do they even understand what we're saying

Yall remember *NSYNC?

Remember how they (along with the backstreet boys) were the most popular boybands worldwide during the late 90s and into the millennium?

Remember the member Lance Bass?

Remember how he dated Danielle Fishel and they were “so in love”?

Remember how after they broke up, he exclusively dated women?

Remember all the rumors he had about him not being straight?

Remember when TMZ and Perez Hilton started following him around?

Remember when shortly after all this he came out as gay 4 years after *NSYNC disbanded?


Remember the reasons he gave as to why he didn’t come out a lot sooner than he did?

Do you think people told his speculators back then that they were delusional just like they tell Kaisoo shippers that now?

I bet they did, but in the end:

I rest my case.

I just want the artists in the fandom to know that no matter your skill level, your art is good and everyone’s still learning so strive to grow and make friends along the way.

No ones better then each other, we’re all equal in the passion we feel~

anonymous asked:

i wanna believe we're free to practice witchcraft. i want to. but we're not. idk what you're doing. we can't have sex with people we're not married to, we can't party, we can't swear, we can't practice craft. it breaks my heart, but my mom says it's just breaking the sinful part that christ meant to save us from. i'm working on choking out that part of myself. you should, too. save yourself and go back to our god.

Hey friend. I understand where you’re coming from; I really do. Because honestly, I’ve been there. I tried doing that. I tried being the perfect Evangelical child. I tried so hard and even wound up with a Biblical Studies degree from a high ranking evangelical university. I served others to the point of seriously damaging my own well being. I know Koine Greek well enough to extrapolate various biblical arguments and analyze them and the accuracy of interpretation.

I tried so hard to save myself in order to be God’s Perfect Daughter and do you know what it felt like? Personality prison.

My sister and her husband once hid the fact that they celebrated the New Year with a glass of wine from my parents because for a while my mom wasn’t sure that Christians should drink alcohol. I hid my own sexuality from myself for years. I hid my anger, my frustrations, my questions. Following all the right rules didn’t make me a better Christian, it made me a sneakier one. And it loaded me with guilt and shame because anytime I thought I messed up I assumed God was just…frustrated by how horrible I was. I couldn’t stand how unbiblical I was, why would God even bother with me? It didn’t help that I’d developed anxiety and depression from the age of 16 and didn’t get help because no, I was too good, too kind and caring, I got good grades, I looked good.

That supposed salvation condemned me to hide myself from myself. And when I got angry about things like child abuse and racism and homophobia in the church, my mom basically told me that I’m reading too many negative things about the church and that I need to be more involved with the good churches that aren’t like those other bad ones because Not All Christians are like that.

Do you know what choking yourself of these things does? It hurts you. It keeps you from breathing. If your salvation comes at the cost of enjoying your life and yourself, what is it worth? I tried so hard to choke all those parts of me and it eventually broke me. It put a wedge between me and my family, between me and God.

Strangely enough, it was discovering ritualistic faith/Christian witchcraft that began to mend the bond between me and God. The day I decided to explore it, I had a dream where I watched Jesus come to life out of stone. It renewed my faith, my desire to know God as She truly is, not just as what I was told to believe.

You tell me I should save myself, but Jesus already did. And I use my craft to connect to God, to pray to Her, to love others and myself. I use it as a form of worship. I don’t need to try to be anyone but myself to be saved, to be free.

Maybe it will be different for you. I hope so. I hope you are able to live authentically to yourself within the church. But for me, Christian witchcraft brought me back to God. Leaving evangelicalism was a healthy and necessary choice for me. I found freedom and laughter. I don’t drink, I don’t smoke. I have a fiancé, soon to be my wife. (And for some people I’m already going to hell for that lol. If I'a already going to hell, I’m gonna go with a lot of love in my heart for myself and others and be true to myself.) I have friends who encourage me and listen to me and don’t just say “I’ll pray for you.” They let me talk about my feelings and beliefs, even if they don’t agree with me on some of them.

If God is love, shouldn’t that love be freeing rather than confining? If God is love, then why do people insist that love means changing who you are in order for God to love you, in order to be worthy? If God is love, why does that mean that it’s God’s way or eternal suffering, that God is always right and we are always wrong? Is that truly love? If your God was your significant other or parental figure, would it be called love, or would it show signs of abuse? If God is love, why do I feel so miserable following every letter of the Bible, every ideal of the Perfect Christian?

I hope you have a better experience than me. But for me, this is what freedom looks like. I light a votive candle and burn a sigil asking God to help me love myself. I use the herbs of the earth God has made for us to celebrate life, petition them and God to aid me. I get to take part in the act of creation.

