• Assuming all Latinxs are from the same/said country
• Assuming all Latinxs know Spanish
• Assuming all Latinxs should know Spanish
• Thinking issues Latinxs face are secondary to issues other marginalized groups face.
• Telling us to go back “where we came from”
• Thinking a Latinx is only respectable if they have a “high profile career” such as being a doctor, lawyer, etc
• Thinking all Latinxs look the same- we come in many different colors from all around the world
• Telling us we have to assimilate
• Trying to speak Spanish to us, thinking we all know it
• Thinking we all listen to Spanish speaking artists
• Blending in our cultures together. Latinxs come from many different cultures and all of them are unique and respectable
• Asking us to cook for you / assuming all we eat is Chipotle and Taco Bell shit
• Saying we’re “the best in bed” or “the best cooks” - that is FETISHIZATION. We will not appreciate or tolerate it.
• Calling us “spicy”, “caliente”, “fuego”, “mami” or whatever dumbass word you can think of. That is also fetishization.
• Making jokes about Trump’s dumb fucking wall
• Thinking Black Latinxs are less valid than non Black Latinxs. That’s also anti black racism which is also disgusting.
• Telling us we are not “Latinx enough” because of our skin color / ability to speak Spanish
• Thinking we all dance salsa, bachata, merengue… like seriously?
• Thinking all Latinxs know each other. No, I don’t know “Maria” from your job.
• Thinking only white people can be prejudiced against us
• Eating our food, listening to our music, using our fashion but blatantly disrespecting Latinxs. This one is pretty obvious and very common.
• Prioritizing documented Latinxs over undocumented Latinxs
• Thinking we all are teen parents. That’s ignorant and guess what? We’re not. Even if a Latinx is/was a teen parent, they’re still deserving of the utmost respect.
• Thinking every Latinx is “illegal”
• Thinking Latinxs owe you shit
• Calling us stereotypical names such as “Maria”, “Juan”, “Rosa”, “Diego”, “Jorge”, “Juanita”, “Alejandro”.. etc.. we have any name and our names, whether Spanish or not, are not for you to joke about. Shut the fuck up and go along with Richard Spencer and be a trash bag far away from us.
• Thinking we need to have a last name that is Spanish
• Derailing us when we try to talk about the issues we face. BIG ONE. Shut the hell up and listen to us for fucking once.
• Thinking we’re all criminals.. honest to god…
• Disrespecting Cinco De Mayo, Dia De Los Muertos, or any other Latinx holiday. If it’s not from your culture, either respect it or shut the fuck up.
• Disrespecting our culture.. duh!
• Calling us “Spanish”.. guess what, you dumb fuck? Spanish people are FROM SPAIN. Spanish people are also not Latinx. It’s not that hard. That’s like saying all white people are German or all Asian people are Chinese. That’s so fucking stupid. You are an idiot if you do this.
• “You don’t look Spanish / Latinx”
• Again, telling us the issues we face are secondary / invalid
• Using Latinx slurs.. if this wasn’t obvious..
• Calling us all “chola” or whatever.. you’re also very ignorant if you do this
• Telling us to calm down if we get angry.. we have a right to be angry just like everyone else on this damn planet
• Assuming we listen to a Spanish speaking music artist… like… ???
• Refusing to recognize the racism Latinxs face
• Thinking we should be glad to be fetishized. No fucking way, I will not be glad someone sees me as less than human and equates me basically to a sex toy.
• Thinking we haven’t face any problems.. we do. We do. Oh hell we do. Just because they’re not addressed in the media does not mean we don’t.
• Making jokes about calling immigration on us. It’s funny how I’ve seen Non Latinx POC do this more than white people.
• Thinking all Latinxs come from Spanish speaking countries… no…
• Thinking we’re all maids, janitors, fast food workers, nannies, etc… first of all, those are honorable jobs. Secondly, so fucking what if we were? You’re not better than people with those occupations. Thirdly, we have so many occupations- each and every one of them deserving of respect.
• Thinking we have to chose between our culture and westernized culture. We don’t.
• Saying stupid shit like “hot like Mexico”.. really? Are you serious?
• Only respecting Latinxs that look a certain way
• Making Anti Latinx jokes.. this is obvious
• Thinking you can appropriate our language and culture. There’s Spanish from Spain and then there’s Latinx slang. You cannot use our slang and then disrespect us which you all do tbh.
