distraction technique

little things that can help you if you have bpd

i’ve been seeing a lot of topics like “how to deal with someone who has bpd” and it always bothers me, because there is basically no topics about how to deal if YOU have bpd. that’s why i’m making this post, in my opinion as someone who has bpd. feel free to leave other tips and comment!

  • buy a notepad and write about your emotions. in DBT (dialectical behavior therapy), used a lot to help people with BPD, they tend to help others to regulate their emotions, basing on some principles, like:
  1. identify and classify emotions; usually, people with BPD suffered/suffer from emotional abuse and it makes harder for us to have a knowledge about our feelings, since we never had someone to help us in this aspect. if you have hard times dealing with your emotions, you can create a special organization on your notepad, basing on: what just happened that could be a possibly trigger to your feeling? (EVEN IF IT’S SOMETHING MINOR, for example, if your friend replied to you in a different way, if you saw an image that made you feel uncomfortable); what are your physical symptoms about it? (for example, if you feel butterflies in your stomach, you are possibly anxious); what does this feeling make you want to do? (for example, if you feel like you want to hit something, you are possibly experiencing anger). and, also, try to identify your primary and secondary emotions, for example, if a friend forgets about an event that you would go together, first you may feel anger, but this anger can be followed by frustation or sadness (secondary emotions).
  2. how to “change” your emotions; after writing about your emotions and trying to learn about them, you can add a subject in your notepad about “WHAT CAN I DO TO CHANGE THIS FEELING”. your first thoughts may be pessimists, specially because borderlines are VERY impulsives, like “i should probably self-harm” or even “i should probably kill myself”, due to the intensity of bpd emotions, but right now, you have to think with your rationality. for example, if your friend is delaying to reply, you can think about the possibilities that are causing this problem: if they are busy, if they are having a hard time or if they just don’t want to talk right now. after thinking about the situation as a whole, you’ll ask yourself “okay, but what will i do?” and that’s why i think it’s important to create a list about what makes you happy and what distracts you, so everytime you have a hard situation to deal with, you can check on your list. “oh, i’m having x problem, but in my list it says that painting makes me happy, so what about painting something i saw today?”. if you don’t have anything that you like about, there is an app called Calm Harm, that can help you in self-harm situations!
  3. increase and improve positive emotional events; i know that it’s difficult for us to focus on positive moments, but once you are feeling down, please try to write about what happened in your day that was a good thing. and when i say it, i don’t mean a BIG thing, it can be something like seeing a flower in your garden. write about your sensations when your experienced this moment and think about the possibility of living this moment more than once. for example, if i saw a flower and it made me happy, can i try to plant one, so i’ll see it more often?
  4. apply pressure tolerance techniques; by distraction, self-care, improving the moment and considering pros and cons.

SO, in your notepad, have a space to: first, identify and classify your emotions; second, a space to write about how to change your emotions; third, a space to write about positive emotional events and fourth, write about what pressure tolerance techniqures you can apply to your life. 

  • practice saying no and saying what you need to the people around you; sometimes people with BPD tend to think that we are a burden to friends and family, and sometimes it’s not true. due to it, we often don’t tell what we really want. so, if you could, please, practice saying NO and what you REALLY need and want to people around you, even if it’s minor things. for example, if someone asks you to lunch with them, but you can’t/don’t want to, don’t let your abandonment fear decides what it’s the best for you, just say no, but not in the intention to hurt the other person. “i’m sorry, i really like you, but i can’t or don’t want to, since i have to do x thing/feeling x thing, but i really like you!”. when you say no, you can have a better idea about what you like and what you don’t, so you can start to let people know about it. for example, “hey! yesterday i said no when you invited me for lunch, so i realized i don’t really like going to public places, what about having lunch in my house next time?”
  • practice breathing techniques; intense emotions can lead us to panic situations or really bad physical symptoms. in stressing moments, we hold the air, increasing the level of carbon dioxide in our system, so the organism thinks we need more oxygen and make us breathe faster. the imbalance increases our heart beats, our blood pressure and the release of hormones such as adrenaline. i recommend ASMR videos to relax and you can breathe slowly, imagining a circle opening and closing, like the gif:

the post is getting long, so i’ll finish here! i’ll probably post a part two if you guys like! please leave a comment if it was helpful and i’m sorry if my grammar wasn’t very correct, english is not my native language.

remember that everything here is theoritical and it’s hard to apply these tips in your life, things will not suddenly change. but i believe in you and things take time, so don’t give up on getting better.

Worth It

Summary: You’ve been secretly dating Jared for almost a year when he slips up at a convention, accidentally revealing your relationship to the fans. He makes it up to you in your hotel room.
Words: 5.4k
Jared x Reader, Jensen (mentioned James Lafferty and Chad Michael Murray)
Warnings: good-natured bullshiting between a loving couple, smut
Square filled: Fingering
A/N: this was requested by @blacksiren after donating to my justgiving page, and it’s written as part of this year’s @spnkinkbingo

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Keeping relationships hidden from the world was something you’d gotten used to over the years of working in TV.