And if I am wrong, I am wrong. But I do not believe that living authentically and enjoying yourself is contrary to the love of God. I am human. I am flawed. And I love that.

Sorry for writing such a long response. If you read this whole thing, good on you! I wish you the very best, but I am afraid I cannot return to what once damaged my spirit. I pray that your relationship with God only deepens and allows you to be true to yourself. Take care, friend.

anonymous asked:

'...but there’s nothing wrong with having a lower libido or not feeling sexual attraction' - saw your answer on one of the asks and it just hit me: then why do people think it's not normal? I mean...why can't they understand that everyone is different - one can feel sexual attraction and the other can not. I don't see anything wrong with this too but the society thinks we're aliens, we're broken and so on. Even my parents keep saying that if I won't give a guy what he wants, he'll leave me

People are not, I think, actually very good at understanding and accepting people’s differences. That’s a skill that has to be consciously nurtured and trained up for most people, and one which we must make a conscious effort to practice all the time without getting complacent. There’s also the fact that, from what I’ve been told by people who experience, sexual attraction and desire tend to be things that people feel very strongly and very inuitively–it’s not something they tend to interrogate or examine in themselves, it just feels like a natural expression, a way of being that’s taken for granted, which I think makes it very difficult to understand when other people don’t have that experience. If you never try to understand why you are a certain way you have no context for imagining how other people might not be that way, if that makes sense.

That makes it very difficult for those of us that are misunderstood. I hope that by continuing to spread awareness, information, urges for compassion, and support within the community we can make steps toward changing it.

-Dew

anonymous asked:

Just recently my really good friend was diagnosed with Crohn's Disease. I felt so scared for her, you know, especially with Trump pretty much taking away Medicare. For the past year of following you, I felt like I understand what you both are going through a little more. We're going to go to the same college this upcoming school year and I was wondering if there was anything more I could do than just be a bystander, even if it's something as little as saying "I got you"?

I saw what he removed and I am absolutely horrified… ( in the list of disease uncovered , its basically all the priciest diseases to manage and I am floored by his imbecility…)

I am very thanksful to live in Canada or else my meds would cost 21 900$ PER YEAR…

( how is ANYONE NOT HELLA RICH SUPPOSED TO PAY THAT MUCH?)

If the person you know has Crohn’s disease, live in the US and has a though time with it :

- organize a fundraising of any kind, using any means at your disposal. Wether it be online or via an event: Trust me money is an important lifesaver in this case…

- offer them Liquid meals/ Ensures/ Boost /brand of your choice. They are meals easy to digest during flares and offer important nutrients when eating anything solid is painful.

- Make them a “ care package” that can contain any of those things : Essential oils, candles, a soft blanket, a stressball , Fiber/dried fruits/nuts free candies or snacks, herbal teas( no cafein!), stuff they like, anything that reduce stress and helps them relax. Stress is a major causes of flares up.

- Be there. Thats so damn important. Show them you won’t be gone even during bad times. What they need is to have a rock to grip on in the swirling tides.

- DON’T TRY TO GIVE THEM “ALTERNATE MEDICINE ” LIKE HERBS PILLs …A LOT OF THEM CAN SEVERALLY INTERACT WITH ACTUAL MEDICATION AND WORSEN THINGS.

-Concerning the disease in itself, the person knows themselves better than anyone. Dont tell them what they should or shouldnt do

