Hey folks!

This past weekend, Monday, and Tuesday, my friend and I were able to make a life-changing trip to Washington DC to celebrate the 25th Anniversary for the Americans with Disabilities Act. It was amazing! And while we were there, we managed to do some sightseeing. And one of the places that we went to was the International Spy Museum.

Personally, I thought that it was absolutely amazing!

I mean, I got to see the actual James Bond car!

I was literally clamping a hand over my mouth to keep from squealing.

But with that being said, I’ve noticed that the International Spy Museum might be a bad place to go if you have dissociative disorders, paranoia, or similar disabilities.

One of the first messages that plays is, “Remember - we’ll be watching you.”

You also enter a room where you pick an alias.

Also, there’s an area that talks about the threat of cyber attacks and features a fake but extremely realistic looking/sounding video of an Emergency Alert System going off and a message saying that the U.S. is under attack. (Again, this video is fake.)

So while I really enjoyed it, if you have dissociative disorders (or similar disabilities) and you’re in Washington DC, the International Spy Museum might be one area that you want to avoid.

For people with dwarfism, a fashion line of their own

New York Fashion Week is well underway. And while the designs that are gracing the runways in Bryant Park will trickle down to the rest of us throughout the year, most of us will never wear the actual clothes on display. Whether we can’t afford couture or whether we’re not quite what labels had in mind when they designated clothing lines ready-to-wear, Fashion Week is often more about fantasy than realistic aspirations. And the gap between dreams and reality can be particularly stark if you’re a person with dwarfism, a part of the market the already-myopic fashion industry ignores almost entirely.  –>Read on Washington Post

ok i’m not gonna reblog that post on people being deaf until they meet their soulmates because i don’t wanna fucking support that bullshit ableism, but like can we stop making those posts in general about people not being “complete” until their life is “fulfilled” through romantic love??? like yeah, we get it, you hate aromantics because we’re not “interesting” enough for you, but it’d be really nice if you didn’t constantly shove it in our faces, topped with audism to boot :)))

Society acts as if the chronically ill are obligated to tell their medical information to anyone who asks. Even to your own mother. You are not. You are not obligated to tell anyone, everyone, even your own mother. You are not.

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Dance Recital For Ballerinas With Disabilities Is So On Pointe

There’s a place for everyone on center stage.Young students at the Children’s Therapy Center in New Jersey gathered Tuesday for the school’s ninth annual ballet recital. The dancers, who face physical, medical and developmental challenges, celebrated their big night after a full year of rehearsals,PIX 11 News reported. 


See the adorable recital here. 

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Nearly 1 in 5 people in the United States has a disability, according to a 2012 Census Bureau report. Yet many forms of discrimination against the disability community not only persist, but are actually normalized and even integrated into our culture’s very understanding (or, more accurately, disregard) of disabled people’s experiences. 

In addition to the above, there’s one question (that leads to a form of entitlement) we need to stop asking of people with disabilities.

Tumblr, I need your help!

So as many of you know (because so many of you have been supportive) my friends, followers, my classmates/professors at college, and I are advocating for Disney to create a princess with a disability.

In the past couple of months, the response to this petition has been utterly amazing! People have sent letters sharing their personal stories, people have made fanart of princesses with disabilities, the petition was even on the news!

And 7,772 people have signed it so far!

It’s unbelievable!

Unfortunately, the semester is rapidly drawing to a close. And while we’ll still keep advocating for this over the summer, it would be immensely helpful and immensely appreciated if we could reach the next milestone of 10,000 signatures before then. But here’s the catch…the semester ends in three and a half weeks.

Three and a half weeks to get 2,000+ signatures.

I know that it might seem impossible but hey, everyone told Walt that it was impossible to make a full-length animated movie and look how wrong they turned out to be! I’ve been on tumblr for over three years and in that time, I’ve realized that this blue website can make anything happen!

If you’ve already signed it, thank you from the bottom of my heart.

If you haven’t signed it, please consider doing so.

Either way, please signal boost this.

We can do this, tumblr!

Link to the petition:

change.org/p/the-walt-disney-company-create-a-princess-with-a-disability

Stop vilifying adults that live with their parents.

We’re still deep in one of the worst economic recessions of modern times. For many of us its not a choice but a requirement in order to survive. For many of us we have disabilities that make finding accommodation that suit our needs a lot harder and a lot more expensive.

Many of us pay into the household. Many of us are trapped in abusive households because we don’t have the means to leave. We aren’t moochers or afraid to leave the nest. The world simply isn’t built to support us anymore.