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magnus and alec are totally the type that distract each other when one of them has to leave for work or something. like everytime alec is round at the loft and he gets a phone call from the institute because for some reason they can’t seem to function properly when he’s not around, magnus pouts but follows alec to the door and gives him what alec thought would be an chaste kiss but before he knows it he’s got magnus pressed against the wall with magnus’ arms wrapped tightly around his neck and they’re kissing still but more frantically this time and whenever alec tries pulling away, magnus’ arms tighten a bit more around him until alec is laughing and stopping to press a kiss in between each word as he says “I really do have to go” and magnus sighs and pouts again and alec just groans because he knows what magnus is trying to do with that god damn pout and magnus knows how much it affects him so alec promises that he’ll make it up to him later when he gets home. and magnus feels this warm feeling in his chest when alec refers to the loft as “home” but he quickly recovers and winks “hmm we’ll see” and alec just smiles as he leaves. turns out magnus is very busy later that evening with a potion for a client so alec has to try some distraction techniques of his own

anonymous asked:

What does this engagement training look like? Like, what are the games you might play for that?

Most of what I’ve learned about engagement has come from Michael Ellis’ materials. Denise Fenzi also has a lot to offer on this subject, and I like the way she lists out five stages of engagement.

  1. Handler starts the engagement by bribing the dog with offered food/toys/play
  2. Dog starts the engagement with eye contact (cookies/toys are hidden, and appear with the eye contact)
  3. Dog starts the engagement with sustained focus while moving around
  4. Dog starts the engagement with stage 2, stage 3, and offered work/behavior
  5. Handler starts the engagement (without bribing as in stage 1)

Many people get stuck at stage 1, or try to skip from stage 1 to stage 5, but stages 2-4 are the critical ones that make stage 5 possible.

What does the process look like? You can see visuals through the resources below, but here is a basic breakdown.

  1. Allow the dog time to acclimate to the environment, sniff around, potty (if outside), etc
  2. Pick a spot and just stand there. Dog should be on a leash. 
  3. Eventually the dog will get bored and check in with you. As soon as they make eye contact, mark it with a “yes!” (or whatever your marker is) and provide the reward. Generally food, and if so you want the dog driving into your hand for the food, rather than you reaching towards the dog to deliver it. I move backwards so the dog has to move towards me to get the food. If you watch the videos linked below, note how much the handlers are moving around. Movement and contrast is motivating and helps the engagement process.
  4. If the dog is maintaining connection, mark and reward again.
  5. When the dog is focused, release them back into the environment. “All done” is my cue.
  6. I also mix in some repetitions of cuing “get it”, toss a piece of food on the ground (make sure you dog can see it on the surface), and as soon as the dog gets the food and stops sniffing for more, mark it with “yes” and reward from my hand. The dog gets faster to stop sniffing and re-engage as they learn there is nothing more on the ground and it’s more rewarding to engage back with me.
  7. Rinse and repeat. As with everything else in training, choose your environments carefully and start in a no/low-distraction environment. Such as inside your house. And gradually move to more busy and distracting environments.

There is technique involved in the marking and rewarding process that increases the dog’s motivation. How you hold the food, how you move your hand, making the dog sometimes miss the food to increase frustration and drive, having them spin around, etc. More details about that in the resources below.

Honestly I don’t really allow my dogs to play with each other, especially not inside. Partly because of the dogs I currently have, and partly because I don’t want that chaos in the house. I do not allow Ryker and Chandra to play at all, because Ryker is an asshole who can quickly go from “happy happy play” to “fuck off you fucking fucker”. I did allow Solstice and Chandra to play together, but only outside. And it was structured so that I did training/engagement sessions with them first, then they were allowed to play. Or at the very least, Chandra had to give me eye contact before being released to play with Solstice.

If Asher’s engagement at home is an issue, then I’d start requiring Asher to go through you to play with Gunner. Eye contact, release to play. Sustained connection, release to play. Basically moving through the stages of engagement and building up to Asher doing more and more with you before he gets to play with Gunner. This might require restricting the dog’s access to each other or not allowing free access when you’re not around, until Asher is engaging more easily.

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Tough Introductions

Juice x Reader where Juice is prospecting and the sassy reader has to partner up with him on a job, her less than pleased attitude making for a fun time.

A/N - haven’t proof read so sorry if there are any mistakes!

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Double checking your ammo, you shove your gun down the back of your jeans, grabbing your duffle bag and heading towards the bar, everybody else already gathered and ready. “You set?”

You nod in response, tossing the duffle on the table and zipping up your jacket till it reaches just underneath your breasts. “We ready to go?”

“Almost.” Clay says, adding a couple more shotguns to the bag. You look at him questioningly, double checking the group to see who’s missing. “Prospect is coming with.”

“Thought you said this needed to go smoothly.” you sass, not being mentally prepared enough to deal with some inexperienced kid. “Can’t we do it without him?”

“Give him a chance, lassie. He’s got potential.” Chibs argues, throwing an arm around your shoulder and pulling you into his chest. “Don’t be too harsh on the poor lad.”

“As long as he keeps out of my way, I’ll behave.” You don’t miss the look that the others share, the expressions of humour and nervousness making you suspicious. “What?”

“There’s been a change of plan, sweetheart. Prospect’s taking Jax’s place.” Tig informs you, a smirk on his lips. You curse loudly, shaking your head in disbelief.

“Is he serious?” Clay nods in confirmation, shaking his shoulders carelessly. You huff, your mood going from excited to pissed off within seconds. “Don’t blame me when this all goes tits up.”

“Sorry if I’m late.” You all turn your attention to the quiet boy who’s just arrived, your eyes widening slightly as his attractiveness before you catch yourself.

