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Yeah I can’t really see how it’s surprising that the word “pussy” was used a lot in protests against a man who is infamous for saying he “grab[s] women by the pussy.” That’s not about transmisogyny, JFC.

In general, the modern feminist movement really has to find a way to be inclusive to trans women and to be able to talk about how much cultural misogyny is based around wanting to control cis women’s reproductive capabilities. It’s good to acknowledge that not everyone who gets abortions identifies as female, but not if you’re going to obfuscate the fact that much of the cultural opposition to abortion is rooted in seeing it as a “women’s issue.” Not everyone who opposes abortion does it out of misogyny, but enough people do, particularly the people with actual power over legislation, that we can’t leave that out of the conversation.

Like on the one hand, I wouldn’t be surprised if there were a lot of women at the protests who didn’t realize that having a vagina/ovaries/etc. is not central to being a woman! And that could be out of hatred or simple ignorance. The one I attended had a lot of older white women who probably aren’t up to date on online feminist discourse and didn’t think through that, so I appreciated seeing younger women (cis and trans) carrying signs that advocated for trans women’s rights and inclusion. And hearing Wendy Davis include trans women in her speech at the march.

We need to be more inclusive with our language. But that shouldn’t mean we have to shut down conversations about really common forms of misogyny – especially when we’re protesting someone who engages in them.

ETA: Hey guys, original version of this post had something about how trans men on HRT can’t get pregnant – I’ve been informed by @earthboundricochet that that is not true. I can’t do anything about the reblogs, unfortunately, but I’m fixing it here. Just a head’s up.

Single men will get the right to start a family under new definition of infertility
Single men and women without medical issues will be classed as “

That title is awfully misleading. I’ve seen varying titles for this article, and the major tag line is always:

“Being single is now a disability!”

I think we need to dissect this.

Firstly, it’s not as simple as the clickbaity titles are making it out to be (of course). What the WHO is actually trying to do is help single adults who want children, as well as couples that aren’t cis man/cis woman, gain access to IVF.

This is a good thing, as many gay dads, lesbian moms, and other folks face difficulties when trying to conceive, mostly because of the whole “opposite gender” thing. But as of right now, a couple with the “compatible parts” has to have unprotected sex or a whole year before one of them can be declared infertile.

That’s potentially a lot of sex with someone you’re not sexually attracted to.

So the WHO is trying to help. The problem is, they’re “helping” by trying to classify “the inability to find a sexual partner” as a disability. This is being translated as “being single is now a disability”.

This is 1. really fucking ableist, 2. not exactly correct, 3. extremely problematic for the LGBTA community, and 4. specifically problematic for the aromantic community.

  1. Holy cow is it ableist. Your inability to find a date is not a disability. Actual infertile people are probably very offended but I can’t speak for them.

  2. According to the WHO, it’s not necessarily “being single” that they want to classify as a disability, it’s “the inability to find a suitable sexual partner – or the lack of sexual relationships which could achieve conception". They fail to mention whether or not seeking a relationship is necessary for this definition. I technically lack a sexual relationship where I could achieve conception, but lord knows I don’t fucking want one.

  3. Holy cow is this problematic in regards to the LGBTA community, since it classifies many* of us as “disabled”. Now I can see a situation where a couple could want kids and not want heterosexual sex so they choose IVF or a sperm bank, that makes total sense to me, but to classify them as “disabled”…

  4. Aromantics don’t always seek out romantic relationships in the first place, we’re often single and fine with it and certainly not “disabled”. But again, I could see an aromantic wanting a child and choosing IVF for simplicity: I myself have very seriously considered a sperm bank if I ever want a child, because I just don’t see a romantic relationship ever happening.

The bottom line is the problematic aspect of the language the WHO has chosen to use that ends up classifying single people and certain LGBTA people as “disabled” simply because they can’t have children. It’s gross and disrespectful.

[edit] I thought of a 5th way this makes me nervous:      

  • Guys who can’t find a girl who will fuck them will now claim they are disabled because of it and try to use that as a justification for misogynistic behavior. It’s being classified as a reproductive disability, not a general disability, for all you MRAs and MGTOWs. 

* There are many same-sex LGBTA couples who can conceive. A trans woman and a cis woman lesbian couple could conceive, for example, depending on the situation. Not to mention the plethora of genderqueer folks out there.

anonymous asked:

Can you stop. You don't really care about us disabled people who don't fit your mold.

oddly enough, this is a personal blog and i’m allowed to write about my own experiences and opinions. and even more strangely, i find it impossible to write broadly about a demographic that makes up appx. 20% of the world population, so i focus on my own politics and needs

if you have specific elements of my posts that you think i could expand or adjust to be more inclusive of a wider population, i’d love to hear them, but overall: no, i will not stop writing about my own life and difficulties

because this is a personal blog and not the project of, like, a mainstream disability rights organization, i have the capacity to write in a way that’s angry and heartfelt and impassioned, and that’s very important to me, and i will keep doing it