disability problem

parents not believing their disabled child is actually disabled and forcing them to go beyond their limits is abuse.

parents calling their disabled kid a burden or a problem to them is abuse

parents using the disabled kids story to their advantage and making it more about themselves is abuse.

stop excusing abuse just because the victim is disabled.

No one ever teaches you how to mourn your health. You just realize one day that it’s gone, and you are not the same as you were before. Most days, it’s all right, but then something happens: you can’t go to dinner with your family because you’re nauseous, you can’t go hiking because fatigue and pain. You can’t you can’t you can’t, and then it hits you: you are irreversibly changed.

You know what’s awesome?! The combination between ADHD and perpetual exhaustion! It’s so great, like half the time you can’t focus on anything, and the other half you are too tired to even try. So you just kind of… give up on trying to be productive in any sort of way and do the absolute minimal amount needed to survive.

they asked me

“when will you stop talking about your sickness”

and i told them

“when i stop being sick”

i’ve thought over my complaints

and bitterness towards my illness

ive thought over what i said

and you know what

i dont regret saying it.

anonymous asked:

When writing a blind character, what are some things to avoid?

Ah! So this is definitely a bit of a broad question, but I can give a few basics:

  • Blind people don’t actually give a shit about touching faces, so please, please stear clear of that. The only exceptions may be the same way sighted lovers may caress each other’s faces and parents may hold a child’s face in an emotional moment, but it’s just like a sighted lover or parent would, nothing more.
  • Please avoid giving your character a cure. One of the most crushing things as a disabled reader is to finally have a disabled character, but for them to end up with a fantastic magic cure half-way through. It rarely makes for a good story, and often a much better story is that person’s journey in understanding themselves as equal and learning that they aren’t broken and useless and can do whatever they want, overcoming internalized ableism rather than “overcoming the disability.”
  • Few blind people actually wear sunglasses or eye coverings, so your character probably won’t either if the likelyhood says anything. Chances are they will not be part of that minority, so probably better not to do that.
  • Something similar can be said for characters with white or cloudy eyes. The vast majority of blind people will not have very abnormal-looking eyes, so chances are your character will not be part of that minority.
  • Another very similar thing should be noted about the level of vision they will have. Somewhere between 80 and 90% of blind people have some level of remaining vision, weather it be little more than light perception or enough that they were forced to use their eyes a lot growing up and weren’t taught braille or to use a cane because they could get by well enough not to die most of the time.

So these are just the first several things I can think of at the moment, but definitely feel free to ask about more things!

@ people with disabilities that dont affect them greatly or every day

you are still disabled

your struggles are still valid

just because you arent sick all the time, it doesnt mean you arent sick.

just because you dont have many limitations, it doesnt mean you cant vent about the limitations you do have, because if your illness takes away even one experience/ability/feeling from you, its already taken too much.

dont let people invalidate you because you arent as “disabled as you could be”, because you are disabled, come @ them if they try to tell you youre not.

dont feel like you shouldnt be upset that you have this illness, just because it doesnt always affect you, or doesnt constantly affect you, it doesnt mean it doesnt affect you.

please dont feel like you have to constantly prove youre disabled, and if you do, remember that you are disabled, and you do have hardships and that you deserved to be believed.

I am so sorry you have to go through this, you shouldnt have to.

and above all

youre important and your issues, whether they be small or large, are important.

you matter.

@ anyone with a disability of any kind

you’re strong

your issues are valid

you are valid

your medical problems are important

you’re allowed to be upset, sad, angry or literally any other emotion you might feel when thinking about how your issues have impacted your life.

you are allowed to vent

you are allowed to be human and your illness doesnt make you any less human.

you matter

and you should never have to apologize for your disability.

@ people who suffer from chronic fatigue

youre not lazy, youve got an illness that constantly exhausts you and makes it feel as if you never sleep enough.

youre not lazy, youve got an illness that makes doing alot of normal and daily tasks difficult and tiring

youre not lazy, youve got an illness that causes you to tire out quickly, dont be ashamed to take your time doing things because having no energy makes doing anything and everything harder

youre not lazy, youve got an illness that makes it feel like your batteries are always running on empty, to the point where getting up can feel like you ran a mile. do not be ashamed of your limits or illness.

DO. NOT. LET. PEOPLE. CALL. YOU. LAZY.

because you are not lazy, youve got an illness.