American Horror Story: Murder House (E1: The Pilot)
  • "Excuse me. You are going to die in there."
  • "You're gonna regret it. You're gonna regret it. You're gonna regret it."
  • "It stinks in here. It stinks like shit."
  • "The light is softer out here. It's softer."
  • "Great. So we're the Addams family now."
  • "Can't believe this place doesn't freak you out a little bit."
  • "This is your professional advice? Just denial?"
  • "You are dead!"
  • "You're going to die in here."
  • "I prefer purebreds. I adore the beauty of a long line, but there's always room in my home for mongrels."
  • "I never got a chance to tell you my name."
  • "It's sage, for cleansing the spirits in the house. Too many bad memories in here."
  • "It's always the same. It starts the same way."
  • "I prepare for the noble war."
  • "I know the secret. I know what's coming, and I know no one can stop me."
  • "I kill people I like."
  • "It's a filthy world we live in. It's a filthy, goddamned helpless world."
  • "The world is a filthy place. It's a filthy, goddamn horror show."
  • "If you're trying to kill yourself, you might also try locking the door."
  • "Have you ever owned a house this old before?"
  • "Who can know when something so horrible happens?"
  • "You just always surprise me. I like that."
  • "You're gonna have to forgive me one day."
  • "You think that's me? You think I can't get better?"
  • "You? You kidding me? You're hopeless."
  • "Everybody can get better. Everybody."
  • "If you love someone, you should never hurt them. Never."
  • "Don't ask questions you already know the answer to. You're smarter than that."
  • "What's that thing you think I'm afraid of? Fear of rejection?"
  • "Your family is in danger."
  • "I want you to stay out of my house. Do you understand?"
  • "You touch my kid one more time and I will break your goddamn arm."
  • "What are you afraid of? Your wife's not home."
  • "All art and myths are just creations to give us some sense of control over the things we're scared of."
  • "How long? How long are you going to punish me for?"
  • "I don't even know how to say this without coming off like an asshole."
  • "In all my life, the only thing I've been truly scared of is losing you."
  • "This place is our second chance."
  • "We're going to be happy here."
  • "I'm not running away. I'm not scared of them, not afraid of anything."
  • "You said I'm not scared of anything so....what scares you?"
  • "One less high school bitch making the lives of the less fortunate more tolerable is, in my opinion, a public service."
  • "You want her to leave you alone? Stop making your life a living hell?"
  • "Scare her. Make her afraid of you. It's the only thing bullies react to."
  • "Come on. I can be kinky."
  • "I could have you arrested, you know. Peeking in people's windows is still a crime."
  • "Please, please, please you have to get out of there! That place is evil!"
  • "Why is it that it is always the old whore who acts the part of a moralistic prude?"
Hamilton Characters as High School Musical Lyrics
  • Lin-Manuel writing Hamilton, probably: The "nerd" table in "Stick to the Status Quo" where they're all reading American History textbooks and Martha announces that "hip hop is my passion".
  • Hamilton: "Do the bop bop bop to the top don't ever stop."
  • Burr: "NO! NO! NO! NO! Stick to the status quo! If you wanna be cool follow one simple rule don't mess with the quo no no- stick to the status quo."
  • Laurens: *looking at Hamilton* "He makes this feel so right- should I go for it? Better shake this. Yikes."
  • Lafayette: "Crème brûlée!"
  • Hercules Mulligan: "Gotta grab it and go."
  • Washington: "Together, together, c'mon let's do this right. We're all here and speaking out in ONE. VOICE. We're gonna rock the house (and the Senate). The parties are on, now everybody make some noise come on let's scream and shout. We've arrived because we've stuck TOGETHER."
  • Eliza Act One: "And now looking in your eyes I feel in my heart, oh, the start of something new."
  • Angelica: "It's funny when you find yourself looking from the outside. I'm standing here but all I want is to be over there. [...] Cause now I have to pretend that I don't really care."
  • And Peggy: "Is that even legal?"
  • America to King George: "Rising till it lifts us up so everyone can see- we're breaking free!"
  • King George to America: "No, no, no, no! Stick to the stuff you know! It is better by far to leave things as they are don't mess with the flow no no- stick to the status quo."
  • Jefferson: "This is not what I want. This is not what I planned. And I just gotta say I do not understand. Something is really-" *shoves mic in Madison's face*
  • Madison: Something's not right?
  • Jefferson: REALLY wrong- and we've gotta get things back where they belong. We can do it!"
  • Maria: "Not a want, but a need."
  • Eliza Act Two: "I swore I knew the melody that I heard you singing. And when you smiled it made me feel like I could sing along. But then you went and changed the words, now my heart is empty. I'm only left with used-to-be's, and once upon a song."
  • Phillip: "Gotta bump the competition, blow them all away"

I’m not 100% sure how valid the post is, but by now most of you have probably heard the news. Apparently, Kya is part of the LGBTQA+ community. This is just… really important info, especially for the kyalin, kyzumi, etc shippers and the queer fans in general. Aiwei is too. And with the way things left off in the show, our ships are more plausible now than ever. A lot of characters like Kya and the characters she’s usually shipped with didn’t end up in on-screen relationships. Hell, all we need now is a list of other queer characters. I’m so excited. Thanks, Bryke!

