disabled-youth

Open letter to sick kids and disabled kids.

Dear sick kids, dear disabled kids,

You may be facing a lot of adults who want to believe that your therapy is fun. You may feel differently. You may not be having fun. That’s ok. You’re not failing. You don’t owe it to anyone to enjoy the things that are happening to you.  

Even if you think the therapy is important, you might not think it’s fun. You don’t have to think that it’s fun. Your feelings are yours, and your feelings matter. No one has the right to tell you how to feel. No one has the right to insist that you think something is fun.

If you don’t think the therapy is a good idea, you have the right to have that opinion. Your parents or other adults may be able to decide what treatments you get. They don’t get to decide what you think, or how you feel. They can’t make things fun by loudly insisting that they are fun, or by making you smile.

It’s ok not to think that your breathing treatments are a fun game. Even if your mask is fish shaped. Even if you put frog stickers on it. Even if you had a lot of fun picking out the stickers. Even if you know that you need it in order to breathe properly. Push come to shove, it’s still a breathing treatment. You are under no obligation to enjoy it. If you’re not having fun, then it’s not fun. Even if people make you smile.

It’s ok if you don’t think a purple hospital gown means that the hospital is fun. Even if you love purple. Even if you put your favorite sparkly heart stickers on it.   Even if you want the operation or procedure you’re having, you don’t have to think that what you’re doing is fun. Even if the volunteers and play therapists are really nice. You’re still in the hospital, and it’s ok to feel however you feel about it.

It’s ok to dislike the tracing exercises your occupational therapist makes you do. Even if she says that they’re really fun and that she loved them when she was your age. It’s ok to think of it as work rather than fun. It’s also ok to think it’s a waste of your time. You are not her, and it’s not ok for her to tell you how to feel. She is not the boss of your feelings, or your likes and dislikes. You are under no obligation to have fun.

It’s ok to dislike singing silly songs with your speech therapist. Even if he tells you in an excited voice all about the great new conversation starter iPad app, it’s ok not to think it’s fun. Even if other kids seem to like it. Even if there are fun prizes for cooperating and smiling. Even if people frown when you don’t seem happy enough. You don’t have to think anything is fun. Your feelings are yours. You don’t owe it to him to like the activities you do, even if he expects it from you.

It’s ok to dislike the sensory diet an occupational therapist puts you on. You don’t have to like being brushed.You don’t have to like weights or weighted blankets.You don’t have to believe that squeezing a fidget toy is better than rocking, and you don’t have to think that chewing a tube makes the lighting and noise any less painful. Your feelings are real. If you like something, that matters, whether or not anyone else thinks it’s important. If something hurts, your pain is real whether or not anyone acknowledges it.

And so on. If you’re sick, or you’re disabled, or you’re both, there are probably a lot of things happening to you that aren’t happening to other kids. It’s ok to have whatever feelings you have about that, even if others desperately want to believe that you think all of it is really fun. It’s ok for you to think that something isn’t fun, even when adults speak in enthusiastic voices, put stickers on things, use fun toys, or whatever else.

It’s ok to think something is fun, and it’s ok to think it’s really not fun. It’s also ok to find something helpful without finding it fun. You have the right to like what you like, and dislike waht you dislike. Your feelings are your own, even if you have to smile to get people to leave you alone. 

It’s ok to like things, and it’s ok to dislike things. You are a real person, your feelings are yours, and your feelings matter. Illness, disability, and youth don’t make you any less real.

I need help

I know I haven’t been on in ages, I’m sorry, but I need help. In two days I’m going to be on the streets and need money until I get approved through a housing application. It’s still in the screening process and I need money for food and hotel until then. 

I need $400

That’s a lot to ask, I know, but I need it if I’m going to survive. 

My family won’t help me, I’ve been living with my ex for a while and her step mom told me I have to be out.

As a mentally disabled youth I don’t have a lot to work with and I’m terrified of being on the streets. I don’t have work yet and have been trying hard. The area has little to offer and transportation is small and expensive.

Donations, commissions– whatever is okay, please. I need the help desperately to be able to last long enough to get the house and my funds are next to nothing. If you want commissions we can talk about it.

my paypal is aura.mann@yahoo.com 

just…. anything helps. 

