do what you like but bring a kid into it and it gets personal

wouldn’t it be great if we talked about religion and church not just as a list of dos and don’ts, but instead about the things we can do to get closer to God? like, imagine being raised that there is no way to be perfect, and you’re not expected to be, but you can make choices to do or not do things that bring you closer or push you further away from God.

i think a lot about how i’d raise my kids as Christians. and for me, that will be the distinction. it won’t be “do this because i said so” or even “do this because the bible says so.” it will be a conversation about how the choices we make affect our relationship with God, so our choices should be about developing that relationship, not pursuing some idea of what makes a person a “good” Christian

Calling all antis, and anti-MAP’s, anti Pro-contacts, Shi* all of tumblr

You don’t like me and thats fine, i don’t like a lot of you either. But some do share something with me and I with them. A lets protect kids from harm mentality. Their is this Youtuber called Omnipolitics16. He is a pro-contact, pro-child & adult sex Pedophile who believes that if children are taught enough about sex then they can consent. Myself and a few of my anti-contact/non-offending MAP peers have written long responses about the effects and harm of CSA and how he is just completely wrong. Yet he rebuttals with answers filled with the benefits of adult on child sex. Along with how CSA victims are brainwashed and that in “most cases sexual interactions with children bring them pleasure”. 

Im calling to you guys to blacklist him hard and if you can do your thing. Get them scratched off of youtube. His influence is dangerous. What if a child stumbles upon his videos and thinks its okay to have “consensual” sex with an adult. We all know its rape. I know you don’t like us MAPs (to the antis) but some of us really despise Pro-contacts and that guy is dangerous to children. I don’t want a young MAP finding him and thinking this same mentality. I fear for the safety of children. I fear for the future teen MAPs. Please help and get that guy and his horrible influence out of youtube. I know its just one speck of dust cleaned off of the shelf. But its one speck down. Don’t do it for me, or even for the future MAPs. Do it for the sake of children. Please 


I told him i was happy Offenders were put in jail and that law and society looked down hard upon them and he said that 

He said that about kids being able to feel sexual pleasure even though we are clearly talking about rape here. 

he said a “A child can indeed consent to sex” and i couldn’t stop crying for hours. 

the he talked about how kids play Doctor??? because kids being them is related to raping them?? 

Guys please 

Thats his channel. I don’t want him near children, sadly i don’t know how to prevent that as to him being so stubborn about his pro-contact views. And yes he shows his face. Get him off of youtube please! Please! Do your thing! Spam him! Report him! Spread the word! please! He is spreading information that can result in more possible outcomes and i cant have a child be hurt by him or by his beliefs or by others influenced by him. 

Drag him

There’s a Boy I Know; He’s the One I Dream Of

Just like in the last two Prequel installments, Anakin/Vader is still basically obsessed with bringing up Obi-Wan in the Original Trilogy. He mentions him over and over: I sense Obi-Wan, Obi-Wan’s here, Obi-Wan brought the Force with him UGH THAT IS SO LIKE HIM, Obi-Wan failed, Obi-Wan did a good job teaching you, Obi-Wan thought I could be saved, Obi-Wan can’t help him, Obi-Wan can’t help you, Obi-Wan lied to you, Obi-Wan was right to hide my kid from me, did Obi-Wan mention my name at all, Obi-Wan was super handsome, do you think Obi-Wan would like my cape, what do you think Obi-Wan’s Force Ghost is doing right now…

…OK, some of those might be things I just made up, but you get the idea. Vader is, like, REALLY CONCERNED AT ALL TIMES that we be aware that Obi-Wan is a person that Vader is totally definitely so over. His new boyfriend is a Sith and owns his own Death Star and EVERYTHING.

