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Just saying that mentally ill ppl can still be abusive !! Mental illness does not excuse abuse. Saying this because ppl S T I L L think that mental illness justifies abuse

The things I do for Love

(A: English is not my first language. Sorry for some awkward sentences.)

I know there are many discussions about Game of Thrones’ theme of power. For me, it always seemed like there is another big theme: The theme of love and what people are willing to do in the name of love. There is a huge amount of characters who do terrible things or things that go against their morale / beliefs.

Let’s start at the beginning:
Jaime Lannister pushes Bran out of the window when the boy catches him and Cersei. He does that out of love: for his sister, but also for his children who would be in grave danger if the affair becomes public. He also says the symbolic phrase „The things I do for love“. It’s a horrible act, Jaime risks/wants the death of a little boy. Later in the books/show we learn that Jaime isn’t a cruel person after all, it goes against his morale.
His next act out of love: He, a member of the Kingsguard, killed King Aerys and got his iconic nickname. That totally goes against his beliefs since we learned that Jaime really wants to be a true knight. Later it is revealed that this was his most heroic act: The king wanted to kill thousands of people. Why was Jaime doing that? Surely to save that people but more out of love for his father whom the mad king threatened as well and ordered Jamie to kill.
(Jaime also lied to his brother about whose wife Tysha, saying she was a whore. To me, that’s out of love for Tyrion: Jaime thinks it would be more hurtful for him to know that a person who really loved him was raped by his father’s men. He risks Tyrions hate if he ever get to know the truth…)

Now to his sister, Cersei Lannister. We all know Cersei loves three things: Power, Jaime and, most of all, her children. But she also loved her mother and that’s why she hates Tyrion so much and treats him horrible since the moment of his birth: He was the reason for Joannas death.
To save her children, Cersei knows no boundaries: She seduces her cousin Lancel to kill her husband (even though she loves Jaime and only him, the mirror image of herself), she ignores Joffreys brutality even against herself (and one of her most defining traits is her pride) and she blows up the Sept of Balor. That’s truly an act of revenge, but also an act to get her son Tommen back who was „in the clutches of that Margaery-bitch“.

That leads to Tommen Baratheon/Lannister, the sweet boy that killed himself out of love for his wife Margaery.

His grandfather Tywin Lannister is motivated by love, too. He, a man that honors family (and often reminds me of the Tully’s „Family, Duty, Honor“ minus the honor-part) detests his son Tyrion due to the fact that his birth killed his beloved wife. I think he wouldn’t hate him at all if Joanna had survived (even though he is a dwarf, but that seemed to be secondary for Tywin). Also he willingly risked his position of power (one thing we know Tywin is after) by leaving King’s Landing when Aerys was lusting after Joanna.

Tyrion Lannister is no exception in his family when it comes to love. He really loved Shae, so he wanted to send her away to ensure her safety (what totally goes against his own lust and distaste for responsibility). When she betrayed him he killed her (and hated himself for doing that). He killed his father, too. The man that wanted his death. For me that’s even more important since Tywin was the only parent Tyrion knew and so many of his actions were motivated by the need for his fathers acceptance. (Laugh at me but I think deep inside he really loved his father.)

Shae betrayed the man she loved when she thought he betrayed her (sending her away to be with Sansa). Her actions were out of hurt love.

Next is Robert Baratheon. It’s often said how much he loved Lyanna Stark (even though I think he only loved the image he had of her) and that’s the reason for his rash rebellion that killed thousands. But that love for Lyanna had even more consequences: he whispered her name in his wedding night what leads to Cersei hating him (she once told Ned that she could have loved Robert if he had not loved his dead sister) and never having a true born child. In my opinion, that poisons his relationship worth his children, too. I really can’t remember a scene with Robert showing affection for one of his „children“ (even Myrcella or Tommen who are so easy to love). They all remind him of Cersei, who simply isn’t Lyanna.

That leads to Lyanna Stark herself. Little is confirmed about the real reasons behind her leaving Winterfell with Rhaegar, but there are lots of speculations. I for one think that she wasn’t raped by him but really was in love with the prince and feared a marriage with Robert. That love led to Roberts Rebellion and the death of her father and (beloved) brother Brandon. And her own as well as Rhaegars.

Rhaegar Targaryen betrayed his wife and two children out of love for Lyanna, risking the whole kingdom (though I’m not sure if he really loved her or if she only was a part of the prophecy he obsessed about).

Eddard Stark, Mr. Honorable himself, lied to his best friend Robert and his wife Catelyn out of love for his sister Lyanna: He vowed to save her son with Rhaegar. Thereby he risked his own marriage (with the woman he later truly adored). He declared himself a cheater. He also lied to Jon about his mother and let the boy grow up with the shame of being a bastard, causing some sort of trauma.
Out of love for his daughter Sansa, Ned willingly swallows his honor (one of the things he values the most).