“Sure you are.“ you say sarcastically, a snigger coming from the group at your cold tone. “I’ll be outside.”

You push past the timid male, your eyes catching his as you do so, his mouthwatering aftershave creeping up your nostrils and threatening to throw your concentration.

“She seems…nice.” Juice mutters once you’re out of ear shot, the others grinning at one another.

“Good luck today, prospect. You’re gonna need it.” Tig says, slapping Juice roughly on the back as everyone floods out of the clubhouse, ready to complete the task at hand.

Your steps are skillfully silent as you creep towards the back entrance of the club, Juice hot on your trail. It’s hard to focus when he’s close enough for you to feel his body warmth, his breath hot on your neck when you stop to check if the coast is clear.

“I’m Juice, by the way.” he whispers, your eyes rolling at his need for conversation. “It’s nice to meet you…”

“(Y/N).” you finish for him, your hand reaching into your pocket for your lock pick kit. Juice watches you, completely fascinated, your actions nimble and quick as you successfully crack open the door. “Stay close.”

“Right.” he mumbles as you sneak through the door, Juice taking that as his cue to stop talking. You slip through the hallways of the dimmed den, heading for the room where you know the target will be.

“Shit.” you curse as you spot one of the many henchmen heading your way, knowing everything will turn to shit if you’re caught. “Follow my lead.”

You yank Juice towards you by his shirt, connecting your lips to his roughly as he freezes up in shock. Slapping him sharply on the chest, he relaxes, his hands grabbing your hips as he pushes you against the wall, a groan slipping from Juice as you suck lightly on his lower lip.

As the heavy footsteps get further and further away, your lips detaching from Juice’s once you’re sure the coast is clear, his cheeks flushed and his pupils dilated as he gazes at you. “W-what was that?”

Shrugging your shoulders at his lovestruck face, you check the hallway again, satisfied to move when you see its clear. “Distraction technique. Don’t get hung up on it, Juicey.”

“Juicey?” His words are filled with humor, though you easily detect the slightly flirtatious tone. “Careful, might make me think you actually find me tolerable.”

“Don’t get hung up, I said.” you remind him, glancing over your shoulder at him, your lips twitching as you try to contain your smile. “Let’s go.”

You clink your beer bottle against the rest of SAMCRO as you celebrate a job well done, a chorus of cheers rippling through the loud music. You grin, running your tongue over your lower lip as you head away from the group.

You climb up to the roof, perching yourself down on a box and reveling in the calm, sirens sounding far in the distance. “Wondered where you got to.”

“Congrats on finding me Sherlock.” you sass, Juice taking a seat beside you as you pull out your cigarettes, offering him one before having one for yourself.

“Thought you’d be down there celebrating.” he says, taking a long drag, the smoke getting lost within the California air. “You seem like the party type.”

You hum in response, admiring the city lights. “Guess I just enjoy the quiet sometimes.”

“Yeah.” he mumbles, the two of you silent apart from the inhailing of cigarettes, the atmosphere strangely comfortable. “Why aren’t you at home with your boyfriend or something?”

“Smooth.” you snigger, raising your eyebrows, taking a hefty swig of your beer. “I’m single, asshole.”

“Can’t blame a guy for asking.” he chuckles, you smiling despite yourself. “Lucky, really. I don’t think a boyfriend would be too happy about what happened between us today.”

You spit out your drink, coughing unattractively as you try to recompose yourself. Juice watches on, embarrassed, as you laugh. “Excuse me?”

“You know, the kiss-” You hold your hand up, Juice halting his sentence as you do so.

“It didn’t mean anything, Juice. It was just a job.” you explain, Juice opening and closing his mouth as he searches for a defense. “You get that, right?”

“Sure, totally.” he says unconvincingly, your heart strings tugging at the sadness in his voice. Getting up from your makeshift seat, you head towards the ladder, admiring the slightly naive yet completely interesting prospect in front of you.

“Prove me wrong.” you challenge, Juice whipping his head to face you, disbelief on his face. “Tomorrow night, pick me up at eight. Give it your best shot.”

You can see him smile in the moonlight, butterflies fluttering gently in your stomach. “You’re on.”

Hartwin Fic Rec

Ok, who’s ready for some awesome Hartwin fics? This is just a list of some of my favorites. Seriously, give these authors some love. They deserve it. 

By the way, these are all fix-it fics, in which Harry lives. 

Any Available Excuse by  BaredWolf

It’s really not the gentlemanly thing to do, but Harry will use any available excuse to get his hands on Eggsy. And Eggsy? Well. He’s not much better, really.

~7,800 words. 

That Kind of Movie After All by  Renai_chan

Eggsy entertains a suitor in the form of Nathaniel Beaumont, an American billionaire. Harry is suitably jealous.

~4,600 words. I live for jealous!Harry. 

stand back on the edge of your voice by  fideliant

After getting injured on a joint mission with Harry, Eggsy wakes up.

Only he doesn’t. Not exactly.

~8,300 words. Harry is adorable in this :) 

Handler by  Galahard

It seemed obvious to Eggsy that he’d be the next Galahad after he successfully offed Valentine. When an agent forces Merlin to stick to the test and refuses to let go of the fact that Eggsy didn’t pass, Eggsy finds himself in a different position at Kingsman than he’d originally planned.

~12,200 words. 