Thank you for everything already, I love you all and even if you can’t donate or commission, please signal boost?

Emergency Funds Needed

I already posted about this but it got next to no notes so here’s another go.

I’m a disabled poc trans youth who ran away from a violent abusive home last October. Because I refused foster care due to the high rate of assault with trans and poc kids in the area, and because the government (illegally) refuses to transfer my custody to have me be a youth in care I have to live off of 600 dollars in one of the most expensive cities in the world.

I have signs of gingivitis all along the right side of my jaw and at least three cavities. I have to keep from crying out in pain every time I chew and my gums are swollen and bleeding. It’s been getting worse for almost a month now.

Welfare doesn’t cover dental in BC, and I really really have no money to spend unless I want to sleep on the street and not eat for a month.

Any donation helps. Message me privately for my paypal if you’re on mobile.

If you can’t donate please boost, I can barely eat right now.

cyborg volunteering to help the disabled youth and other disabled poc in his community, bonding and taking pictures with little black boys and girls, doing his hardest to reconnect with a community he was alienated from, working part-time at domestic violence/abuse shelters for women, and even working to protect innocent black boys from stop and frisk and brutality.

If you think Mindless Self Indulgence is racist or homophobic or anti-liberal, it REALLY shows how much you don’t know a single fucking thing about them.

Jimmy Urine is Half Mexican and is bisexual. The entire band are liberals and stand behind black lives matter. Steve wishes to help work with disabled youth someday. Both Jimmy and his wife went to the women’s march and the march for science. Like.. the ONLY THING Jimmy ever posts on his Twitter is how much he HATES trump and posts messages like “fuck the whites” They have even written songs about white privilege (white by the left rights) and about white people appropriating black culture (I wanna be black by MSI)

Almost all of the N words and F slurs have not appeared in their music since the 90’s and the very last N word was said in 2010 on “I’m on crack” by the Left Rights which is a side project involving Jimmy and Steve. Since that time they realized the world was different now. They realized it was wrong, got woke and educated themselves. They refuse to write any of those words into their lyrics now. I would also like to say that the song in question that uses the F slur (F***t by MSI) is a SONG ABOUT JIMMY HIMSELF EXPERIENCING HOMOPHOBIC BACKLASH FOR BEING BISEXUAL. It’s about people calling him the F slur.

What I’m saying is no one even does research before hating on this band. You don’t listen to the lyrics, you don’t look into who these people are, you don’t understand that Little Jimmy Urine is a stage character made to show us that if you act ugly, you will be ugly. The songs are interesting because they show us how the behavior is bad by displaying the bad behavior to us and reminding us that it is wrong. It’s all sarcastic satire, that has always been the point. To say “if you think like the lyrics of this song you are awful”

Please realize that people change. You always want people to change but you never let them! PEOPLE CHANGE AND BECOME BETTER PEOPLE. ACCEPT IT AND QUIT THIS RECEIPT BULLSHIT. Honestly this isn’t just about this single issue. This website as a whole thinks that it somehow matters what someone did or said 10, 5, even 2 years ago. We don’t live in a make-believe world where everyone stays the same forever and everything is black and white.

Just stop. You don’t know anything about them.

Things in my experience, teachers are utterly incompetent around:

  • Sexual health
  • Radicalization in teenagers / youth 
  • Disabilities in general
  • Tolerating people of different religion
  • Bullying
  • LGBTQ+ issues
  • Children who are suffering from familial abuse / domestic violence
  • Racial issues
  • Self harm

Like, a teacher would have absolutely no clue what to do if a student started to look at neo nazi websites. Before you scoff, yes it does happen. There is absolutely nothing (and yes I have checked) in teacher’s programs / 2 years masters about kids who struggle throughout school. To put it simply: teachers do not have the knowledge or expertise to deal with such complex issues. Teachers do, however have the ability to harshly judge and condemn students. 

I know plenty of young teachers in their 20s and 30s who’d have no clue what to do if their student is showing signs of being abused. Or get really uncomfortable when a student starts to ask too many questions about sex. 

