Good news on my student loans!

I just got confirmation that my student loans were processed and I will receive them this fall (I applied for them late). So that alone is great.

But it gets better.

Because I was finally able to qualify as having permanent disabilities (hearing loss, learning & motor disabilities) I will be getting thousands of dollars in grants extra (which I don’t have to pay back).

The bottom line is I’m getting more financial support, and the majority of that support is not in student loans (last term 90% of my income was from loans) so as time goes on I won’t be in nearly as bad in debt.

This is such a relief. I was really struggling to even feed myself and pay rent last term; now I’ll be better supported and I’ll be much less in debt.

Stop vilifying adults that live with their parents.

We’re still deep in one of the worst economic recessions of modern times. For many of us its not a choice but a requirement in order to survive. For many of us we have disabilities that make finding accommodation that suit our needs a lot harder and a lot more expensive.

Many of us pay into the household. Many of us are trapped in abusive households because we don’t have the means to leave. We aren’t moochers or afraid to leave the nest. The world simply isn’t built to support us anymore.

ok i’m not gonna reblog that post on people being deaf until they meet their soulmates because i don’t wanna fucking support that bullshit ableism, but like can we stop making those posts in general about people not being “complete” until their life is “fulfilled” through romantic love??? like yeah, we get it, you hate aromantics because we’re not “interesting” enough for you, but it’d be really nice if you didn’t constantly shove it in our faces, topped with audism to boot :)))

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Madeline Stuart is getting her shot at Fashion Week 

Madeline Stuart, the Australian 18-year-old with Down syndrome who’s been winning fashion fans all year, will will the runway at New York Fashion Week next month for FTL Moda. Stuart is hoping to change society’s view of people with disabilities — and fashion specifically so desperately needs it.

Society acts as if the chronically ill are obligated to tell their medical information to anyone who asks. Even to your own mother. You are not. You are not obligated to tell anyone, everyone, even your own mother. You are not.

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Dance Recital For Ballerinas With Disabilities Is So On Pointe

There’s a place for everyone on center stage.Young students at the Children’s Therapy Center in New Jersey gathered Tuesday for the school’s ninth annual ballet recital. The dancers, who face physical, medical and developmental challenges, celebrated their big night after a full year of rehearsals,PIX 11 News reported. 


See the adorable recital here. 

Tumblr, I need your help!

So as many of you know (because so many of you have been supportive) my friends, followers, my classmates/professors at college, and I are advocating for Disney to create a princess with a disability.

In the past couple of months, the response to this petition has been utterly amazing! People have sent letters sharing their personal stories, people have made fanart of princesses with disabilities, the petition was even on the news!

And 7,772 people have signed it so far!

It’s unbelievable!

Unfortunately, the semester is rapidly drawing to a close. And while we’ll still keep advocating for this over the summer, it would be immensely helpful and immensely appreciated if we could reach the next milestone of 10,000 signatures before then. But here’s the catch…the semester ends in three and a half weeks.

Three and a half weeks to get 2,000+ signatures.

I know that it might seem impossible but hey, everyone told Walt that it was impossible to make a full-length animated movie and look how wrong they turned out to be! I’ve been on tumblr for over three years and in that time, I’ve realized that this blue website can make anything happen!

If you’ve already signed it, thank you from the bottom of my heart.

If you haven’t signed it, please consider doing so.

Either way, please signal boost this.

We can do this, tumblr!

Link to the petition:

change.org/p/the-walt-disney-company-create-a-princess-with-a-disability

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Chinese Father Carries His Disabled Son 18 Miles To School Every Day

A parent’s devotion to their children can sometimes be one of the strongest natural forces in the world, and Yu Xukang, a proud and loving father in Yibin county in China, is no exception. Every day, he travels a total of 18 miles to ensure that Xiao Qiang, his disabled 12-year-old son, can go to school.

