Somestimes I want to write and am very excited about it, but then remember there is bravevulnerability, oliviet, chezchuckles, etc, etc, etc :( Please, no sermons on the subject. Just wanted to share how I feel
Well you said no sermons, so I’ll just quickly say;
If you get excited about it then go for it!! Even if you are too scared to publish, like if you enjoy it then why not? It’s so difficult not to compare, I know, but if the joy outweighs it then try not to let it stop you :D
as some of you are undoubtedly aware, i’m doing a panel this weekend discussing Gender Roles and Alternate Lifestyles in Genre Fiction, and i need to come up with five or six questions exploring this topic to promote discussion among the panelists. i would love for some help in this matter as i’m not sure how broad or specific i should be with each question, and i’m not sure what people will find interesting.
so… my question for you guys is:
what types of topics related to gender roles and alternate lifestyles in genre fiction would you find interesting? what sort of questions would you like to see answered?
It’s very easy to see why Swift might have thought the tweets were about her, and why they might have made her want to say something. Minaj’s mention of “other girls” with “very slim bodies” may very well have been in reference to Swift (after all, very slim Swift and bootylicious Beyoncé are the only two women nominated for Video of the Year).
But as Minaj herself pointed out, nowhere in her tweets did she actually name or blame Swift for her grievances. Instead, she was speaking to her own experiences as a black female artist, and her observations on the ways she feels body politics, racism, and sexism within the industry and society at large have affected her career. She was calling out a system that favors women like Swift, a system that Swift is complicit in whether she likes it or not. There is a lot that can be picked apart here. Minaj did get three nominations in major categories for both “Anaconda” and “Feeling Myself” – just not Video of the Year and Best Choreography.
And yet it’s too simplistic to label Minaj as greedy or cocky for wanting to be recognized for the biggest award of the night. The fact that an artist as insanely successful as Minaj – an artist who in a lot of ways conforms to the beauty standards of acceptable blackness (light skin, “good” hair, “thick” but with a tiny waist) – still feels a racial disparity is significant, and should be acknowledged.
The way Swift responded was the opposite of acknowledgement.
Calling out White Feminism isn’t about demonizing all white feminists, or erasing the history of feminism and the role white women (and all women) have played in it. It isn’t about attacking women like Taylor Swift, who in recent years has proudly taken on the feminist mantle. And coming to Minaj’s defense does not mean that she epitomizes what it means to be a “good feminist,” while Swift epitomizes everything wrong with the movement.
But. Intersectionality is real, it’s important and it’s integral – the popularity of the#SolidarityIsForWhiteWomen hashtag, which called out the imbalances in feminist online media in 2013, signals as much. White Feminism turns Taylor Swift into the victim and Nicki Minaj into the bully. It cries “women make 78 cents to the dollar of men” but forgets that the missing qualifier is “white” – black and Hispanic women make far less. It compells Swift to say Minaj’s words “pit women against each other” instead of forcing her to examine how her whiteness and her thin body have contributed to her success.
There’s one thing Minaj wrote in the exchange that should perhaps be the biggest takeaway for Swift and those who support her.
“I love you just as much,” Minaj wrote. “But you should speak on this.”
This "strega fashion" thing is so inappropriate. Most of you guys arent even italian. Im really sad and disappointed that you support it.
I thought that the latest discussions about the term ended up with people deciding that using the Italian word for witch to describe the fashion was not appropriative? It doesn’t seem any more appropriative to me than someone using the English word “witch”.
I also use another term I’ve seen: “Black Forest Mori”, but other people didn’t latch onto it has strongly as they did “strega”.
BUT, I’m interested in hearing what other people think! So let’s open this up for discussion - speak up folks! Using the word “strega” as in “strega fashion” - okay, or appropriative as hell and we should knock it off?
I was wondering if Arabs/ Middle Eastern people are considered POC? Also, I think I read somewhere that Jewish people were considered to be non-white before WWII. Is that accurate? Thanks!
Yup! And that’s also true. Our view of race is socially constructed and has changed over time. I read this essay for my women of color class by a Jewish woman called “How Jews Became White Folks” and it explores the way Jewish people slowly gained access to the affirmative action that White people received after World War II and how over time they began to be seen as White and gained privilege. It was a really interesting and informative read!
Besides all the strega nonsense, aunt jilli it makes me sad that you agree with ppl that use the terms "cultural appropriation" and "political correctness" with disdain. May i ask what your feelings are on CA?
I believe that cultural appropriation is a real thing, and that people need to be damn careful about it. Remember when I asked about bridal saris and such, asking if using them as part of a gothy Victorian wardrobe was appropriative?
If someone is going to use a symbol or item from a culture, that someone needs to do their research and know if their referencing it would be disrespectful, or cause people grief or harm. So, don’t wear warbonnets, don’t use the term g*psy, don’t get symbols tattooed if you don’t know what they mean, and so on.
But, in this specific instance and as many other people commented, “strega” means witch. It doesn’t have any Italian-specific connotations or references, it means witch. Just like striga, strzyga, strix, hexe, bruja, stria, or gwrach. So using it as a descriptor for a fashion isn’t that far of a stretch, and isn’t intended to be disrespectful.