To Impart the Heart Entire by  hitlikehammers

He doesn’t mean to find it. Shouldn’t even have to be the one here to find it, by rights—no. No, it should not be Eggsy’s place to go through the possessions of one Harry Hart after his tragic, untimely passing. Ain’t even just the pressure, the aching in his chest that says as much, neither. Naw, this shit should be someone else’s gig. Logically speaking and such. It really should.

And he doesn’t mean to find them, honestly: the papers. The letters. Doesn’t mean to. Knows he should burn them or sumthin’. Respect Harry’s privacy.

But Harry Hart’s fuckin’ dead. And maybe Eggsy’s dramatic as fuck, okay, sure, but hand to god: he swears he feels just as dead himself, now. Without him. So of course. Shit.

‘Course Eggsy fucking looks.

~5,100 words. FUCK this one hurts. But the ending is sweet, don’t worry :) 

Sparking by  LapisLazuli

“Looks like we’ll be trapped for a while,” Harry whispers, calm as you please, as if Eggsy’s face isn’t pressed directly into the little hollow between his neck and his shoulder, as if Eggsy isn’t drowning in the fucking scent of his cologne, as if the fabric of his bespoke suit isn’t caressing Eggsy’s cheek like a goddamn lover.

~2,800 words. 

under my skin (tried so not to give in) by  venvephe

This is a monumentally bad idea, Eggsy realizes, in the fraction of a second between reaching out and tugging at Harry’s tie and seeing his eyes briefly widen before their lips meet.

Or: snogging is a great distraction technique for hiding in plain sight from your enemies. It is decidedly not great for hiding your growing, uh, interest in your secret service colleague.

~12,600 words. 

with long steps by  kirkaut

Never walk away angry, Harry knows.

He doesn’t think to tell Eggsy.

~5,200 words. 

Class of Conduct by  fideliant

Or, Six Things Eggsy Has Learned About Being A Gentleman

~13,100 words. 

On Hand by  fideliant

Or, Five Things A Gentleman Should Never Do Without

~14,200 words. Sequel to Class of Conduct. 

More Is More (And Less is Much Less) by  coloursflyaway

Every mentor has to give their propsal an extra task to fulfill their training at Kingsman.
Harry chooses to test Eggsy’s endurance - he is only allowed to come once he is told to, while Harry uses the whole arsenal at his hands to make it as hard as possible for him

~3,200 words. 

Kingsman: The Misadventures Edition by  LazyBaker

A deleted scene where Eggsy is injected with a serum that makes him say everything that’s on his mind and he literally cannot stop talking about how amazing Harry is while Harry watches on both horrified and utterly smitten.

~8,500 words. 

A Little Less Sixteen Candles - Part 6 [Final]

[A/N: HERE IT IS! Final chapter! I haven’t fully revised this so it could be riddled with mistakes however if it is guys I am sorry! Okay so just a warning there is some cheese, proper cheese, I love cheese and after all the angst it needed plenty to make up for it! Hope you guys like it, I’m really nervous that build up has totally not been worth it but it’s not going to get much better than this. I feel like maybe I kinda rushed the ending but-]

Word Count: 1950 [In total guys this entire fic was 11060 words long and took up 22 Word page documents, what the hell?!]

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Going back to school can be stressful enough with packing, getting books, making new friends, and figuring out your class schedule. Today I offer up helpful tips so that you can keep your mental health on track while moving away to college.
1. Get your new team together. Who do you see now? If that’s a nutritionist, therapist, and psychiatrist, make sure you have all of those people set up in your new city. Call your insurance and get a list or ask your current team for referrals. Also, set up your first appt for a few days before school starts!
2. Talk to your school ahead of time. They are there early setting up and preparing for the coming school year, so call and see what resources they have. Do they have free counseling on campus? What about IEP’s or their equivalent? Make sure that we ask for all of the help and resources we need and get that set up before school actually starts.
3. Keep in touch with your support system! If you always talk to your friend, grandma, sister, cousin, whomever. Make sure you are still making time to call or text with them. That way we still have their support when we need it most.
4. Bring all of your tools! Any distraction technique or coping tool that has helped you in the past, make sure you pack it and bring it with you! That way no matter what’s going on, you have plenty of resources available.
5. Lastly, get your medications set up! Get a full refill before you leave and set up your next one at a pharmacy near school. Maybe even see if they do mail order and set that up. Whatever you have to do to make sure that you can continue taking your medication without any issues. xoxo

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Supercorp: Lena decides to get a tattoo of Kara's crest in a very intimate area. Healing time is twelve weeks. Kara wonders why Lena doesn't want Kara to touch her. Kara always means to ask but Lena distracts her by satisfying her until she's seeing stars.

Lena sat down and winced slightly; she realistically had known how much a brand new tattoo would hurt, but she still found herself slightly unprepared for just how tender she currently felt. She found herself questioning her sanity for the fourth time that afternoon for deciding to get the rather small tattoo, just below her bikini line.

Every time she moved, the tiny House of El crest ached and made Lena suck her breath in rather sharply.

She had been told that the tattoo would take twelve weeks to heal, which seemed reasonable enough, until Lena remembered she wanted the tattoo to be a surprise for Kara, which meant her girlfriend couldn’t see her without her knickers for twelve weeks. That, Lena decided, was going to be an issue.

That evening, Kara flopped onto the bed next to Lena, a mischievous glint in her eyes. Her fingers started trailing patterns over Lena’s stomach, occasionally dipping under her top to dance across the bare skin.