Xukang’s day begins at 5 A.M., when he wakes up to make the day’s lunch for his son, Qiang. He then carries his son 4.5 mi (7.2 km) to the nearest school that would accommodate him and walks back home to work, making the same trip again to pick him up and take him home.

Qiang cannot make the trip because his legs and arms are twisted. ‘My son with his disabilities is not in a position to walk on his own and it also means that he can’t ride a bike,” explains Xukang. “Despite being 12 he’s just 90 cm tall. But I am proud of the fact that he is already top of his class and I know he will achieve great things. My dream is that he will go to college… I know that my son is physically disabled but there is nothing wrong with his mind.”

The Chinese government, having heard of the distance Xukang travels every day, has offered to rent out an apartment closer to the school, and the school has begun preparations for accepting boarding students.

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Nearly 1 in 5 people in the United States has a disability, according to a 2012 Census Bureau report. Yet many forms of discrimination against the disability community not only persist, but are actually normalized and even integrated into our culture’s very understanding (or, more accurately, disregard) of disabled people’s experiences. 

In addition to the above, there’s one question (that leads to a form of entitlement) we need to stop asking of people with disabilities.

To Disabled Witches Like Me

Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t be a witch because of your disabilities. Witchcraft and magic has always belonged to the disabled in every culture.

If you’re blind, value and work with the ability to understand and see the future.

Bad leg or legs? Easier to cross into other realms. Don’t be afraid to cross the hedge.

Social anxiety? Spirits love you so much.

Deaf? Focus on hearing the wheel of fate.

Chronic pain? Use it to negate curses and do curse breaking.

Magic does not mean your body has to be or is supposed to be perfect. Witchcraft embraces differences. If you can’t meditate, don’t think you can’t be a witch, use the noise.

Update: Helping Me Afford Hearing Aids

A few days ago, I started a fundraiser with the goal of helping me afford hearing aids. I’m hard of hearing, and I need them more than ever as I get ready to look for part-time employment and start my foreign language major. 

The response to my campaign has been overwhelmingly positive, and I’ve raised $90 through a combination of Indeigogo and PayPal so far. I want to thank everyone who helped me by donating, signal boosting, or both.

I’m still a long way off from being able to afford hearing aids, though. Hearing aids generally run thousands of dollars, which is why it’s so critical that I get as much help as I can. 

How you can help:

  • Donate to the Indiegogo fundraiser. The minimum donation is a dollar, and every dollar helps. I don’t say that lightly. If you’d prefer, you can also donate via PayPal, in which case, send me an ask and we can arrange that. I think the minimum amount you can send via PayPal is even less.
  • Signal boost this post! The more people who see this, the better.
  • Share the campaign to Facebook or Twitter (or whatever social media platform you’re fond of). If you do this, link directly to the Indiegogo campaign rather than this Tumblr post. It’s a lot more short and to the point that way.
  • Tell people you know who might have an interest or the ability to donate or get the word out. Some people have a situation that makes it easier for them to donate, or just have a particularly friendly Twitter following.

Thank you for all of your help in assisting me with this. I am so, so, so grateful to everyone who has helped me in any way and who will help me in the future. You guys are awesome.

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Futurama actually did a really great episode that serves as criticism for the ‘cure-all’ effect that so many authors/writers like to use.

The episode starts with Leela going to a reunion at her old orphanage. She remembers how everyone used to pick on her because of her eye. It turns out that everyone’s still picking on her, even though she’s a successful captain and they’re all bums. One of the guys who used to pick on her when she was younger is the only one to stand up for her. The guy tells her that he’s a surgeon and can give her two eyes. Leela excitedly accepts the offer, saying that it’s her one chance to finally be normal. Fry is against the surgery and tells her that she’s already beautiful the way she is. Leela has the surgery anyway and soon dates the surgeon. The surgeon keeps reminding her that she is completely normal. When things get serious, the two decide to adopt a child. Leela’s heart goes out to a girl with an ear on her forehead. Yet the surgeon dismisses this and says that there are plenty of normal children that they can choose from. Leela’s insistent and then this conversation happens:

Adlai: Oh, alright. If you really want that one, I can give her an operation to make her acceptable.

