I’m done acting like someone else.

No more acting normal, acting abled bodied. I’m not. I’m disabled, I need help, support but that’s okay. Why should I fake being normal when it takes so much energy, there’s more import ways to live my life. 

Yes I’m disabled, I need support… but that’s ok. 

Forgive yourself for needing that help… for being disabled. 

I need a P.A!

Sharing on tumblr Just In Case any rad Chicago folks are interested!

Job opportunity:

I am looking for a personal care assistant, PA, for part-time shifts including mornings (7:00 am start), but mostly for evening hours (between 7 & midnight).

I’m a 33 year old physically disabled woman. I need assistance with personal care, exercise, stretching, cooking, deep cleaning, housework, and lifting/transfers. I need help both at home and out. Ideally looking for somebody on the north side.

I need someone reliable, responsible, queer friendly, trustworthy, strong, & efficient. Also looking for somebody who’s good at communication. This job is great for someone likes to work in a relaxed and friendly but efficient environment.

Please send a direct message if you have a serious interest, and tell me a little bit about yourself!

posting:

http://chicago.craigslist.org/chc/hea/5747630655.html

im so annoyed by abled people who work with disabled people (either as teachers, aides, doctors, or disability support services) thinking they are immune to ableism.

Some of the most ableist people I have met have been these abled people. They act like they’re saints for doing their job they get paid to do, and half the time my disability support services people try to cut corners and try to coerce me into toughing it out because accommodations are “inconvenient”.

they can’t even fulfill the bare minimum for their job but still think they deserve special accolades and are more special than other abled people. it’s like perhaps you are even worse than them because you’re in a position of power relative to hurt people and also waaay to often your head is up your own asses

PSA

There is a really, shitty hoax going around now that if you email Nintendo proof of your disability they will unlock “secret” disabled permissions for Pokemon Go. 

Please stop sharing this rumor and shut it down when you are able to.  And if you have reblogged this rumor, please take the time to reblog a correction.

It’s an extremely mean-spirited response to disabled people’s disappointment that they can’t play the game due to mobility (and other) issues.

Just to recap:

  • Dory’s disability isn’t treated like a character flaw by the writers
  • People who (even subconsciously) view it as a character flaw are the ones who end up learning and changing
  • She sees herself as a burden because of her disability and the ultimate response is “We were wrong to make you feel that way and we love you the way you are”
  • Her disability isn’t magically cured and doesn’t preclude her or her loved ones from being happy even though it makes certain things more challenging
  • Her parents aren’t overly sheltering and teach her to be self-sufficient in ways that work with her brain
  • The people around her realize that her mind is never going to work the same way theirs do, and that’s okay
  • She’s treated as deserving of patience and respect
  • She stays disabled throughout the entire movie

Finding Dory is so important. 

How to get rid of any illness

-douche with green tea
-eat an entire jar of coconut oil everyday
-cut gluten,eggs,dairy,MSGs, meats, oxygen, and sugar out of your diet
-never stop doing yoga, you have to do it every second of your life. Sleep in downward dog, shower in warrior position, walk on your hands
-shove kale up your ass

And last, but not least
- just be happy all the time. You know, the only real disability in life is a bad attitude

I can’t believe this needs to be said, but…

- Withholding medication from a disabled person is not a joke, it’s not a punishment, it’s abuse.

- Withholding mobility equipment from a disabled person is not a joke, it’s not a punishment, it’s abuse.

- Withholding stim toys, comfort items or similar from a disabled person is not a joke, it’s not a punishment, it’s abuse.

- Stopping a disabled person from using harmless routines or coping mechanism is not a joke, it’s not a punishment, it’s abuse.

Stop.

yesterday I went to see Finding Dory and it left me crying for almost the whole movie

  • Finding Dory is a movie about a mentally ill person who gets a happy ending that doesn’t involve getting “cured” or becoming “normal”
  • Dory is a mentally ill person who resolves her problems accepting her illness; she discovers that when she tries to do things the “normal” way (re: just trying to remember), it doesn’t work. But when she tries to do things her way (re: trying to deduce what she was doing, which is, accepting how her memory is), it does work!
  • There are other ill people (like Hank or Destiny) who get to be happy even though they don’t get “cured”. The movie also features a very well written panic attack and how it feels to live with memory issues. Also, it teaches neurotypical and able-bodied children, like Marlin, that mentally ill and disabled people are so much more than their disabilities, and that it’s perfectly possible to love them. This movie teaches them how mentally ill and disabled people are not broken or unlovable.
  • And Dory’s parents? They don’t force her to be normal, either. They don’t punish her for not being able to remember. No, they accommodate her: instead of forcing her to remember, instead of getting mad at her, they keep putting shells in line. And when she disappeared, they didn’t say “oh she must be gone forever because she always forgets everything”, they believed in her.
  • Finding Dory is a movie that teaches children that they can succeed in life, that they can be happy and have friends and be loved, not despite their illnesses and neurodivergences, but with them. They just have to keep swimming.
Shout out to the disabled Pokémon fans who don't have access to Go

Shout out to the fans in wheelchairs who can’t get the Pokémon in inaccessible areas

Shout out to the fans who can’t walk more than a block to get a Pokémon right down the street

Shout out to the fans who are homebound the vast majority of the time and can only get Pokémon a couple times a month

Shout out to the fans who can’t drive themselves and can’t just ask their carers to drive them around random places for a silly game

Shout out to the fans who can’t drive themselves and can’t keep up with processing the interactive environment on loud, noisy, smelly, shaky public transportation without getting sensory overload

Shout out to all the disabled Pokémon fans who are really tired of hearing everyone all over social media talk about how great the game is and how great they’re doing. Your feelings are valid and you don’t need to feel guilty about them. You deserve access to all the Pokémon content out there as much as any abled fan, and it’s not fair that you don’t have it.