Other Latinxs feel free to add in because I obviously missed so much.
im not saying that what happened with The Great Comet isnt heartbreaking, but can yall just chill out about the frozen musical? so what if it lasts longer than The Great Comet? they didnt do anything to hurt yall and you’re shitting all over them because “theyre milking the franchise” or whatever. try to remember that they didnt do anything to tgc, and that the frozen musical is still the cast and crew’s blood, sweat, and tears. try to be respectful about peoples hard work? and if they get nominated for something suck it up because everyone that has done work for a freaking BROADWAY MUSICAL deserves reward!! that is hard work!!!
TL;DR: the frozen musical didnt do anything to you so dont shit on them, its disrespectful to anyone dedicated to bringing their art to life onstage.
Please show a little more respect to your food service folks, your retail folks and just anyone who’s out there with a job making things easier and more convenient for YOU. You’re paying for a SERVICE not a SERVANT and they really aren’t out to get you, they’re doing the best with what’s in their power. Please don’t act like you know their job better than them DESPITE not even working in that field once, they know their own job more than you do. Please be respectful to your workers for the service they give.
i honestly don’t think people understand exactly what they are promising when they stand for the pledge of allegiance. it is not a “respectful” thing to do, it is quite literally a vow to serve an idol flag.
as all my jewish followers and friends know, we have a holiday coming up! the featival of purim is this sunday. purim celebrates hidden miracles and hidden beauty and hidden saviours. there’s a lot of hiding. that’s why we dress up!
i’m aware that the vast majority of gentiles and a lot of jews don’t fully know the story of purim, which is recorded in the scroll of esther, or megillat esther. the megillah’s my favourite story, and has so many amazing midrashim (bit like rabbinical fanfiction) that i study year round. this story, which is the story of how a young jewish woman saved our people from a genocide, has a lot of parallels with our current political situation in the u.s., so i thought now would be a great time to tell the story!
<b><p></b> <b><p></b> <b><p></b> <b><p></b> <b>Gaston: </b> </b>We are criminals now, perhaps we will have to hide from justice and earn one's living by robbery </b> <p/><b>Lefou:</b> </b> Like Bonnie and Clyde?<p/><b>Gaston:</b> Like Joker and Harley<p/></p><p/></p><p/></p><p/></p><p/></p>
A superhero listens to her head: A Marinette analysis
Or rather, I’ve become confused by fandom’s view of Marinette and her perception of herself, as well as fandom’s view of her decision to keep her identity a secret, and I really needed to make a long, cathartic post about it.
Let’s just take a look at Marinette’s character before I get into the heart of this. Going back to Origins, she started out exactly as I expected her to; a bit of a push over, but with a little bit of spunk beneath the surface that needed an outlet. Without the responsibilities of Ladybug to give her that metaphorical kick out the door, she saw herself as a human disaster with the worst kind of luck. Chloe apparently making Marinette a constant victim of hers certainly didn’t help matters, and it was when Chloe stole her seat that we saw a girl who hasn’t yet gained that confidence she’s known for. Marinette confided in Alya that she wished she was able to stand up to Chloe right after the incident. She had insecurities born out of her clumsiness and constantly being pushed around by the class bully.
Of course, she had moments of standing up for herself, though her frustration was directed at the wrong person when she told off Adrien for what she thought was him helping Chloe put gum on her seat. I wouldn’t call it a victory, but what it does show us is that Marinette wasn’t timid enough to let acts like this slide by without saying something at this point. Like I said above, she had spunk, but no way for her shell to really crack open yet. It wasn’t until she became Ladybug for the first time and was forced into a position where she had to act that she displayed her brilliance as a heroine with great strategic skills.
Her moment of doubt after failing to purify the akuma only made me appreciate Marinette’s journey in becoming confident all the more. Crushed after making a critical mistake with the akuma, she was ready to give up, thinking she wasn’t super hero material. Rome wasn’t built in a day after all, and from what we’ve seen of her this far in the origins story, she had a lot of self doubt when it came to taking a stand against oppressors and jerks of any kind. Marinette had to be forced to act once again, this time because Alya was trapped beneath a car. This catalyst, plus Chat Noir’s words of encouragement, gave her the final boost of confidence she needed to fully bloom into the power house super hero we know her to be now.