Catelyn Stark, a woman that values family and her children above all else, is horrible towards Jon Snow, an innocent child himself. That’s out of love for Ned, she thinks he loved the bastards mother more than herself. Maybe if Ned ever said Jon’s mother was never important to him, Cat could have treat Jon like one of her own children - or at least with some friendliness.
Out of love for her daughters, Cat betrays her son Robb by releasing Jaime Lannister, a man she truly detestes.

Edmure Tully surrendered Riverrun, his home, and risked the hate of his uncle and his men to save his son (a babe he’s never seen before, by a wife whose family murdered his). Putting family above duty and honor.

Their sister Lysa Arryn is another great/horrible example. Out of love for Petyr, she poisoned her husband and father of her son, leading to the events of A Game of Thrones. She also threatens her niece Sansa to the part of trying to kill her out of jealousy when she thinks that Petyr loves the girl.

Petyr Baelish is only motivated by one thing: the love for Catelyn Tully. As a young boy he dared to challenge Brandon Stark, knowing he could never win (and Petyr is normally all but irrational). He fakes love for Lysa, betrays Eddard and kills a substantial number of persons, all to get Catelyn. It is irrelevant how many people will suffer for his love. When he can’t have Cat anymore, he takes her young daughter Sansa as replacement.

Sansa Stark revealed her fathers plans out of „love“ for Joffrey. Out of love for her father, Sansa wrote a letter (forced by Cersei) to Robb and later she tries do kill Joffrey, risking her own death.
Sansa „betrays“ Jon as well, when she wrote that letter asking Littlefinger for help. That was out of love, too: Love for Jon whom she wants to protect in the upcoming battle he can’t win (and out of love for Rickon, but she doubts they will get their little brother back alive).

Arya Stark decides to become an assassin to avenge the death of her beloved father, mother and brothers. Nobody can tell me that this doesn’t goes against the morale of a young, prepubescent girl. (And Arya sends her beloved direwoblf Nymeria away to save her from Joffrey.)

Robb Stark risks all his family fights for and all he has learned out of love for Talisa/Jeyne Westerling. That leads to his own, his mothers, his direwolfs and most of his mens death (as well as the death of Talisa and their unborn child in the show) and the end of a war he probably could have won.

Ellaria Sand, a woman that loves her children and grew up in a country known for treating girls well (just like Oberyn said), killed Myrcella, an innocent girl, out of love for her dead lover.

Out of love for Bran, Summer willingly gives his own life.

Just like out of love for Drogo and her child, D*enerys is willing to end her own life by burning herself. She sees no sense in her life.

And don’t forget Jorah Mormont who turned slave trader do hold his beloved wife Lynesse Hightower and later gave up his only chance to return home due to his love for D*ny.

But there is a positive example, too:
Out of love for Gilly, Samwell Tarly, a real coward up to this point, figths and kills a White Wanderer. He also stands up against his own father, too. (All talk about the one and only, really true love in agot is that of Ned and Cat, but what about Sam and Gilly? They trust each other, they aren’t related or secretly lust after another person and never tried do kill the other. There is no angst between them. They are only two people deeply in love. A love that’s only threatened by Sams position as a member of the Night’s Watch, but that isn’t a real threat to them. For me, they are my one truly happy pairing at the time.)

I’m pretty sure there are tons of other examples, but that are the only ones I remember on the fly.

What does all of that mean for Jonsa?

I highly support the theory that Jon Snow will play D*enerys. And why will he do that, Mr. Honorable Jr. himself? Something that goes against his morale? (Something he hated himself for doing to Ygritte?)
Well, out of love: for the North, his people and his family. Nothing is more important to Jon than saving his people, especially Sansa. She was already once the reason to go against his beliefs: Jon pledges he would never fight again, only to do it for Sansa when she asks for it (and he reads that letter from Ramsay).

Well, that are only my thoughts and I would love to hear what you think about it. Maybe I’m totally delusional. ;)

AO3 Larrie boycott author rec list

In an attempt at remaining a neutral blog I feel it my duty to tweak a ‘recent’ boycott post.  While I was able to reblog a list of suggested Larrie authors to boycott, many people were not able to do so as they found themselves blocked by the OP.  I feel it only fair that everyone has the chance to see and reblog this list.  While I do not condone boycotting people for their beliefs I will send my appreciation to the OP of the boycott list for their work towards finding Larrie authors on AO3 and full credit of this list goes to them.  In my own edition of this post I have provided you links to the authors AO3 page for your convenience.  Happy reading!