And then Oktavia destroys a train station.
  • Sayaka: Look Kyouko, I have to tell you something...
  • Kyouko: Yeah? What is it?
  • Sayaka: I uh..... You see...
  • Sayaka: I... like you.
  • Kyouko: Oh. Okay.
  • Sayaka: ....
  • Sayaka: Wait, that's it?
  • Kyouko: Hm?
  • Kyouko: Oh yeah, I like you too and stuff I guess.
  • Sayaka: You GUESS?!
  • Kyouko: Alright fine! You're my friend and I like you too! Happy?
  • Sayaka: What? Ah, okay. I see what's going on.
  • Sayaka: Look, when I said that I liked you, I don't mean just as friends.
  • Kyouko: ....Best friends?
  • Sayaka: I LIKE YOU ON A LEVEL THAT GOES WAY BEYOND NORMAL FRIENDSHIP!
  • Kyouko: .......
  • Kyouko: NanoFate level friendship?
  • Sayaka: What?
  • Kyouko: Nothing.
  • Sayaka: Okay, I get that you don't get what I'm talking about. Let me break it down for you.
  • Sayaka: I love you.
  • Kyouko: ....Thanks?
  • Sayaka: HUH? THANKS?!
  • Kyouko: What the hell do you want me to say?! I ain't good with this mushy feely feely stuff!
  • Sayaka: CLEARLY!
  • Sayaka: READ THE MOOD A LITTLE!
  • Sayaka: DO YOU EVEN UNDERSTAND WHAT I'M SAYING TO YOU?!
  • Kyouko: No.
  • Sayaka: .....
  • Sayaka: ............
  • Sayaka: .................
  • Sayaka: ((Takes several deep breathes))
  • Sayaka: Alright. ALRIGHT. I see that unless I make this completely clear, you are just not going to get it.
  • Sayaka: I'm going to say this in a way that won't cause any confusion. Ready?
  • Kyouko: Honestly, I'm confused already.
  • Sayaka: TOO BAD!
  • Sayaka: I love you in the same way a man loves a woman, get it?!
  • Kyouko: .....
  • Kyouko: But you're not a man.
  • Sayaka: I know.
  • Kyouko: .....
  • Kyouko: I'm not a man too.
  • Sayaka: I know.
  • Kyouko: .....
  • Kyouko: Wait, so that means we're both girls.
  • Sayaka: I know!
  • Kyouko: Soooooo........
  • Kyouko: How is that like a man loves a wo-
  • Sayaka: YOU'RE FOCUSING ON THE WRONG PART HERE!
  • Kyouko: Well obviously it's your fault for failing to explain it in a way that wouldn't cause confusion like you said you would.
  • Sayaka: YOU-... I-....!
  • Sayaka: GRAAAAAH!
  • Sayaka: ((Takes even more deep breathes))
  • Sayaka: Alright. I'm okay, I'm okay.
  • Sayaka: I'm going to say this as simply as possible, alright?
  • Kyouko: Uh-
  • Sayaka: TOO BAD SO SHUT YOUR GODDAMN MOUTH AND DON'T SAY A SINGLE WORD!
  • Kyouko: But-
  • Sayaka: I SAID DON'T SAY A GODDAMN THING!
  • Kyouko: .......
  • Sayaka: GOOD!
  • Sayaka: NOW...!
  • Sayaka: I'm IN love with you.
  • Sayaka: You get it now?!
  • Kyouko: ........
  • Sayaka: ........
  • Kyouko: .......
  • Sayaka: Y-You can say something now.
  • Kyouko: I wasn't listening, can you say it again?
  • Sayaka: ((Takes several deep breathes))
  • Sayaka: ((Punches Kyouko in the face))
I just can't feel sorry for Frank
  • I know, his life sucks, and we're supposed to think he's a decent guy... but... he's a 20th century man, yet he's so selfish and sexist. Yeah, I know he's doing something few men would do, but I'm not sure he's doing it for Claire's sake. I wish Claire had a mother or a sister to come back to.
  • We can't have children: Must be my wife's fault.
  • My wife disappears: my worst fear is she left me for another man (I mean, she could have been killed, but that's not important).
  • My wife comes back: This is MY chance to get MY wife back, and to take a job that was offered to ME, in another country. Cause she made ME happy in the past, and I hope I can make her happy in the future. (It's not like I have to ask HER what SHE wants to do. I married her like that, anyway)
  • My wife tells me she's pregnant with another man's child: First, I almost hit her, but I stopped, cause hey, I'm a decent guy, and I'm the victim here. Then I say that child is MINE and he/she will never know anything about his real dad.
  • I put conditions to my generous offer: My wife has to forget entirely about this other man she says she love. I control what she can and what she can't do, so I forbid her to search for him, or (OMG) try to come back to him. (I'm doing it for her own sake, you know? it's not like this other man loved her enough to accept and understand her feelings for me, and even tried to send her back to me, if that make HER happy)
  • So, is Frank not as decent as we're supposed to think, or it's just that comparing him to Jamie is unfair?

anonymous asked:

Okay, I need some help. This season, the trumpets really suck. Like we're the worst section in the band rn. I don't even understand why bc we only lost one senior last year. But then again, we also gained like A TON of freshmen. Anyways, I'm not a section leader so I can't directly do things to change it. I mean, I know I can always work super hard on improving myself, but some of these rookies....oh my. I've tried being patient, but I just get a whole bunch of attitude and "I knows". What do?