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Chinese Father Carries His Disabled Son 18 Miles To School Every Day

A parent’s devotion to their children can sometimes be one of the strongest natural forces in the world, and Yu Xukang, a proud and loving father in Yibin county in China, is no exception. Every day, he travels a total of 18 miles to ensure that Xiao Qiang, his disabled 12-year-old son, can go to school.

Xukang’s day begins at 5 A.M., when he wakes up to make the day’s lunch for his son, Qiang. He then carries his son 4.5 mi (7.2 km) to the nearest school that would accommodate him and walks back home to work, making the same trip again to pick him up and take him home.

Qiang cannot make the trip because his legs and arms are twisted. ‘My son with his disabilities is not in a position to walk on his own and it also means that he can’t ride a bike,” explains Xukang. “Despite being 12 he’s just 90 cm tall. But I am proud of the fact that he is already top of his class and I know he will achieve great things. My dream is that he will go to college… I know that my son is physically disabled but there is nothing wrong with his mind.”

The Chinese government, having heard of the distance Xukang travels every day, has offered to rent out an apartment closer to the school, and the school has begun preparations for accepting boarding students.

To Disabled Witches Like Me

Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t be a witch because of your disabilities. Witchcraft and magic has always belonged to the disabled in every culture.

If you’re blind, value and work with the ability to understand and see the future.

Bad leg or legs? Easier to cross into other realms. Don’t be afraid to cross the hedge.

Social anxiety? Spirits love you so much.

Deaf? Focus on hearing the wheel of fate.

Chronic pain? Use it to negate curses and do curse breaking.

Magic does not mean your body has to be or is supposed to be perfect. Witchcraft embraces differences. If you can’t meditate, don’t think you can’t be a witch, use the noise.

*Sighs*

When I first heard about this yesterday, I was on the fence.

But after doing more research, I’ve moved into the “Do Not Like” category.

And before anyone claims that I’m a heartless you-know-what, hear me out.

I have Spina Bifida, which is essentially like Down Syndrome’s cousin. (Sort of. In reality, the two are very different but people always group them together.)

And as a person with a disability, this bothers me.

Not the actual story itself.

Mary looked absolutely stunning and I’m so happy that she got to have this experience. And from what I heard, she had a wonderful time! That’s great!

What’s not great is the national media coverage wherein the able-bodied guy is being hailed as a hero for doing something nice for the girl with a disability.

And it wouldn’t bother me as much if it wasn’t for two things…

In each article that popped up, the guy was listed first. It may be a small detail but it’s a significant one, especially when it comes to journalism. The articles focused on the able-bodied guy and, as aforementioned, literally painted him as a hero for being friends with and doing something nice for people with disabilities.

Eesh, if that was the case, my friends should all be on the national news several times a week. 

Another thing that bothered me was that most of the articles went out of the way to point out that he was the quarterback of his school’s football team, whereas Mary was simply defined by her disability. It’s a perfect example of ableism in the media.

I don’t know.

From the looks of it, this guy was just fulfilling a childhood promise to a friend. 

It’s really sweet, but, like the Today article states at the very beginning, it’s a story that people have seen before. What sets this one apart is the fact that Mary has Down Syndrome. And okay, that’s still amazing that she got to have this experience.

But the guy shouldn’t get brownie points and pretty much be hailed as a national hero just for being friends with a person with a disability.

In my opinion, at least.

I guess that this just rubbed me the wrong way…

anonymous asked:

Have you ever tried putting yourself in someone else's shoes though? For normal people it's really frustrating to repeat yourself a thousand times and it's just not always possible. I'm not saying people shouldn't make reasonable allowances for you but it's just not realistic to expect perfect behavior just because you're deaf. Other people are allowed to be frustrated if you aren't listening and doing your part to understand.

Normally when I get messages that piss me off this much, I like to take a few minutes to step away, grab a cup of coffee, and stretch my legs before I settle in to answer it. 

Not this time, jerk.

And yeah, I’m calling you a jerk, and name-calling is not usually my go-to response, so that’s how you know you crossed a serious line with me. I’m usually very peace and love and “here, you poor, clearly confused soul, let me gently guide you away from your blatant ignorance into the light of understanding”, but no. No no no. No. I’m gonna break this down so that I don’t break something valuable in my rage.

