“You don’t seem like you have a disorder”

Well yeah because I get shunned every time I show signs.

Dating Someone With Borderline Personality Disorder

by Darian Rehder (someone who has BPD) 

Things to Understand: 

1.
Their moods change a lot. This is not your fault most of the time. They just feel a lot, and when they’re attached to someone it can make their feelings stronger. It doesn’t mean that they feel all those things about you all the time. 

2. They probably think you’re going to leave them about every day, sometimes more often. If they ask you if you still like them, it’s because they honestly don’t know if you still do. They need to hear it often.

3. If they get randomly angry in the middle of something that you don’t think needs that kind of response, it is usually because something has triggered them. Learn what triggers the person you’re with, so you can both work to prevent it. 

4. Because they feel intense emotions, they also feel love and happiness at large proportions. This is great, because it means they really appreciate their relationships! 

5. Their minds are often on the most emotionally simulating things in their lives, because emotions this strong are hard to ignore. This means you’re probably on their mind a lot. 

6. They do not want to hurt you, if they truly love you. Sometimes when they get angry or depressed or anxious they feel like they need to hurt you or run away or that they don’t love you. This isn’t true, and they often regret or don’t stand by their emotional breakdowns after awhile. Sometimes immediately. 

Things You Can Do:

1. Validate their emotions. Never call them too emotional, needy, dramatic, intense, etc. even if they call themselves that. 

2. Don’t make promises you can’t keep. Chances are, they really do hold onto your words. 

3. If you are uncomfortable or need a break from them, which is okay, explain it in a way that makes them sure you aren’t going to leave and that you still love them or care about them. 

4. Do something that makes them feel loved and cared for.

5. If they’re in the midst of some negative emotion, don’t say anything judgmental, don’t tell them what to do, and don’t fight with them. This would be a good time to say something reassuring and kind with no judgmental or controlling undertones. If this doesn’t work and it seems to be going in a loop, refer to number three or continue to tell them how important they are to you. 

6. Remember that there are truths to everyone. Your person might feel like something is very sad, and it may not affect you at all. It doesn’t mean either of you are wrong to feel that way. 

7. Spend lots of time with them! Spending time and using your actions is a good way to reassure someone of your love. 

8. Learn what they love and learn what really upsets them. It’s always good to know someone and work to avoid hurting them. They can do this for you too! 

9. Don’t take things to heart. I know this is hard, but when someone with BPD has a breakdown, they often say things that they don’t truly stand by in the end. When they apologize, they often mean it with their whole heart. 

10. NEVER ignore them, unless you absolutely have to. If you can’t talk or don’t want to talk, explain this to them instead of ignoring their messages. When you ignore them, they assume you are going to leave them or that something is wrong. 

Reasons Why Being with Someone Who Has BPD is NOT Bad

1. Their intense emotions are biological, in most cases. It’s the same thing as having less emotions. It is not a bad thing to feel deeply. 

2. They, most likely, love you with all their heart. BPD people have the biggest hearts and really will work to do nice things for you and make you feel loved. 

3. They are most likely loyal as hell, and will put a lot of time and energy into you. 

4. Like any mental illness, BPD is something people do not want to have. This fact will help you remember that they are not deliberately trying to hurt you in any way and really do wish they didn’t have BPD. This is why they ARE NOT ABUSIVE 

5. All relationships need work. Communicating and working together can actually strengthen the bond you two have. 

6. It can be helpful for someone with BPD to have a relationship so they can practice ways to manage their emotions and actions. Chances are, the longer you’re with them, the more comfortable they will be with you. 

7. They’re always there for you too! All people with BPD that I know, including myself, are very good at talking about issues and helping others with problems. If you want to talk, you can count on them to give you all of their effort to help. 

8. Imagine dating someone with no emotions. That’d be probably a lot harder! Appreciate the deepness of your person’s feelings. It can make life a lot easier! 

9. If they are in a relationship with you, it’s probably because they want to be with you. Keep this in mind when they start feeling negatively. 

10. It’s a relationship! That’s always fun. It will have challenges like all relationships, but remembering that you are with someone you love will always make it easier. 

-Darian 

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This is a set of sketches and a story I did senior year of College for a small book I wanted to make as a personal project. It never came to completion but I have adapted the themes into a concept for a 2 part anthology I plan making someday in the future. I called it dissociation, which essentially means a disconnect between two things because I’ve always felt that my thoughts, actions, and emotions function in a lot of different pieces rather than one whole working mechanism.