Lena placed down her book and turned her head to face Kara, a smirk on her lips, a quip on her tongue, but found her lips suddenly pressed against Kara’s. Lena deepened the kiss, her tongue swiping across Kara’s lips to gain entry. Kara shifted slightly, her knee moving between Lena’s legs, which caused Lena to still momentarily as she remembered her new tattoo.

In one decisive movement, Lena rolled, gently pushing Kara back onto the bed and moved to straddle her hips. Lena slowly drew her top over her head and grinned at the way Kara drank in her form. Kara moved to sit up, to undo the buttons on Lena’s trousers, but Lena took Kara’s wrists in hers.

‘Uh uh’ she tutted and moved Kara’s hands away from her, ‘let me look after you darling.’

Kara grinned, assuming she’d be able to return the favour, and settled back as Lena slowly undressed her, kissing each piece of newly revealed skin.

She convulsed as Lena nipped at her abs, and squirmed as Lena trailed kisses from her navel, lower and lower until Kara let out a small gasp as Lena ran her tongue over her clit.

Kara tangled her hand into Lena’s hair, her head rolling back against the pillow as her girlfriend continued to gently tease her with her tongue.

She looked down and locked eyes with Lena, who raised an eyebrow and brought up two fingers, slipping them easily into Kara.

Kara moaned as Lena set up a slow pace, fingers pumping at a deliberate pace to keep Kara on the edge, while slightly increasing the pressure with her tongue.

Lena continued this pace, waiting for Kara to ask for more, to beg for more.

‘Pl… please Lena’ Kara eventually relented, ‘I need more.’

Lena sped up her fingers, curling them as Kara panted above her. She felt the grip in her hair tighten and Kara’s thighs clench as Kara’s hips bucked, riding Lena’s face.

Kara came with a loud cry, repeating Lena’s name over and over again as her orgasm shook through her body.

Lena didn’t let up and continued to flick her tongue over Kara’s clit, coaxing her through her second orgasm.

As Kara’s body convulsed for the second time, Lena crawled her way back up the bed to scoop the twitching Kryptonian into her arms.

‘Gimme five mins’ Kara mumbled, ‘and I can return the favour’

‘Just sleep darling’ Lena chuckled, stroking Kara’s hair.

Less than five minutes later Lena heard low snores from beneath the blonde curls strewn all over the pillow.

Lena found that she could keep up the same pattern of behaviour over the next few nights, but feared Kara would call her out on it soon enough.

Thankfully Lena was able to distract Kara for a few weeks; diverting her attention from the fact Lena hadn’t let her touch her in two weeks. It was simple enough at first; she made sure to wear Kara’s favourite bras; the ones that pushed up her breasts and encased them in lace.

She had to get slightly more inventive when Kara questioned why Lena kept wearing her more risqué underwear, but she wasn’t a genius for nothing, and distracted Kara by providing a rather sensual lap dance.

Massages had also been used to ensure her tattoo remained a secret, but Lena was starting to feel guilty about not telling Kara, plus she was only three weeks into the twelve it would take to heal; she wasn’t sure she would survive that long.

Kara had picked up that there was something Lena was keeping from her, but she couldn’t lie; she was loving all of Lena’s distraction techniques. After all, there was no way she was quizzing Lena when she was dressed in a black lace corset with a garter belt.

Kara debated using her x-ray vision, but decided that if it was serious enough, Lena would have told her.

Finally, Lena’s tattoo healed and Lena was ready to cry with relief. As she hadn’t allowed Kara to touch her, Lena hadn’t let herself come at her own hands. She was frustrated beyond belief and couldn’t wait to show Kara her tattoo.

Kara landed on the balcony of Lena’s penthouse and followed the dim flickering light to the bedroom. Upon entering, she discovered Lena laid out on the bed, wearing only one of her checked shirts, bathed in candlelight. Her skin was luminescent as the candles scattered around the room flickered.

‘There’s been something I’ve wanted to show you for a while…’ Lena started.

‘Does this have something to do with why I have had, in my estimation, roughly a thousand orgasms in the past twelve weeks?’ Kara questioned.

‘You noticed…’ Lena bit her lip.

‘I’m not complaining!’ Kara grinned.

Lena smirked back and slowly lifted the bottom of the shirt to reveal she wasn’t wearing any underwear.

Kara gulped.

Lena continued to raise the shirt until it was high enough to show the small crest tattooed on her lower pubic bone.

Kara stepped closer to take a look and looked up at Lena, eyes wide. ‘Is that..?’ she questioned.

Lena nodded.

‘Can I..?’ Kara didn’t finish the sentence; instead her fingers hovered over the black ink.

Lena nodded again.

Kara gently ran her fingers over the small tattoo, looking up at Lena again when she whined at the contact and her hips bucked slightly.

Kara giggled at the reaction her fingertips had caused, but stifled it when Lena cocked an eyebrow.

‘It’s been twelve weeks Kara; twelve weeks in which I have been unbelievably turned on, but not let myself come…’ Lena stated seriously.

‘You’ve not even touched yourself?’ Kara asked incredulously.

‘I thought that would be a little hypocritical as I was not letting you touch me…’ Lena reasoned.

‘You’re so wet…’ Kara marvelled as she slid her fingers down a little further, running them through Lena’s folds.

