love yourself, and even if Saeran finds Zen’s narcissism really annoying at first, he kind of wishes he could do it too, and starts spending time looking in the mirror to try and find things he likes
sometimes it backfires, but occasionally he finds something. he usually keeps it to himself and doesn’t brag about it, but it’s something
Zen becomes an unexpectedly comforting presence, and Saeran slowly learns to trust him
Jaehee - teaches him how to trust:
out of the entire RFA, she’s the one he respects most from the beginning
she often asks him how he is, but not in a way that pushes him into discomfort
she respects his boundaries and he really appreciates that
she’s the most disconnected person in the RFA, in that the only reason she joined is because she’s Jumin’s assistant and not because she directly knew V or Rika, so that helps him feel a little more comfortable around her
also, when he starts getting interested in Zen’s musicals she’s more than willing to lend him the DVDs
they don’t watch them together at first because Saeran doesn’t feel comfortable and Jaehee doesn’t want to intrude too much
but very gradually Saeran gets comfortable enough to watch one with her
it’s incredibly awkward the first time, but they both enjoy it anyway
she understands Saeran in a way none of the others do, and it gets to the point where he starts to open up a little to her because he feels comfortable enough
basically she’s like the mother/best friend he never had
he trusts her not to tell anyone the things he says, and their friendship isn’t exactly lighthearted, but it’s still healthy
when they’re around other people, though, they just act like regular acquaintances, because Saeran likes to pretend no one knows these things about him
Jaehee understands, though, and she’s always willing to listen
Jumin - teaches him he’s not isolated:
Saeran finds him pretty intimidating
he comes across as cold and indifferent all the time
he doesn’t get his jokes, and he just doesn’t understand him at all
but as he’s around him more he realises… they’re not actually all that different
Jumin is really not good at expressing his emotions, and Saeran isn’t either so Saeran feels an odd kind of connection to him because of that
they’re not exactly friends, but they have a mutual understanding of each other
and Jumin’s presence becomes somewhat calming to him, because he doesn’t feel the need to keep up a pretense or worry about saying something wrong because Jumin literally doesn’t care
from an outside perspective their conversations probably seem pretty harsh and blunt, but neither of them seem to notice
it’s a relief to Saeran that he doesn’t have to constanty think about what he says around Jumin
and, as it turns out, Elizabeth 3rd actually really likes him
Saeran really likes her too, and he finds it calming to come and stroke her and play with her whenever he’s had a rough time
Saeyoung gets jealous because Jumin still won’t let him anywhere near her, but Saeran is always gentle and soft and treats her so carefully because he’s afraid of hurting her
he doesn’t really understand animals, but animals seem to love him, and Jumin likes seeing Elizabeth 3rd so happy
Saeran’s not entirely sure what to think of them
his first impression of them is when they pretty much accidentally kidnapped him
so it’s kinda awkward
in all honesty they don’t really have much of a relationship, because Vanderwood isn’t a member of the RFA, so when Saeyoung quits the agency they have no reason to be around
they’re quite sharp towards each other, but Saeran actually starts warming to that a little
he likes the wit. it’s a nice break from Saeyoung’s stupid jokes
they end up bonding a little over how frustrating they find Saeyoung
but Vanderwood still feels very strongly about not having personal relationships, so not much comes of it
Arguing to raise the minimum wage to a living wage hurts the feelings of wealthy job creators who work very hard.
The 1% has been unfairly treated by the media since Occupy Wall Street.
Consider that rich people get anxiety and depression too?? Like I love how y'all are all “I care about people struggling with mental illness uwu” but then when Warren Buffet talks about income inequality you mock him for being hypocritical?? That makes him feel bad???
Do you know how stressed Goldman Sachs was during the 2008 financial crisis???
Do you know how sad Elon Musk feels when people criticize his business practices?
When you say “I hate capitalism” you’re literally making rich people miserable. You’re blaming them for cronyism the government allows for. You’re blaming them for the actions of the invisible hand. It’s invisible?? Like?? What the fuck are you doing blaming corporations for it??? They can’t see it????
Okay I got that off my chest. Non-CEOs can reblog to support us.