1. Have you ever tried putting yourself in someone else’s shoes though?

I do this all the damn time. It’s what I do. I am constantly looking at things from different angles because that’s just who I am - I like to try and make sure I’m not in the wrong, and if I am, to understand why. I have to wonder if you have ever put yourself in my shoes. In case you don’t know, I was hearing until about a year and a half ago, when I started to lose hearing rapidly. I’ve been adjusting to the best of my ability, but it has honestly been a pretty traumatic thing for me, causing serious anxiety and depression. And that’s without trying to keep up with the average conversation. So maybe try to imagine what it’s like for me, navigating a world I’m no longer fully equipped to navigate, without many people willing to reach an extra inch to help me. This is my new normal, and it is VERY new. Oh, and speaking of “normal”…

2. For normal people it’s really frustrating to repeat yourself a thousand times and it’s just not always possible.

Read that out loud to yourself a few times and really ask yourself if that was necessary. “Normal” people? NORMAL PEOPLE? What’s your standard for “normal”, may I ask? And look, okay, I grant you that point (sort of). Yeah, it can be frustrating to repeat yourself. But you want to know a secret? It’s frustrating to have to ask people to repeat themselves. Every d/Deaf/HOH person I know is self-conscious about it at least from time to time. It’s not like we WANT to have to ask people to repeat themselves “a thousand times” (and hey, fellow d/D/HOH folks, weigh in - when’s the last time anyone was willing to repeat themselves so much as twice for your benefit, at least without a lot of groaning and eye-rolling?). It’s not fun for us. We’re not doing it for our health. Sure, there are occasionally situations where repeating yourself isn’t an option. 9 times out of 10, though? You can, and should, so suck it up.

3. I’m not saying people shouldn’t make reasonable allowances for you but it’s just not realistic to expect perfect behavior just because you’re deaf.

Yes, yes, my subjects, Princess Caroline demands perfect behavior just because she’s deaf. You may now line up to kiss my ring. Don’t all rush forward at once. 

I’m pretty sure repeating yourself once or twice is a reasonable allowance. It doesn’t hurt you. I, along with every other d/D/HOH person, have the right to participate in conversations, in activities, in classes, etc. and if I can’t hear you, I need you to repeat yourself. Or write it down. Or sign it. Or whatever. Just deal with it, please. If you’re knowingly and willingly hanging out with a deaf person, you’re gonna have to bend a little. Believe me, we bend all the damn time. At least meet us a quarter of the way.

4. Other people are allowed to be frustrated if you aren’t listening and doing your part to understand.

Originally posted by tenpointstogifindor

DO YOU REALIZE THAT BEING DEAF MEANS I LITERALLY CANNOT LISTEN. DO YOU KNOW HOW DEAFNESS WORKS. DO YOU KNOW THAT DEAFNESS MAKES YOUR EARS GO “NOPE” SO LISTENING IS NOT AN OPTION. Me being deaf is not the same as me screwing around on my phone while someone’s talking. Trying to strategically place myself so I can follow the conversation, trying to read lips, making sure everyone knows ahead of time that I’m hard of hearing and may need things repeated, doing everything I can to follow along, wearing my hearing aids, turning off my hearing aids if the background noise is drowning people out…I don’t know, that seems like I’m doing my part to understand, don’t you think? 

This gross attitude of “well, it’s slightly inconvenient for me to accomodate disabled people, so you guys just need to be better at not being disabled” is literally giving me a stomachache right now. Do you also go up to people in wheelchairs and groan to them about how annoying it is that they can’t just take the stairs and run a 5k? Do blind people aggravate you because of their inability to watch TV the same way you do? Gosh, you must be so put off by those pesky mentally ill folks and all their needs. You poor thing. 

It must be so hard for you.

There should be a selfie day for disabled people similar to “Blackout day” because disabled people also aren’t portrayed as beautiful by the media and also it’s disability awareness month. Tumblr let’s make this happen. (PSA: not trying to detract from blackout day because that was very important and much needed.)

Reblog or note if you think this is a good idea. If it gets enough notes we can pick a day

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Some disabilities aren’t exactly visible. They don’t require a wheelchair, a hearing aid or any other piece of equipment. Millions of Americans live with what’s commonly referred to as “invisible” or “non-appearing” disabilities like depression, epilepsy, chronic pain disorder or learning disabilities.  These facts help us better understand these disabilities — and how they can even be empowering.

It’s not fair that people with disabilities have to submit so much documentation for every single thing. When is the last time a ‘normal’ person had to prove they were healthy and average? Why do I need to prove my disabilities? I sure wouldn’t fake them

Submitted by free2beperfectlyme.