Im 23 and Ive barely had a proper job in my life and interviews scare me to my core and I havent studied anything that I want to make a career out of. Im inexperienced which makes people not want to hire me. What do I do? I feel so worthless. I know I have potential but Idk how to show it and im abit of introvert too. *sigh* I hate myself. Sorry I just wanted to vent.
First of all, stop it with the “I hate myself” business. There is never anything good that comes from uttering those words. Even if you are feeling down and defeated, you are the only person in the world who can pick yourself back up to make things better. It’s very hard to find a way through the external negative forces if you are putting your energy towards dragging yourself down. The only thing in life we have true control over is ourselves. If you give up on yourself… what’s left?
Story time with Noona. Hopefully you will find something helpful here.
So when I graduated from university, I was immature, inexperienced, had no clue how the world worked, had a degree in a social science that no one was going to hire me for, and had only had a few part time jobs doing the bare minimum. I didn’t have a clue what to do or how to function in the world.
Rather than go looking for a regular person job (because I had no clue how to find work), I joined a year long volunteer program. I don’t know where you are from, but in the US there are all kinds of these programs. I filled out an application, they interviewed me over the phone and then about a month later, I was on my way to a town about 900 miles away, with a small loan from my parents to pay my first month rent. I desperately had to find a place to live and ended up renting a bedroom in this dumpy house that looked like it was about to fall down but at least it had other girls around my age living there. I got paid a small stipend that was barely enough to live off of (seriously - I had to choose between eating and paying my heating bill at times). I had to take the bus everywhere because a car was out of the question with no money. And this town had terrible public transport so everything took forever.
I was placed with a non-profit that needed someone to do a variety of things. And because I had a degree, could write a grammatically correct sentence, and they didn’t know what else to do with me… I found myself working on all kinds of promotional projects. They had me put together social events and a neighborhood basketball tournament (I don’t know shit about basketball or sports in general). They handed me grant applications to fill out and I was constantly screwing them up and having to rewrite them because apparently writing government grant applications has all kinds of ridiculous requirements. I was sent out to welfare offices and half way houses to do public speaking events when I mostly had no clue how to present myself. They had me doing press releases and they even put me in charge of organizing a joint press conference with our charity, the chief of police and the mayor. I had never done a press conference I my life, was not educated to do one and was scared shitless that I would humiliate myself and the fucking MAYOR of a city!
When my year of service was over, I had developed the skills to work as a grant writer/fundraiser; or work in public relations or communications. I had connections with people in multiple government offices as well as a variety of of other non-profits, educational institutions and public service organizations. I was now prepared to be a grown up (well, kinda. At least more prepared than I was before).
And you know what I did next? Sold almost everything I owned for enough money to buy me a one way ticket to the other side of the country where I crashed on a college friend’s sofa for a week while I found another dumpy house to rent a bedroom in and a crappy low skill job that would pay me enough money to keep a roof over my head while I spent the next year looking for a grown up job.
While I did that volunteer job, I developed skills, but I learned that I don’t like grant writing and I haaaate working in PR. So was it a waste? No.
What I really learned is that I can throw myself into awkward situations where I don’t have a clue what I’m doing and still manage to come out alright. And there have been plenty more times when I was terrified that I was screwing up. And sometimes whenI really did make a mess of things. But if you keep going and are resourceful, you can make it through.
So It was much easier to go to a new city and search for a different career path. It took a while, but I eventually found something I enjoyed and was good at. (After getting fired from another job in between). I made a ton of mistakes along the way. But with every mistake, I learned something new. And I also became less afraid about my future because time and again I realized that I could survive the setbacks that I faced.
Now I’m a professional person who has a well paying job and a real career path. It has nothing to do with what I studied in school and everything to do with all the times I failed and picked myself back up again. Resilience and resourcefulness are my only real talents - and I had no idea that I had it in me or that those would be the keys to success when I was in my early 20’s. And I still make mistakes and don’t know what I’m doing half the time, but I know it’s okay and that’s just how life is.
Trust me, if I could figure out how to survive in the world - you can too.