Look: I’m not blaming you, Vader. God knows we’re all into that guy, but…simmer down a little bit. You’re coming off too desperate; dudes can pick up on that and then the next thing you know, they’ll turn themselves into The Force to get away from you.

don’t fall in love with me
your heart is locked, but before you know it I’ll own the key
I’ll figure out how you think, I bring danger but you’ll want to protect me
being with me will be as easy as breathing, I will make you feel free

they say the best love always does
I would know I’ve learned from the best
I’ve gone through them all, the athlete, the drug dealer, poor kids and the well dressed
all just trying to get my undressed
treat me like shit, oppressed

got myself out of all those
I left the relationships but kept the tricks so now I’m a pro
I’ll have at the first hello

I’ll make you feel alive
I’ll be the fresh air you’ve been craving
a new journey everyday
tell you you’re beautiful, who cares what you weigh
you’ll feel safe

then I’ll start to pull away
talking less everyday
I’ll be busy, won’t answer your calls
I’ll have you crying, confused, what did you do? punching walls, throwing your brothers baseball’s
outside at midnight
I won’t text you goodnight

then I’ll leave
you’ll need at least 6 months to grieve
I’ll do it when I know I am your whole world, your life revolves around our relationship
you’ll abuse drugs, and alcohol, so drunk you call me from your spaceship

you’ll ask me what went wrong
I’ll apologize, tell you to stay strong
you’ll play our song
every night before bed
thinking about every word I ever said
all the things you want to tell me, all the secrets and opinions and words unsaid

I won’t feel awful
it won’t hurt, the break up wasn’t painful

I’m sorry in advance
don’t give me a chance
don’t look at me, pretend not to notice my glance
I’m not looking for romance

I want a short love story
ill convince myself you’re the one
you won’t want anyone else, you’re off the market, done

after a few months I’ll get bored
I know I promised
I was the sweetest
now you’re the craziest

my love become your drug of choice
you’ll call a few times a day just to hear my voice
you’ll think about me always
driving on the highway
when you’re stuck at work on a friday

but I’ll leave abruptly
I’ll tell you it’s over and to never talk to me again, bluntly

the withdraw
will just get worse, keep going downhill
I’ll block you on everything and delete your number
you’ll cry to your mother

in a few weeks I’ll be at it again
and I’ll unblock you and let you see
the new girl I pick
you’ll question my words, if I had loved you how could I move on so quick

you will eventually move on but you’ll never forget
the smell of my cigarettes
the sheets on my bed
you’ll say it’s just another regret

but we’ll both know
a text from me, a simple hello
will make your heart dance
you’ll think about giving me a second chance
but listen to me when I tell you, don’t.

—  the warning you didn’t want to see

more small(-ish) stan twins headcanons b/c i’m in a mood tonight:

  • you know the kid that always brings home assorted bugs/animals they thought were cool in like their pockets and everyone just goes “why”? they were both that kid
  • if ford ever got sick/hurt stan was really, really good at being that person that is very honestly well-meaning, but mostly just annoys the heck out of you by constantly going “are you any better? do you need something? can i get it? can i get you anything at all? are you feeling better i hope you feel better soon”
    this was partially out of actual concern, and partially out of succumbing to just plain boredom without his brother up and about
  • let me reiterate that star trek first aired in 1966. they were literally dipper and mabel’s age. 3 guesses what uniform ford made for a halloween costume at LEAST once in his lifetime and the first two don’t count
  • (he was, however, very upset about not ever being able to do a proper vulcan salute)
  • on a similar note: the MOON LANDING. happened during the summer probably between their freshman and sophomore year of high school. ford was restless the entire week of the mission and sat glued to the tv for multiple hours beforehand b/c he refused to even risk missing it.
    stanley joined him at a more reasonable time, having made popcorn.
  • most. complex. secret. handshakes. ever.
  • COMIC BOOKS they were both huge fans of comic books. slightly different tastes but you know. there’s something for everybody. and when you can build a blanket fort and stay up later than you’re allowed to reading them by flashlight night to someone else doing the exact same thing, they’re even more exciting
“But you haven’t officially been diagnosed with Celiac disease, so, you should be fine eating gluten.”