Why is it, when we talk about the quality of education we only ever listen to teachers? Not psychologists, social workers, counter-terrorism specialists, doctors, community leaders, therapists or nurses. Who often have to deal with the mess teachers leave behind. 

Our system in Australia is failing students. Students who deserve better. So if you are a politican- for goodness sake, stop acting like ‘disruptive students with autism’ are the root to all problems. Take some responsibility for our lack of standards for teachers. Teachers who have the power to administer punishments for students, but seem to have the inability to take responsibility. Don’t you dare fucking use autistic children as the scapegoat for taking away classtime. Most teachers don’t think we are worthy of attention or help, and just exist for teachers to ‘put up with’.

So yeah, fuck segregation in education. Let’s talk about class sizes and overcrowding. Let’s educate the educators better. And for alot of teachers… shut up and start listening. 

Pro bono (free) legal services

Myself and some other attorneys have been working to not only provide free legal services in the Philadelphia are but match people up with competent attorneys around the county. In the wake of the recent election, we acknowledge that the legal landscape is undergoing a dramatic shift and community needs will be changing along with it. Now is the time to get our house in order and do as much as we can to protect ourselves and each other. We are expressly and unequivocally committed to prioritizing the needs of Queer, Trans, BIPOC, Youth, Disabled, Undocumented, and other marginalized communities most vulnerable in the uncertain times to come.

We will be connecting people with competent attorneys in their local area who can advise and represent them for no charge. We have identified the following time-sensitive priorities that we will be focusing on:

1. Name and Gender Marker Changes
2. Identification Documents
3. Immigration Assistance
4. Criminal Records Expungement
5. Family Law
6. Healthcare Access

Feel free to message me if you have any questions or concerns. Again, here is the link to the form we’re using: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdlLXPop1NzlSKtnj9YZflf-6CrHrZ5yndcj4K-agSCkUZEag/viewform?c=0&w=1

why do we never ever talk about disabled youth who take their lives? Or even, why do we never talk about disabled youth who have been murdered by their goverment/parents/guardians/doctors because their lives were deemed with no quality? Better yet, why dont we ever talk about disabled youth?

Reproductive Health, Rights and Justice Leaders & Organizations Join In Solidarity, We Won’t Go Back

Ninety organizations came together on December 13, 2016 in Washington, D.C. to declare our unity and dedicate our collective power to protecting and advancing sexual and reproductive health, rights, and justice in the United States and around the world. Every person has the basic human right to quality health care, and no individual or community should be left behind. Each of us should have the chance to live safe, healthy lives and be free to determine our own path – including if, when, and how to create a family. We will resist every attempt to roll back those rights or undermine those opportunities.

WE BELIEVE IN:

  • protecting and expanding access to sexual and reproductive health education, care, and services;
  • safeguarding and advancing abortion rights and access;
  • promoting health, safety and wellness for all communities;
  • fostering fairness and equity in sexual and reproductive health.

WE DEMAND THAT:

  • the policies of our government recognize and respond to the needs and priorities of the diverse range of individuals, families, and communities we represent, especially those who face disproportionate, burdensome, and unfair barriers to accessing quality health care, including women and girls in the Global South and low-income women, immigrants, LGBTQ individuals, indigenous peoples, young people, and women of color in the United States;
  • appointees, nominees, and elected officials uphold our nation’s laws and the U.S. Constitution, affirm protections and safety for individuals, especially those most marginalized, and work to ensure health equity in the United States and around the world.

WE COMMIT TO:

  • mobilizing to defeat actions that threaten to undermine sexual and reproductive health, rights, and justice in any community in the United States and across the globe;
  • exercising the collective power of our movement to create a world where all people have the rights and resources they need to thrive;
  • standing together with our progressive allies to advocate for policies that advance sexual and reproductive health and rights and that ensure all communities have the resources to exercise those rights;
  • working across movements to advance immigrant rights, youth rights, disability rights, LGBTQ equality, economic justice and racial justice and to ensure the safety of our communities.

We won’t allow roll-backs on hard-won rights. We will hold firm to ensuring that all people are treated with dignity, compassion, and respect and can achieve full reproductive freedom. Together, we will work for a world where equitable access to sexual and reproductive health, rights, and justice is realized for all.

