do you ever cry because i do

anonymous asked:

Hi. Uhm. I had sex and I regret it so much. I'm only 15. We used protection and stuff so that's fine but.... I wish I didn't do it. He really wanted to and I was like, "Hey. Why not?" and I feel like if I hadn't done it he would've broken up with me. :( I'm scared my mom finds out because he told his friends and his friends have a tendency to spread stuff and I'm terrified it reaches the principal. Cuz principal = parents usually. What do I do now? I want to tell my mom so I can cry and

she can reassure me, but if she finds out and tel’s my dad…. they’ll disown me. I remember my dad used to say, “If I ever find out you have sex now, O____, you’re a goner.” I hate myself.

First of all, let me give you a big, stinkin’ hug. You sound like you’ve been run through the wringer, and I want you to know that you will be okay and that I’m here to listen. Now, there are a couple of things I’ll ask for your well-being (you don’t have to answer me, but know the answers for yourself). 

1. How old is your boyfriend? Is he over 18, even just a little? If so, you need to tell an authority figure because that is statutory rape and is illegal. 

2. Did you wholeheartedly tell him “yes”? In the moment, did you absolutely want to do it and did you tell him “Yes, I want to do this”? If you didn’t, or if he pressured you in any way, that also counts as rape and you must tell an authority figure. 

If neither of these two things is an issue, you’re on surer ground, but you still have some things to deal with. First of all, did you give him permission to talk to his friends about it? They have no right to be spreading your private matters around. If it does reach the principal, you have just as much a case against them for violating your privacy. I know that’s not your major concern, but keep that in mind. 

I’m sorry you felt like you had to have sex so that your boyfriend wouldn’t break up with you. But I think you need to ask yourself if that’s a relationship worth keeping. If something so small would cause him to walk away, what would make him stick around through even bigger challenges? I know you’re both young, but I think you need to value yourself in this case and ask yourself if he’s the kind of guy who was in it for one thing or not. Sadly, those sorts of guys do exist. It doesn’t mean he didn’t like you, but if he made you feel like he was going to leave if he didn’t get sex from you, it means he really didn’t value you as a whole person or respect your perspective. 

When it comes to your parents, I understand being afraid to tell them, especially if they have made threats like that before. Were those things said in a joking or hyperbolic way? Do you trust that your parents won’t put their money where their mouth is? It could be, when actually faced with a situation where their child is hurt and upset, that they might not go through with what they claimed. I don’t know your parents, but this is a possibility. If you’re sure they’ll act on what they’ve said, find another authority figure in your life. A friend’s mom, maybe. A trusted aunt, uncle, or cousin. Even a teacher you know and trust should be able to help you with this and not involve the principal or your parents if you tell them your concerns. If you have absolutely no one irl to talk to about this, here’s a Sex Ed Hotline for teens (includes text/chat options), and they can give you more specific advice for your situation. 

I’m sorry, honey. This sounds like a difficult situation to navigate. But I want you to know that you are not broken or dirty or a failure because of this. You made a decision that you now regret, and that’s all there is to it. I’m very proud that you used protection. But even as you work through this tough phase, take the opportunity to learn something about yourself, your sexuality, and your expectations from your partners in the future. Read up more about how to know you’re really ready, and don’t rush into it. Again, you’re not a failure, nor should you hate yourself. You’re young. Use the opportunity to learn and grow as a person. I hope you can work something out with your parents, and if you can’t, take care of yourself first and foremost. I’ll be thinking of and praying for you. 

Sarah

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                                         ‘Oh the bitten mouth, oh the kissed limbs,
                                     oh the hungering teeth, oh the entwined bodies.

The seven as types of friends

Annabeth: The giant wreck friend. She’s constantly stressing about something.She’s working on four projects, none of which she’s finished. She’s set fire to at least two (2) notebooks and her diet mainly consists of bagels, coffee, and her own tears.

Percy: The protective friend. He’s a sarcastic shit and you can’t always tell if he’s being sincere, but you once saw him break a guy’s nose for insulting his brother and you know he’ll do the same for you. He has approximately twelve (12) bandaids on at all times and he’ll spot you money without ever asking for it back

Jason: The dad friend. He somehow always has water bottles for if you’re thirsty. He’s seen you cry over twenty times but he never brings it up because he’s just too good of a guy. His catchphrase is “I don’t know…” right before talking you out of doing something stupid

Leo: The dying friend. He mostly consists of jokes and witty comebacks. You’re 90% sure he’s dying inside and just uses acronyms and puns to hide it but you don’t say anything because you’re pretty sure he’d rather crawl into a hole than talk about it. He gives oddly good advice and he never fails to make you laugh.

Hazel: The you think she’s innocent friend. She’s somehow convinced everyone she’s naive and innocent when really she’s probably way more experienced in life than you are. She blushes like a maniac and uses “darn” in her everyday vocabulary. She’s an angel until you piss her off. 

Frank: The actually innocent friend. He never swears and instead uses bizarre substitutes that are sometimes worse than the actual swear word. He gives gentle high fives and he awkwardly pats your shoulder when you’re upset. He gives the best hugs.

Piper: The cool friend. You have no idea how you managed to get her as a friend. She messed up so much in her past that she’s now grown and learned beyond her years. She’s the epitome of doesn’t give a fuck. She wears leather jackets that intimidate you and she likes to flip people off. Everyone is secretly in love with her.

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clary’s reaction to finding her mother’s body

Do you ever stop to marvel at the trust Tony has in Jarvis and his suits?

Jarvis tells him that the suit is not yet tested in The Avengers and yet Tony trusted him and his suit to catch him once he fell out of the window.

And then in Iron Man 3 he doesn’t even look if a suit is there to catch him. He doesn’t tell Jarvis he is going to need a suit every time and yet Jarvis is there and he catches him. Tony never once hesitates, he leaps and he falls and he trusts Jarvis to be there, to know what he needs, to not let him down.

And Jarvis doesn’t. Not once.

To the one

Girl: Do I ever cross your mind?
Boy: No.
Girl: Do you like me?
Boy: Not really.
Girl: Do you want me?
Boy: No.
Girl: Would you cry if I left?
Boy: No.
Girl: Would you live for me?
Boy: No.
Girl: Would you do anything for me?
Boy: No way.
Girl: What would you choose, your life or me?
Boy: My life.
The girl runs away in shock and in pain, and the boy runs after her, and tells her…
The reason why you never cross my mind is because you’re always on my mind. The reason why I don’t like you is because I love you. The reason why I don’t want you is because I need you. The reason why I won’t cry if you left is because I would die if you left. The reason why I wouldn’t live for you is because I would die for you. The reason why I’m not willing to do anything is because I’d do everything for you. The reason why I chose my life is because you are my life.

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jess mariano appreciation week // day one >>> favourite season