‘Twelve. Weeks.’ Lena husked at Kara slipped two fingers into her and quickly sought to bring her to release.

It didn’t take long until Lena was wrecked; panting, writhing, begging Kara to fuck her; fuck her deeper, fuck her harder.

Kara obliged and Lena toppled over the edge, Kara’s name on her lips.

Kara spooned Lena as she shuddered through the aftershocks of her orgasm, her fingers trailing down Lena’s body until they were ghosting over the tattoo.

‘Do you understand what this means?’ Kara whispered, unsure if Lena was aware of the full implications of having her crest permanently etched into her skin.

‘It means I’m yours forever’ Lena stated simply.  

Worth It - Teaser

“If we just told people about us, these rumours would stop,” Jared mentioned as you looked through your twitter notifications about the night, the two of you sat side-by-side on your couch.

“Then there’d be more rumours about us,” you reminded him, shutting your laptop and crawling into his lap.

“But they wouldn’t be about him,” he argued back, and you grinned.

“Are you getting jealous?” you asked, scritching your fingers through the hair at the base of his neck. “Jealousy is an ugly trait, even if you are a handsome guy.”

He rolled his eyes, his hands resting on your thighs and squeezing lightly.

“Not jealous, just…”

“Jealous,” you confirmed, smirking as you leant in to kiss him.

At the last second, you turned your head, placing kisses across his cheek and up towards his ear.

“There’s no need to be,” you assured him, and you moved his hand from your thigh to your chest, encouraging him to feel you through your shirt. “You’re the only one who gets this.”

He groaned, pressing his forehead to yours.

This,” he murmured, “This is a distraction technique.”

You grinned, kissing him deeply and pushing him back into the couch.

“Is it working?” you asked, your voice pitched low as you nipped at his jaw.

He lifted his hips, manoeuvring you with ease so that you were laying on the couch, his body covering yours while a large hand moved up your thigh and towards the fly of your jeans.

“Maybe.”

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anonymous asked:

Hi RC! Kind of a random question - I seem to remember you liking the Kingsman movie and was wondering if there are any Kingsman fics that you would recommend? With the sequel coming out soon I'm finding myself getting sucked back into the story and I tend to really like your fic recs. Thank you in advance! I hope you're having a good week!

Not random at all! The sequel’s right around the corner and, I don’t know about you, but I’m gagging for all the new fic that’s going to come out of it. I’m glad to hear that you enjoy my recs, though. I knew being an utter fic snob would pay off someday! Here are some of my favorites (be warned, all of these are Harry/Eggsy and most of these are not canon compliant post-Kingsman: The Secret Service, explicit, or both).

R.C.’s Kingsman Fic Recs

The Grove by onawingandaswear

He buries Harry on the Kingsman grounds, far enough from the tree line to not be lost in the foliage, but close enough that a sapling won’t be trampled by careless feet or trimmed by an unthinking groundskeeper.

Squeeze by rageprufrock (Rated N for nnnggghh)

From the start, Harry’s read Eggsy all over, seen right through him, so Eggsy’s not surprised that he’s barely had time to think about how he wants to feel ruined that Harry gives it to him — just like that.

A Gentleman’s Guide to Popping One’s Cherry by callay

“There’s such a thing as too much enthusiasm,” Harry says, by way of explanation. 

death went dancing by MyLeatherCouch (stereokem)

He is Galahad until he’s not.

Sanity is Overrated by Ataraxetta (series)

There’s a very long moment of profound silence, and then Eggsy punches Harry right in his smug fucking face.

Pig Latin by aerospaces

In Kenya, Eggsy falls off a flight of stairs. Or: lessons in cohabitation.

Considerably Less Cannibalism by LizaPod

It is a real, physical struggle to not stare like a dogger while Harry shrugs off his jacket and undoes his collar, sets his signet ring aside. He has detailed, minutely detailed, fantasies about unbuttoning that fucking collar. At least he’s not wearing the holster right now, or Eggsy’d be sprung already. “It’s time you learned the fine art of the straight razor shave.”

Eggsy gives him his best you havin’ a fucking giggle, mate eyebrows. “Like Sweeney Todd?”

Harry’s sigh is just bordering on melodramatic, but he’s also got that odd— Roxy calls it enigmatic—smile he gets when Eggsy trots out some unexpected bit of culture. “Yes, Eggsy, like Sweeney Todd.”

By Which To Measure by hitlikehammers

“After everything, everything,” Harry strokes thumbprints up and down Eggsy’s cheeks as he pulls back and stares deep into him, through him right and true. “You still have no sense of your worth, do you?“

Kingmaker by manic_intent

“Eggsy, I really don’t think-“ Merlin began, and stopped, because at that very moment, Eggsy walked right into a lamp post.

Across the street, at a sidewalk corner cafe, reading a paper, sandwich part-eaten on a plate, sleek, long legs crossed neatly under the table, was Harry Hart.

Only As Directed by rageprufrock (Rated NC-36)

“Arthur is a bad man,” Roxy had said.

“Fucking tell me about it,” Eggsy had muttered, and gone to put on the tarty trousers Harry had picked out for him like a fucking high-end pimp.

follow me down by DivineProjectZero

Harry Hart has seventeen years worth of mistakes.

Of all the mistakes he made, this is the one he regrets the most.

Bang to Rights by concernedlily

Constable Unwin never met a tailor before, but he knows this bloke who keeps turning up at his crime scenes ain’t one.