Boycotted Larrie authors

If you were not fortunate enough to make it on this list and would like to be added please let me know.  

anonymous asked:

Mother, help me,,,theres this girl that I used to be best friends with but then she got a boyfriend and started being very manipulative/mean to me and my other friend. She treated us like we didnt matter and like she was better than us bc she was in a relationship. Eventually she just stopped talking to us altogether but now he does online classes so shes hanging out with us again. Im trying to be nice but I still feel hurt by how she treated me and I feel bad but I cant trust her anymore? Help

oh no sweetums,,, okay, this is a pretty delicate situation, I’m gonna do my best to rationalize it with you. under the cut because i got rambly,, ily

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the thing about millennials who don’t want kids is I feel like a lot of them are deeply On Board for their friends’ kids

like I’m among the minority of my friends in definitely for sure wanting kids someday

but each of my parenthood-eschewing friends has claimed a different role in my future offspring’s life and they seem very excited to play it

so we as a generation may have fewer children

but I feel like they’ll be the most supported and loved children imaginable

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TO PEOPLE WRITING HISPANIC / LATINX CHARACTERS:

  • not everyone goes by latinx. there is a big movement now because spanish is a gendered language that many people identify as latinx, not all of us do. some of us are completely okay saying latina or latino. it doesn’t make anyone better or worse, it’s a preference.
  • know the difference between hispanic and latinx. they are not interchangeable and many people ( myself included and i’m puerto rican ) prefer to be called hispanic. if you don’t know the difference, google is your friend.
  • stop fetishing us. we are people. this isn’t like being into roleplay, we are a people. we have a culture an identity and turning characters / people into the lowest common denominator of a specified group contributes to a culture where la migra porn is a thing. it’s disgusting. STOP.
  • STOP SEXUALIZING US. this goes with the above but honestly, this is the worst thing i’ve seen. women come in all shapes and sizes. not all hispanic / latinx women are that hourglass shape. 
    • not all of us have big boobs or a big ass. some of us are thick minus that shape and are called gorda / gordita. there’s a culture that makes women that are on the bigger side but don’t have this hourglass shape to exercise more or are told that they need to put down the fork. placed in a culture that wants their women thick but not like that
    • THE FLIP SIDE, some of us are very skinny. some of are called flaca. are constantly told that we don’t look like we’re hispanic / latinx because ‘ aren’t you supposed to have curves ? ‘ some of us are told to eat more because we’re ‘ letting our people down ‘ simply by walking around with no curves.
    • if your muse is skinny and hispanic / latinx: EMBRACE IT. if you muse is thick but not that curvy shape that’s stereotypical, EMBRACE IT. stop having body claims that are disproportionate / are completely different than your muse because they have to look like that because of x, y, z.
  • not everyone speaks spanish fluently. some people speak spanish as their second language. some as their first. some learned both at the same time. and some learned spanish in high school as a requirement and otherwise know little to nothing at all. all of these are okay. it’s not whitewashing to have a character disconnected from their culture because their parents / whoever raised them chose not to teach them this skill. it’s something that happens. it’s realistic.
  • spanglish is a thing but not the way you’re thinking. people that don’t speak spanish fluently / know enough but not all don’t just go: today i’m going to la tienda. that’s not how it works. sometimes we’re speaking spanish fluently and we have a brain fart and might go, ‘ uh… store ‘ momentarily forgetting that word in spanish. sometimes we’re speaking english and then we get pissed and that’s when we go from english to a whole lotta shit you might not understand but we do. spanglish is not half a sentence in spanish and half in english. 
  • stop contributing to stereotypes. not everyone is named maria with a last name like lopez. there are plenty of people with white people names. just like maria is a hispanic / latinx name, so can nicole. if the person holding that name is of that ethnicity, it’s not a white person name anymore. you can have first generation people with parents that are capable of handling their everyday lives without their ‘ translator ‘. you can have families not super close-knit. they can have small families. they can have big. they could grow up poor. they could grow up well off. all of these things are not far-fetched or unrealistic. they are reality.
  • STOP WHITE WASHING. this can be a whole post of it’s own but just… stop. you like that faded aesthetic, cool. you can get that aesthetic without turning your muse white. just like that actor / model / etc. takes faded pics on their phone and it doesn’t stop them from having their skin color, you can work your ass in photoshop the same way.
  • NOT ALL OF US ARE BROWN. some of us are black. some of us are white and burn in the sun. some of us are brown. some of us have blonde hair and blue eyes. some have red hair and freckles. some of us have thick, coarse hair. some have fine, thin hair. some of us have short, tight curls. we don’t all look like george lopez or america ferrera. 
            honestly, i’m just tired of seeing these things in the rp world. people that want to rp someone else’s culture but take a look at a buzzfeed clip for two seconds and say nailed it ! and no, not everyone is like this. not everyone contributes to this culture of stereotypes / lack of research on a culture they’re writing      but enough do. so please, if you’re writing a character of hispanic / latinx decent, do some research. google. ask your friends ( real life, on here ) that are of that decent. you can learn some slang, some things that maybe aren’t on google. no one on this website really bites, especially if you’re trying to correctly portray their ethnicity. so just please make sure you’re not contributing to some of these things and write your lovely character !