Finding Dory has a fantastic message about disability

For all the shit that’s going on with Me Before You, and the assisted suicide and the general message that disabled people are happier killing themselves, Finding Dory had the exact opposite message.

Dory learns to grapple with her short term memory loss. She’s never cured of it, it never goes away, but she discovers “her own little way of remembering” in the words of her mom.

She realizes that she doesn’t have to remember exactly what happened, as long as she can walk herself through why she’s there. “What would Dory do” becomes her mantra and helps her navigate.

Again and again the film reiterates that Dory can’t do certain things alone, and that’s okay. She recognizes it, other characters don’t force her to do anything she isn’t comfortable with, and even say that in those exact words.

Even a near sighted whale shark and an echolocating beluga whale discover the unique ways they can help each other, without “fixing” destiny’s eye sight.

And at the end of the film, without spoiling the general plot, Marlin realizes that even with Dory’s disability, she’s able to do some things on her own. Maybe she can’t ever live on her own, and maybe she’ll always need someone around to help her, but it’s okay. She’s her own fish first.

My friend got annoyed at me yesterday that I included a disabled person in my D&D campaign because “magic could easily cure them!”

Seriously??? No. Not everything can be cured. Not everything SHOULD be cured. If I make a world with magic, you bet your ass there are going to be disabled people in it. 

Am I going to have clerics that can cure all diseases and conditions, where everyone is able-bodied and neurotypical “because magic”? Hello no. 

Am I going to have therapists who know the “calm emotions” spell to help people having panic attacks? Am I going to have people with mobility issues that have magical braces around their limbs to help alleviate chronic pain? Am I going to have an Autistic dragon that stims and collects objects related to its special interest? Am I going to give disabled people kick-ass accommodations “because magic”?

Hell yes.

Reminder to Abled people

The “perks” disabled people receive are not perks to the disabled. They only seem like perks if you have full bodily function. They aren’t benefits at all, they are the minimum required effort to help disabled people and they barely cut it. 

Special seating is to fit a wheel chair, our butts and legs are in the same amount of space as you. We’re also cramped and uncomfortable and in pain, don’t be telling us how you have it worse. Most of those seats aren’t even in good spots in the theater. 

Special parking is so we can even access the store. The walk from the middle of the lot for you is the same as the walk/wheel from the front of the lot for us. Many of us can barely make it inside from the handicapped parking.

Boarding planes first is because it takes extra time to do everything, including get in and out of chairs. They do not want US to block YOU. This is for YOUR benefit. 

This also applies to the special lines at roller coasters- They do not want US to block YOU, the majority, from having a good time. Odds are a disabled person can only ride a few rides before having to go home (as well as many rides bar people with health conditions), few to no disabled people are using this line. It is a SAFETY precaution as well, because a disabled person cannot handle the strain of waiting in line in the heat as long as an abled person can. In fact, most abled people barely tolerate it. Why would you expect a disabled person to not pass out and need emergency services and halt the line if abled people do it, too?

Using the Elevator is not a privilege. How the hell are we supposed to get wheel chairs, damaged body parts, and our generous helping of pain up the stairs? If you think this is a benefit, pinch yourself immediately because you are dreaming. And yes, elevators often make disabled people with sensitive constitutions (most of us) feel ill. It’s not even pleasant. 

Being Granted extra time on tests is because many of our brains freeze up when placed in a stressful situation. It also often takes longer for us to remember or process a question or answer. If you have testing anxiety, you are eligible too! Do not think it is limited to disabled people and it is a benefit. It’s so we don’t fail every test. It’s so we can KEEP UP with you. 

“Getting” to take their dogs everywhere, is the most misconceived of them all. The dog is specially trained to preform a task so we do not DIE suddenly in public. Sure, the dogs are loyal friends, but I am not exaggerating when I say it is to prevent DEATH. Please understand the dog is for personal safety. Like a rescue inhaler or an alarm. Do not complain that you cannot have a dog in public and do not bother our dogs. You are downplaying our illness. It is both rude and cruel. Are you at risk of dying suddenly that could be easily preventable with an assistant? No? Then leave us and our service animals alone because it is none of your business. 

Please think about WHY disabled people need this rather than decry the whole system that barely supports us. I am sure you mean well, but if you think that these things are “perks” or “benefits”, then you are part of the problem. 

A large population of disabled people don’t even get access to all of these things because of the extremely harmful “faker for benefits” mindset that has been widely adapted. It is killing us. Literally. Please be considerate of the needs of all human beings, not just those like you.