Legends & Legatees by Fahye (series)

"You want to make sure I jump when I’m told?” he demands. “It’d better be you doing the telling, Harry.”

To Impart The Heart Entire by hitlikehammers

‘Course Eggsy fucking looks.

under my skin (tried so not to give in) by venvephe

Snogging is a great distraction technique for hiding in plain sight from your enemies. It is decidedly not great for hiding your growing, uh, interest in your secret service colleague.

Some Relaxation Ideas To Enhance Grounding

1. Carry a notebook with you and jot down thoughts (particularly helpful if you have DID) 

2. Place a drop of essential oil on a tissue and carry it around with you, smell it to feel relaxed and it may help ground you. The most inexpensive essential oil is probably lavender and it is known for its relaxing properties.

3. Stay hydrated!

4. Look at photos of happy times

5. Emergency Banana - full of vitamins and minerals to give you a boost!

6. Good quality dark chocolate  - Full of antioxidants for a little soothing pick me up!

7. STOP every hour - If you are doing work/homework or even just growing Tumblr stop every hour and take a little break. Check you are working productively and take a few sends to refocus your priorities.

8. Shut your mouth!! Vow not to talk for a short while a day… Maybe while you eat or check your emails. As you are silent on the outside notice how your inner voice/s remains loud. Try to calm that/them too.

9. Build in rewards - If life is full of demands build a “treat window” into everyday even if it is just buying a flower or treating yourself to a lush bath…. see where you go with it!!

10. Ask for help - If you are struggling and stressed with something, stop take a break, and ask for help!

11. Stand up … If you are sitting down all day stand up for a while. This encourages honesty and communication and relaxation believe it or not! 

12. Set Goals - Set small and large goals for your day, week, month or year!! 

13. Learn to let go - VERY DIFFICULT!! But if something is stressing you after a period of time has passed, for example an argument but it is too late or inappropriate to go back to it ….. LET IT GO! Keep working on this one.

14. Techno - Phobes Unite!! - TURN ALL YOUR TECHNOLOGY OFF (for a while!!) read a book, draw, write and just generally chill. 

15. Plant some flowers or seeds - This is grounding and relaxing and can have a yummy or pretty outcome! 

16. Detox your …. BEDROOM (and body if you want!) Have a clear out, send things to the charity shop, clean, hoover, dust, purge your bedroom!! It is surprising how good and satisfying it feels.

17. Shower Meditation - Have a hot or cold shower feel the water drumming over you let it work out any tension or preoccupations.

18. Be a tourist for a day - Go out even just to your most local town, visit shops you don’t usually go in, have an unusual snack, take the bus and look in the library! It’s surprising how fun and chilled it will be because you won’t really be anywhere new! 

19. Customise clothing - Get some iron on patches or fabric paint go mad on your plainest clothes (let your little alters have a go if you have them!) 

20. Make Mud Pie’s - This again is an outdoor activity that involves getting dirty and grounding. Just be a kid again and relax!! 

Let us know how you get on, or if you have any ideas! 

BTS Reacts to You Starting a Tickling Fight (Suggestive)

Hey guys! This is the first time I’m writing something a bit on the suggestive side, but I hope you like it? This was a request that was requesting smut but since I don’t really do smut, I just went down a slightly suggestive route. We’ll see how this goes, I guess. As always, if there’s anything that you want to see, please feel free to send me a request! I love writing what you guy want to see! Lets get into this, shall we?

Reaction:

      BTS reaction to you playing tickle games with them plsss (do it smutty if u want lol) ❤️❤️ I love ur blog sweetie~ 💖💖 my friend would love this (she has a tickling kink) ❣️

I don’t really do smut (sorry) but I went down a suggestive route so I hope that that’s okay? Also, #accidental series of suggestive looks….. not intentional, I promise….


1. Jin

     Jin might be a little off put or confused at first, but if he was in a happy or playful mood then he is all for it. He definitely won’t play fair, using his long reach to his advantage. He wouldn’t even mean for it to lead in a different direction until you somehow ends up tangled together and your pressed chest to chest. He wouldn’t be able to stop himself from stealing a kiss.
     "Why are you so pretty, Jagiya?“ His words are soft as he pulls you tighter against him.

2. Suga

     Suga has to be in the ride mood to want to participate in something like this. If he’s in a bad mood or he’s super tired, then it might make him a bit snappy. On the other hand, if he’s in a happier or more playful mood, he won’t hesitate to pin you down and retaliate. When he gets tired of that, he’ll either just lay on top of you or he would start trailing kisses along your jaw.
     "I’ve missed you Jagi,” Suga says, not caring how long it’s been since you’ve seen each other, his lips trailing down your neck.

3. J-Hope (#that jawline though)

     J-Hope would be all for this. You would be running around, both of you playfully shrieking as you try to escape each other. He would trap you against the wall, his hands at your hips as he hold you in place.
     "Are you sure this is a game you want to keep playing?“ J-Hope’s voice is warm against your ear, his lips brushing against it.

4. Rapmon

     Rapmon won’t always be for it, but he would indulge you occassionally. It would take a more sexual turn fast with Rapmon. He would have you pinned against the bed with your hands above your head pretty fast as he tickles you against his side. You squirming against him would be what changes the name of the game.
     "If you keep squirming like that, this game isn’t going to stay pg much longer,” Rapmon’s voice gives away his opinion on the direction that he thinks that this should go.

