discussing someone who is so important to both of them


I’ve seen you have discussions with a couple of my mutuals on here and I thought maybe I could bring some clarity. You have been very critical of people who are both pro-choice and anti-abortion despite them being your allies on a legal level. So here’s my question for you.

Which is more important: That someone agrees with you on an emotional level or that someone agrees with you on a legal level?

[Note: Personally, I am FULLY pro-choice, not anti-abortion.]

It’s so easy to get caught up in negative spirals, being concerned with perception, feeling the urge to defend others, being invested in the dialog around current events. We feel personally responsible for the things that we care about and the things that are important to us, as we should be. It’s important though to protect yourself and be mindful of the energy you put out when discussing sensitive topics with others. It’s so easy to slide in a personal judgement or projection, but remember even if others share this judgement, they are still personal ones colored by their shared experiences. When disparaging someone who has a different perspective, in a way one also disparages the experiences they have had that have led them to have that perspective. Try to be respectful of both their perspective and their struggles. #Love4OneAnother


This was a prompt I did not know I needed but am glad to have gotten!! Most of the ones I have so far are vague and probably pretty standard, but I’m hoping as I get through Act 6 and they meet up again I’ll find more ideas!!

John/Rose platonic headcanons:

-Rose knits things for John all the time. I imagine she knits stuff for her friends frequently as gifts, but focuses especially on John since he’s the one who inspired her to knit in the first place (though initially the thought may have crossed her mind to do it as a playful jab to his ‘you need a hobby’ commentary by drowning him in knit items). John has no idea why she’s doing this, he’s just glad to see firsthand she really likes her hobby.

-Rose is a better video gaming companion than Jade as far as John is concerned, and since they’re the first ones who played Sburb together they probably associate each other with being good for game nights together. That said, their taste in games just barely overlaps, and their sessions are often lopsided depending on who picked the game for the night.

-Obviously, almost any headcanon of Rose interaction with another is going to involve snark and sassery. John and Rose’s version of this is giving each other a hard time for dumb or silly shit they’ve done in the past, moreso than Rose would do with the others. Examples of this include the infamous bathtub/toilet/car/etc mishaps at the beginning of Sburb (probably brought up by John during game nights) and John’s sloppy awkward “marriage proposal” (just frequently referenced by Rose when discussing how things turned out,  but especially dropped more often when in earshot of Karkat who started the whole mess. They then both will give Karkat a hard time about the shipping chart he made, with Dave joining in if he’s around)

-Rose uses John as a knitting practice dummy, John uses Rose as a jokes/pranks practice dummy. He’ll frequently set her up with harmless pranks to get her to crack a grin. Rose will often play it off by acting like it wasn’t that funny, but usually it’s obvious she thinks otherwise. John considers the joke/prank reached its ultimate potential if he can bypass the playing it off reaction for just real, unaffected laughter or smiling. Rose is a hard customer when it comes to such things, after all, which is probably why she’s such a good target. She’s also a very good sport about such things, compared to how the others will sometimes react.

-They’ll both sometimes get caught up in word games with each other. This is usually a game where they try to outdo each other by finding the most absurd way to phrase a sentiment. A good example of this is their ‘asinine tomfoolery > unmitigated poppycock > extravagant hogwash” exchange in Act One (I think. That or early Act Two)

-Rose and John trade movie and book recommendations to each other. They do this on a principle of “if I watch one of your movies, you must read one of my books” and vice versa. If one can’t finish the recommended media, the other gets a free pass to drop a recommendation. Doing this when knowing they’re both disinterested in each other’s tastes is a bit of passive-aggressive play, but it actually helps them bond better since they better understand the other. And also provides ammo for giving each other a hard time.

-Sometimes they’ll remember the day they found their respective guardians dead, and will talk to each other about it. About how it felt, what they carry with them, what seeing each other dead was like… These are things that weigh on Rose’s mind a lot, and while she’s probably open to discussing it, John doesn’t open up to anyone else about it most of the time, so these moments are always  very important for the both of them. This is also something that’s easier for them to discuss since they were both there for it, and while Jade and Dave and the others of course experienced guardian deaths, it’s not the same as talking to someone who was there in that dark time.

-On a more vague note, I headcanon Rose being fairly indoorsy and John a little more active and stircrazy, so they probably influence each other in finding activities and hobbies that are opposite their natural tendencies. This could be as simple as Rose reading or knitting outside more ( most likely a result of them hanging out outdoors so John can do cartwheels, handstands, and just overall goofing around while Rose talks to him), or could be more influential like John discovering he likes reading on certain subjects that weren’t before in his scope of interests.