Leela: She doesn’t need an operation! She’s fine the way she is!

Adlai: Oh, and I suppose you were fine the way you were?

Leela: Damn right I was!

Fry: Yay!

Leela: Shut up, Fry. Now look, Adlai. I’m proud to be different. And I just wished I’d realized that when I was her age.

She then has the surgeon put her eye back the way it was.

And this is so important to me!

So many abled authors, even great ones like J.K. Rowling, think that they’re doing something good when they say that the disabilities in their world would be cured. It’s so refreshing to actually see a show that points out that the character don’t have to be cured - that they’re fine the way they are!

There should be a selfie day for disabled people similar to “Blackout day” because disabled people also aren’t portrayed as beautiful by the media and also it’s disability awareness month. Tumblr let’s make this happen. (PSA: not trying to detract from blackout day because that was very important and much needed.)

Reblog or note if you think this is a good idea. If it gets enough notes we can pick a day

anonymous asked:

Have you ever tried putting yourself in someone else's shoes though? For normal people it's really frustrating to repeat yourself a thousand times and it's just not always possible. I'm not saying people shouldn't make reasonable allowances for you but it's just not realistic to expect perfect behavior just because you're deaf. Other people are allowed to be frustrated if you aren't listening and doing your part to understand.

Normally when I get messages that piss me off this much, I like to take a few minutes to step away, grab a cup of coffee, and stretch my legs before I settle in to answer it. 

Not this time, jerk.

And yeah, I’m calling you a jerk, and name-calling is not usually my go-to response, so that’s how you know you crossed a serious line with me. I’m usually very peace and love and “here, you poor, clearly confused soul, let me gently guide you away from your blatant ignorance into the light of understanding”, but no. No no no. No. I’m gonna break this down so that I don’t break something valuable in my rage.

1. Have you ever tried putting yourself in someone else’s shoes though?

I do this all the damn time. It’s what I do. I am constantly looking at things from different angles because that’s just who I am - I like to try and make sure I’m not in the wrong, and if I am, to understand why. I have to wonder if you have ever put yourself in my shoes. In case you don’t know, I was hearing until about a year and a half ago, when I started to lose hearing rapidly. I’ve been adjusting to the best of my ability, but it has honestly been a pretty traumatic thing for me, causing serious anxiety and depression. And that’s without trying to keep up with the average conversation. So maybe try to imagine what it’s like for me, navigating a world I’m no longer fully equipped to navigate, without many people willing to reach an extra inch to help me. This is my new normal, and it is VERY new. Oh, and speaking of “normal”…

2. For normal people it’s really frustrating to repeat yourself a thousand times and it’s just not always possible.

Read that out loud to yourself a few times and really ask yourself if that was necessary. “Normal” people? NORMAL PEOPLE? What’s your standard for “normal”, may I ask? And look, okay, I grant you that point (sort of). Yeah, it can be frustrating to repeat yourself. But you want to know a secret? It’s frustrating to have to ask people to repeat themselves. Every d/Deaf/HOH person I know is self-conscious about it at least from time to time. It’s not like we WANT to have to ask people to repeat themselves “a thousand times” (and hey, fellow d/D/HOH folks, weigh in - when’s the last time anyone was willing to repeat themselves so much as twice for your benefit, at least without a lot of groaning and eye-rolling?). It’s not fun for us. We’re not doing it for our health. Sure, there are occasionally situations where repeating yourself isn’t an option. 9 times out of 10, though? You can, and should, so suck it up.

3. I’m not saying people shouldn’t make reasonable allowances for you but it’s just not realistic to expect perfect behavior just because you’re deaf.