As for “political correctness” - I am wary of the phrase for a lot of reasons, but mostly because it gets wielded as a dismissive shorthand to shut conversations down. I think the phrase is pointless, because it should never be about saying the “correct” things, it should be about treating everyone with respect. HOWEVER, there are times when it feels like (especially on tumblr) someone is looking to be offended by something at all times. Which is why, when someone pings me about cultural appropriation, my usual reaction is to make a public post and ask for discussion. I don’t want to live in an echo chamber, but I will always ask for discussion and references about something.
With that said: if I say something hurtful, insensitive, or culturally appropriative, let me know. I may not agree with your interpretation, but I will try and acknowledge something I did was interpreted not as I intended.
I’ve asked everyone to consider why they think it’s important to have
more complex, intelligent, strong, positive female characters on
television. It might seem like a dumb question, because duh, obviously
it’s good to have more of those types of females to look up to in media.
But I really don’t think the “powers that be” get it. I think writers
get it, and individuals who work on our favourite shows get it, but the people in charge don’t seem to understand what we’re looking for. I
believe we have to spell it out for them, in very personal terms. It
might not make a difference, but I think it’s an important dialogue that
needs to be had.
That said, my own reasons are probably fairly
common, but still deeply personal. As a child, I was shy, and quiet, and
awkward, and had I not been born in the 80s, I’m guessing they would
have caught on to an Autism spectrum disorder at that time. I was very
interested in science and mythology and things that weren’t considered
“cool.” I loved to read, and play by myself, and I never thought it was
weird until other kids would point out that I was weird. That’s why it
was so wonderful to have characters like Matilda, Alex Mack, Eliza
Thornbury, and Miss Frizzle to look up to as a kid. Here were girls and
women who were quiet but powerful, intelligent and unapologetic,
independent yet fiercely loyal and strong. They read and loved science
and biology and had secret powers that they used for good. They made me
feel that I could be a girl and be smart and love to read and still be a
“normal” girl. I wanted their magic powers, sure, but it was okay that I
didn’t have them, because their powers weren’t what made them great
As a teenager, I loved watching Bones because an
intelligent female scientist, a powerful but gentle female investigator,
and an innovative and passionate female forensic artist led the show. I
saw some of myself in each of them, and it made me anxious to pursue my
passions in science and art. I loved Charmed because it was a show
about positive female relationships, and how women could work together
to achieve great things.
I hated shows like The Real World
because women were frequently pitted against one another for no reason
other than to create controversy. I think far too often in media, drama
and cattiness are valued above cohesion and support amongst women and girls in particular. I understand that
those dramatic moments increase ratings, but at what cost? Kids really
do absorb media like a sponge. I’m so glad that I had positive female
role models to look up to in my formative years.
That’s why I
think it’s important to show those types of characters on TV. Not just
for girls- for everyone. The majority of women in the real world are a
little mix of a lot of things: attractive AND kind, or intelligent AND
funny, loving AND independent, or strong AND flawed. Women on TV should
be representative of that, for the girls and women looking up to them,
for the boys and men desperate to understand them, and for the people who
feel alone or “other” who might use them as a guiding light.
wasn’t built in a day, but I think a lot of good can come from
recognizing the issues and talking about them. So what’s your story? Why
do you want to see more great female characters in media?
“But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.” Matthew 5:44 NIV
“All who fear the Lord will hate evil.” Proverbs 8:13 NLT
Satan is God’s evil enemy, so does God love him or hate him?
"God is Love" 1 John 4:16 … So Can God hate?
This question popped into my head when I was reading John. Literally popped into my head. It was such a sudden thought, that I really felt like God gave me this question for a reason. I’m not sure if he wants me to try and answer myself it or just to spread it around for people to think about. Well, there’s no harm in doing both right?
Here were my initial ideas on the question:
I think that in order to have a standard of love, you have to know a standard of hate. I also feel that since we humans are capable of hate, and we’re made like God, that means that he is capable of hate…the only difference is God hates what is evil. We humans are more childish, and hate things more easily than God.
So now I’m also wondering, is evil inside of Satan or is Satan pure evil?
If evil is only inside of Satan, than God does’t hate Satan, he hates the evil inside of him. Buttt, if Satan is pure evil, then that raises my initial question again.
Ok, so I texted this same question to a few people and here are some of my responses:
Here’s another one from my pastor:
I also texted a friend who texted her pastor Trevor the same question. Here’s what her pastor said. It’s very similar to what my pastor said, but in the end their opinions differ. Pay attention to Trevor’s analogies:
“When God says we are to love our enemies we have to ask, who are our enemies in this context? Other people. When God says we are to love our enemies, Satan and his demons are not part of that group. Though they are our enemies, but this context it is clearly people. This is from the Sermon on the Mount and Matt 5.43 Jesus is saying you have heard to love your neighbor (people, Satan and demons are not neighbors) and to hate your enemy. Then he goes on to say, I tell you now in this age to go a step further and love your enemy and pray for those who persecute you (again people).