-I also feel like John’s one of the earlier influences in Rose’s life that helped her learn to trust other’s intentions, while Rose helped John learn to grow a good thick skin for fooling around and playful jabs at each other, and things like that.

-I think of John and Rose as winter buddies, given their initial climates growing up seemed capable of having actual winters. While Jade enjoys playing in the snow, her and Dave probably never quite know what to do with it, while John and Rose can occasionally let loose and romp in it without getting too cold. It usually starts with John trying to build something out of the snow, usually a crappy Slimer Ghost, and ends with Rose and John collaborating to build some eldritch horror or giant lusus that takes up half the lawn or something.

I’m sure these don’t sound very platonic-specific, but I just see all of the Beta Kids as super close friends in their own ways, so a lot of what they do when interacting with each other involves close activities too, I guess. I don’t ship Rose and John at all though, which might be why I easily think of these as platonic. I hope you enjoyed some of these!! If I think of any more I’ll be sure to add them!

anonymous asked:

Maybe we could do UT Main 4 headcanons about them being aware or remembering the Hyperdeath fight?



- It feels like a nightmare at first, just vague flashes of something…strange. Something familiar but foggy. He’s not sure whether to take it seriously to or write it off as a bad dream. But then he remembers–it’s best to always take those feelings seriously.

- He has no idea what really happened to him. All he remembers is being…taken by something. & then feeling HoPeless. Feeling…Lost. Like there was a part of his SOUL that had been erased, & all that was left was some sort of shell.

- To say it brings him closer to Frisk is an understatement. The kid literally brought him back from nothing, through sheer will & Determination. The fact that they cared enough about him to even do such a thing…he’ll never be able to thank them enough.


- SO THAT WASN’T JUST A SCARY DREAM? HE WAS SO SURE…IT SEEMED SO ODD–& SAD. But as it falls into place, he finds himself reflecting on it more & more.

- He’s felt lost before but never…Lost. Like he wasn’t okay, like he could never regain a part of him that he was so sure he had under control–it’s a terrifying memory. But! Things turned out for the best, so he tries not to worry about it.

- He definitely talks to both Sans & Frisk about it. He trusts his brother enough to discuss such an important thing, & besides. He wants to–no, he needs to thank his dear human friend for SAVE-ing him. It’s the least the Great Papyrus can do!!


- She takes the situation very seriously. It still doesn’t stop her from wanting to find out who messed her & her friends up, to teach the little punk a lesson they won’t forget–like she didn’t!!

- Feeling so empty was so…strange for her. Staring down at the face of someone she knew was a friend, & still only wanting to cause them harm–it scared her. She never wanted to feel that Lost again.

- The only person she talks to about it is Frisk. To thank them for knocking some sense back into her (even though their punches are still wimpy as heck)!!


- She might not know exactly what happened, but there’s a lot she can infer. From what she felt, from what she experienced, being Lost in that haze…it’s a lot more familiar than she’d like to admit.

- For a while, she tries to write it off as a bad dream. Of course it was just a silly nightmare–something like that could never happen!! But time passes, & the pieces fall more & more into place. The barrier breaking, Frisk seeming so attached to Flowey, despite everything he did… It ends up reaching a point where she can’t deny it anymore.

- When she’s feeling at her lowest, she remembers that day. She remembers how Frisk worked so hard to bring her back from nothing at all. How they worked to remind her that she was important. & because of them, & their efforts, she always finds the Determination to keep going.

hellalambs  asked:

Out of curiosity, what about youtube do you dislike?

(People are going to disagree with me on this as it’s quite a polarising issue, which is absolutely fine - I feel like this is the sort of issue where your opinion is really influenced by your own experience of it. Please be aware that this an opinion based on around 10 years of personal experience and it’s not going to change. This is quite a lengthy explanation and there are also trigger warnings here for abuse and issues of consent: you can press J on your keyboard to skip this post on your dash.)

There are so many things! It’s mostly the nature of the fandoms, most of which are comprised of very young and impressionable people, and the failure of YouTube itself to ensure the safety of these fans at meetups, which I know are not necessarily organised by YouTube itself, but they are affiliated with it - for example, SITC is streamed live on YouTube’s front page. The recent spate of abuse revelations within the community and the fact that the priority of both YouTube itself and the content creator agencies (eg Channel Flip and any others of that ilk) seems to be making money off the ‘stars’ rather than keeping the fans safe is really worrying to me. The current method of dealing with abuse seems to be simply sweeping it under the carpet - agencies drop the creator, people unsubscribe, job done. There’s no action taken to combat the problem as a whole, through education or any other path (I have no idea how this could be achieved, I admit, but I’m certain that it could be; YouTube is not a small operation). Any educative action seems to have been undertaken by individual creators themselves - Laci Green is a great example of a creator who has put a lot of effort into making fans aware of the dangers of the platform and how to stay safe, and there are several others who commit to it as well - but it ultimately shouldn’t be down to individuals to do that. It should be on YouTube itself. I don’t like that it gives a platform to certain individuals who are ill equipped to deal with the fame and exposure, and I think that there’s a real lack of accountability when things go wrong. 

