Idk if I speak for many people here, but I’m sorry if I ever flinch at your verbal/physical affection.
I’m sorry if I startle or discourage you with my reactions. I wasn’t really embraced or touched affectionately as a kid (I isolated myself from my parents at a very young age, probably age 7-8 and they didn’t really make an effort to reach out positively most of the time) so I’m not very used to physical contact being soft, gentle and kind. Of course I received the occasional hug and kiss from my mother/stepfather and other family members, which was fine, but it just never felt natural and most of the time when someone reached out to make contact with me it was harsh and rough and for disciplinary purposes. I think that’s why I have a hard time reaching physical and emotional intimacy with partners (it’s very hard to become attached because it feels forced/unnatural/pitiful, even if it’s really not) ((I also feel things too deeply sometimes because I wasn’t really taught how to properly channel my emotions, having been raised in a sexist, Latino household where little girls’ emotions, needs and opinions are often blatantly ignored)) and it just takes some getting used to. I promise I don’t hate you.
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