Yes, yes, my subjects, Princess Caroline demands perfect behavior just because she’s deaf. You may now line up to kiss my ring. Don’t all rush forward at once. 

I’m pretty sure repeating yourself once or twice is a reasonable allowance. It doesn’t hurt you. I, along with every other d/D/HOH person, have the right to participate in conversations, in activities, in classes, etc. and if I can’t hear you, I need you to repeat yourself. Or write it down. Or sign it. Or whatever. Just deal with it, please. If you’re knowingly and willingly hanging out with a deaf person, you’re gonna have to bend a little. Believe me, we bend all the damn time. At least meet us a quarter of the way.

4. Other people are allowed to be frustrated if you aren’t listening and doing your part to understand.

Originally posted by tenpointstogifindor

DO YOU REALIZE THAT BEING DEAF MEANS I LITERALLY CANNOT LISTEN. DO YOU KNOW HOW DEAFNESS WORKS. DO YOU KNOW THAT DEAFNESS MAKES YOUR EARS GO “NOPE” SO LISTENING IS NOT AN OPTION. Me being deaf is not the same as me screwing around on my phone while someone’s talking. Trying to strategically place myself so I can follow the conversation, trying to read lips, making sure everyone knows ahead of time that I’m hard of hearing and may need things repeated, doing everything I can to follow along, wearing my hearing aids, turning off my hearing aids if the background noise is drowning people out…I don’t know, that seems like I’m doing my part to understand, don’t you think? 

This gross attitude of “well, it’s slightly inconvenient for me to accomodate disabled people, so you guys just need to be better at not being disabled” is literally giving me a stomachache right now. Do you also go up to people in wheelchairs and groan to them about how annoying it is that they can’t just take the stairs and run a 5k? Do blind people aggravate you because of their inability to watch TV the same way you do? Gosh, you must be so put off by those pesky mentally ill folks and all their needs. You poor thing. 

It must be so hard for you.

npr.org
From Canes To Closures, Designing With Style For People With Disabilities
Almost 60 million Americans have a permanent disability, but the fashion industry hasn't tapped into that market. Activists and designers are trying to change that, a signature and a stitch at a time.

People living with disabilities deserve to look good. Now activists and design students are changing fashion to make it more inclusive for people with disabilities.

*Sighs*

When I first heard about this yesterday, I was on the fence.

But after doing more research, I’ve moved into the “Do Not Like” category.

And before anyone claims that I’m a heartless you-know-what, hear me out.

I have Spina Bifida, which is essentially like Down Syndrome’s cousin. (Sort of. In reality, the two are very different but people always group them together.)

And as a person with a disability, this bothers me.

Not the actual story itself.

Mary looked absolutely stunning and I’m so happy that she got to have this experience. And from what I heard, she had a wonderful time! That’s great!

What’s not great is the national media coverage wherein the able-bodied guy is being hailed as a hero for doing something nice for the girl with a disability.

And it wouldn’t bother me as much if it wasn’t for two things…

In each article that popped up, the guy was listed first. It may be a small detail but it’s a significant one, especially when it comes to journalism. The articles focused on the able-bodied guy and, as aforementioned, literally painted him as a hero for being friends with and doing something nice for people with disabilities.

Eesh, if that was the case, my friends should all be on the national news several times a week. 

Another thing that bothered me was that most of the articles went out of the way to point out that he was the quarterback of his school’s football team, whereas Mary was simply defined by her disability. It’s a perfect example of ableism in the media.

I don’t know.

From the looks of it, this guy was just fulfilling a childhood promise to a friend. 

It’s really sweet, but, like the Today article states at the very beginning, it’s a story that people have seen before. What sets this one apart is the fact that Mary has Down Syndrome. And okay, that’s still amazing that she got to have this experience.

But the guy shouldn’t get brownie points and pretty much be hailed as a national hero just for being friends with a person with a disability.

In my opinion, at least.

I guess that this just rubbed me the wrong way…