And yes, underneath it all, there is probably a thread of discomfort that people get paid to sit in front of a camera and review products that they’re sent for free by companies, without any necessary obligation to mention that it’s essentially advertising - for example, you have beauty gurus doing exalting ‘reviews’ of products that they’ve been paid to promote, and I don’t think it’s either responsible or moral. I have no problem whatsoever with YouTubers using product placement or advertising, but I do feel that there should be some sort of accountability and obligation to make it clear that they’re being paid to do so, because otherwise you have a whole host of problems about people essentially using their position to coerce their fans into buying a certain product, all for the content creator to make more money off the advertising deal, and that’s a bit of a psychological minefield. Obviously, there are still some creators - indeed, some very popular ones - who aren’t in it just for the money, but a lot of them are. 

I was quite involved in the YouTube community back in around 2008-10, and I have a lot of friends who are still very involved in it, and I’ve seen the community change and become more and more of a hierarchical model for profit at the expense of safety, and I don’t think it’s the best use of the platform. It’s the most obvious use for it these days, but I think it could be a lot more than it is. I’ve had to cut ties with several friends who became popular on YouTube and began to treat their fans appallingly, expecting them to send them gifts (and occasionally money) and getting really angry when they didn’t make a certain amount a week from sponsorship deals, speaking disparagingly of their fans as something they had to put up with in order to make money. The attitude of some creators towards their fans is not always well known, because the inevitably more palatable public persona of the individual is so well established in place of it, but as someone who genuinely has a lot of inside knowledge into how certain people operate, take it from me - a lot of them (not all; probably not even most!) are not what they appear, and again, that feeds into my concerns about how the mistreatment of fans is often permitted in order to make money.

Meetups are a good example of how YouTube can be both an incredible force of community and a very toxic environment. They have content creator panels, with discussions of incredibly interesting, salient and important topics, like mental health awareness and LGBTQIA+ issues, but then they also have signings where hordes of screaming fans queue up for hours to get their poster signed by a 25 year old man who makes money off their adoration. It’s not so different from the normal media model of fanbases and stardom (I would queue up for 6 years to get Tom Hiddleston’s autograph) but it’s jarring to see the juxtaposition between that and the incredibly productive nature of the panels. I’m not at all trying to say that these fans shouldn’t enjoy watching videos, or that they shouldn’t get excited to meet their idols, or that these idols aren’t worthy of their attention - I’m just genuinely concerned that the levels of idolatry for people who are not always who they appear to be are problematic and essentially act as gateways for potential abuse. 

Of course, YouTube is not the only dangerous platform in terms of fan safety - wherever you have fame, you unfortunately have the potential for the star to take advantage of it; the BBC is the best example of this - but the particular YouTube demographic combined with the parasocial relationships formed between the content creator and the viewer (the viewer believes they know everything about the content creator due to the perceived personal nature of the videos, whereas the content creator has actually - understandably - created a fictitious or partial version of their own life, and there’s no real connection between the two people) makes for an atmosphere that has a really dark underbelly. 

It’s not that I hate all the people of YouTube at all, either fans or creators; I admire people who have the business acumen to make it their livelihood, and I’m in awe of the creativity, talent and skill of a lot of the content creators. I’m a huge fan of the potential that YouTube has as an alternative media platform, and I believe that it’s proven to be a really useful tool for raising awareness of social issues. It’s raised money for charity (StickAid, for example) and it brings young people together as a really supportive community. Meetups are still great events to meet people and express your shared interests. A lot of my closest online friends were made through YouTube, albeit many years ago. It’s done a lot of good, and I don’t mean to negate any of that. I’m just very wary of the potential - and indeed history - that the current model has for abuse, and I find it quite hard to support a platform that so far hasn’t done enough to combat a really prevalent problem, primarily because continuing to nurture the environment that facilitates the problem is better for profit margins.

tl;dr it’s become an environment where making money is more important than keeping people safe, and that fact is incredibly well hidden because, well, money.