Okay, gather ‘round, kids.
First of all, regardless of what the media tells you, SOME PEOPLE EVEN WITHOUT CELIAC CANNOT EAT GLUTEN.
You know how some people have reactions to things like peanuts, or strawberries, or apples?
Sensitivities, intolerances, and allergies can happen with LITERALLY ANYTHING.

Secondly, and this isn’t the case for everyone, IT WAS MY PERSONAL CHOICE NOT TO BE TESTED FOR CELIAC.
“WTF, STYNA, WHY?! WHY NOT JUST GET THE TEST AND BE DONE WITH IT?!”
Here’s why.
There are two main ways to test for Celiac Disease.
The first, and most accurate, is a biopsy of the small intestine.
My anxiety goes through the roof even just thinking about it, and I probably couldn’t bring myself to do a thing like this unless my life literally depended on it (like if they thought I had cancer, or something. And even then, somebody better fucking give me something to calm my ass down, which I would also be anxious over, because the thought of having an allergic reaction to meds also scares the shit out of me.)
The second is a specific blood test.
Which would be fine.
Seriously, poke me with as many needles as you want, I’m used to it.
The catch, aside from the fact that it’s not super accurate, is that you have to have gluten in your system for the test to work.
It would have been lovely if my doctor had suggested doing this test BEFORE he suggested removing gluten from my diet… but he didn’t.
By the time I’d been gluten-free for two months, so many of my complaints were SO MUCH BETTER that I didn’t want to put myself through the agony of introducing it into my diet again, just for clarification of how serious my reaction to gluten is.
I know that it affects me negatively.
Very negatively.
So it doesn’t really matter to me whether it’s because of Celiac, or if it’s just an intolerance.
Either way, I wouldn’t start eating it again, so WHAT DIFFERENCE DOES IT MAKE?!
I haven’t purposely consumed gluten in 2.5 years, now. It’s happened on accident a few times, and it was HELL.

Last but not least… why the FUCK is everyone so obsessed with what other people are or are not eating?
Why is it that people feel the need to try to persuade me to eat gluten foods?
Seriously… FUCKING WHY?!
It has absolutely ZERO affect on them.
It’s not like we (people with special diets) expect you to cater to us.
We 100% do not expect that, I promise.
If we want to be sure we can eat something, we will take the proper actions.
We will call ahead to the restaurant, or we will bring our own food to your party.
(And on that note, don’t get pissy with us when we do that. We’re not doing it to be offensive, or “make a scene.” Literally the only reason we’re doing it is so that we can feel safe eating something. Making a scene is the opposite of what we want to do, which is WHY WE TAKE THESE ACTIONS.)

TL;DR:

If someone tells you they can’t eat something, accept it and move the fuck on.

the “thats what we were put on the earth to do!” sentiment towards having kids is so fucking gross. like, seriously? thats it? my higher purpose is just to pop out babies? not end world hunger or bring about world-wide disarmament and usher in an era of peace or find the cure to a terrible disease? my purpose is just to be a mother? like, look lady, i get that ur old and grew up in a miserable, sepia-toned time where everyone was happily misogynistic but don’t spout this shit to me. its insulting to everyone with a functioning uterus. ur stripping away our personalities, hopes, dreams, goals, and fears, and focusing on our reproductive organs. ur ignoring what truly makes us who we are and looking solely at our biology. its spitting in the face of our academics, our achievements, our hobbies and saying its no good because it isn’t a child. fuck you. fuck you and your crumbling ovaries, deborah. my higher purpose is beyond the thankless job of a mother. my higher purpose is whatever i fuckin make it to be.