I really appreciate the origin story of Marinette precisely because it showed us her doubt. Her leadership skills, her confidence to stand up to others she feels are in the wrong, this was hard-earned. Shehad to agonize over this decision to become Ladybug and be put through the ringer in order to come out on top. She was brought to her lowest point in order to be built back up again, and I guess this is the crux of the issue I have with how she’s often portrayed.
See, I feel like a lot of people just… ignore the struggle Marinette went through in Origins. Or not ignore per say, but there is a lot of hyper focus (and extreme exaggeration) on Marinette’s insecurities about her clumsy nature and push-over personality even though she moved past this, and she really worked to move past this at that. So whenever I read people refer to Marinette thinking of herself as ‘plain and boring, too shy’, I one, wonder if we’re watching the same show, and two, don’t think people appreciate how hard mentally she had to work to be the person she is now.
This is who Marinette is; Someone who takes charge of a situation that’s out of hand, e.g; her running for class president to relieve her class of Chloe’s reign, assuring the class that they would finish the movie they had to produce with a measure of confidence and surety that only a natural-born leader could have, and let’s not forget every time she had to put Chloe in her place whenever the situation called for it. This girl will get an idea for a design or a plan to defeat and akuma and she puts herself fully behind it, knowing the idea is good. This is someone who is confident in herself and knows exactly what she’s worth. Marinette is Ladybug, and there has never been a moment where she thought of herself as wearing this mask of confidence as a ruse that hid an insecure girl beneath.
And I want to make myself clear, all of this is not to say that Marinette can’t have doubt from time to time. She’s human, she’s a teenager, so it’s to be expected that there will be moments of her questioning herself. One moment that comes to mind is in Antibug when she was detransformed and faced with what she thought was an inability to help Chat Noir without her powers. All it took was some encouraging words from Tikki that she was Ladybug with or without the suit for her to get her act together and formulate a plan. But for whatever reason, it seems like this moment has been latched onto by a good chunk of the fandom as proof of Marinette’s insecurities about herself, even though she bounced back really quick from a very reasonable moment of doubt. I say reasonable, because it was Marinette having to face a super villain without super powers, and anyone would look at that situation and probably make that judgement call no matter how confident in their abilities they were.
There are 2 more seasons of this show planned out. I completely expect there to be more moments of Marinette questioning her abilities, of being hard on herself for any mistake she might make because it’s natural to do this, especially with all the pressures that comes with being a super hero. But there is a very big different between that and the near self-loathing I see people portray her having, to the point where it’s a generally accepted head canon that Marinette’s desire to keep her identity a secret from Chat Noir was born from crippling insecurities, despite there being absolutely no evidence for this.
It’s precisely this trope in fandom that inspired me to write this entire thing. There are a lot of problems I have with this, from the mischaracterization of Marinette, to the blame that’s put solely on her shoulders for keeping her and Chat Noir’s identity a secret from each other. Before I delve into this though, everyone, keep writing what you’re writing. If you like this trope, have at it, please. The last thing I want to do is like… dictate what people should and shouldn’t write. I just find it worth criticizing only because it seems to be across the board that this characterization of Marinette is canon, when there’s very little evidence for it, and in fact, there was a clear dichotomy set up between Ladybug and Chat Noir and how they view this whole secret identity business that’s rarely explored, but more on that later.
When the issue of secret identities is first brought up in great detail, it’s in Lady Wifi. We see for the first time how desperate Chat Noir was to know who’s behind Ladybug’s mask. He’s in love with her after all, and he wants to get to know all of her. So he pleaded with her to drop the mask. Here was Ladybug’s response;
She even smiled at him consolingly before shutting the door behind her. Now, to me this reaction isn’t screaming defensive. If anything, it is completely empathetic to Chat Noir’s desire to learn who she is, so it’s safe to assume, to me anyway, that she would also like to know who he is too. But here’s the thing about Ladybug; despite how frazzled she can get in certain situations (usually involving Adrien), she is someone who thinks with her head. She even said it;
Can we just dissect that line for a second though? She decided to listen to her head despite what her heart was saying. So this meant her heart was telling her to reveal herself to Chat Noir. She wants to. He’s her partner and I’m sure she loves him as a dear friend at this point. But she was faced with an emotional decision vs. a logical one, and she chose the logical route.
