do change though

A story from the line at McDonald's
  • Me: okay so my sexuality's a complicated deal so let's just call me queer as hell
  • Friend: nono I wanna know can't you explain it
  • Me: well ok mainly I am asexual which means I don't want to do the do nor do I long for it, so it has nothing to do with lack of confidence or anything like that, I simply don't find anyone sexually attractive
  • Friend: right right
  • Me: but I'm also bi romantic. The sexual and romantic attraction are different, and I still fall in love and want to have physical contact with my partner, I just don't need the hanky panky
  • Friend: right cause you have a girlfriend that's pansexual right
  • Me: exactly and as long as we're both happy with not doing the rumba naked, that's a valid relationship
  • Friend: I get it, I get it... I didn't know the entire sexual and romantic orientations were different
  • Me: yeah I know it was an eyeopener for me when I found ou-
  • Lady behind us in line: excuse me so sorry but I couldn't help but overhear but I didn't know half of what you just said and I was just wondering what that thing your girlfriend was is, pansexual?
  • Me: *awkward glance at friend* oh uh I'm not an expert or anything and uh ok so basically it's similar to being bisexual, but there's less value in what gender the one you're attracted to is, at least as I understood it. So a bisexual would be attracted to a person despite their gender, a pansexual wouldn't really care at all in a way uh I'm sorry I'm bad at explaining
  • Lady behind us in line: that's alright I can look it up myself later you gave me a general idea! So where did you find out these things, you're pretty young?
  • Me: well, Internet. Once you're a bit confused about what you might be you usually go looking for explanations...
  • Lady behind us in line: so uh in theory... It's fine if you don't know, I just want to check with you... Is there a thing called aROMANTIC? like you're asexual, is there a equivalent to the romantic orientation you mentioned?
  • Me: oh yeah, absolutely! You can be both asexual and aromantic, or aromantic and heterosexual, literally all combinations are possible!
  • Lady behind us in line: *smiles LIKE REALLY GODDAMNED GENUINELY* thank you so much, I did not know that. *fishes up phone from pocket* now if you excuse me, I'm going to call my mother and tell her I'm not crazy for never having been married or stayed with one guy for long despite being 50+ but still has three children! *steps out of line and walks off while dialing*
  • Friend: wow that was... Amazing
  • Me: see how happy she got? That's the power of right information.
  • And that's why I've been smiling since this happened.
What criticism feels like to a creative person

Browsing Reddit, I came across an extremely effective post about why some creatives respond very poorly to criticism, or even for those of us who respond well, why it can feel like an attack even though in your head you know it isn’t.

Originally posted by enjoy-the-life-baby

Criticism creates a mental conflict, but not always that kind.

Imagine if you wrote a final essay for your literature class, really did your best on it, turned it in, and the teacher gave it 100%. Elated, you take it home to show it off to your dad. Your dad says “You got a D? You really should have tried harder.” You think WTF, you squint at the paper and you’re pretty damn sure it says 100%, A+, Good work. But your dad says “No, it clearly says 63%, D-, disappointing.” Then you start to realize you’re living in some kind of warped reality where your dad sees something on the paper completely different than what you see, and you start wondering if you even know what’s real anymore.

This is what it feels like to get a criticism. It casts into doubt your own definition of “good” which is probably the basis of your entire creative process. It’s not even an issue of admitting weakness. Admitting weakness is easy. What’s not easy is having your instincts cast into doubt and not knowing whether to trust  yourself anymore.

  • Do I trust this critic?
  • Do I trust myself? Some combination of the two?
  • Do I stand by my decisions or not?
  • Do I make changes even though I don’t understand how they will help?
  • Will the changes completely undermine the artistic vision I wanted for this?
  • Will it defeat the whole point I was going for?
  • I can’t feel the emotional reasoning behind making changes, so how will I know if my change is for the better or worse?
  • Is the critic just not the right audience for this? Is the critic biased? Is the critic just having a bad day?
  • Should I ignore them altogether, and just keep doing this for the people who like it?
  • Are my fans wrong and simpleminded?
  • Am I even doing anything of significance?
  • Should I give up here?

These are all questions which artists ask themselves when they receive criticism. They’re tricky, ambiguous questions that don’t always have a correct answer. Many newcomers don’t even know how to approach these questions, so criticism can often feel like a personal attack even if both sides mean well.

That’s not to say that criticism itself is bad, but if you get a better idea of what a criticism is doing psychologically to the receiver, you might find yourself offering more effective, well-received advice.

This ties in pretty closely to the advice I often give on this very blog, about how to deal with negative feedback; above all, trying not to dwell on it. Before you give any response, always take time to calm down.

Originally posted by gabedonohoe

This is a pretty universal problem that affects all creatives across all media. You’d have to be as emotionless as a stone to not fall prey to it occasionally.

Part of being a writer is building up creative confidence. This is the faith in yourself to be able to write something and put it out into the world, and to know, deep down, that this work has value, to you and to your audience.

You may, later, discover that this work isn’t all that good, but that doesn’t matter. What matters is that it was a stepping stone to the person you are now, and the work you’re producing today.