if one person comes to me excusing violence and abuse of children I will fling them into the sun I don’t even know what’s worse, abusive parents acting like they HAVE to hit kids, like they absolutely MUST and the decision is out of their hands isn’t that fucking convenient for pieces of trash who will jump to physical violence for any fucking excuse at all I haven’t seen one of you actually pained over the fact that you hurt a small child, I SEE YOU ALL FUCKING ENJOYING YOURSELVES BEING DISGUSTING MONSTERS, there’s no remorse or empathy or compassion for a tiny human being who is being actively betrayed when the person who is supposed to take care of them is now the worst nightmare of their life, taking their safety away, bringing them pain, they fucking still believe that this person loves them, they are getting brainwashed into thinking that love equals abuse, and all parents will do is claim I HAD TO DO IT, I HAD TO BETRAY THE TRUST AND LOVE OF THIS SMALL CREATURE, IT NEEDS TO BE HURT AND BETRAYED while still completely dependent on the abusers so it can’t just run away or protect itself but ends up brainwashed and trained to accept abuse from other people, this child will most likely end up in dozens of abusive relationships and friendships, this child will be terrified to establish boundaries, this child will likely have nightmares, flashbacks, anxiety, depression, low self worth, no confidence, they will feel scared and ashamed and guilty and blame themselves for all the pain they’re in, all because parents insist that causing harm to their children is the only possible way to raise them, there’s literally thousands of alternatives to beating children up, there’s so many options, so many things you could do to raise them safely without betraying them so deeply and horribly but it would take actual genuine compassion for your child, it would take actually caring what your child is going through and what they’ll have to go through, it would take actual caring for your child’s well being and I don’t even need abusive parents to admit to know that they don’t fucking care, they don’t give a fucking shit, all they ever care about is validating  themselves and feeling great about themselves as parents at the price of their child being tortured and suffering and going through abuse all their life.

anonymous asked:

I sent an M!A to Shadow about having a new kiddo brought into his and Vio's lives! It can be magically born from their DNA, or a baby left at their door, or a baby they adopted! What do you think?

(Uhhh, personally I’d find it funny? Like all Vio and Shadow’s kids are basically all grown up now, so did they get bored and want another? Ultimately, I doubt Ly would want to bring another muse onto her blog, I wouldn’t really mind or care. However I’m not really active on here anymore.
@dark-ones-of-hyrule )

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Happy Birthday to Eric David Harris 🎉🎈 Eric deserves to have birthday wishes like any other person does, he was once a teenager like some of us. He is still a person who deserves to be treated like everyone else, what he did will never be forgiven and I do not glorify what Eric and Dylan did but people who commit suicide over bullying is just as horrible as people who shoot up schools because they were bullied to the point that they want the people to pay for all the crappy things they did and they choose to take out their revenge by killing their classmates. They are no different to people who commit suicide it’s still a big problem that bullying is getting so bad that kids with kill themselves or others. It shows you how bullying can be taken in different ways.

April 9 1981-April 20th 1999

anonymous asked:

1 thro 10 ask anything ask thing thingy

1. selfie: srry anon…………..nah

 2. what would you name your future kids?

 um…idk? probably some homestuck name or somthn dumb like that…

3. do you miss anyone?

 i miss my gf lol…………

 4. what are you looking forward to?

 honestly? im rlly looking forward to sleeping

 5. is there anyone who can always make you smile?

 dimple always manages to bring a smile to my face :-)

 6. is it hard for you to get over someone?

like friends duh yeah but my ex? hell no lol

7. what was your life like last year?

 shitty….sad……lonely…..

 8. have you ever cried because you were so annoyed?

 the #1 reason i cry is bc i get angry

 9. who did you last see in person?

 my friend ig?

10. are you good at hiding your feelings?

 maybe? i dont rlly think i am tbh

anonymous asked:

hey there, i saw you wernt feeling well and i read through your tags, and i just want you to know your not alone. im sure its a struggle, especially being alone irl. i havent had friends in over a year and i spend most of the time in my house in my room so i understand just how horrible it is. in time things will get better, even if it comes slowly.

