do what you are afraid to do

the-bfly  asked:

So I offered to start a campaign for some co-workers around the office... less than a week later and I've got about twelve people that want to play. Even splitting this group in half leaves me with more people in EACH group than I've ever DMed for at a time. I'm concerned about boss fights and difficulty scaling for groups of this size. Not to mention the inevitable length of combat instances due to the number of rounds involved. Do you have any tips for larger-than-average groups?  

This is a link to a challenge rating calculator, you put in your party number, their average level and how difficult you want the encounter to be and gives you a chart showing how many monsters you can have and what CR they should be, if you want combat rounds to be shorter just use less monsters of a higher CR, otherwise there’s not a lot you can do i’m afraid. Though i’m sure people will reblog and reply with their own ideas and anything i’ve missed. I hope this helps

Confession:  If they keep Ryder’s dad white even when I create Ryder as a POC, I’ll be pissed. Bioware should either do what they did in Dragon Age 2 with Hawke’s family and generate a face that matches up enough with Ryder or do what do what Bethesda did with the Sole Survivor and their spouse and give us free reign to design everyone. But I’m skeptical because the character design is more detailed compared Dragon Age 2. I’m really afraid they’ll pull the same shit they pulled in Dragon Age Origins.

Mod Note: Its already been stated by the developers that that when you customize the Ryder siblings, Alec Ryder’s look will change. (Also please correct if wrong but  DAOrigins came out in 2009 and was in development for 5 years. The technology was different than it is now)

anonymous asked:

Would you be willing to do a what I eat in a day at work? I know you said you can't film there but it would be nice to see how your day of eating is when you work vs not!

I could definitely do that just I’m afraid it would be boring as I definitely can’t film at work but I could definitely still do that on a shorter work day!!!

anonymous asked:

...Lena? How do you manage the whole "outside the family" thing? My mom... im afraid that I'm going to end up just like her, that I'll never be enough because of what she's done to me. I How do you pick yourself up from that, from this, and get to somewhere like where you are with Kara?

“With a lot of therapy.” Lena says seriously. “The good thing about having all this money at my disposal at such an early age was that I’ve always been able to afford to see a therapist.

“Some people manage to believe in themselves twenty-four-seven, or they can talk things out with friends… I didn’t have real friends to talk to, and even if I did, there are certain things that only a professional can help you with.”

Lena takes a deep breath. “But rest assured that you won’t turn into your mother. And you can always talk to you partner, and explain to them what you have been through; and you can ask them to tell you if they see any signs of bad behavior on your part. The only problem with that is that, A: you have to trust them not to abuse that power; B: you can’t become defensive and lash out when they try to talk to you about it…”

“If you can afford it, I would suggest you start talking to someone who’s equipped to help you. Remember that there’s no shame in asking for help.”


All the hard work and dedication is for living fully his last year as a high school student 

To all women, never be ashamed of -

● Periods
● your body
● sexual orientation
● breastfeeding
● your curves
● being skinny
● being chubby
● flaunting your body
● going to parties
● doing what you want
● wearing makeup
● not wearing makeup
● dressing as you feel comfortable
● having short hair
● being educated
● being smarter than all boys
● dying your hair
● having a attitude
● not wanting to be married or have kids
● having no interest in cooking and cleaning and looking pretty and do nothing else
● spending weekends by going to movies by yourself
● wanting to live in your own way
● going for shopping
● not going for shopping
● not having/wanting a boyfriend
● looking like hell
● putting career first
● being girly
● not being girly
● not wanting to have sex
● not wanting to give a blowjob
● returning late from work
● working in another country
● being badass, punkish,goth, emo
● wearing ratty leather shorts
● making tattoos
● making your own decisions
● decorating your body as you like it
● wanting to sleep 5 minutes more
● going to the college you want
● going for higher studies with your fav subject
● being ultra modern
● listening to rock metal
● drinking only if you want to
● B E I N G A W E S O M E

My mother tells me
that when I meet someone I like,
I have to ask them three questions:
1. what are you afraid of?
2. do you like dogs?
3. what do you do when it rains?
Of those three, she says the first one is the most important.
‘They gotta be scared of something, baby. Everybody is. If they aren’t afraid of anything, then they don’t believe in anything, either.’ I asked you what you were afraid of.
'spiders, mostly. being alone. little children, like, the ones who just learned how to push a kid over on the playground. oh and space. holy s**t, space.’
I asked you if you liked dogs.
'I have three.’
I asked you what you do when it rains.
'sleep, mostly. sometimes I sit at the window and watch the rain droplets race. I make a shelter out of plastic in my backyard for all the stray animals; leave them food and a place to sleep.’
he smiled like he knew.
like his mom told him the same
'how about you?’
I’m scared of everything.
of the hole in the o-zone layer,
of the lady next door who never
smiles at her dog,
and especially of all the secrets
the government must be breaking
it’s back trying to keep from us.
I love dogs so much, you have no idea.
I sleep when it rains.
I want to tell everyone I love them.
I want to find every stray animal and bring them home.
I want to wake up in your hair
and make you shitty coffee
and kiss your neck
and draw silly stick figures of us.
I never want to ask anyone else
these questions
ever again.

Aries, the way you refuse to let anyone be invisible around you is a profound act of empathy.

Taurus, it is not that you have a gift but that you are the gift.

Gemini, you are only afraid of power because it is all you’ve ever wanted.

Cancer, like a diamond, light catches you and shines from every angle.

Leo, you deserve to be able to talk openly about what happened to you.

Virgo, the ideas you have are interesting and clever and worth listening to.

Libra, you matter more than sent emails and a crossed off to-do list.

Scorpio, addiction has a whole hungry family of its own to feed.