But people portray her as making this decision emotionally, through a desire to keep her superhero life and civilian life separate because she doesn’t want Chat Noir, and generally people she cares about, to be disappointed that she’s Ladybug. And this is just so, so wrong. Not only is there nothing to back this up, it often completely ignores the age-old trope of keeping this a secret purely for their own physical safety, as well as their loved ones.
It’s taken so much farther than this though. I’ve seen it far too often that the weight of this decision of put entirely onto Ladybug’s shoulders, and 9 times out of 10 she’s shown to be the unreasonable one when it comes to keeping her identity a secret despite it being the smart thing to do. 9 times out of 10, this portrayal seems to be used for the sole purpose of making Chat Noir out to be the silently suffering, but oh so patient friend that’s just waiting for Ladybug to stop being overly defensive about her identity.
I think that’s the part that really upsets me, if I’m thinking on it. Chat Noir is more popular than Ladybug in the fandom, and treated a lot more… softly, than her, and I think it really shows in this trope. In a situation where Ladybug kindly turned down Chat Noir’s offer to learn each others identities for logical reasons, it’s often twisted into this emotionally damaging situation, where Ladybug is so insecure that she’s the one dealing all of the emotional damage to Chat Noir in order to protect herself. In a situation where Chat Noir’s desire to know who she is to the point of nearly opening that door despite her wishes can be summed up as reckless and disrespectful (and thank god he decided not to, because he’s so much better than that), Ladybug is the one who is always written to be in the wrong.
I can’t see how keeping their identity a secret is not the right course of action to take. As far as I see it, Ladybug is just thinking ahead. What if one of them got captured and was forced to disclose who their partner was? What would have happened if Chat Noir knew who Ladybug was, and he was put under the control of an akuma? There would be nothing to stop him from letting the world know who Ladybug was. Generally though, this is just superhero 101 stuff. There was nothing personal about the decision Ladybug came to, so whether you think them knowing each other behind the mask is a safety issue or not, it doesn’t change that Ladybug clearly thought it was. Why would she say that it was a decision made with her head, if there was some personal reason behind it?
Also, I think ignoring that she came to this decision by using her head ruins the wonderful dichotomy set up between her and Chat Noir. Right after Adrien left the hotel after deciding to not peak in on Ladybug while she detransformed, Plagg asked him, “What were you thinking?” referring to him missing out on the chance to peak in on Ladybug. Adrien simply said he wasn’t thinking, that he was following his heart. His heart was telling him to listen to what she wanted, so in his own way he also came to the decision to keep their identities a secret. This scene is directly juxtaposed by the next one, with Marinette coming to the same decision, but by using her head and not her heart.
So here you have Ladybug wanting their identities to be kept secret because it’s logical and thus safer for everyone. It makes sense. Chat Noir is the opposite. His decision to close that door and not peak wasn’t made because he saw the sense in her decision, and we can presume this because he follows this up by saying it was a decision made with his heart. One can assume he meant that he wanted to respect Ladybug’s wishes, rather than agreeing with her that this was the right thing to do. There’s just so much writing material to unpack in that alone, but it can’t be seen if most of the fandom ignores Ladybug as the one who thinks logically in the partnership.
I’m not really sure what I’m trying to do with this analysis besides getting all my feelings out about this character. It was just something I felt desperately needed pointing out, not just because it mischaracterizes Marinette, but I find that she’s often treated very unfairly by fandom for the decision to keep her identity a secret. It can’t all be put onto her shoulders. She’s not hiding this because she feels unworthy of the title, despite how it might hurt Chat Noir. She’s just being smart. If anything, Chat Noir could have been classified as being reckless for wanting to know who she is, but this is something I rarely if ever seen brought up by the fandom.
To sum it up, well… I guess what I’m trying to say more frankly is I wish fandom would give Marinette a break. She’s a lot more secure in herself as a person, logical, and empathetic of Chat Noir’s feelings than people often give her credit for.
remember how during the year that never was that woman sold martha out, but when things were back to normal martha brought her flowers because she understood why she did it and still respected her
even as so much of the fandom was hating on martha like mad, martha jones herself refused to villainize other women for the choices they made in difficult circumstances. and the more brilliant and badass and wonderful martha is, the sadder it makes people look for hating on her.