;;; yea h;;y

im an only child, I’ve grown up with no siblings in an abusive household, ive learned to shield myself from everyone and stuff;;

i never contact my irl friends, i absolutely despise going outside (i only do willingly when i run to the store to buy some junk for myself;;) and i just;; dont know;;
im the kind of person that always;; bottles things up no matter what, I always have excuses ready, and my life has been based around trying to reach the standards my parents set

‘be the perfect kid’ ‘dont make any mistaakes’

i only feel like;;; im some kind of trophy at this point.;;; one misstep and everything falls onto me;;

ive gotten so used to lying that;; i dont know anymore. i honestly wish i wasnt here anymore

anonymous asked:

hi, um, so I've been seeing a lot of negative cockles discourse (and negative rps discourse in general) recently and idk what to make of it... if we aren't harassing the actors or shoving it in their faces why do ppl have such an issue with it?

Hey! 

I don’t know, I guess when real people are involved, it makes others uncomfortable at times. But yeah, I’m like, as long as you’re doing this RP shipping on your own little blog, upload fanfic to your own little AO3 account… I don’t see the problem at all. 

Don’t bring it up to the actors or suggest that they’re crushing on their co worker, I think that every sane person understands that rule, and that goes for pretty much all shipping. The only one who apparently didn’t get that memo when it comes to Cockles, is Jared Padalecki

Just kidding, it’s okay Jared, we feel you! :p

Why are people so focused on Eren bringing up the ocean when pleading with Levi to save Armin and treat it as Eren’s only reason for wanting Armin to live is to see the ocean? Like - do people actually think that in a situation like this, Eren would say ‘but Armin wanted to see the ocean so he should live’? Give the kid some credit. Hes dumb, but hes not that dumb and definitely not that selfish.

Like everyone takes Eren’s words so literally and just - you know whats needed to see the ocean? Freedom for humanity. No titans. Literally, Eren saying Armin wants to see the ocean was him saying Armin wants to free humanity and get rid of all the titans. And hes telling Levi that Armin is the kind of person who could lead them to that ocean, aka who would lead them to humanity’s freedom and to eradication of titans.

And the very next thing he says is that Armin will be the one to save humanity - not Eren or Erwin, but Armin. So the statement about the ocean is not literally making a beach trip but its their promise to free humanity and get rid of the titans because if you remember, Eren was always pretty focused on that part. And Eren is literally saying that Armin is the kind of person who always had this goal, who is not a passive soldier who will follow orders, but someone who has his eyes set on a big goal and is working towards it. Because next to Erwin its so easy to dismiss Armin, especially for Levi and Hanji who had only limited contact with him.

But Eren? Eren’s been there for it all. He’s seen, over and over again how Armin comes up with plans that save people. How he figures out the most important issues (hello,  Annie?). How hes ready to sacrifice his life just so humanity can take another step forward. Eren, unlike anyone else, saw how much potential Armin has and how much hes done when hes given the chance. And you know, its easy for readers to dismiss Armin too but Eren didnt have all the insight a reader does. His view on Erwin is limited, just like Hanji and Levi have a limited view on Armin.

And you know what, you can disagree, say that Erwin would be of more benefit. Hanji thinks so. Levi thinks so. Not everyone shares Eren’s view. And thats fine, but I wish people would stop saying Eren was selfish and chose what he wanted and doomed humanity. Eren firmly believes Armin is the one capable to save humanity. Eren never threw humanity under the bus, he just believed that picking Armin is better for humanity just like Levi and Hanji thought about Erwin.

Was Eren biased? Absolutely. Were Hanji and Levi biased? Absolutely. And they both had different views on what will ultimately benefit humanity better. They both had biased views on what choice would be better and Eren is called selfish while Hanji and Levi are called reasonable because Eren’s choice is one you dont agree with on your own biased, personal level.

MCU fandom thoughts —

Tony Recruited Peter as a Child Soldier

Er, what? This is a comic book movie. It’s a fantasy movie. It’s a convention of the genre for an older mentor to bring in a young fighter to get the job done. If you think Tony is disgusting for bringing Peter in — who he knows has super strength and endurance — not to fight but to contain a person Tony knows and trusts would never seriously harm someone who is not evil, then how do you enjoy, like, any media ever?

By these standards, Yoda teaching Padawans is dangerously immoral. Professor Xavier might as well be running the Red Room. Dumbledore should be tried for war crimes. 