See the whole list of organizations here>>

mute!r and ASL amis headcanons

  • mute!r meeting éponine and montparnasse and surprisingly, they both speak ASL
  • mute!r dragging éponine to ami meetings and they talk in ASL together about politics and about what the others are talking about
  • éponine talking for r sometimes and everyone is really surprised by what he says so all the amis decide to learn ASL for him
  • all the amis talking slowly in broken ASL with r and he’s never been happier
  • mute!r working at deaf schools and excitedly talking with them in ASL
  • courfeyrac working with r, telling the kids really really cheesy jokes in ASL
  • enjolras and combeferre working with disabled homeless youths in ASL
  • feuilly trying to find work for mute and deaf people, using his knowledge of ASL
  • ASL and the amis <3
Does Black Disabled Lives Matter?

#BlackLivesMatter

It’s the hash tag heard around the world, where it’s not a mere fad. It’s a rallying cry for the African Disapora’s wishes to see law enforcement abuse, police brutality, and hate crimes cease. The call to fight back against corrupted powers seeking to destroy the black community.

While the black community is seeking to prevent another Sandra Bland, Michael Brown, Charleston Nine, or Freddie Gray from happening, I can’t help but to ponder the following strings of questions in my mind:

- Whose black lives matter? All? Or “non-disabled” only? Any national news coverage on disabled black people being victimized by police brutality?

- Are there any black disabled people in the movement? Is it accessible and inclusive? How do they contribute to #BlackLivesMatter?

Those are silly questions on the surface. Of course ALL black lives matter, especially all black victims of hate crime and police brutality. However, I cannot help but to ask those questions. I have good reasons to question the disability community’s involvement in Black Lives Matter.

One night, I was enjoying a late night McDonald’s run with fellow disability rights activists and we shared our discontent with our overall impact on national movements like Black Lives Matter. The lament wasn’t our abilities, or lack thereof, to participate in actions. We may have various backgrounds, disabilities, and daily challenges. But all of us in the car are activists in our own right, all of us have attributes that can be essential to a social movement (e.g., charisma, hospitality, artistic skills, abundance of resources (including money), social media marketing, etc.), and most of us pursued post-secondary education at own point.

It’s not our abilities that are in question. I discovered in that time alone how my the disabled in the black community are sick and tired of feeling muzzled and babied when it comes to fighting for basic civil rights and opportunities. Also add little mainstream media coverage of disabled blacked harmed by police, and almost no marches or rallies to protest the monstrosity, to the mix. In this year alone, I heard the horrid stories of Kayleb Moon-Robinson, the 10-year-old autistic girl in Jefferson Parish, LA, Troy Canales, and Jason Harrison. Not only those victims of police brutality are black, but they’re also disabled in some form or fashion. In fact, they had no voices of their own; they need voices from family or community just to prove that they’re no immediate threat to law enforcement. In America, harming the elderly, the disabled, and the youth is a sin. I thought that America, including Black America, would be pissed to the point of rallying, like Bland, Gray, and the Charleston Nine. I got disappointed: only petitions for freeing Kayleb and no large-scale action/rally for others that I mentioned.

Some would quickly point out that organizations cannot rally for every single victim of police brutality and mainstream media can only air stories that are appealing to the masses (even if it is a tragedy). I agree with both. Furthermore, the mainstream news can only do so much, this I’ll leave them out of this conversation from here-on-out. On the other hand, I cannot help but to assume that Black Lives Matter or any affiliated org appear to be pro-black ableists only, considering media coverage and the swift, large-scale responses to police brutality nationally and globally (like Bland, Gray, Brown, Martin, and Charleston Nine). I know the movement is not really trying not to exclude people with disabilities. I just wish that we, the black community, can put as much energy into justice for Troy Canales as we do for Sandra Bland in a global and national scale. That way, it can ensure that ALL black lives matter, and not have it appear to protect CERTAIN black lives.

And now to my other important question: where are people with disabilities in the movement and how are they involved?