5. Jimin

     Jimin is another one that would definitely indulge you but it would change to a more sexual nature fast. He would have you trapped against the kitchen counter, tickling you at first when, suddenly, the two of you were kissing. He would lift you up onto the counter, getting as close to you as he can.
     "Why is it that you get better every time?“ Jimin lifts you up, carrying you to the bedroom, stopping occasionally to kiss you.

6. V

     V would be extra af in this game. He’s the only one that you would probably have to lead toward the sexual direction you were going. He would just want to have this hardcore tickle battle and wouldn’t necessarily realize what you were aiming for. You would pin him against he ground, your legs on either side of him as you kiss him.
     "I like this game too,” V pants, his face a little flushed and his words are breathless and he pulls you down for another kiss.

7. Jungkook

     Jungkook would be way competitive because he’s totally okay with playing but he definitely wants to win. He would use it as a distraction technique more then anything else. He would be nibbling on your collarbone when all of a sudden he tickles you again, shattering the moment.
     "I definitely won,“ Jungkook smiles triumphantly until he sees your disgruntled expression,” We can pick up where we left off….. if you admit that I won.“


Thanks for reading! I hope you enjoyed! Please feel free to send me any requests you might have!

Favorite Mon-El Funny Moment:

Okay. There are so many gloriously funny Mon-El moments in Season 2 of Supergirl that it took me half of forever to make a decision, but I’m going to go with Double Date: Creepy Journalism Edition as my final answer, because Mon-El is just so doggone ridiculous in it and I love it.

While he’s reliably goofy and entertaining in every single episode, his seven +/- minutes of screen time in 2x18 stick out to me in bold-faced type when I think back on the season.  I loved “Ace Reporter,” and the whole restaurant sequence is one of the biggest reasons why.

First off, Mon-El is the yin to Kara’s yang. He may not be an experienced hero, but he’s calm and clearheaded during scenarios that freak her out/get her dander up, and this is one of those times. She’s so focused on learning the answers, finding the truth, protecting Lena from a suspected killer, that she doesn’t even notice how her “I have passion, Winn! A lot of it” brand of intensity is making the situation really awkward. 

Like…r e a l l y awkward.

Mon-El does, because he’s a very sociable guy. He’s now been on Earth long enough to start picking up on certain cues, and he knows even before they take off for the restaurant that there’s something not quite polite about the way Kara wants to crash Lena’s date with Jack—she insists it’s what journalists do, he expresses his doubts but accompanies her anyway, and once they arrive, he watches Lena and Jack and sees not only how very unwanted he and Kara are at this particular moment, but how Kara is bound and determined to interrogate Jack. So he sits back and nods and smiles, and dies slowly on the inside like you do when you know you’re third-wheeling and so do the first and second wheels, but everyone’s too polite to do anything other than hint at it.

Until it becomes too much, and he realizes that someone has to do something. So, in typical Mon-El fashion, he doesn’t spend a lot of time forming a plan. He just acts. Who cares if Lena, Jack, and the entire restaurant think he’s odd, and maybe a little creepy? Kara’s suspicious of Jack, she wants to investigate, and to investigate, they’ll need a way in, right? He has an idea on how to get them that way in.

Mannection, anyone?

Personally, I love his method. It’s a classic honeypot/femme fatale maneuver—really, Mae West of “Come up and see me sometime” fame would approve—and it works because he’s so committed to it that it throws Jack for a loop. You can actually see Jack thinking, “Okay, what the <insert four-letter word of your choice here> is going on?” and “Dude, isn’t your girlfriend sitting right over there?” 

It’s the kind of scenario I adore, because not only does everyone have an absolutely hilarious reaction to Mon’s little charm show (I LOVE watching everyone in the background of this scene), but the humor works as a wink-and-nod inversion of gender roles in cheesy detective flicks: you’ve got the business-minded investigator and the along-for-the-ride assistant who’s always prepared to use flirting as a distraction technique, but in this case, the investigator is female and the assistant is male. 

That’s icing on the cake, though. 

The beauty of this scene is that on a basic level, it’s just plain funny. It works, because no one outside of Mon-El has any idea what’s happening. Not Kara, not Jack, not Lena, not us. At its core, comedy is about entertainment. The goal is to make people laugh, or at least cheer them up, and and that’s achieved through a disappointment or upending of expectations. But that’s if you want to get all fancy about it. Bottom line: 

I love this scene because it cracks me up. Mon-El cracks me up. The whole thing is ludicrously awkward, and I love it. Chris Wood does well in dramatic scenes, but in my opinion, comedy is where he really shines. His timing is great, his facial expressions are hilarious, and he can make something as simple as a movement funny. 

Like during this scene, which produced my favorite Supergirl gif ever (yes, I rank this gif above all the kiss gifs, and I’m not even a little embarrassed about that):

Frankly, if I could get some more undercover Mike Matthews moments like this in Season 3, I would be a very happy camper.

(Neither gif I used is mine. I found them in the black hole that is a random google search, so thanks to whoever created them.)

anonymous asked:

Mikasa have you ever been drunk?If so what did Levi do when he saw/found you in your drunk state I'm curios~

ONE time. I felt so sick the day after that I don’t think I will do it again.

He really gives me the space to experience things I never have, so he took it pretty well to be honest….”

“Probably because I use “ Effective distraction techniques” as he said”