In the real world, by law, most countries do not raise or recruit people under 17 to fight wars. Police do not train teenagers as taskforce operatives. 

But in fantasy and science-fiction? YA literature is built on that trope. Even Katniss is never like, “Hey, we’re fighting the Capitol because they’re killing kids. Maybe I should bow out of this war because I’m a kid.” Nooooope. How then could she grow as a person and find herself through war and violence and bloodshed? Yeah, if you look at this trope too hard it’s gross. 

But it’s pervasive. Kamala Khan and Peter Paker and the goddamn Power Puff Girls should not be doing what they are doing if real world standards could apply. But they’re heroes! We love it. We buy all the things to see that story.

So pretending that Tony’s decision to involve Peter is somehow beyond the pale is really disingenuous. 

So the Beauty and the Beast trope gets a lot of mileage. You got this guy with an ugly ass attitude and a woman gets stuck with him. Somehow she ferrets the less obnoxious portions of his personality from behind his terrible table manners and as a reward for her perseverance (or a consolation prize, who knows) the beast turns into a human. She’s excited because now there’s less hair on her furniture; he’s happy because he gets some thumbs. Everyone goes home delighted and the man never had to do a damn thing but wait for some woman to solve all his problems. 

And like, cool, if that’s your thing. But what about the opposite story? What about the hideous, bitter spinster who lives alone and takes a young man servant as payment for his father’s thieving debt? Who seduces her? Who brings out the bright sparks of her personality, gives her a makeover and turns her into a queen? 

Why haven’t I heard that story? Why are fictional men never required to struggle past outward appearances to find the good in women? Why is it always women searching for pleasing qualities in otherwise abhorrent men?

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Favourite Sherlock Things: The look on Lestrade’s face when it’s a kid (The Great Game)

Everything about him in this scene: the horror, the disgust, the pure terror as that kid is counting down. This is a man who has had his faith in humanity shaken time and time again but right here is just destroying him. Sherlock’s thinking, Wenceslas is watching, John is yelling at Sherlock but Greg just stands there in this complete horror until he screams at Sherlock at the end, who knows the answer but needs those last two seconds to talk about how brilliant and how gorgeous it is. And then there’s the incredible relief on his face when the counting stops. Lestrade’s been through a lot. But nothing scares him shitless like a kid in the line of fire, and it’s just one of my favourite things ever.

ashton provides so much happiness in other peoples lives its only right that there’s someone who brings him the same amount, or even more. no i don’t like the thing’s i’ve read/seen about what bryana has done in the past but like????? it’s none of our business !!! tweeting hate and shit to either of them is just going to make him despise us, plus it’s RUDE and honestly it’s not necessary in the slightest. YOU DO NOT OWN 5SOS AND YOU CANNOT TELL THEM WHAT TO DO. him and the other 3 are not here to be props for your selfies they’re here to give us MUSIC! which they do and they’re fucking amazing at it so STOP getting into their personal shit. if ashton is happy than im happy bc honestly that kid deserves the world and i really hope he know’s it!

 //end rant//

autism speaks

back at it again because I’ve seen people praising autism speaks like some sort of saint in a diseased blue world

To date since it’s start in 2005, the organization has not even had 4 autistic people on board, and made up incredulous lies about what the autistic spectrum is. You guys remember that “vaccines can give ur kids autism” scare?
I do too. 

The point I’m trying to bring up here, is that autism speaks is definitely an organization you do not want to support.

It’s profits from fundraisers and stuff like that aren’t even going to autistic people! THEY’RE POCKETING ALL THE CASH AND BRANDING THEMSELVES AS A GOOD CAUSE TO GET RICHER FOR NO PARTICULAR REASON THAN TO CAPITALIZE OFF OF ONE PERSON’S STRUGGLE.

Does that not sound fucked up?

Anyways, point in case, autism speaks is a program that should not be supported or funded. 

Here’s a joke to end this cognitive vomit-wall of text.

Why doesn’t autism speaks have a tumblr?

Because they’d sue for copyright.