If they say ‘I knows’ again just be like 

‘no. you dont knows. what the fuck do you knows. you need to actually try and quit acting like a 4 year old. everyone already thinks we suck and youre not helping the issue’

something like that. then slip the section leader a $10 as a bribe to get the section moving

anonymous asked:

UGHHHH My school had a debate poster up for this weeks topic and its "Should gay people be considered human?" LIKE I RIPPED THE SHEET OFF THE WALL BUT THEYRE EVERYWHERE AND I CAN'T BELIEVE THIS. I mean i'd understand maybe saying, "Was the supreme court decision a good idea?" (even though it'd still be awful) but questioning whether we're human or not??? Should I go to the principal about it or ignore it.

What the actual f. That is messed. Go to your principle, if they don’t do anything contact your local school board. That can’t even be legal

  • Yixing: So, I was bored and I found all of your private social media pages.
  • Chanyeol: Okay.
  • Yixing: Why do all of them say “We're all Chemical Kids and Mechanical Black Veil Brides at our All Time Low trying to Escape The Fate . So if you Bring Me The Horizon, I'll help you Pierce The Veil until we're Motionless In White.” What does that even mean?
  • Kyungsoo: Wow, I'm...embarrassed for you.
  • Chanyeol: You guys just don't understand me.
Reunion | A Zankie Fanfiction - Part 25

This was another dream inspired fic. I have a direction for this one though, so it’ll be around for a while. I think I’m going to publish in kind of short bursts for this one. So you all are going to hate me at the end of every part, but just know there’s another one coming quicker this way.

Warning: Beginning with Part 5 this fic is in first person from Zach’s perspective. THERE IS NOT SMUT IN THIS CHAPTER.

Part 1 is here.

Part 2 is here.

Part 3 is here.

Part 4 is here. Smut Warning.

Part 5 is here. Smut Warning.

Part 6 is here.

Part 7 is here.

Part 8 is here. Smut Warning.

Part 9 is here. Smut Warning.

Part 10 is here.

Part 11 is here.

Part 12 is here.

Part 13 is here. Smut Warning.

Part 14 is here. Smut Warning.

Part 15 is here. Smut Warning.

Part 16 is here. Smut Warning.

Part 17 is here. Smut Warning.

Part 18 is here.

Part 19 is here.

Part 20 is here.

Part 21 is here.

Part 22 is here. Smut Warning.

Part 23 is here. Smut Warning (minimal).

Part 24 is here.

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anonymous asked:

Sea family, this is kind of urgent. My best friend suffers from depression and has treated me like shit sometimes. He often threatens suicide among other things and when I told another friend about this they told me he was being emotionally abusive. What he has done fits the characteristics of it and we had a huge convo about it and he apologized. It was unintentional of course. We're are talking and he says that I'm wrong and that he didn't mental abuse me. He talked to someone and they said(1)

(2) that abuse is always intentional. I don’t know how to respond. I feel horrible because when we talked about what he was doing to me he was so upset, which made me feel even more guilty. He often made me feel inadequate as a friend and he guilted me about how horrible his depression is and how I don’t understand because I’m dealing with the death of my mother very well. One part of me feels guilty and wants to agree with him but another part is angry that he is making it out to be a huge

(3) accident. I don’t know what to do.

Abuse is not always intentional, given that the abuser does not know they are being abusive. That does not mean that it wasn’t abuse, and that does not excuse the fact that it happened, but it can explain their reasoning behind their actions. However:

First of all, dearheart, remember that you have been wronged and standing up for yourself and calling out someone for mistreating you is not something you need to feel guilty about.

Secondly, he doesn’t get to decide how you felt about it. If it hurt you, it hurt you, and what he intended has little to do with what he can do to rectify the situation.

Thirdly, no person can judge another’s pain. The fact that you’re dealing with the death of your mother very well does not give him the right to disregard your feelings, nor draw them up in comparison to his own. They are unrelated incidents, and incomparable.

What to do: Though your friend is suffering from depression, threatening suicide and purposefully dismissing the validity of your feelings is not the act of a friend, so much as one who wishes to exert emotional control over another. Your friend may need professional help, but his actions are not your responsibility. Do what is good for you, not what guilt decides.

-AA