i know we all do the thing where we look back at our writing like ‘AAAAH NOOO WHAT HATH I WROUGHT THE HORROR!’ but there’s also the thing of dreading looking back at a first draft practically thinking it’s going to be a completely gibberish fever dream catastrophe and going back like ‘oh…there are sentences and things happen and the dialogue isn’t horrible!’ as if it’s a goddamn miracle because what you remember doing is
Masculinity can be soft. Masculinity can be gentle. Masculinity can be whispers and shyness and pastel colours and flowers and all those things can be masculine if someone wants them to call them that. Masculinity and femininity are constructs - you don’t have to describe yourself or anything you like as either if you don’t want to.
seriously why people always wanna talk about how patriarchy affects men
like how do you hear something like “you throw like a girl!” and not realize that while one boy is being teased, literally the entire female sex is being told they suck at physical activity.
how can you look at that and just want to say “see! patriarchy hurts boys!!” No it doesn’t, not systemically. It tries to train them into actually being stronger than women, meaner to women. It teaches them that weak, and stupid are Girl things, and therefore all things girls do are stupid, inferior to things Boys do. How you want to look at that and say “yes, and look how that can hurt boys’ feelings!!” ???
Like no. i don’t wanna talk about boys. I don’t want to hear how their feelings got hurt when they got called a girl, as if their feelings getting hurt somehow overshadows the fact that being female is a shame, an insult, a curse. And I don’t understand why someone would want to make a boy’s feelings a priority in feminism. It’s a side effect, one that can be easily fixed if men wanted to fix it. They could start standing up for women, the women and girls in their life, they could teach their sons that women are not inferior, that the people who use ‘girl’ as an insult are in the wrong.
But for some reason it has become feminism’s job, women’s job, to take care of boys’ and men’s feelings and comfort them. Just like always. Color me shocked.
This is a fight for American culture and what it will become.
Do you want an inclusive culture that uses facts to face problems that will serve us? Or, do you want a “safe” culture where we all adhere to stereotypes that don’t threaten anyone’s idea of what’s right and ignore facts because having to change what we do to combat things like climate change is hard and requires sacrifice?