A list of reasons why you should all watch skam

-it has a great plot, it’s a young adult/ teenager show without any of the romanticized bs. it’s honest.

-the actors really know how to act, i mean really. they’re great.

-the casting is perfect. no 25 year olds pretending to be 16. the high school students are played by actual high school students. 

-it has a perfect portrayal of mental illnesses, again none of that romanticized bs. 

-it’s real. the characters don’t get their happily ever after as soon as they find love. they’re stupid, they make mistakes, they have problems. they’re actual teenagers just living their lives. 

-the characters are insanely lovable. i mean just look at isak. 

-there is actual character development. the characters are people not 2D robots. 

-it also shows religions and being a different religion perfectly. sana makes me wanna start shouting FINALLY A CORRECT PORTRAYAL OF MUSLIM WOMEN. HIJABS DON’T STOP US.OUR RELIGION DOESN’T STOP US. WE’RE BADASS PEOPLE. 

- it’s against slut shaming. noora fights slut shaming like a boss.

- they explore the characters identities and different themes and all their problems and lives and i get this sounds similar to something i said before but the characters are real people.  

you fall in love with it to the point it’s hard to stop watching it. 


just watch it.  

Fun New 2k17 Trend:

Stop making disabled and mentally ill people do what makes them uncomfortable, upset, or distressed 👌 just an idea since we’re sick of it! Ty.

Walking to school, a poem

Alarm
Snooze
Alarm
Snooze
Alarm
Snooze
Alarm
Snooze
Get up
Find the cats
Get dressed
Didn’t grab your ID
Didn’t grab your ID
Didn’t grab your ID
Change back into your pjs
Grab ID
Grab ID
Grab ID
Get dressed
Wash face
Find the cats
Put on jacket
Grab keys
Lock deadlock
Unlock deadlock
Lock deadlock
Unlock deadlock
Lock deadlock
Unlock deadlock
Open door
Walk outside (don’t look right)
Close door
Right face
Walk to elevator
Didn’t step off with left
Walk back
Walk back
Walk back
Rub your eyes three times
Step off with left
Walk to elevator
Push down three times
Count seconds
Fuck it’s the right elevator
Rub your legs three times
Blink three times
Enter elevator
About face
One step right
Push button
Hold breath going down
Count seconds till it opens
Three steps forward
Right face
Five steps forward
Open door with right hand
Two steps per cement block, left first
Don’t step on grass
Don’t step on cracks
Look down
Look down
Look down
Right flank
Crosswalk
Stop
Stop
Stop
Look left
Look right
Look left
Walk across
Only step on white
Only step on white
Only step on white
Left flank
Left
Right
Left
Right
Stepped on a crack
Stepped on a crack
Stepped on a crack
Back to crosswalk
Back to crosswalk
Back to crosswalk
1
2
1
2
Stepped on a new block with your right foot
Stepped on a new block with your right foot
Stepped on a new block with your right foot
Changestep
1
2
Stop mouthing numbers, people think you’re crazy
Stop mouthing numbers, people think you’re crazy
Stop mouthing numbers, people think you’re crazy
Crosswalk
Stop
Look left
Look right
Look left
Only step on white
Only step on white
Only step on white
Right flank
Count the words graffitied on the construction equipment
Left flank
Don’t step on the grass
Don’t step on the grass
Don’t step on the grass
You’re late for class
Don’t cry, people already think you’re crazy
Don’t tell the teacher why you’re late
Don’t tell the teacher why you’re late
Don’t tell the teacher why you’re late


Stop saying you’re “ocd” just because you’re organized, besides, that’s not the right syntax, stop. You’re making me sick, you’ll never know what it’s like.

Life with a personality disorder is not a “roller coaster.” I stand in line waiting for a roller coaster, eagerly awaiting to take the ride.

Life with a personality disorder is more like owning a pet chimpanzee. Outside observers think they are so quirky, but chances are good that when all is said and done, this thing will rip my skin off.

Potential Health Issues seen through Astrology Charts


When Looking at an individual horoscope there are several places you may see where potential health concerns can occur.  The most major one is the sign ruling the 6th house cusp.   Planets in the 6th house can also bring the health afflictions that can be brought on by the body functions and parts they rule over.  If you use Placidus you may look at at both Placidus and Whole signs’ 6th house cusps (and planets) to determine what afflictions can occur.  Another condition that can cause health issues can be Sun and sign it’s in. This is simply because the Sun rules over the physical vitality.

