🌸Menikah adalah ibadah yang semestinya dipersiapkan dengan sebaik-baiknya. Nah apa saja yang perlu dipersiapkan dalam pernikahan? Berikut ulasannya:
Ini meliputi kesiapan untuk mengubah sikap mental menjadi lebih bertanggung jawab, sedia berbagi, meluntur ego, dan berlapang dada. Ada penekanan juga untuk siap menggunakan dua hal dalam hidup yang nyata, yakni sabar dan syukur. Ada kesiapan untuk tunduk dan menerima segala ketentuan Allah yang mengatur hidup kita seutuhnya, lebih-lebih dalam rumah tangga.
2⃣ Persiapan ‘Ilmiyah-Fikriyah (ilmu intelektual)
Bersiaplah menata rumah tangga dengan pengetahuan, ilmu, dan pemahaman. Ada ilmu tentang ad-Diin. Ada ilmu tentang berkomunikasi yang makruf kepada pasangan. Ada ilmu untuk menjadi orangtua yang baik (parenting). Ada ilmu tentang penataan ekonomi. Dan banyak ilmu yang lain.
3⃣ Persiapan Jasadiyah (Fisik)
Jika memiliki penyakit-penyakit, apalagi berkaitan dengan kesehatan reproduksi, harus diikhtiarkan penyembuhannya. Perhatikan kesehatan, kebersihan, makanan. Makanan harus halal dan toyib.
4⃣ Persiapan Maadiyah (Material)
Adanya komitmen untuk segera mandiri.
5⃣ Persiapan Ijtima'iyyah (Sosial)
Siap bermasyarakat, paham bagaimana bertetangga, mengerti bagaimana bersosialisasi dan mengambil peran di tengah masyarakat. Juga tak kalah penting, memiliki visi dan misi dakwah di lingkungannya.
☘Semua adalah persiapan. Artinya sauatu yang kita kerjakan dalam proses yang tak berhenti. Seberapa banyak dari persiapan di atas yang harus dicapai sebelum menikah? Ukurannya menjadi sangat relatif. Bahkan, proses persiapan hakikatnya adalah juga proses perbaikan diri yang kita lakukan sepanjang waktu. Setelah menikah pun, kita tetap harus terus mengasah apa-apa yang kita sebut sebagai persiapan menikah itu. (tw)
It was a nice and warm night. Perfect to pass the evening at the amusement park installed in the city. Lots of people around, mostly young guys enjoying their vacations far from the big cities. Two girls were playing with one of the attractions, showing their strength to the others in line.
“And this one goes to the hight cheeks beauty” the old man gives her a rabbit peluche she won. “Congratulations Anya!” the youngest of the duo tells her mocking her “Shut up Lexa! I was totally going to make the highest point” “Well at least you have something sweet to give to your … mmm special new bff!” Anya pushes Lexa aside bumping her shoulder walking straight to the “bumping cars” attraction “Idiot!”
They watch the people having fun on their little cars bumping on each other when Lexa stops and stares at one girl in particular. She has hairs kissed by the sun and deep blue eyes and her laugh is the most magical sound that Lexa has ever heard in her life. “Who is this girl with Reven?” “Her name is Clarke Griffin. She is here for the summer with her family. Her dad has got more money than God!”. Lexa stares at the girl with interest as Anya informs her.
“Hey Anya did you kick their asses?” a latina girl screams from the ring “Yes Reven! And I got a present for you!” Lexa turns to her friend “ You are so whipped!” “Just shut up!”.
Clarke moves from the bumping car ring arm in arm with her friend. When suddenly is her walking is stopped by a girl, dressed mostly with clothes larger than her body. She can see that she is thin but well built with the muscles showing under the shirt and she is taller about few inches than her. After checking her body she lift her head up to her face, meeting the most beautiful green she has ever seen ,while her lips are full and pink. On the stranger face a smirk that Clarke is ready to take off before she is asked a question
“ Wanna dance with me?” Clarke thinks about it for second “No” the brunette seems to think deeply about the straight answer “Why not?” “Because I don’t want to!”. Few chuckles are heard around them and a guy approaches Clarke “Hey Clarke! Wanna go to take a ride first on the ferry wheels?” Clarke looks at the guy and then at the brunette “I ‘d love to” she answers smiling and still looking at the stranger and then moves to sit on the ferrying wheels waiting to start the ride. The brunette still has eyes on her even if she has company. Their eyes meet again and this time the beautiful stranger has a smile on her lips.
Lexa watches the scene from a far and see the ride moving up. “It’s now or never” she thinks to herself; so she takes few steps and jumps on the same seat as Clarke sitting between the blonde and the guy with her “Hey! What are you doing?” the mustached man looks at her with open and wide eyes. Screams are heard from the bottom of the wheel “You can’t stay there Lexa!” “I know Lincoln! I will try to make it quick!”.
She turns around to face Clarke and lift her hand towards her “I’m Lexa Woods ” “So?” “So, it’s nice to meet you” “Clarke, who is this girl?” Clarke moves a bit forward to look at her wheel partner “I don’t know her!” “I would like to take you out” the brunette keeps looking in those beautiful blue eyes totally ignoring the guy talking to her “Friend do you mind?”. The wheels stops suddenly and Lincoln catches Lexa’s attention again “You need to get down Lexa!” “Okey Lincoln!” .The girl starts to move and jumps on the rail in front of Clarke’s seat to then turn around and face her. “Will you go out with me?” “What? No!” “No?” “No!” Clarke answers scared of the girl’s actions and reaction “C’mon ,get that she just told you?” The guys tries to convince her, but Lexa keeps pushing “Why not?” “I don’t know because I don’t want to!?” Clarke can believe that this girl is seriously doing this “Well, you don’t leave me other choices”. One of Lexa’s hand slips from the rail making Clarke scream in fear “No!” she can see that the brunette has hard time to keep her hold on the rail “I’m gonna ask you one more time. Will you go out with me? God I think that that damn hand is slipping” Lexa makes a contracted expression on her face.
“Lexa ,get down or you will hurt yourself!” Anya scream comes from a few seats down with Reven with her. “I wont untill she agrees!” Her breath is getting heavier from the fatigue. “Oh c’mon Griff go out with her, honey!” Reven joins the group. “Okey. Okey I will go out with you” “ Oh don’t do me any favors ” Lexa tells her not looking for pity “No,No. I want to” the guy next to Clarke looks at her speechless “You want it?” “Yes!” Clarke answers him exasperated. Lexa catches her attention again “Say it” “I want to go out with you” “Say it again” “I want to go out with you!” Clarke screams looking at her. Lexa shows her smirk again and lift the dropped hand to the rail again “Alright, alright. We will go out” “Lexa it’s no fun you idiot!” Clarke can hear Reven say from down “Oh no it’s fine Reven. I can take care of this!” She looks up at Lexa and an evil smile is on her lips ,while her hands go down the brunette body to unbutton her pants “What are you doing? Don’t do that! Oh God ,she did it..” Lexa is only in her boxers while Clarke is grinning to herself “You are not so cocky now, are you?”