In regard to whether or not God loves or hates Satan, I would say this…
God is love, and He hates Satan’s action, He hates what Satan has done and will do, and He will judge Satan accordingly. However, God created Satan, and in accordance to who God is, I would argue that God does love Satan in the fact that Satan is a created being which God created. Don’t misunderstand me though. God will aggressively judge Satan when the time comes, in fact judgment has already been passed it just hasn’t arrived yet.
God can hate, b/c He hates all evil.
One cannot be love if one cannot hate. B/c love is not the acceptance of all things, but the acceptance of only some things.
Example; if you say you love pizza, yet show the same kind of affection and preference to all kinds of food, do you really love pizza? No.
Now, let me back up some. Satan is pure evil now, wasn’t always, but is now. When I say God probably loves Satan, I say that in the sense of a parent who loves their child who has grown up to be Hitler. (Does that make sense?) And perhaps I am wrong, maybe God has no love for Satan, but I would need something in Scripture to clearly state that. After all, God is love, and His great mercy will amaze us on the day of judgment.” -Trevor
What do you guys think of all this?
Do you agree? Do you disagree? Would anyone online be interested in exploring this with me further? Please share your opinions! I’d love to hear everyone’s take on this.
Summary: Every year on our town we have a weekend where people can sign up and get a 6ft x 6ft square and a box of chalk pastels. It’s a massive event, more than 500 people signed up this year and even more came just to see the art; it’s called chalkfest. On the second day, or sunday, all the artists receive a ballot to vote on whom they feel are the top 5 artists.
Last year i was on crutches and couldn’t do a square by myself; so, I asked my cousin Sarah to help me. The pic from last years chalkfest is on my tumblr somewhere.
We ended up winning the “artists choice award”, which means that the next year we get to work on a bigger, more public space of our town square- named the 400 block- and we get free chalk pastels.
In the blink of an eye it was almost time for chalkfest again. My cousin and I both agreed that we wanted to do something that was artistic but also had a message. I, being very involved in black equality and rights, felt that I wanted to “wake up” our primarily white and Asian Wisconsin town to the struggles of the black community. My cousin, being the gem she is, agreed with my idea. I found the picture on pinterest but could not find the artist(s) who had originally created the piece.
As we worked on our piece we got a lot of compliments on it, and a lot of people said that they would stop by later to see it finished. A majority of the compliments were about our art skills and how pretty the piece looked. The names, locations, and quotes were the last thing to be added. Once we started to add them the comments we received immediately changed. Instead of commenting on the beauty of the piece we started to here “those must be those people killed” and “those quotes are so sad”. A few people came up to us and thanked us for bringing awareness to our community.
Later that day I received multiple texts, snap chats, and Facebook messages telling me about how they “received the message” of our piece. I was really proud of my community and my friends. Although this doesn’t mean that racism in my town is over, it is creating discussion and bringing awareness to the issues of black people.
A lot of black women do not have a fat ass and a skinny waist with perfect curves. Stop perpetuating these harmful stereotypes and stop pressuring black women to conform to your backwards ass mentality. Stop generalizing us as thick. We are more than just our bodies. Y’all on here acting like you love black women but that’s a lie because the only black women shown love have a certain shape (hour glass), thinness or conventional beauty. ALL BLACK WOMEN NEED SUPPORT AND LOVE. NOT JUST THE “BAD” ONE’S.
We got celebrities out here LYING their asses off to promote shit FOR MONEY. If you are a millionaire why the hell would you waste time waist training when you can have a doctor suck the fat right out of your body? They can literally build whatever body they want. (Some of the images used are not of black women but other races of women have tried to get a bigger rear end and super skinny waist because of how popular BM/BW have made that shape. 8 years ago white women did not give a shit about having a big ass. Why do you think you’d hear WW say on TV “Does this make my butt look big” with great worry? It’s a trend now so everyone wants it)
Their shapes are amazing but not every black girl will attain this, everyone grows into the shape they genetically inherited so why should we be ashamed of it? This message isn’t for everyone, it’s for those who have felt like something was wrong with them because they weren’t “thick enough” or the right kind of “thick”. We need to promote body positivity within the black community for our black women because this shit is harming young black women. I just saw a video posted on the shaderoom’s IG and it was Nicki before her alleged plastic surgery to enhance her butt. In the comments people laughing, saying she had no ass, had a bad shape, was not a real Trini etc. Hmmm. So she changed her body to fit what OUR community deems as “right” and now y’all are bashing her for it? It’s just so hypocritical. If we get something done we’re fake/plastic but if we don’t we’re teased and we even have our identity questioned and I’m tired of this. I’ve seen so called pro-black users/blogs perpetuate the same bullshit. Maybe it was not intentional but the damage is still done. We need to realize the dangers of stereotyping black women’s bodies. This is not an attack, but a concern raised by a black woman who does not fit your stereotypes. Answer in our inbox or reply directly to the post. What are your thoughts?