Whenever you create a piece of work, make sure you internalise why you made that work. What it meant to you. It doesn’t matter if that work was a prize-winning literary novel or a scrawling of Vegeta from DBZ drawn in pencil on lined paper. If the work expresses something you can’t contain, something you have to get down on paper, over time you’ll develop the creative confidence to accept that even if it’s “bad”, that isn’t what’s important. The end result isn’t as important as the work itself.

Creative Confidence isn’t something you just develop overnight. It takes work. It’ll probably take a few embarrassing moments too, and those will be the hurtful types that’ll lead to “arguments you win in the shower” 5 years later. It takes different durations for different people. However, if you work at it, it’s something I believe is within the reach of everyone.

Find your Creative Confidence; I’m sure you can.

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I was thinking about Harry & Cho’s disastrous date and there was a post-it note next to my hand so… happy late valentines day!

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lost in you


Namjoon remembers.

Most people don’t, but Namjoon does. Snippets of lives past, dreams of different worlds. They come to him in dreams, in moments when his surroundings blur and fade into the past, or in sudden, brief remembrances. Sometimes he’ll be reading a book when he remembers watching the queen release pigeons in the courtyard of a Mughal palace. He dreams of tying so many threads on a machine that his fingers bleed in turn of the century England. Once, he’s sitting in a cafe when everything goes blurry, and with each blink he uses to clear his eyes, things change. The metal tables turn into wooden benches; the sofa in the center becomes a marble fountain. Instead of jeans and t-shirts, the people wear robes and turbans. For a moment, just a moment, he’s a server in an Ottoman coffeehouse.

He loses time and focus during these moments. It’s easy to forget who he is when he’s been everything.


This was inspired by @jonghyunslisterine’s lost in you. It’s beautiful, inspirational and very touching. All of their stories are (: Seriously thank you for all you’ve written so far, the worlds and characters you create are very dear to me :3

Guess you’ve gotta read the fic to know what this scene is about :P please click the lower gif for better quality~

Madoka…!

you-can-all-eat-shit  asked:

GOTTA REBOOT THIS SHIT FOR CAPTAIN-OF-THE-SALTY-SETTERS-SQUAD, PUTS-UP-WITH-WAY-TOO-MUCH-NONSESNE, SOFT BABY, HARDCORE FUCK YOU UP, ONLY-STZ-NOT-TO-GET-IN-ON-A-SPORTS-SCHOLARSHIP, SECOND YEAR REGULAR REGARDLESS, PROBABLY DOESNT SLEEP ENOUGH, SASSY RICH BOY, TAKES NO SHIT, WILL-NOT-HESITATE-TO-PUNCH-YOU, HIGH-KEY NERD, WILL-NOT-CARE-IF-HE-OFFENDS-YOU-THAT-WAS-ACTUALLY-THE-POINT-ANYWAY, GOSH-DANG-IM-SO-HIGH-KEY-FOR-THIS-FUCKER, "THE SETTER THAT STANDS OUT THE LEAST," STUBBORN AF,

silveramoebasquid said: KENJ-WHY-IS-THERE-SO-MUCH-TAPE-ON-YOUR-HANDS-PLZ-TAKE-CARE-OF-YOURSELF-BB, WILL COMPLAIN ABOUT EVERYTHING AND ANYTHING, TRY-HARD KOUHAI, ANNOYED SENPAI, TOP SCHOOL’S STAR SETTER, PROBABLY IN DENIAL OF 90% OF HIS FEELINGS, WORK HARD STUDY HARD PLAY HARD, MADE OF SALT AND ANGER, NO CHILL, RAGE QUIT, OCCASIONALLY A DECENT HUMAN BEING, REALLY JUST AN ASSHOLE ALL OF THE TIME ACTUALLY, THE-ONLY-STAR-IN-MY-SKY, BARELY-EVEN-ACKNOWLEDGED-AS-A-CHARACTER-TO-SOME-PEOPLE? BUT-REALLY-HES-THE-BEST,

silveramoebasquid said: PROBABLY /WOULDN’T/ MURDER EVERYONE? IF YOU PAID HIM? LARGE ENOUGH SUMS OF $?, SHORT PUNK-ASS, NOT ACTUALLY THAT SHORT, STILL SHORTER THAN ME HAH, THE ONLY ONE I LOVE (OTHER THAN YOU), SPECIAL BAB, SHIRABAE, KENJ, KENJIBU, PIECE OF SHIT, LIGHT OF MY LIFE, SHIRABABY, DEFINITELY-MY-BOYFRIEND-IN-AN-ALTERNATE-REALITY-SOMEHWERE, SHIRABUBU, SWAN-KID, ME: FORGETS HIS ACTUAL NAME BC OF ALL THE NICKNAMES I CALL HIM,

silveramoebasquid said: TRUE ANGEL, JUST-KIDDING-THATS-A-LIE, HE’S-THE-WORST, BUT-STILL-AMAZING-YA-FEEL?, SLIDES-FURUDATE-$5-CMON-PUT-HIM-BACK-IN-THE-MANGA, *COUGHCOUGH* TERUSHIRA *COUGH*, SHUT-UP-ITS-CANON, PROMINENT AND VALUED MEMBER OF STZ, WILL-DO-GREAT-AS-CAPTAIN-NEXT-YEAR, IM-SO-PROUD-OF-HIM, MINOR CHARACTER BUT STILL IMPORTANT, “YOU CAN ALL EAT SHIT” SHIRABU KENJIROU WHAT UP

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