Sagittarius, your sexuality is still valid even if you had to make a home out of the closet.

Capricorn, you do not miss them; you miss the person you allowed yourself to be around them.

Aquarius, it is impossible to hate your body into loving yourself.

Pisces, do not mistake the curled fist of jealousy for intimacy.
—  JANUARY HOROSCOPES, by Blythe Baird (2017)

These are the lessons I have learned, the words left unsaid, the words that have resonated in my heart.

1. Don’t compare yourself to other people. Each and every person goes about life at their own pace. It doesn’t matter if it takes you one month, three weeks, or a few years longer than everyone else. Do not lose your individual color trying to catch up to the world.

2. Look at where you are, who you’re with, what you’ve become. That is exactly where you need to be. Do not be afraid of the future and do not dwell on the past, because at this exact moment you are exactly where you are supposed to be. Do not doubt that.

3. If you’re depressed and you know it, admit it. That is the first and most important step to recovery. Don’t cover it up with facades like a band-aid. Nor should you wrap yourself with it like a blanket. But throughout that whole process of healing, know that you are still you. When you’re humming along to your favorite Daphne Loves Derby song or when you’re crying in the corner of the bathroom, that is still you.

4. Accept that others want to help you, too. You are not meant to go about this life alone. No one is. There will always be a community of people, small or large, that is willing to stay by your side. Some moments might be obvious and come in the form of a telephone call or a hug. Other times it may be that they see bits and pieces of you in their day, and that is enough. You don’t need to do everything alone.

5. Guard your heart but do not barricade it from the world, even from yourself. I believe it’s been long enough and you owe it to yourself to open up.

6. You had a very simple dream in high school. You wanted to touch people’s lives, to help them love themselves in a way that you never could. You wanted to make sure that everyone saw a light, even when they couldn’t see it themselves. Even if it was only one person, that was your dream. Right now, at this moment, you are accomplishing your dream. Remember that.

7. You will have your time to leave on a new adventure. It may not be now or in the next month, but that time will come. And when it does, be ready to leave without looking back. One day you’ll be able to stretch your wings.

8. You will be okay.

You know, I really, really liked this episode because of the way it clearly showed how much all the gems and Greg were grieving. 

Greg knows what babies are, and knows Steven is Steven.

 A baby. His responsibility now. He’s completely not ready for fatherhood. 

He’s not ready to be alone and dealing with this; he’s so afraid of messing things up. He wants Rose back to help him, but he understands: she’s gone.

 And she’s left him with a confusing baby that doesn’t do what babies should do.

What should he do now?

Amethyst doesn’t understand that Steven isn’t Rose. 

She thinks it’s what she’s used to: shapeshifting.

 Clearly, Rose is just having a fun little phase as a baby. But… she’s not stopping. 

And Amethyst doesn’t get why. Even she’s never done this for so long. 

Why won’t Rose come back?

Garnet knows Steven isn’t Rose: he’s just Rose and Greg’s fusion. 

A piece of Greg fused with a piece of Rose; she’s seen this fusion coming for ages. But even a perfect fusion can come undone, and… she wants to see Rose again. 

So… unfuse. She knows, fusion is amazing, but hey, just briefly. Why… why doesn’t Rose know her? Why doesn’t Rose know Ruby and Sapphire?

She just needs to see you, Rose. 

Pearl also realizes Steven isn’t Rose, but she thinks Rose is trapped. 

Her gem has been held captive by this… this human baby. Rose is right there, they can get to her! All they have to do is… is get rid of this baby. 

Poof him. Let Rose reform. It’s a normal gem thing. But… but they can’t. 

Steven is important. Steven is what Rose wanted… but she doesn’t understand why. She needs Rose to explain it to her. She can’t do this by herself. 

Why is this baby so important to you? 

All of them are suffering, and all of them need each other to cope. To accept what has happened and to accept that they don’t have the answers. To grow and change with each other.

To learn who Steven is and how he fits together with them.

It actually kills me when we don’t talk, it kills me when you ignore me, it kills me when you’re busy with your life.
How to Survive when Bad Things Happen

1. Try to switch your emotions to neutral so you can think more clearly, and do what’s best for you.

2. Ask “how” not “why”. Just for the moment, keep your focus on the challenge, and the steps you need to take to climb out of the pit. Often, by doing one small thing can start to turn things round.

3. Look for the good things, and the lessons you can learn. It will help you be resourceful, and will change your attitude.

4. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Other people understand what it’s like to get bad news. They know it “knocks you sideways”, and it saps your energy.

5. Try and see it as a temporary experience. Life is always changing, and bad things pass in time.

6. Don’t take it personally. We all experience crises, disappointments and tough times. It just means that you’re human – you’re not being singled out!

“Stay afraid, but do it anyway. What’s important is the action. You don’t have to wait to be confident, just do it and eventually the confidence will follow." 

RIP Carrie Fisher, feminist, advocate for honesty and openness surrounding mental illness and addiction, amazing actress, and the most badass princess in this galaxy or any other. Goodbye to one of my first fictional role models.

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Bitty doesn’t like lying to his boyfriend. It’s not his style. If anything, he’s honest to a fault. It’s not his speed to perpetrate deceptions, much less relish him.

Oh, but this… this is really kind of fun.

When he first tells Jack he’ll be heading home for Christmas, Jack is visibly disappointed. His face falls, and he heaves a sigh before mustering up his stoic face and telling Bitty “I hope you have fun.”

Bitty feigns concern. “Oh, now, what will you do? I know you’re playing on Christmas Eve day, so I suppose you can’t go home to your parents’.”

Jack shakes his head. “I’ll make do. I’m sure someone on the team will have me over.” But the sad glisten in his eyes is almost enough to make Bitty break down and confess right there.


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