In the natal birth chart the conditions mentioned above can show lifelong chronic health conditions or potential dispositions as life goes.  If suffering from an ongoing health condition transits to the 6th house ruler may agitate or alleviate them temporarily.  Transits to the sun may also in some cases cause this effect.  A planet transiting the personal 6th house may cause a possible trigger of one of these conditions as well in extreme circumstances.

It is recommended to use this information with contemplation in learning how to prepare to navigate the potential these conditions can come to pass. Prevention is the best medicine.

Now the Conditions:


Aries on 6th House Cusp (Scorpio Ascendant) / Sun in Aries / Mars in 6th House

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What ADD is...

So I saw a post going around on what ADHD is and I thought I would make one for ADD as well, so people can understand the difference a bit better hopefully. First off I just want to say it is a spectrum and different types, and you can get burst of different types (at least from my experience with it!). This is my own Inattentive type experience and please do not take it as gospel!! <3

ADD is…

- Losing track of time and having no recollection of where the time went.

- Having impulses that are difficult to control 

- Having people ask you to do things and going to do them only to realize you’ve forgotten what you have to do

- Going to great lengths to try and not forget something but forgetting it anyway

- Only half remembering statistics or getting facts and other knowledge all switched around in your head which leads to thinking you are untrustworthy or gullible

- Knowing your side if the argument is completely right and would prevent bad things from happening but being unable to explain it properly.

- Tripping over your speech before just giving up on even talking

- Sometimes just not even having the energy to talk

- Sometimes being unable to drag yourself out of your daydream state

- Not being able to focus on many things at once because it mentally and physically exhausts you (unable to focus on socializing alongside work or other hobbies)

- Not having the energy to clean a lot of the time due to it taking too much energy you have already used on just focusing on things

- Not being able to think on the spot, like if someone asks you a simple math question out of the blue.

Just a little bit of my experiences with it! Let me know if you have Inattentive ADD and feel these as well!!

szpd things

• do I actually like them or am I just gonna be tired of them in two days

• I’m glad you trust me enough to vent but please don’t trust me enough to vent

• People thinking you’re always irritated/sad/mad (because you barely speak and usually just politely nod) but you’re completely fine

• “What are your plans for the weekend?” “Being alone”

• Having to exaggerate your reaction to everything so people think you actually feel things

• being forced to work in groups and your worry isn’t not finding a partner- it’s having to be around others

• *isolates for 3 days after saying hi to the mailman because that was enough to exhaust you*

It hurts

It hurts so bad to be in so much pain, but to be told that you aren’t. It hurts to be so undermined, minimized, mocked, or invalidated.

Please never tell someone with a chronic mental/physical disorder that they “are ok/not in as much pain as they claim” just because they’re “functioning” to a certain extent.

Please don’t. You have no idea.
I have no words for this, because it still just hurts so bad to even think people you trust can think or say this sometimes. I can’t think of any other words.

Just please, do not undermine, invalidate, or minimize the effort and pain it takes to pull off that “functioning.” It’s so hard– you have no way of knowing how “ok” someone is just because they’re “functioning” a certain way to you.
It’s never ok to say stuff like:

“Well you look ok, are you sure you have ____?”
“You seem ok because you are able to do _____ ”
“You’re not as bad as you seem because you’re saying/doing _____”

-Please respect those of us with disorders/disabilities and our efforts, struggle, and variability per person, day,
and moment.

-Undermining the pain also undermines the never ending effort of taking care of yourself and/or recovery, or the like. It’s incredibly disrespectful.

-Don’t make it seem like we have to go around with a sign on our forehead of our diagnosis or explain over and over why we have the disorder/disability and why it’s hard.

-If you genuinely don’t understand, it may be ok to ask sometimes. Ask respectfully. Don’t say,
“You seem ok! I don’t understand.” Say,“I don’t understand and I’d like to.”
There’s a difference between statements like that.

-Educate yourself. Listen. Don’t assume.

-No one should have to “prove” their symptoms and disorder/disability to you. Don’t make it seem like you don’t believe them. This can also be incredibly dangerous.

-But also please stop mocking or minimizing our struggles by means of, “OMG I totally feel that way too/I googled it and I totally get that too/OMG I have this too!” Especially when someone tries to explain it or opens up about it.
It’s totally disrespectful.

-It’s beyond difficult. Some days and moments are better than others, but it doesn’t mean we are “ok” or “cured” or “faking it.”

And I am so hurt because I trusted you