Again, it’s a stupid question on the surface. But I must ask the question to see how inclusive and accessible some of the actions are. I’m certain that there is a plethora of black disabled activists, speaking out on blogs and social networks. However, I wonder if actions are accessible and inclusive to black activists with disabilities. Some desire to not only air their discontent with the treatment of the African Diaspora online, but also go out into the streets and contribute to social movements.

But do organizations think about how people in wheelchairs may need transportation to and from actions, how many sign language interpreters will be on site, which volunteers will be willing to be nurses for those who may need medical attention or nourishments, and other accommodations and services that may be requested? I’m not suggesting that Afrocentric pegs don’t care about the disabled. Yet, it is important to consider those who have special needs and accommodations so that they can utilize as much talent and power as possible, no matter what condition they may have. Otherwise, pegs may run the risk of losing people due to feeling excluded in the planning process because of their disability.

No worries, there are ways for Afrocentric orgs like Black Lives Matter to be as inclusive as possible:

- For starters, if someone disabled children and of color (especially black) faced police mistreatment, don’t just give commentaries on social networks. Whip out the petitions. Meet with legislators and organizations who are willing to fight for your cause. Write an op-Ed about the matter. Organize marches, protests, etc. Utilize our freedoms and powers in the First Amendment; the black disability community can sure use the support.

- When planning for actions, consider all the possible accommodations and services to provide to people with disabilities, even if there’s no one with disabilities in planning committee (though it will be nice to some in the committee for insight and different inputs). Look to see how accessible is the place to people with disabilities. Provide materials in many formats, such as large-print, close-caption, and Braille. Get a few sign language interpreters. Provide medical assistance via volunteer street nurses. Also ask an expert or someone with an disability for advice when it comes to finding ways to make actions accessibility and disability-friendly.

housing needed in Philly

My dear friend Violet deerdyke is currently very much in need of housing or temporary accommodations in Philadelphia in the next two weeks. Vi is a trans woman trying to find a stable living situation in the city. She is able to pay rent as long as it is under 300, and is willing to sublet. Her main needs are that she has a private space to work. She would also strongly prefer to live with other transfeminine or queer people. Please message me or her if you have any information or know anyone who is looking for a roommate or who has space where she can stay until she finds something more permanent. Please share this post regardless.

Please help a queer financially struggling Trans woman find housing in DC

Hi all, I’m sorry to do this again but I am getting really desperate about finding a place to live by the end of the month.

PLEASE reblog and signal boost even if you can’t help directly, as I really need to find something immediately.

If you don’t know me, I am a queer disabled Trans woman, who has a lot of financial troubles due to medical bills (diabetes, ADHD, transition and mental health) and due to working a service job in an extremely expensive city (Washington dc). I am currently subletting a space until August 1, at which point i will be forced to move out. I don’t have a lot of options as a Trans woman, and I need to find something ASAP. Also, if I am forced to move out of the city and quit my job because I can’t find a place, I will be forced by my employers to pay the 260$ for the liquor license they paid for (if I don’t work there for at least 6 months), and I absolutely cannot afford that right now.

Please message me if you know of any spaces available, especially if they are on the red line or have public transportation to DuPont circle (where I work). I would strongly prefer to live with other queer folks or women, but I’m open to other options depending on the situation.

Thanks all,

-Z

I’m so terrified that I’m not going to be a person on Wednesday morning. I can’t vote. I don’t get a say. This election is making me physically ill. I’m begging you, as a 17 year old, disabled, queer youth, please vote Hillary. Please, don’t let Donald Trump become president. Don’t toss your vote away. You’re going to kill people like me. 

-Ryn

Dear Bullying Victim,

Being bullied is no fun, regardless of your race, sex, disability, who you choose to love, your size, or your family situation.

No one should ever allow bullying to happen. Nobody deserves it! You should stand up for yourself no matter how hard it is. Remember you are brave and strong, people bully others because they feel unhappy about themselves and it’s not always about you. They do they do it to feel good, and making fun of someone makes them feel they have higher power. When really they are really below you.

If I could go back in time I would have told someone I trusted, and not kept it to myself. Keeping it all to myself only makes it worse. My advice for you is that if you are a victum of bullying go seek help, you should not go through this alone. I’m here for you.

Love,

Your Older Self